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5 Ways to Take Your Power Back When People Disrespect You

2023/4/6
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The Mel Robbins Podcast

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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目讨论了如何应对生活中那些依赖你、利用你、并且让你感到自己什么都做的人。节目中,Mel Robbins分享了五个方法来帮助听众重新掌控自己的生活,并让其他人承担起责任。她强调了区分‘被利用’和‘习惯于现状’的区别,并建议设定明确的目标,给予积极的反馈,以及在必要时设定界限。 Mel Robbins还强调了原生家庭创伤对个人行为的影响,并建议听众在设定目标时使用SMART原则(具体、可衡量、可实现、相关和有时限)。她鼓励听众在看到他人取得进步时给予积极的反馈,并为他们加油打气。 在与听众Crystal的对话中,Mel Robbins帮助她分析了与兄弟姐妹之间关系的困境,并建议她为家人制定一个绩效改进计划,设定明确的目标,并给予积极的反馈。 在与听众Brooke的对话中,Mel Robbins帮助她分析了与男朋友之间关系的困境,并建议她设定界限,并鼓励她为自己的幸福和儿子的福祉而努力。她强调了原生家庭创伤对个人行为的影响,并建议Brooke寻求专业的心理咨询帮助。 Crystal: 我有两个成年兄弟姐妹长期依赖我,一个失业三年多,另一个工作表现差,这让我感到压力巨大。我尝试过各种方法去激励他们,但都没有效果。我开始怀疑他们是否真的关心我,或者他们是否只是享受这种轻松的生活方式。 Brooke: 我的男朋友两年没有工作,我感到沮丧和被利用,但又担心分手。他过去有八年服刑经历,这可能影响了他的心理状态。我尝试过与他沟通,但他总是变得很防御,而且我们的谈话总是无法取得任何进展。我担心继续这样下去,我们的关系会变得更加糟糕。

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Mel Robbins discusses the common issue of people relying too much on others and feeling used or unappreciated. She introduces Crystal, a listener struggling with her adult siblings who are not contributing equally.
  • Crystal's siblings have been unemployed for years and rely on her financially.
  • Crystal feels both used and responsible for her siblings' well-being.
  • Mel emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and expectations.

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Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…)

 

It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part.

 

I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together.  

 

And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years.

 

Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem. 

 

There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now.

 

Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first.

 

Xo Mel 

 

Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “How to Speak Up for Yourself.)”

 

In this episode, you will learn:

 

  • 3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?
  • 4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.
  • 7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?
  • 10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.
  • 14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.
  • 17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.
  • 21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.
  • 35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.
  • 38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.
  • 40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?
  • 44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.
  • 48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.
  • 51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.
  • 54:00: Keep little ears away, because this is what tough f’n love sounds like.
  • 56:30: Stop letting your patterns make choices for you and step up.
  • 1:00:45: Use this word instead of “ultimatum” when it’s time for that.

 

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