Deep Dive
Why did the speaker hide from their landlord in the shared living room?
The speaker hid from their landlord in the shared living room because they were afraid of being discovered while they were sleeping on the sofa. They buried themselves under cushions and held their breath for half an hour as the landlord and their spouse discussed matters just a meter away.
What is 'silent mic' and how does it help people with social anxiety?
'Silent mic' is a feature on a social app where people connect based on tags and engage in activities like listening to each other's breathing to fall asleep or the sound of someone flipping pages to study. It helps people with social anxiety by allowing them to interact without the pressure of verbal communication.
How did the speaker train a restaurant to remember their food order?
The speaker trained a restaurant to remember their food order by consistently ordering the same item for two years—a small portion of knife-cut noodles with meat and chili, no onions. Eventually, they only needed to say 'hello' and the restaurant would know their order and deliver it.
What challenges did the speaker face when making phone calls for their job?
The speaker faced significant anxiety when making phone calls for their job, especially when they had to call back a patent examiner to request a written notice instead of making an immediate amendment. They felt morally conflicted and had to cry for half an hour before they could make the call.
How did the speaker's childhood experiences contribute to their social anxiety?
The speaker's childhood experiences, such as being criticized by their mother and her colleagues for standing up to a rude person, contributed to their social anxiety. They felt misunderstood and punished for their actions, which made them adept at hiding their true feelings and avoiding social interactions.
What strategy did the speaker use to avoid social interactions during a barbecue party?
The speaker used a strategy of pretending to leave early by showing a fake navigation app screenshot indicating a long commute home. They actually took a taxi, which was much faster, and privately messaged a friend to confirm they arrived home, thus avoiding prolonged social interaction.
How did the speaker's social anxiety affect their ability to bargain during a trip to Thailand?
The speaker's social anxiety inadvertently helped them bargain effectively during a trip to Thailand. They remained silent and expressionless during a negotiation, which made the seller think they were serious and uninterested, leading to a significant price reduction.
What coping mechanisms did the speaker develop to manage their social anxiety?
The speaker developed several coping mechanisms to manage their social anxiety, including wearing large headphones to avoid conversations, practicing leaving excuses for social situations, and creating a persona of a friendly but shy person to navigate interactions with strangers.
- 童年时期的社恐经历，例如害怕与陌生人打招呼、接电话等。
- 通过练习和积极心态，逐渐克服了部分社恐症状。
- 分享了与狗进行心理博弈的技巧，以及如何克服打电话的恐惧。
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