Giving Up Is Not an Option: The Motivation You Need to Hear Right Now
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The speakers, whether the speakers are just a recent graduate or it's somebody famous and successful, you cannot hear a graduation speech and not think about your own life. I can ever remember attending a graduation and not wanting to spring out there and go change everything about my. And just last weekend, I heard one of the best graduation speeches I think i've ever heard, and the speaker was Kevin fig.

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I love this. Failure is never the end of a hero story. And IT shouldn't be the end of your story either.

Second thing read with, yes, the world is always going to say no. Your friends are going to be critical. Your boss is gone to have their own agenda.

The world says no. You know what a hero says? A hero says yes.

How many times in a super hero movie is there that scene where they're calculating the odds of a mission and the odds of the mission being successful are one in a trillion? What is a hero? Say, we got to try.

What makes you a hero in your life is your ability to say yes, to pick yourself back up, to go for IT. Even when the ads are against you, you have to be the hero in your own life. And those moments when you want to give up, those moments when you thinking about to fail, those moments are what define your life.

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Throw in the tale i'm done, but failure is not an option when IT comes to your dreams. And luckily for arba, SHE met me right as he was about to give up, and I gave her the coaching session of a lifetime. And what you're about to hear is me picking a woman backup and reminding her that failure is never the end of your story. When you are in the fight of your life to make your dreams come true, you ve got to do whatever IT takes.

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I've been an actor since I like, eighteen years old, and it's been asking hard yeah so I started coaching people because I was like, I am talking about rob right now. I love that part too. And I started a pig.

I mean, I started directing and editing documentaries, and I love IT. What's wrong? I still on act and.

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i'm forty six years old, so I feel like a it's okay to be comfortable and small and pulled on.

It's okay to be comfortable if that's what you want.

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it's not okay to be small because that's not what you are. I I want to say that you, it's okay to be comfortable. It's not okay to be small. Being too small in life, telling yourself that you should be small that are OK. You know, that's the number one issue, shrinking yourself.

You see, I for the last couple of years have taught a course about the science of dreaming, and not just dreaming, but dreaming big, and dreaming big as a way to create a whole new chapter in your life, a way to tap into your potential. And more than half a million people around the world have taken these courses. And here's the number one thing that I noticed after teaching this course over and over and over again to people around the world, it's that telling yourself that your small, putting a lid on your own dreams, on your own potential, convincing yourself that is okay.

That's the biggest problem. If you're somebody who doesn't know what you want, I guarantee you it's because you do things that make you feel small and then you tell yourself that's OK. And here's the thing that i'm really worried about.

I'm worried about the fact that if you continue to do this, if you continue to tell yourself I don't know what I want, I can never have IT. I'm forty six, i'm only twenty three, but i'm sixty three and i've tried and it's hard and it's not going to work out for me. If you are the one that is against your big dreams in life, that is the reason why you're unhappy, that you are the single biggest, loudest voice for why you can have what you deserve.

That is the source of misery. That is the source of feeling loss. And so we got to to stop that right now because the fact is, I don't care how long you've worked on your dreams, how long you've avoided your dreams, how long you've been scared of your dreams, how long you've downplayed your dreams.

Those dreams are still very much alive inside of you. You're not supposed to be small. You're not supposed to be arguing against your dreams. Let other people do that. You're the one who supposed to have the biggest and the loudest and the brightest voice when IT comes to the matter of your dreams. You not reminds me of this quote that I just love, let your light shines so bright that other people can find their way out of darkness.

You know, if you're not supposed to be small, what are you supposed to be? You are supposed to be this big, beautiful flame, that flame that is burning so great inside of you as your marching told the things that really call to you. That's yourself expression.

That's your happiness. That's your creativity. That is a human being that is alive. And for those of you that look at me and that you're like, oh my god mail, like I just you're just so inspiring. You keep reinventing yourself every time I reinvent myself.

Do you know how I do IT? It's because I start to realize i'm feeling small, I start to realize that i'm feeling a little lost, that i'm feeling the energy drain, that i'm not feeling like a flame burning bright, that i'm full of excuses. And I do this exercise that i'm gna share with you right now to get me back in touch with that dream that you can never run away from, because what are you learning from me?

Your dreams are meant for you, and they are either going to be something that you pursue, that helps you become brighter and more involved and more of yourself, or that dream is gonna unt you. I can give you example after example, after example of this. And when we come back, i'm going to give you an example for my own life.

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So I just was explaining you that your dreams are something they're in a haunt you if you don't pursue them. So let me give an example for my own life in two thousand seven. So we're talk in fifteen years ago.

I got a part time job on saturday mornings hosting a local Colin radio show in boston, macos. I absolutely love that radio show. Loved IT.

And from the moment I hosted the first call in show, I knew, oh my god, this is what I want to do with my life. I just wanted to talk to people every hinkle week about life. And the truth is, I even knew IT before.

And the reason why I knew IT before is because I had been a humongous fan of powers stern. I listen to Howard stern way back in the day when he was like shock jock material, before he went through psychotherapy and became really amazing and interviewing people, like back in the really disgusting days, I was a Howard stern junkie. And there is something about the energy of listening to Howard and everybody on the show that I just felt done to IT.

I could not stop thinking what an amazing thing that would be to be able to do that with your life. And so here I get, years later, to be on the mike. I'm hosting the show.

I absolutely loved this show. That show ends up growing into a weekday show. I end up pointing in award, next thing I O C N N is calling. And I find myself then in two thousand eleven, leaving radio and going on the television as a legal analyst for CNN.

But here's the thing, radio never left me every time Howard stern would pop up on my deal, I would feel the pool as podcasting started to happen and become a thing in two thousand eleven, two thousand and twelve, and I started seeing more and more podcast pop up. I started to feel the poll. What is that poll? IT feels like jealousy.

IT feels like longing. IT feels like desire. Sometimes you can feel like inferiority that you get close to your dream.

And you want IT so badly that you literally put up all kinds of reasons to protect yourself from your dreams. So maybe it's the people you're really insecure around. That's my daughter.

SHE is a dream of being a singer song writer of doing stadium tours. Just the other day, you know, I saw that Taylor swift had just done something that nobody y's ever done. She's got all ten songs on the billboard one hundred top ten, freaking unbelievable.

And I texted IT to my daughter, and you know what? You texted back. Please don't send this stuff to me because i'll never be able to do that. You know what? That is that somebody who is deeply in touch with their dreams, but they're terrified of them.

What I wanna explained you is there is something inside of you, and you know, IT, there is something meant for you, and you either so afraid of IT that you push you away or you long for IT like I did since two thousand eleven. If you watch my ted talk, which now is twenty nine million views, you will notice that in that text stock, I talk about my goal back in two thousand eleven. On that stage, I said my goal is to be the number one radio host in the world.

So here we are a eleven years later, and were launched in the podcast. And it's taken me eleven years to get closer than ever to the thing for these past eleven years. Have I stopped thinking about the dream? no.

Have I noticed other people that are pursuing my dream? yeah. Have I felt? Have I felt insecure? Yes, I have all of those, just like you do. That is evidence that your dream is alive. And what i'm here to tell you is today is the day we're going to stop arguing against your dream, and we're going to turn toward IT.

I'm going to start finding so I promise you an exercise because step one is you have to get honest with yourself and claim what you want that step one, and what you to think about your dream. I want you to think about what's calling you. I want you to think about the thing that would be so magical if you could make that happen, but you been arguing against yourself. And I want you to allow yourself to claim IT.

And as you sit there and think about the dream in your own life, let's go back to los Angeles and check in with barba because i'm gonna ask her to be honest, and I want you to be honest with yourself as you're listening to barba because, barber, all of us, you're gonna notice that when I push her to admit that he really does want to a move back to L. A. And try again at the dream of being an actor, SHE just scared.

Pay attention to the excuses that SHE makes and how he tries to dismiss how serious I am about the dream of hers. Maybe you needed to move to south fora to actually feel and understand in your soul who you are and what you want. It's a scary thing to admit what you want. Because it's true IT might not happen, right?

I've comes so close to what happening so many times and IT hurts so much. It's also scary that partner like no don't do that.

But why is a scary?

Because I don't want to go into that and I I just I want to like be at least somewhere so I thought, well, I have this know things, but here's what .

I wanted to understand. You have not gotten honest with yourself about what you actually want. You're putting all the energy into, but I don't want to go into that, but I don't want to do this.

but I don't want to do that. So then you do that anyway.

yes.

That's the first step, honesty. And it's very sobering when you get honest because for many of us, I mean, look at me, I spent eleven years making excuses for why I could not sure podcast and all those excuses and the dancing around and though brushing IT off and that i'm not really that serious about IT, it's painful. Your dream isn't painful like she's talking about how scared SHE is that the dreams not going to turn out.

What's actually painful is how much energy you're putting into avoiding what you want and what you deserve. I wanna teach you the three big ways that you extinguish the flame inside you and put distance between your heart and soul and the dreams that are meant for you. So the first way you're doing this is you downplay your dreams anytime.

You make a joke about your dreams anytime you're like an that there is about that you are putting distance between you and your dream, and you are extinguishing that flame inside you. It's like taking a buck at a water and dancing the flame. The second way that you do this is you make excuses.

I don't have money. I can do IT. I don't have the time.

I'm too Young. I'm too old. I don't know how to do. I don't know where to start all of this, every excuse called bucket of water on that flame. Stop doing IT.

And the third thing, when barber got really honest, when you have the moment of reckoning with yourself and you finally claim what you want, it's terrifying. IT really is because you allow yourself to feel desire. You allow yourself for just a second to feel possibility.

Just imagine how incredible IT would be to do a stadium tour and send your own songs. And when you allow yourself to entertain the fact that that's the dream that's meant for you, you allow yourself to stand close to that flame. You allow IT to burn a little brighter and then we get scared.

What if he doesn't happen? And you convince yourself that your dream is scary and your dream is not scary at all. Your excuses in your fear of IT and your joking, that's what scary you're so busy saying.

Well, what if IT doesn't work out? You've never even stopped. Ask yourself, what if IT does? What if IT all works out? What if what's meant for you happens? And all you had to do was turn to IT and start walking in the direction of your dreams.

I mean, what if he does work out? And so that begins the question, if I can get you believing that my god IT might just happen, how do you keep this dream alive? And this is really important, particularly for those of you say what to know what I want.

I don't know. My dream is I have a very simple exercise that i've taught to hundreds of thousands of people. It's back by science.

And this is an exercise that is going to help you get back in touch with dreaming. See, I think part of the problem is that we've all gotten into this mode where we don't want to get our expectations up. So we put a lid on our own desires.

We don't allow ourselves to want what we want. We all allow ourselves to be in touch with the things that we really long for. And it's the fact that you won't even give yourself permission to dream.

That's also making you feel unworthy. And so how are we going to tap back into this dream inside you? How are we gonna a get your desires flowing freely?

How are you gonna get you to start to believe that you're worthy of the things that you're long for? I'll tell you how it's very simple. Every single morning you are going to make a cup of coffee or tea and is party your morning routine.

You are simply gonna write down five dreams a day. That's IT five dreams a day. You are going to make IT a habit to claim what you want, if only by writing IT on a piece of paper.

And having taught this to hundreds of thousands of people, I already know what your questions are going to be. Are they the same things I write down? Are they big things?

Are the little things? Are the things that can happen? What are they made? Here's how you're gonna do this.

Do not over think IT sit down, you have a black piece of paper and just right down, five things you want IT could be, I want that new gucci handbag and you might not be able to pay for girls ies right now IT might be, I want my puppy to stop pooping on a living room rug IT might be, I wanna be the number one podcast host in the world. IT might be, I wanna do a stadium tour. I want na write a song that helps heal the world.

I wanna have a wonderful relationship with my mom, who I currently hate. Your dreams are yours. Do not judge them. Do not shrink them. This exercise is about clearing out the block gage and the gunk that has blocked the highway between your heart and your soul and what you will give yourself permission to one and desire in your life.

Yourself doubt your feeling that you're not worthy, your excuses, your people pleasing, it's all blocking your access to this longing to this dream within you. And so we got to just get the gears turning. Why shouldn't you do a stadium tour?

Why shouldn't you have that new gucci handbag? If that's what you want? You can certain ly do the work to get IT.

Why shouldn't you be happy or healthy or heal your cancer? These dreams are there for a reason. We gotto get them out of your head where you bury them with excuses.

And we ve got to get them into the world in real time, where you can see them on a piece of paper. Now, reason number one, why you're gonna do this five dreams a day. They can be the same dreams.

They can be different dreams. They can be big dreams. They can be little dreams. They can be thematic, they can be specific. They can be anything you want.

We just need to get your dreams and your desires flowing freely without you putting the lid on, invalidating or arguing against them. So there is a second reason why this exercise is so effective, and IT has to do is something called the iconic effect. Now, the iconic effect is a extraordinary, well documented effect in your brain that was first discovered by a lithuanian psychologist named blum egon ic.

And SHE had her first study published about psychology in the theory in one nine hundred and twenty seven. So this has been around for a long time. And what is the iconic effect? Well, the iconic effect is this, inside of your brain, there is a mental checklist function.

And whenever something is important to you, your brain is like, oh, ding, ding, ding. I guess he wants to do a stadium tour. Oh, I guess he wants to get her collection all down.

Whenever something's important to you, your brain takes notice. IT opens up a mental checklist, and then your brain has this really interesting function where IT will now work with you to help remind you of this thing that's important to do. It's like a little to do list in your brain.

And as iconic effect is, once your brain knows something is important, and it's important if you keep right IT down, your brain is gonna to work, trying to help you get IT done. And the egon ic effect is so pronounced that IT is used everybody in software design. Yep, you know how they talk about game of fiction, you know how you got a film out of form.

And then obviously little reminder pops up that likes you're sixty four percent complete. Well, that is egon ic effect that this mental checklist thing saying you're not done yet, you got a little bit more to go. And so this is so effective. And so again, i'm going to summarize this. And i'm also gonna you if you got a mell Robin start calm flash dream big, male Robin stock com slash dream big i've got a free download for you.

Not only we're going to give you some of the key takeaway from the episode, but we're going to give you prompt so that you can print out this free sheet and use IT every single morning to write down your five dreams, to tap into the diagonal effect inside your brain, to help you keep those dreams alive and to help you start letting your desires and your working is flow freely through you. okay. So we've covered a couple key topic.

S, so far, your dreams are not a joke. They matter. You got a claim him. This exercise of writing down five things you want every single morning is gone to tap into that superhighway.

And it's gonna a help you build the neural pathways to give yourself permission to one thing. It's gonna. You tap into this flame inside you that is burning and that is begging for you to let me help you.

Once you get in touch with this dream, you know what you're going to do. You're going to do what everybody does. You are going to start arguing against IT. You're gna start making jokes, you're gna start making excuses. You're gone to start getting afraid.

Because once the dream keeps showing up on that piece of paper every morning, once you start to feel the pull of your heart, once you start to notice, as I have for the last eight years, that everybody and their mother has a podcast for me, you're gonna start to feel the pain of not working toward IT. And instead of turning twitter dream, you know what we all do? I'll tell you what we all do after this here break because we're going to go back to L A.

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So we are just talking about the fact that as soon as you get in touch with your dreams, you're gonna the same thing we all do. You're going to make excuses. You're going to make jokes.

You're onna downplay IT. That's exactly what our friend barber was doing in L A. Because she's just like you and me. The second you get close to that thing that you want, you are going to kick up a dust orm of excuses of jokes. But here's the difference. Barber had me on her eyes that day, and I was not onna have any of IT because your dreams are not a joke and so I got serious with her and I said, okay, so if you're terrified of moving back to L A, do you just wanna stay in south fora and you know what you did? He made a joke .

about that. Well, I try that. okay. Um I actually like a big fish OK.

Yeah, back. But so hold on a second. Stop making a joke of this. No, i'm serious because this is how you block honesty. Yeah, so you are funny, but being unhappy is not funny?

No, really, really, really.

Yes, but stop making jokes. Sorry, sorry, not you are so thing. No, no, I don't want you to entertain me.

I want you to be honest with me. So what do you want? Do you want to move back to L A.

And give you another try? Yes, and I almost did. And then I was like.

so this what you're witnessing here is, yeah, you're witnessing somebody who is literally trying to extinguish her own flame with jokes. And you are not having this moment of reckoning with yourself. Yeah, I am telling you, yeah, that what you're witnessing, we all do this.

Should you maybe do IT through excuses or heaviness in terms of your emotions or the pity party or the like for me? Always kind of scanning for what's wrong. If I don't see IT out there, I find IT in here.

Your form of this is jokes. It's how you get attention. It's how you get love. And IT is so overtaken you that you're not even honest with yourself about what you want. And the second you get honest with yourself like this is no joke like at at the end of this, you die yeah.

And so you .

can absolutely be a happy person. You can be big. You can be big in south ford or in L.

A. But you're not gonna do IT by making a joke about everything. And IT begins with you being serious with yourself like you have to share IT here.

But what you write in that journal Better be honest. Yeah, because IT can't be funny, like your dreams are not funny. Your dreams are serious business.

And you have within you the ability to literally write IT down and say, I got, i'm going to do whatever IT takes until this happens because here's what would be way worse, everybody. What would be way worse is that you spent the next forty, fifty years wishing you had done IT. Do you hear everybody there I wanted talk to because i'm serious about this.

You have to be honest with yourself. I do not want you to spend another day wishing you had done IT. I am sitting here right now with everybody that is on our team as we're recording this podcast.

And i'm looking at everybody and you know I am thinking, my god, you know, I, I, I, I look at a camera and i'm like, jams in the last school. And SHE felt this flame insider going go in a different direction. SHE didn't know what to do next.

SHE just knew that something else was meant for her. Thank god SHE didn't go to. Thank god SHE turned told that poll.

Thank god SHE found the flame. Because here's the one tool you need. This is the only tool you need in order to a line with your dreams.

Every single day when you wake up, you're to write down the five dreams. That's a way to get your desires flowing again. That's a way to teach yourself how to start dreaming with the lid off.

That's a way for you to really start to get yourself in touch with what your mind, body and spirit are trying to wake you up to, and have you pay attention to the things in your life that make you come alive, that make you grow. You're proposed to walk, tour that light. You not want to argue against IT.

And so every single day you're going to be working on, okay, I gotto let myself desire things. I ve got to give myself permission to one things like i'm allowed to do that. Not only my allowed to do that, I actually need to.

It's part of my life force. And i'm not saying you're just going to sit on a wish for ship to happen. You're have to work for IT.

That's how you get IT in life, but you won't get where you meant to go if you can't even claim what's meant for you. And IT is a practice of honesty. It's a practice of giving yourself permission.

It's a practice of worthiness. It's a practice of self love. And so you're going to a start there. But let me tell you the simple thing.

The simple thing, every single day when you wake up, you can just ask yourself, am I four or against my dream today? Am I four or against my dream? It's really that simple.

Your dreams or your responsibility, are you for them today or are you against them? There is no middle ground, by the way, because if you're neutral, you're against. You are either for that dream inside you or you are against IT.

So what does that mean? Well, when you're arguing against your dream, guess what? You're not for IT when you're making excuses.

Are you for IT? No, when you are afraid of IT happening or not happening, are you for IT? No, being for your dream is, first, well, being in touch with IT.

So simply being in touch with IT and claiming IT. That's a way to before IT. I remember the day I was for my dream of launching a podcast IT was two years ago.

On my fifty second birthday, I finally admitted that I hated what I was doing, and I was going to a get serious and go for IT and start a podcast. That's all IT takes, just claim IT in. Another way to be for IT is to then start seeing reasons why it's all gonna out.

It's your dream. So see evidence that I could happen. I mean, instead of arguing, well, what if IT doesn't? What if IT does see everybody else out there as evidence that IT will?

In my world, that was people that we're launching podcast. Instead of seeing them as reasons why my flame was out the'd beat me to IT, they'd blown out my flame. They're in my dream bullshit. See them as evidence that yes has my flame too is gonna burn writer, that there are lights on the path. I said earlier that IT is essential when you're going through a chAllenging time.

Your dreams matter more than ever than because if you give up on your dreams, when you are feeling lost or on autopilot, or you're facing heartbreak, you literally give up a feline that is part of your D. N. A.

See, your dreams remind you that this chAllenges temporary. Your dreams remind you that there's something greater ahead. Your dreams remind you that this moment it's a blip, it's a dot.

It's part of the path leading you somewhere that you're meant to go. Your dreams help you through chAllenging times, so don't give up on them. You've got to double down on them.

If things are chAllenging, that's the best time to create something new. That's the best time to tap into that fire inside you. You need that fire at that time.

That's why it's there. What if I told you you're actually not supposed to achieve your dreams? Yep, you're not supposed to achieve your dreams.

The reason why I can say that is because your dreams are not a destination. Your dreams are a directional signal. Your dreams, I like this compass inside you.

This G, P. S. System is hardwired in you. You were boring with IT IT.

It's like a beacon on lights out in the future. It's pulling you through your problems towards something greater. IT is showing you that there's something awesome to look forward to.

It's giving you a reason to have hope, something bigger, to believe in those dreams, pull you through your fears. They make you grow. They push you through yourself.

Doubt that's why they're there. They show you the way IT doesn't matter whether you achieve them or not. What matters is, do you hear the call? Do you fan the flame?

Do you wake up every day and allow yourself to feel those things that are meant for you and fan the flame and be the person that is the force, the yes, the loudest voice for them, doesn't matter what everybody else think. Who gives a shit when anybody else? Thanks honestly.

And if they haven't achieved your dreams, why the fuck you ask in their opinion, anyway, they don't know how to get there. And your dreams, by the way, are not meant for somebody else. That's why they don't understand them.

And there's another thing that you're doing, you are literally looking for validation from people who can even cheer their own cells on like how can somebody who's not even pursuing their dreams help or celebrate you as you're trying to pursue yours? See, this comes back to its your responsibility. This is an inside job. And when you really wrap your brain around, this life gets frequent. Magical doesn't mean it's always like roses, doesn't mean it's gonna be easy as you walk toward those dreams.

But but there is nothing more fulfilling than waking up every day and knowing that you are the loudest cheerleader that you got, knowing that you believe that this thing is possible, knowing that you're the one that's for this, that you're validating, that the things that are deep inside of you, that is that is an incredible way to go through life. And so every single day you're going to be waken up. You're going to be writing your five things down and go to mell Robin stock com lash, dreaming big, because I want you dreaming big.

I want you dreaming big. In fact, you don't even realize how much you limit yourself. Kathy heller, who did that live of with me in L.

A. SHE, has this really amazing thing that he does that i've heard to do. And i'm going to share IT with you.

But this is her idea. So I want to give her credit. I want you to imagine there's a blank check in front of you. Blank check.

And you could pay yourself whatever you want na make this year, whatever you wanted make this year, cal hand writ down on that check. what? You're right.

Hundred grand quarter of million dollars, half million doors, million doors. Who wrote that number? I'll tell you who wrote the number, the lid.

Why not five million? Why not ten million? And again, if you can just play with me that your dreams are not meant to be achieved.

They are not the destination. They're a directional signal. Maybe you're supposed to ate five million down because that's gona inspire something in terms of yourself worth.

It's gonna awake in something. Instead of thinking about what's possible, tap into what's true. You would love that.

In fact, you've be willing to work for that. If I could convince you, you could make that happen. This is a super simple illustration of how you limit was possible for you.

This has nothing to do with money and everything to do with the way that you're thinking. And so the problem is you limit what you claim for yourself because you're thinking about what's possible or what you deserve, instead of tapping into what you actually desire. Had a huge mistake.

One of the things that I know that you're probably doing, if you're doing what I did in the podcast market, i'm too late. It's gonna too hard. I've never done this before.

I'm too far down the road in a different direction. I've already been an account, or this is my major. I spent seven years with this person, or i've lived here for so long, you are doing the whole like sunk cost thing.

I spent too much time, too late to change. Don't know how to do IT. This is a major, major mistake that you're making.

And I want you to hear the final thing that I said to barba because he admitted she's gonna ve delay. She's forty six. She's been added for twenty five years.

She's gonna back because IT is way more painful to live a small life knowing you gave up on your dream than to go for IT and wake up every day and before your dream and found the fine. And maybe IT doesn't happen, but what if IT does? All I can tell you is waking up every day knowing that you are aligned with this greater purpose and drive and calling that inside you.

That's what you're meant to do. So let's go back to L A. Cause I wanna leave you with one more thing. What did you.

Get no jokes, no jokes.

being serious?

No, I want you to .

talk about you OK. You have to just go for IT and not focus so much on what you're afraid of and being comfortable, but just do the thing that tears you.

It's even bigger than that. okay? So if you wish to be happier, do not. Life gives you things that make you sad. You know what happens when you say that you want peace in your life? You want things to be easier.

H, you know what bubbles to the service, all the stuff is broken, and then you have to bring and figure out how to bring peace to this. And so for you, there is something that you needed to do in florida. Yeah, so you would get serious about doing the work back here.

And that there was something in the breakdown and whatever IT is that you want to call IT that was meant for you because you clearly needed IT to come back here and actually do what you're meant to do. And look, IT might take thirty years, but I will be the best damn netflix special I have ever seen in my entire life. There is no doubt in my mind that barra is gonna move back to L.

A. And he is going to not only work on those dreams, she's gonna achieve them. I cannot wait to turn on netflix and see her special. And I want to a point out something, did you notice that when I started arguing for her dreams, that's when he got really emotional.

You probably heard her choking up when I said you're moving back and you're going for IT and it's gonna the best damn netflix x special and may take IT thirty years you see. When I argued for IT, I convened that, yes, in fact, IT could be real. Her emotion tells you, deep down, he believes IT too.

That's what's available to you believing in yourself and your ability to make your dreams come true. So don't you dare listen to this and then spend time writing to me about all your excuses and how grade is for barba. But you're old or you're Young or you don't add money, or this fat or the other thing.

Do you understand that you are capable of so much more than you believe? I don't think you realized you're listening to a fifty four year old woman who had been thinking about launching a podcast since twenty eleven. There is not a single excuse you can write to me about that I didn't tell myself. And now here I am as evidence, just four weeks into this thing, if I can reinvent my life and clear out the bullshit that I was arguing against my dreams, if I can get in touch with its truly calling me and claimed and be honest and turn toit and chip away at IT and figure out how to make that a reality.

So can you do not waste your time writing to me, turn told what you want and spend that energy making IT happen? And the fact is, absolutely everything that has sucked about your life, or where you are right now, you needed because you needed to experience unhappiness, to realize, I want to be happy. You needed to feel small to realize that's not what's meant for you.

Just consider every single thing that has happened to you and that is happening right now, is preparing you to go after those dreams of yours instead of invalidating where you are. Embrace that it's been a necessary step and then get on with IT. Maybe you needed the breakdown that you're in, in order for you to realize I fuck and deserve to be happy.

I'm sicker er this shit that's what happened to me. I had to get so miserable that I realized I gotto start fighting for being happy. Maybe you needed job you didn't like to realize.

You Better get serious about creating what you want. Maybe you need to do apply to law school and get there and go, oh my god, I do not want to mean like this. I need to get back into the creative field. This is not what was meant for me.

Do not let the fact that you have spent a certain number of time or that you're a certain age or you're already almost done with your major or that you're too early or too late or all of that crap invalidate the truth. The truth is you're right on time. You're having a wake up call right now and you're having a wake up call that I intended for you to have as you listen to me today because I want you to realize that your dreams, they are as alive as they have ever been.

And if you're starting, oh my god, i've been against myself, I hope today is the day you wake up and say, from this day forward, i'm gonna be for myself, i'm gonna fan and that flame, i'm going to be working on these dreams if you're starting to say, wow, I really have put the lid on. I really have stopped allowing myself for giving myself permission to have something incredible happen in my life. If you're having the wake up call that I intended, good.

Now let me tell you, something melts. There is no deadline on your dreams, and there is no age at which you're supposed to do this. You can start a business at eighteen.

You can quit the job you had at a college at twenty four. You can go back to technical school after getting a masters at thirty one. You can literally adopt a child at the age of thirty nine when you're single.

You can go to nursing school after you ve raised your kids in your forty two years old, you can learn how to teach your first online course. At the age of forty eight, you could become a podcast host. At the age of fifty four, you could get married for the first time.

At sixty three, you could skydive. At seventy one, you could run your first marathon. At eighty two, your dreams do not disappear.

There is no age at when you can't do something or when you're too early. It's complete bullshit. Your dreams are something you are born with.

They are your responsibility, and they are also the life force inside of you. So stop running away from them and turn toward them, run told your dreams, stop arguing against them and be the loudest voice for them. And for crying out loud, stop extinguishing that flame that's burning inside you.

Enough with the excuses, enough with the jokes and the downplay e, enough with this fear. Your job is to turn told that flame and freaking fan IT with all your might. That flame inside you is supposed to burn bright. And the only way that that's gonna happen is when you are honest with yourself about that thing.

You've been denied about that calling that you feel about the fact that you're meant for more then wear you're at right now that you deserve to be happy that those dreams are real and you have within you the ability to chip away at them and that when you wake up every single day and you write down those five dreams and you see and you hear, and you feel the fact that your life has clues, your life is trying to help you, your life is trying to help you become who you're destined to become. I am sure you're wondering whatever I have been a barba great question since that coaching session that you just heard. She's been busy.

She's been busy working on her dreams. She's stopped the excuses in the bullshit that was keeping her from being the hero of her own story. Check this out.

So I decided to um create a one woman show and it's also a musical I written force original songs in the show so um I hope you'll come and see IT. IT was into the hollywood fringe theater festival. So i'm hoping that we go on top with IT. Thanks for asking.

See failure. IT is never the end of your story. And I want you to know something else. I want you to know that your friend, male Robin, is right here beside you every single step of the way.

Because I believe in you, I believe in your dreams, and I believe in your ability to make those dreams come true. So five, four, three, two, one, stop fucking arguing and making excuses and joking, and all the other stuff that you're doing that is waste in your time. And this honoring the fact that there is a superhero inside of you and you got some work to do. So get your us out there, keep fan in those flames and make those dreams come true already. I'll see you in a few days.

Oh, one more thing. It's the legal language. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. IT is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapy or other qualified professional. stitcher.

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