They enjoy the compartmentalization it offers, allowing them to fully engage during visits while maintaining their independence and personal lives in between.
It's challenging, with fewer age-appropriate men available and many men preferring to date younger women. Thelma and Louise note that out of their 10 best friends, 8.5 are single, highlighting the scarcity of good options.
Many don't anticipate how difficult it can be to find a significant relationship after divorce. Thelma and Louise both expected it to be easier and didn't foresee still being single years later.
They avoid delving too deeply into it on the first date, preferring a lighter conversation. They have a general, non-inflammatory response ready to share early on, with more depth reserved for later in the relationship.
She finds the idea of sharing a bed, closet, and bathroom 24/7 to be her
She broke up with a guy and the next day saw him on a first date in the same outfit he wore on their date. The awkward encounter left her feeling uneasy, though she didn't regret the breakup.
Thelma believes it's essential to be fully healed before starting a new relationship, while Louise thinks it depends on the intensity of the breakup and the emotional work needed to move on.
She prefers meeting at a bar or restaurant with background noise, as it takes the pressure off and allows for a more natural conversation to flow.
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And I'll see you next time.
Wow. We are back. Thelma and Louise still slaying in the dating world. Not. I'm still single. Are you? Still had a bunch of shitty dates. Did you? But...
Super flattered that the audience spoke and responded and had more questions for us and makes me feel good that what we're saying makes sense and it struck a chord and is relevant and I guess we're approachable and easy to talk to. So maybe that will bode well for future dates for us. What do you think, Thelma? Bring it on. Great.
well, let's go. Let's do some more questions. I love this stuff. I mean, I love to not be in the position of always asking the questions because as you know, I sit on dates now on my hands, pinching myself to stop with the questions because it feels like an interrogation. One of my dates called me rapid fire. That was not a compliment. I know it's the truth though. I don't even know. Did he call me the next day? Maybe he didn't.
I can't remember on that one. Anyways, I think Easton here has questions for us. And by the way, his name alone is so hot. So Easton, are you single? Are we too old for you? I'm a married man. We don't do married men. That's a red flag. When you go on a date with somebody and you go, why did your marriage break up? And they say they cheated. It's like once a cheater, always a cheater. Like I literally Elvis has left the building for me on that one.
Or I don't mean to interrupt again, but I also think one red flag for me is when somebody when I'm on a date and someone speaks very disparagingly. Well, look at Ding Dong, who I dated. And then look what he did to me when we broke up. When people show you who they are, believe them.
Yeah, I think we have really good relationships with our exes and take great pride in that. And I don't think that that's everyone's case. And I don't think it needs to be. But I still think it says a lot about a person, especially when they do that right off the bat and they don't even know me. I just it just rubs me the wrong way. I think they are the mother of their children. And I think it's disgusting when they do that. And you're right. You and I are.
deeply proud of our relationships with our ex-husband so much so that he and I had dinner last week. The kids are in college. He's engaged. I love his fiance. And I said to him, you know, if this is who you were when we were married, we'd still be married. And he goes, we would never still be married.
I was like, I'll be in the nursing home together. I still think he might be in the nursing home together. So anyways. Okay. What do you got for us? What do these people want to, what do these people want to learn? You know, this is a question that just popped into my head as you guys were talking about that. At what point, I know it's like a case by case basis thing, but like when you're on a date and the other person is, was married before, how soon do you get into that conversation of why did your marriage break up? That seems like an, uh,
a hard thing to do early on, but you also got to know that. Definitely not the first date in a real, in a real kind of pointed way. If it organically comes up, but I've always found like being too heavy on a first day is not, it should be a little more light and fun, right? It could be more in my opinion for me, you know, second or third date. Now, if it's a setup,
then you kind of know a little bit about why a relationship ended. So then you can kind of navigate around it. I don't know. In my experience, it does come up a lot on a first date. I feel like it just naturally comes up because, hey, you both ended up at this date. So, you know, your history brought you here. So I do. I don't choose to delve too deep into it. But I think there always happens to be a few questions around it.
And then I just try to like know when to move on. But I also think the way we answer those questions on a first date is going to be very different than how we answer it. Like when you're more involved with somebody, right? Like I kind of have a pat answer as to why my marriage went south.
which is not inflammatory. It's never negative about my ex-husband or anything. So I just give enough, but not like enough of the depth that maybe I would share later on if I was really involved with somebody and I trusted them. I agree.
And now we're going to take things to the map here. Is the dating scene really bad in Los Angeles? You always hear about that, but is it actually that bad? I think it's hard. I mean, look, I grew up in Los Angeles. So this is a lot of the reason why dating apps have made me uncomfortable is because the few times I've played around with them, I've seen 9,000 people I know. So I feel super exposed. I prefer...
Like if I was to go to Northern California where Thelma was from, I would be on every dating app because I don't know anybody. I think it's hard. Like I think that there's, well, let's talk about this. I mean, we're in our 50s and it's very rare that a 50-year-old guy wants to date a 50-year-old girl. In fact, my children came home last summer and they didn't.
sat me down and they said, mom, we're very concerned. And I go about what? They go, well, we're concerned about your options. What do you mean? They go, well, it's the, you know, 80 year old guy or the 25 year old guy you need to support. And I was like, wow, that does sound dismal. Do you have a preference? And they said, yeah, the 80 year old guy.
And I was like, oh. But I think it's true. Like, I think there are way more. I mean, I would say out of, you know, my 10 best friends, eight and a half of them are single. And I think they're all amazing, right? There are fewer...
good men and there are fewer men out there that want to date age appropriate women. I mean, I have a guy best friend who's mid-50s who's a fabulous guy. He's my guy best friend. His dating app age range is 25 to 38. He is 55 with two kids. So he wouldn't even, we wouldn't even come up on his swiping. And I think that's more normal. Oh, it's 111, make a wish. It's my good luck number that my soulmate is coming.
Okay, got it. I know I do this all the time. Anyways, I find LA dating hard. What do you think, Thelma? I don't know if it's LA per se. I feel like my mindset is very different when I am at home. I feel like I'm in kids mode or work mode and I'm just going through the motions. I'm going to the same grocery store. I'm doing the same things. I'm running around in my workout clothes and I feel like
Part of it is just getting out of my comfort zone. And I'm more apt to do that when I'm outside of my hometown. And I find that it's easier for me to date when I am traveling or going on vacation because my, I am just giving, I'm on receive and I look like I'm open to meeting people more. Well, you still have a kid at home. I mean, two in college and one at home. So your life is very different than mine, right? Like I don't have children at home, so I can go on a date seven days a week. I could,
I guess I could relocate, I guess. But I don't know. I just think it's hard. I think it's hard in LA to meet people. And I think somebody who lives in Chicago or somebody who lives here, wherever you know, I think anyone's going to say that there's just a lack of options. And I think that there's,
so many amazing single women out here and I think they're all beautiful and I think they're all talented and I think they're all really interesting. So I think that's also what the swipe mentality has done is it's kind of like 31 flavors, right? I mean, it's like, oh, she was great. We had fun, but I could keep swiping. There could be somebody else better out there and you never just kind of feel satisfied or content with what's in front of you. And I think that's, I think that's, it's just too many options out there for men. Right.
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On the last episode you guys did, Thelma, you said that sometimes a plane ride is easier than an hour, hour and a half drive. And now I'm curious, like if you were to meet someone that was long distance, how does that work? Like, are you, does there have to be an end point in sight? Is there a distance? Like, would you do a cross country thing? What do you think about dating long distance? Like I'm obsessed with it. Well, you did it. You did it for four years. And I love it.
I think I like to compartmentalize my life, apparently. But I think for me...
What I love about it is unlike when I say a plane ride, I think it's nice because it's a total separation. Like when I get on that plane to go see my significant other, I feel like I'm all in. I'm present. I'm engaged. It's almost, I mean, not literally, but engaged. I feel like it's almost like this honeymoon and I have a great time and it's amazing. But then it's great because I get
I get to leave or he leaves and then I get to go back to my week and I have my friends and my family and work and everything. So I kind of get the best of both worlds. Now it's not necessarily balanced in like the traditional sense, but it is, it's like, I get to have my fun. I get to have that romantic hit, but I also get to kind of keep my life intact, which I think if you become older and are, you know, 50 plus, you're,
I think we alluded to this our last episode, but it's a little harder to juggle. You have a lot going on. And a lot of times I feel like when you are all in on a relationship, sometimes men are needy and they kind of need a lot of your attention and time. And I feel like sometimes distance, it's easier to manage it. Do you see yourself ever finding yourself in a situation where you are 24 seven, you
you know, remarried seven nights a week, sharing a bed with somebody like living that life that we all did when we first got married? Or do you think when we fall in love and have relationships in our fifties, that it's just part of our life? It's not all encompassing. Or do you think it's a function that you and I say that because we just haven't met the person that has swept us off our feet that is would make us want to make some significant changes in our lives?
Oh my gosh. How many times have we had this conversation? I mean, the thought of sharing a bed, a closet, a bathroom with somebody 24 seven sounds like my living nightmare. Like the longer I stay single, I appreciate it so much. I mean, I even go to dinner with my married friends and I think some of my girlfriends are like, Oh my God, I'm so jealous of you. The grass is not greener. Right. And so I think that's one thing to always remember. But I, I think that for me,
I'm not saying that I couldn't meet the right person. I think with my first relationship, I was able to be 24/7 with somebody because they very much had their own life. So I know for me, if I met somebody who had his own interests and own priorities in life and we could come together but also have our independence,
I will never say never that I couldn't be with somebody under the same roof, but I also feel like I wouldn't be surprised if my next chapter looks far less traditional than my first. Great answer. Thank you. I try. You're a smart cookie, Thelma. Glad you're guiding me. I mean, who needs a boyfriend when your friends compliment you, right? I mean, by the way, you're a hard act to follow, let me tell you. I don't put out, but I do a lot of other things for you. Absolutely.
You guys are so fun. What's one thing that people don't talk about when dating post-divorce that you wish every divorced person knew when entering the dating world? I think that when you first get divorced, I mean, I can speak for myself. I think I thought I would just find my next person really easily and I would just slide right back into almost like a traditional relationship. I don't think I anticipated how hard it would be
to find another really great situation. So I think that was the hardest thing for me, that it hasn't happened the way I thought it was going to happen. And...
You know, I'm comfortable being by myself. I've gotten really good at being by myself and I have a really full life, but I do want to find a partner. And I didn't think nine years later, I would be looking in the rear view mirror at multiple great relationships, but not one significant relationship.
Yeah. I didn't anticipate that I would still be here nine years later. And it makes me scared sometimes. Sometimes I call down left in the morning. Oh, I love to FaceTime. She hates FaceTime in the morning. And I say to her, is this the best it's going to be? And I think for both of us, I don't want to speak for you, but I think right now I am totally happy. My life is full. I do sometimes get concerned that like,
When my last child really, really leaves and 10 years from now, am I going to be rattling around in my house and sad? Well, that I am. I'm not there yet. But I think for me, the back to your post-divorce question, I think I didn't realize how many
how much more complicated it was and how many more variables there were. It's really not solely about me anymore, right? It's I have children. They potentially have children. Are we in the same place socioeconomically? Like, do we have different aspirations? Are they slowing down because they're 10 years older and, you know, we just operate at different frequencies and levels? Like,
I don't know. The first time I fell in love, I was 22 years old. I was married for 17 years and it just seemed really simple. We were in the same place kind of growing up together. And I think now everybody has so much history.
That, I mean, in many ways, it's really interesting because you get to meet very interesting people. But it's also, I don't know, it's a lot more complicated. I think we have to look at it like an opportunity, right? It's about flipping our lens. And I think what I started to do is wake up every day and say, I get to, not I have to, right? And I think it's awesome.
awesome to meet a lot of people. And, you know, I think so much about getting excited, you know, about going on a date is less about meeting the right person, but the anticipation. I mean, you and I have so much fun. Like we'll be at Pilates and, you know, and I know you're going to probably just have a little salad for the day. So your stomach is flatter. And then we talk about the outfit and then we FaceTime the outfit. It's like, it's like a whole thing.
And the data is actually less important. It's the prep that's fun. One thing I wanted to just bring up, because somebody said this to me the other day, to your point, when you talk about like, how am I going to feel in 10 years when I'm an empty nester? And I was telling somebody on the empty nester, it's interesting. And she goes, don't call yourself an empty nester. Look at it like it's an open door, right? Like you are walking into a sliding door. I love that Gwyneth Paltrow movie, right? This is an open door where every day I wake up,
something new and exciting can happen. Like what surprises in store for me today. So every day I'm looking for the magic in whether it's a date or if it's a swiping thing or it's you and I, you know, laughing about something or getting our weighted vest because we now have osteoporosis. Like I every day am looking for the magic in my day where it's not focused on just finding a partner. And there are so many amazing things that we all have going on. And I think at the end of the day,
friendships, obviously our relationships, our family and our kids, like friendships are the glue. Like you are on my gratitude list every day. So,
I don't know. Like we have open doors. And we can't control what is or isn't going to happen in terms of a relationship, but we can really control our mindset and our outlook and our attitude. We're just cheesy, but it's so true. I'm a little woo woo. You know me and my crystals. Who doesn't love a crystal in LA? Do you, do you charge them up in the moonlight? I do it during the day actually. Really? Yeah.
Yeah. Is it supposed to be at night? Because maybe that's my problem. I think you have to do it for what works for you. What I've learned is I used to try to follow the rules on it. And I thought, you know, I'm just going to, I'm going to operate spiritually in a way that speaks to me, right? Whether it's like the one crystal here or not washing them or like, I try to like,
be comfortable with the way that I'm doing it because it's pressure, all the other rules on how to do all of it. I meditate laying down. It's way more comfortable. So there's so much importance on a first date. What do you think is, to each of you, which first date activity is the best way to like determine if there's like a spark? Is it a walk, a coffee, a dinner, miniature golf? Is there something that stands out above the others? Glass of wine for me. Yeah.
Just meet at a restaurant that has like at like five or six that has like a bar slash restaurant. I like to go and I actually like to sit next to somebody at the bar if I'm on a date with them just to feel if there's kind of any energy. And it's interesting, like you can kind of tell if you feel yourself gravitating and turning towards somebody or if you're kind of sitting back. And I don't know, body language is...
It's super important, but I'm definitely not one who likes to go on a walk or miniature golf or do it. I like to talk to somebody and just see if there's an organic conversation that starts to flow. Yeah. Not to sound like I'm not interesting, but I kind of, I'm the same. The answer is the same for me. I also think being kind of in, in an environment where there's people around you and background noise and all of that, like it just takes a little of the pressure off, you know, it's like,
I don't know about you, but like when I went on my honeymoon or you go to these quiet resorts where it's like, you can hear a pin drop. And even if you're with like the, you know, the love of your life, it's just so awkward. Like you find yourself talking about the weather. Cause you feel like the three other people are listening to what you're saying. And we all know we've all been in restaurants where you look at somebody on a first date and you're just like, Oh my God, I feel for them. And like,
They're barely able to carry on the conversation or whatever. And I just feel like being in a bar environment or something where there's just more going on, it just seems a little like it diffuses the fact that you don't... I think people light people up, right? Like, I just think it creates like a buzz and an energy and...
But by the way, to your point, like I recently was at a dinner and I saw two people on what really looked like a first date. And I was with my 22 year old son. And it was like watching paint dry. And I was so uncomfortable with them. So I found a way to try to start chatting with them with the conversation. Because you know me, I don't shut up. And so we were chatting all of us together. Kind of like you, then I feel like he kind of well, that was bad. Then he asked when I got up, he kind of asked
for my own phone number in a work thing. And I thought to myself, well, I hope she's paying attention to the kind of guy that he is. Cause that's not, that's not, I'm a girl's girl. Yeah. Oh, such a girl's girl. Such a girl's girl.
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Here's a scenario for you. You're casually there. So you see someone that you're casually dating. You see them out in public and they're clearly on a date with somebody else.
Do you bring that up to them? Do you pretend like you never saw them? What's your reaction there? I don't think that that bothers me unless I feel like we're exclusive, you know? And I think that at the time that, I mean, the way you present that scenario, I'm taking it like, Hey, we've gone out on one or two dates, which I think until you have that conversation, you're,
That's okay. Do you think you have to have a conversation to be exclusive or do you feel like it organically happens? Well, I think either romantically things start happening and then at that point I'm having a conversation or I mean, reading the situation where you're starting to want to be with each other all the time, you kind of understand that that's where you are. But if I've just been out on a couple of days, I mean, I did have a situation where
I had just broken up with a guy literally like the night before. And I remember feeling bad that I had ended it because he was a nice guy. And then the next day, I picked up a friend from the airport and was coming back from LAX and went to what's the old AOC, whatever tavern or something. And I walk and they have communal bathrooms. And he is literally at the bar.
In the same first date outfit, I guess. Same first date outfit that he wore with me. Same spot. And then the worst was I was in the bathroom and he came into the communal bathrooms. Obviously, he didn't know I was...
there and it was really awkward wait I don't know the story is would you say this is your worst dating story we didn't even talk about like what's your worst dating story I had broken up with him so it's not like he broke up with me in the next nothing worse than heartbreak but I mean who knows maybe he had it set up I don't know but the point was I broke up with him and then I mean it was so awkward and then he was like hi how are you and then he and then he texted me the next day and was like oh I hope that was not I was just like just move on what is your worst dating story I don't
I don't know what I... I don't feel like I've had any horrific. I mean, do you have one? I had a weird... I had a really weird one. I mean, I haven't ever gone... had a scary, like, dangerous one, but I had an interesting thing happen. So...
It was a brief. So during the pandemic, cause it was harder. I was like, you know what? My friends and I were like, let's just do these apps for fun. Like we made it like fun. Right. So I, I talked a couple of times to this guy who lived on the East coast. He was like, I want to fly out and meet you. And that was stressful for me. Cause then you're like, Oh, he's flying all the way out to meet me. Like, it's not just a drink. Like I at least have to sit with dinner. And then, and he's like, and I'd love to know that we're going to have lunch the next day. And we're going to do this. I go, let's just start with the first date. So we meet for our first date. And, um,
you know, and he's staying at a hotel. And so we meet at the bar and we just have dinner there or whatever. And, you know, I was like, in my head, I was like, I'm definitely gonna have lunch with him tomorrow. It's like the right thing to do. But I wasn't like, I was not into it, but he was nice. And, you know, he was, you don't get a good core value system. And we were aligned on a lot of things. So I was like, okay, you know, whatever. So the next day we're at the lunch. So now I, this is now probably, you know, 90 minutes total of learning, meeting him and talking to him. And he says,
oh, I just was diagnosed with, they just found a tumor and they have to biopsy and they think it's lung cancer, which was like, talk about like a heavy first date, right? And I was like, whoa, okay, fine. And it just felt,
I actually didn't know if it was true or not true. Like it was just, it was really strange. He's like, can we go to dinner tonight? And I was like, Oh, I have plans that I'm okay. So he goes back to the East coast and,
he's texting me. And then he texted me, he's like, great news. False alarm. I'm totally fine. Check your email. And he had sent me airline tickets for St. Barts to go on a trip with him for 10 days. And I was like, I barely knew this guy. And you're so weird. I mean, you're such a private person. And it made me so uncomfortable. And I was like,
Oh gosh, no, no, no, no, no. Like I, I don't know you. Like I didn't even know if it's going to go out a second. I'm hardly going to say no, Tom. And I felt really uncomfortable and I felt like it was super forward and slightly aggressive. And so I was like, okay, fine. I that's fine. But can I come to LA again? And I thought I just didn't, there was something about it that seemed a little too fast. It didn't feel authentic. It felt weird. It was rushing, you know? And that was it. I mean, I sure I would have liked to have gone to St. Barts, but with somebody that, you know,
I really would have been into me. Yeah, totally. Dating is hard. Dating is so hard. It's so hard. Um, here's this, this might be a, this is a deeper question. Uh, do you have, do you believe you have to be fully healed from your previous lover in order to love someone new to have that capacity again?
I mean, look, we've all had our hearts broken where you just want to like right away go out with somebody else. And for me, my personal experience, when I have been heartbroken or really, really, really hurt, I am not able to switch gears that quickly. Like I have to be totally healed and
to be open to meet somebody else. I've tried it. It's just too hard for me. I feel breakups very intensely. And I think it's really important to almost kind of shut that door and then move on to the next. So for me, I'm not one who can overlap to try to move on. And I don't know if you're asking more from a time perspective or is it the first person after a breakup? Because-
I think it could be the first person, but maybe, you know, you can't expedite the time on healing and healing. Do you think, is it like a set, you know, they said on, I think it was on friends or one of those sitcoms. They said like, you take the time of the relationship and what cut it in half. And that's the time it takes to get over it. Do you believe that? Is it a time thing or. I think it has.
to do with the intensity of it. And like, I dated a guy for two and a half months and he dumped me. And I swear to God, I think it took me a year to get over him. And my friends are like, what is wrong with you? And he was not even a great guy. I mean, she's none of them. I know. And I think that that falls under the category of, you know, something in his childhood wounds and emotional baggage in mind. It was like this, like imprinting. Right. And it was,
It just, I don't know. I could not recover from that. And then there've been people I've dated for a year and a year and a half. And it's like, I don't, I don't even look back. Like it just didn't trigger me in that way. So I don't think it's so much time for healing. I think it's like, what was it that, that struck such a chord with,
with you that you have to get over it. It's more about like, what work do I need to do within myself? You know, and I feel like every relationship I've had, I'm making healthier choices. And I'm learning like, I like this from this person, this from this person, to help build the toolbox of what's going to be, you know, the perfect, the perfect thing for me, but I don't think it's time. I think it has to do with something with your your wound, your your emotional baggage for me.
I agree. And I think also on making healthier choices, I feel like I'm getting much better at course correcting or communicating earlier so that something doesn't either become a bigger problem as I continue on in a relationship and has a chance to potentially, do you know what I mean? Kind of rectify itself because I'm doing a better job of communicating and
And I think dialogue is so important. That's a total tangent. And communication is really important and vulnerability. That's something I've had to learn is have really uncomfortable conversations instead of shut down. Okay. This will be our last question.
We're in the holiday season here. Do you think it's a red flag if a guy wants to spend the holidays with his family instead of being with yours? Well, this is really interesting because a friend of mine's daughter, who's 30, has been dating this guy for about a year. And my friend called me and said, do you think it's weird that she's not invited on the, you know, she went last year on the family trip with them. And this year she, they haven't brought it up to her. Do you think that's a red flag? And I said,
I do for her, right? Because they're, you know, at a year in, you think potentially starting their life together. I think for us, when people have children or maybe like a regular plan that they've always done, I think as long as you're kind of, um,
communicating and maybe why like, Hey, like it would be so fun to do something together this vacation. But, you know, we just started dating recently and I'd already had this plan or I had, you know, committed to doing this, but you know, it's nothing more than a function of, you know, that, right. It's not a deeper message of like, I'm just not that into you, but we can all read the tea leaves and read the room and know if somebody's
into us or not or wants to be with us and where there's a will there's a way you know somebody could fly home to be home for new year's eve if they really want to see somebody and i think that's back to like the post-divorce where it life is a little messier and complicated and when it comes to the holidays i think kind of what you're saying louise is if you communicate on what what why the reason for not wanting to be there i think it's totally fair because personally like
I prioritize my family holidays with my immediate family. And I mean, I dated somebody for several years and we would do Christmas the three days prior to my family. You know, I remember. Yeah. And then I would essentially kick him out and be like, OK, my family's here now. That really hurt his feelings.
Yeah, it did. But I, but you weren't going to change your routine, which is a happy routine. Yeah. So I guess I'm on the flip side of that question, but yeah, I mean, that's how I feel. It's important to me. But if you were really, I mean, I also think like sometimes we don't make changes because we don't want to make the changes. Like it's like, there's a will, there's way. If you really wanted him to be a part of it, you know what I'm saying? Like,
You could have made changes. You just didn't want to. And that's okay too. But I also think...
- I have it all. I think you can have your cake and eat it too. And I think if you guys do, you know, a week with each other and then a week with families for various reasons, like I think that that can work. So I think it's, I don't think you can generalize and I think all situations. - No, I agree. But I also think friends know friends. Like when I'm dating somebody and I'm like lukewarm on it, I'm like, yeah, it's great. You're like, yeah, you look like you're really excited. I'm like, no, it's amazing. This is it. This is really great. And you're like, okay. And then when I'm like, yeah, we're done. And she's like, no surprise.
I've been waiting for weeks. I was at a dinner. Oh my God. I, and then I know we have to go. I've been dating somebody and I,
it was, it was good. Like it was, it was good. It was nice and fun and it was good. And it fell under the category of like, I had a big life. It was part of my life. And I was at a dinner with a bunch of, a bunch of girls and in front of mine sat down and she was like glowing and she sits in, oh, I got a boyfriend. I'm so in love. And I was like sitting there thinking, I don't feel that way. Why don't I feel that way? And my other friend looks at me and she goes, you're dating somebody, right? I go, yeah. She goes, why don't you sound like that? And I was like, and it was like,
like getting hit over the head. You know what I'm saying? Cause I knew what I felt on the inside, but when a friend can see it and can like call it out, it's sometimes hard to hear because the truth, you know, the truth deep down that voice, we have that little inner voice in our heart and mind. Well, this has been so much fun. Thank you guys for letting me be part of the action here. I felt like we all just went on a first date.
I know. Would we get a second date? Yes. I was going to say, I would call you both back at the same time. Such a cutie. Well, thanks for your vulnerability. Thanks for being so honest. We appreciate it here. Well, fun to talk to you. Thank you for having us.
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