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2023/6/27
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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Esther Perel: 在现代关系中,人们常常身不由己地扮演着自己并未选择的角色,这会导致痛苦和冲突。治疗师的角色是帮助伴侣们更好地沟通和理解彼此,找到解决问题的方法。Esther Perel强调倾听和同理心的重要性,她作为一名局外人,可以更客观地帮助伴侣们理清思绪,找到彼此沟通的桥梁。 来访者1:她怀疑自己被伴侣进行煤气灯操控,感到困惑和无力。她描述了伴侣贬低她感受的行为,以及由此产生的不安全感和自我怀疑。她寻求帮助来理解这种模式,并找到应对策略。 来访者2:他/她与伴侣在性方面存在严重问题,伴侣可能对其并不具有性吸引力,这导致了关系中的紧张和不信任。此外,伴侣可能存在其他关系,这进一步加剧了来访者的不安和困惑。他/她表达了内心的痛苦和对未来关系的不确定性。 Esther Perel: 一段关系的开始可能源于轻松的娱乐和性,但之后可能会发展出更复杂的情感,这需要伴侣们共同面对和解决。

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Okay, so two people meet online with the stated purpose of just having light fun. Yes. Yes. And some good recreational sex. Yes. Yes. And then... Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel is back in session. What's it like to be someone's disappointment for 20-something years? It's hard. When you pick a partner, you pick a story.

And often, you will be recruited for a play that you didn't audition for. Watching her fall in love with someone else was about the most painful thing that I've experienced. And I don't want to do that again. Every Monday, join Astaire as she counsels real couples on modern love and relationships. You can both tell me all kinds of things. And I can listen to each of you. I'm married to none of you. So it's very easy. But you need to reach each other.

I'm wondering if I'm being gaslit by my partner. He says that like I'm overly boundaried, I'm overly sensitive. I just have no idea. Sometimes she'll be on the phone with an individual working through an issue. Hi Esther, I'm pushing 40 and to this day I've never had a relationship that's gone beyond four or five months.

And sometimes she'll be in her office with a couple who has chosen to share these intimate and unscripted conversations. I guess there's a lot of questions that come with it. Do you need me to watch the kids while you go with the other guys? She still struggles with saying that she enjoys having sex with me. Like, I'm not attracted to you. I don't enjoy having sex with you. And I'm like, well, you're faking really good then.

Together, we're going to aim for a different conversation, a different exchange. Okay. How do I do that? I will try to help you. So, where should we begin? Join us every Monday, wherever you get your podcasts.