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Dial Down Family Drama: 5 Ways to Reduce Conflict With the Ones You Love

2023/8/3
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Mel: 本集探讨了改善家庭关系、像专业人士一样解决冲突和建立更好联系的五种有效策略。在节目的开头，Mel讲述了她和孩子们在准备假期出行时发生的争吵，并以此引出了本集的主题。她分享了孩子们如何直言不讳地指出她的不足之处，以及她如何回应孩子们的观点。Mel强调了开放沟通和设定界限的重要性，并分享了她在与孩子们沟通中的一些经验和教训。 Chris: Chris在节目中扮演了重要的角色，他作为家庭中的“稳定力量”，积极主动地组织家庭会议，试图了解每个人的需求。他分享了他对亲子关系的看法，以及他如何与孩子们建立信任和联系。他坦诚地分享了自己曾经的吸毒经历，并强调了寻求专业帮助的重要性。 Soil: Soil分享了她与父母之间开放和诚实的沟通关系，并指出父母从小就教育他们诚实不会受到惩罚，这消除了他们与父母之间的隔阂。她还分享了她第一次喝酒后，父母并没有惩罚她，而是和她进行了坦诚的沟通，这让她感到被理解和接纳。Soil认为，父母真正的倾听和理解比简单的回应更重要。 Candle: Candle分享了她与父母之间非常开放的关系，并指出父母在倾听和理解孩子方面做得很好。她认为，父母应该对孩子的生活表现出真诚的兴趣，并持续地询问他们的情况。她还强调了父母应该在孩子面前展现自己的脆弱和真实情感，这有助于孩子更好地表达自己的情感。 Oakley: Oakley分享了他对父母的看法，以及父母的行为如何影响了他的成长。他认为，父母应该让孩子成为独立的个体，而不是通过孩子来实现自己的愿望。他还分享了看到父亲哭泣的经历，以及这如何影响了他成为一个更开放的人。 Mel: 本集探讨了改善家庭关系、像专业人士一样解决冲突和建立更好联系的五种有效策略。节目中，Mel和她的三个成年孩子分享了他们家庭中的一些经验和教训，包括父母在养育孩子过程中犯的一些错误，以及他们如何通过开放沟通和设定界限来改善家庭关系。他们还讨论了如何处理与有挑战性的亲戚之间的关系，以及如何与孩子建立信任和联系。 Chris: Chris在节目中分享了他对亲子关系的看法，以及他如何与孩子们建立信任和联系。他坦诚地分享了自己曾经的吸毒经历，并强调了寻求专业帮助的重要性。他还分享了他如何通过与孩子们进行开放和诚实的沟通来改善家庭关系。 Soil: Soil分享了她与父母之间开放和诚实的沟通关系，并指出父母从小就教育他们诚实不会受到惩罚，这消除了他们与父母之间的隔阂。她还分享了她第一次喝酒后，父母并没有惩罚她，而是和她进行了坦诚的沟通，这让她感到被理解和接纳。 Candle: Candle分享了她与父母之间非常开放的关系，并指出父母在倾听和理解孩子方面做得很好。她认为，父母应该对孩子的生活表现出真诚的兴趣，并持续地询问他们的情况。她还强调了父母应该在孩子面前展现自己的脆弱和真实情感，这有助于孩子更好地表达自己的情感。 Oakley: Oakley分享了他对父母的看法，以及父母的行为如何影响了他的成长。他认为，父母应该让孩子成为独立的个体，而不是通过孩子来实现自己的愿望。他还分享了看到父亲哭泣的经历，以及这如何影响了他成为一个更开放的人。

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Mel Robbins discusses a common family phenomenon where arguments occur just before a vacation, using her own experience as an example. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and setting boundaries within the family.
  • Family arguments often happen before vacations or road trips.
  • Proactive communication can help manage expectations and avoid conflicts.
  • Setting clear boundaries and being prepared can reduce stress and arguments.

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In this episode, you’ll get 5 effective strategies to help you improve your family dynamics, resolve almost any conflict like a pro, and create a better bond.

 

Spending time with family is awesome, but it can also be challenging because, as much as you wish everyone could get along, different personalities and opinions don’t always mix well together.

 

When family drama starts, don’t allow yourself to get sucked into it. You can learn how to dial down the drama and build trust and connection.

 

Today I invite you to sit on the couch next to me and my family here in Vermont as our three adult kids discuss all the ways Chris and I have screwed up as parents and the things we did that built trust and brought us closer.

 

I can’t wait for you to hear the truth bombs our kids are dropping. They’re shockingly insightful and will change your relationships for the better. 

Listen, and you’ll learn:

 

  • The mistakes we (and other parents) made and how to fix them.
  • How to set powerful boundaries that everyone knows and respects.
  • The most tactical way to deal with difficult relatives and their BS.
  • The 6 words that increase trust in any relationship.
  • What to do when you repeat the same toxic relationship patterns.
  • 5 secret words that will get your kids (or anyone) to tell you the truth.
  • One simple tool that makes discipline and boundaries easier for you.

(and your kids)

 

 

Share this episode with your family, and consider listening to it WITH your kids. It’ll definitely spark an interesting conversation because we get real and raw, and hold nothing back.

 

If you’re looking to get closer to someone you love, this episode is exactly where you should start.

 

I can’t wait to hear what you think!

 

Xo, Mel

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 02:40: My daughter recently schooled me in a conversation about boundaries.
  • 10:40: Ladies and gentlemen… my family.
  • 13:25: A listener asks, “Are your kids really that open in real life?”
  • 16:05: What we said to our daughter that knocked down barriers between us.
  • 18:30: Here’s the #1 reason why kids don’t get honest with their parents.
  • 21:30: This is how Chris and I think about the purpose of parenting.
  • 26:00: Shouting out research around addiction so we can have compassion.
  • 30:10: Chris shares how he became addicted to recreational drugs.
  • 33:00: How do you start forming a good bond with your kids at an early age?
  • 35:00: Trust us; you’re going to screw up as a parent, and it’s okay.
  • 39:30: Expressing our emotions lets our kids know they can express theirs.
  • 41:30: Oakley shares how seeing his dad cry impacted his life.
  • 45:15: A listener asks: How do you get your teens to open up to you?
  • 48:30: How do you find peace in your mistakes with your kids?
  • 54:00: Your kid wants to leave school for a partner somewhere else: try this.
  • 58:00: The #1 question I ask my kids when they’re struggling.
  • 1:05:00: Know somebody in a relationship with somebody who is stifling them?

 

 

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