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6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get It Back: Life-Changing Advice From the Remarkable Dr. Thema Bryant

2023/5/25
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 分享了自己长期感到与自身真实自我脱节的经历，如同心理上的无家可归，直到最终感到完整才体会到这种感觉的独特之处，并由此引出与Dr. Thema Bryant的对话。 Dr. Thema Bryant: 详细解释了心理上的无家可归感，以及六个迹象表明你与自身脱节：1.生活状态不如预期；2.达到目标后仍感到空虚；3.感到无力或绝望；4.缺乏动力；5.内心痛苦难以言表；6.经常哭泣或无法哭泣。她强调意识到自己迷失是第一步，接下来需要关注自我关怀和群体关怀，自我关怀并非自私，而是承认自己作为个体也值得被善待。童年创伤、压力和不健康的亲密关系或工作环境都会导致与自身脱节。即使从未真正认识自己，也能回归自我，关键在于相信更好的生活是可能的，并且自己值得拥有。她还分享了西非寓言故事：一只被误认为是鸡的鹰最终认清自我并展翅高飞，象征着人们应该认清自身价值，摆脱被误导的认知。本书旨在帮助那些以非真实自我生活的人们回归真实自我，摆脱过去创伤的影响，展现真实的自我。回归自我的第一步是关注呼吸，放松身心，培养自我同情和清晰的意识。无力感、绝望感和沮丧感是与自身力量和声音失去联系的迹象，缺乏目标感是与自身脱节的标志。易怒型抑郁症是一种常被忽视的抑郁症形式，表现为易怒、愤世嫉俗，而非悲伤。疗愈是接纳和爱自己的过程，不再需要证明自己的价值。应对易怒的人，与其对抗，不如以温柔和同理心回应，分享自身经历，或关注对方生活中的压力和需求。感到不安是因为你本不应该安于现状，应该去改变那些让你感到不安的领域。不要让自己的疗愈依赖于伤害自己的人的改变，要掌握自己疗愈的主动权。即使感觉不到，也要开始进行自我关怀，行为上的改变会带来心理上的改变。自我关怀包括滋养身体的各个方面，例如健康饮食、充足睡眠等。睡前观看暴力或犯罪相关的节目可能加剧创伤，应选择更平和放松的方式来放松身心。平和与宁静并非无聊，回归自我需要直面不适感，因为这代表着一种新的、不熟悉的体验。许多心理健康专业人士没有接受过将灵性融入治疗的培训，这与教育程度和对科学的强调有关。灵性是指对超越我们所能感知的圣洁的意识。疗愈离不开信念，相信超越自身经验的可能性。要打破负面认知偏差，相信自己值得拥有尚未经历的美好，需要信念的支撑。保持沉默和和平可能会让施害者继续为所欲为，受害者需要打破沉默，为自己发声。在自我疗愈的过程中，可能会失去一些人际关系，因为有些人更喜欢你保持现状。在有毒的工作环境中工作会带来巨大的身心压力，即使身处有毒的工作环境，也要记住自己不仅仅是员工，还有更广阔的人生。对于无力承担治疗费用的人，可以寻找大学的培训诊所或社区项目等资源。 Dr. Thema Bryant: 分享了自己在会议上与一位态度强硬的性侵犯幸存者交流的经历，这位幸存者用愤怒掩盖内心的痛苦和绝望。她强调了理解和同情的重要性，以及接纳不同类型的幸存者表达创伤的方式。她还解释了疗愈的含义，以及如何结合灵性和实践来修复自我。在有毒的工作环境中，要保护好自己，不要让工作占据全部生活，要记住自己还有其他身份和价值。她还提供了寻找经济适用型心理治疗的建议，例如大学的培训诊所和社区项目。

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Dr. Thema Bryant discusses the concept of psychological homelessness and how it manifests in daily life, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and addressing disconnection from one's true self.
  • Psychological homelessness is the sense of wandering, being ungrounded, and confused.
  • People often mask their sadness with anger, bitterness, or attitude due to societal messages.
  • Telling yourself the truth is the first step to coming home to yourself.

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If you feel that something’s missing from your life but have no idea exactly what’s missing or where to begin looking for it, today’s episode will help you reconnect with your power and find greater meaning in your life.

Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, published multiple best-selling books, and has dedicated decades of her life to researching how we connect with each other by first connecting back to ourselves.

Her work has been so profound for me personally that, right off the bat in this conversation, I get emotional.

Dr. Thema is a national treasure. Her presence and her voice will put you at ease. And she has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trusting in "that which cannot be explained."

In this episode, you’ll learn:

-6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself

-what it means to be "psychologically wandering"

-how to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry

-the surprising signs of "irritable depression"

-the three words to say to yourself before you can begin healing

-why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace (you are more than your labor)

-why you need to stop talking about your significant other and your boss in therapy.

-where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.

You are so much more than a highway for other people to get where they’re going. With Dr. Thema’s wisdom and tactics, you’ll reconnect with yourself and take the wheel on your own incredible journey in life.

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 2:45: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.
  • 6:30: 6 powerful signs that you are disconnected from yourself and what that means.
  • 9:00: Even if you’ve never felt home with yourself, you can learn to be home with yourself.
  • 11:00: The West African fable that gave me chills and should be required reading for everyone.
  • 16:00: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.”
  • 22:00: Do people with an attitude actually have depression?
  • 25:20: What is healing, anyway?
  • 27:00: How do we handle people in our lives who are irritable, frustrated, and angry?
  • 30:00: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing.
  • 36:30: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality.
  • 41:00: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy?
  • 44:00: This is how you handle working in a toxic work environment.
  • 48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy.

 

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