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How to Make Hard Choices: Practical Tips for When Sh*t Gets Real

2023/5/4
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The Mel Robbins Podcast

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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目探讨了如何做出艰难的决定,特别是关于人际关系的决定。Mel Robbins 指出,人们常常混淆自身对某事的感受与该事物带给他们的感受,并强调在做决定时应关注后者。她还强调了区分正确决定与对正确决定的恐惧的重要性,以及在面对分手时,要关注前任的行为方式而非分手本身。Mel Robbins 提供了多种策略,例如:将注意力放在积极的目标上,而非逃避问题;放下执念,获得真正的解脱;勇于承担责任,而非责怪他人;认识到如果对方不想要你,你也不应该想要对方;注意并承认你忽视的迹象;将失败的关系视为教训;提前预演以应对意外情况;认识到不需要他人才能完整;不要让恐惧阻碍你追求梦想。 Katrina: Katrina 分享了她与男友五年恋情结束后面临的困境。她面临着是否搬离家乡的艰难抉择,一方面,她渴望新的开始和个人成长;另一方面,她担心搬离会降低与前任复合的可能性。通过与 Mel Robbins 的对话,Katrina 逐渐理清了自己的思路,认识到自己内心的渴望和前任带给她的负面感受,最终决定搬离家乡,开启新的篇章。 Katrina: 我与男友五年的感情在二十五岁生日前夕结束,这对我来说是一个巨大的打击。最初的几个月我感到麻木,但之后我做了很多努力来克服。现在我面临着是否搬离家乡的抉择。我感到这里不再温暖,我的朋友们都开始了新的生活阶段,而我却无法融入。搬离意味着与前任复合的可能性变小,但我内心深处渴望新的开始,渴望在新的环境中创造新的回忆。我也担心搬离会让父母失望。

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Introduction to the episode discussing the challenges of making hard decisions and moving on from difficult relationships.
  • Life often presents unexpected challenges that require hard decisions.
  • The episode will focus on practical tips for making these decisions.

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Oh…sometimes life is a real doozy.

You make all these plans, and boom. You step right into a pile of you-know-what. And then you realize that pile was there all along—you just missed it.

Which brings us to the topic of today’s episode: making hard decisions and moving on from hard relationships.

How do you move forward when… 

You feel so torn about what to do.

You don’t trust yourself.

You’re scared to make the wrong decision.

What’s best for you will impact the people you love.

How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes? 

How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment?

I’ll tell you how.

Pull up a seat and join me because you are going to love the listener, Katrina, who I’m coaching today. Her question was, "Should I stay or should I go?"

By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets.

Today, you’re getting strategies to help you

  • Live your life with no regrets.
  • Keep your cool when you see your ex.
  • Bounce back after rejection.
  • Stop feeling guilty about following your dreams.
  • Make courageous decisions.

The biggest takeaway? Knowing the difference between what’s right for you and the fear that’s keeping you from it

When something is right, even if it’s scary as hell to go for it, you’ll only ever regret not having tried.

Xo Mel

PS - If you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE Take Control) mini course here.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 2:20: Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate to what Katrina is going through.
  • 4:00: The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain.
  • 6:30: When you have a big decision to make, ask yourself this question.
  • 8:15: Holding yourself back because you feel guilty? Listen to this.
  • 11:00: The single biggest quality you want in any partner? It’s always this.
  • 14:00: There are always red flags before a breakup, whether you saw them or not.
  • 16:15: You deserve nothing less than these qualities from your partner.
  • 19:00: Try role playing with a friend to help you get the closure you crave.
  • 23:45: Use this strategy to help you make a weighty decision.
  • 27:40: Takeaway #1: Stop running away. Think of it this way instead.
  • 30:15: Takeaway #2: If you want closure, you have to do these two things.
  • 30:30: Takeaway #3: If you’re going to hold yourself back, own it. Don’t blame others.
  • 31:00: Takeaway #4: You’re making it much harder in your head.
  • 32:00: Takeaway #5: As soon as somebody doesn’t want you, they’re not your person.
  • 33:30: Takeaway #6: Please stop doing this after a breakup.
  • 35:00: Takeaway #7: If it’s not love, it’s a lesson.
  • 35:30: Takeaway #8: Don’t be caught off guard by preparing ahead of time.
  • 37:00: Takeaway #9: You don’t need someone else to feel complete.
  • 38:00: Takeaway #10: Don’t let your fears hold you back.

 

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