How to be grounded and thrive in your own energy and exude self-love and confidence and power and radiate that good grounded energy. You can tell when somebody truly loves who they are and the person that they're becoming. And on today's episode, I really just wanted to cover this concept of groundedness because I
I've struggled with anxiety and mental health issues for years of my life. For those of you who've been listening to the podcast since the very beginning, I've been very open and transparent about my mental health and my struggles with anxiety and depression and how it's really...
played a huge role in my life. But this year, I've been making a lot more decisions centered around ways I can ground myself and better myself and heal my inner child. What does being grounded mean? Be
Being grounded is the state of feeling completely centered, calm, and connected to your body and being in the present moment. Being grounded is about having a stable, solid foundation, emotionally and physically, that allows you to respond rather than to react to life's challenges.
I want you to pause for a second and really think about who you are, your energy. You are a living, breathing human being. You are an energetic portal that is radiating a frequency. Sometimes when we're anxious, when we feel very all over the place and we're not grounded, our energy can feel very scattered.
I want you to pause as you're listening to this and take a deep breath and notice if you are grounded or if your energy is all over the place. Where are you giving your energy? Where is your mental energy being placed? Are you thinking about all of life's challenges? Are you thinking about the person who isn't texting you back? Are you thinking about the stresses at work? Or are you living in the present moment?
Being in your body and being grounded in your mind is also the key to manifesting at lightning speed. Because you are grounding your energy, you are a magnetic force. And when you are truly focused on your inner self...
and you are truly in alignment, and your chakras are in alignment, and you're focused on you, all of that energy is being directed inwards. You're actually going to become magnetic. All of the things that you've ever wanted to manifest are going to happen so much faster when you are in your body and in your frame.
If your energy is being scattered elsewhere, if you are constantly thinking about a million things at once, if you are directing your energy outwards all the time at bullshit and things that do not matter, it will be harder to manifest and attract everything you desire because you are not grounded. I've literally set up my laptop screen, side note, as trees, right?
Trees are the most grounded, rooted, living beings of them all. My laptop screen is literally a forest with these giant trees. And every time I look at it, it is a constant reminder in 2025 that I need to recenter my energy whenever I'm feeling stressed and whenever I'm feeling anxious. It has helped me so much. So let's officially get into it. Ways to become more grounded in 2025.
Number one is practicing self-affirmations. When you wake up in the morning, I want you to practice the I am method. This is by Neville Goddard and I've watched all of his videos and I've talked about him on the podcast and in my masterclasses. Self-affirmations aren't just about saying, I am confident, I am beautiful. You get the point. You know what affirmations are. I've talked about it a lot, but I want you to practice the I am method.
The I am method in particular and rooting yourself in what you're saying is the key to being in your body and truly being grounded in your energy and who you are and the person you're becoming. When you wake up in the morning, instead of going on your phone, instead of scrolling, instead of directing your energy outwards at other people,
at your emails, at whatever else could be distracting you potentially the second you open your eyes. I want you to open your eyes and immediately think I am and then follow it with I am grounded. I am confident. I am and whatever you want to feel. Obviously, I'm assuming you want to feel something different.
with positive emotion, something that's going to make you feel good and inspired to get out of bed. This is actually a lot more challenging than people think. Like when you hear me say it out loud, it sounds simple, but our brains are so wired to do specific things that we've been doing for so many years that when we wake up, we're often thinking about the past or we're often getting very distracted because of our phones.
Even though I'm aware of these self-affirmations and doing the I am method, I've forgotten so many times when I wake up in the morning and I start diverting my attention elsewhere, it actually is taking my energy away from being grounded. I've noticed that when I don't jump on my phone in the morning, when I don't scroll, when I don't answer DMs the second I wake up or emails or texts, I'm
and I've actually turned my notifications off and ground my energy before anything else, it changes the entire layout of my day. It changes the entire energy of my day. It makes me feel more productive. It makes me feel more centered. It's so simple, but it's so effective. So when you wake up, immediately start saying these things in your head because it will start reprogramming your mind for the rest of the day.
Now, it's also something that will take a little bit of time because it's habit building. There's going to be times where you might forget to do this, as I just said. But if you stick to it and if you set your reminder to do this every day, I could promise you in 30 days, you will feel more centered and balanced. Number two, letting go of comparison. It ties into scrolling.
When I look at other people's lives, it throws me off balance a lot of the time. I'm going to be really honest with you guys. When I'm consuming other people's content, if it's not aligning with my higher self and not really truly benefiting my future goals, I get ungrounded. I get stuck. I get very anxious because I am looking at everyone else's shit and not my own. And that can really
throw your body off. That can really throw your energy field off because you are not focused inwards. The key is to always focus your energy back to yourself. So if you are scrolling all day, staring at what everyone else is doing, it will throw your energy off balance.
This is also coming from my personal way of grounding. So if you are consuming people's content and you feel helps you in any capacity and it's helping you become more grounded, for example, this podcast episode is literally about how to be grounded. That's different, right? But
If you were just watching garbage on TikTok that is telling you that dating sucks, that everything is miserable, that Manhattan dating culture is doomed and no one's ever going to be in a healthy relationship ever again, you get the point. That's not going to make you feel good and that is going to throw your energy off and that will keep you not grounded. So once again, let go of consuming, consumption, content consumption, consumption.
of the things that aren't going to lift you up and make you a better person, and the I am method when you wake up. I am grounded. I am living the life of my dreams. I am beautiful. I am radiating confidence and power, okay? Those two things combined are going to kick off your day and make you feel amazing, make you feel like a superhuman. Number three,
You have to visualize your future and your future success. You need to have an end goal. You need to have some sort of thing that you're working towards because it will give you purpose. When I am at my lowest points with my mental health, it's often in times where I forget my mission and my purpose. I've struggled with this for years. And even today, even though I have this podcast, it's
I still sometimes I'm like, am I just talking to a microphone and talking to myself? What am I doing? You know what I mean? And when you have those intrusive thoughts like that, it can also throw your energy off balance. When you have a mission and when you have a future goal, that will keep your brain on track.
That will keep your brain occupied with something to do. When you are in times of stress and hardship and you're at low moments with your mental health, having some sort of goal, even if it's small, will help you get back on track and recenter your energy and make you more grounded. You don't have to be setting these crazy high goals for yourself, but
but just even a small task, something to do, something to look forward to. Recently, I've been forcing myself to take hot Pilates. And the first three classes, I was literally, I was crying. I actually was like about to curse out the instructor because it was so hard and I've never done it before.
And I'm just angry. There was just this emotion of me. Oh my God, I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. But I fought through it and now I've become addicted to it. And now it's built as a part of my routine. And once you push yourself...
And push yourself to do something a little bit outside of your comfort zone. And it's a little bit challenging, but you're looking forward to it. And it's a part of your routine and your day. It helps you ground your energy. And Pilates in itself helps you ground your energy. Okay. I see men and women in the class. It applies to anyone. Pilates is a game changer. And I really fucking hated it.
And I know it's like a thing. Everyone talks about going to Pilates and it's like this trending thing now, but I was always that person that was like, I'm not doing that. It's too hard. Like I'm literally not planking for a minute straight in a hundred degrees. That's not my thing. But because I was suffering with anxiety and I felt so out of body over the last couple of weeks, I forced myself to do it. And every time I leave that room, I feel more in my body than ever.
Just having some sort of goal, something that you have to do really does help. And Pilates is a really good recommendation. Guaranteed you'll feel better after a class. Number four, focusing on yourself.
Being grateful for what you have, for the people already in your life, for the experiences you've already got to experience, whatever it is, big or small, there is something to be grateful for in everything. I need this reminder too because sometimes I lose perspective and gratitude brings you back to center. It can bring you back to yourself and realize that you have so much to be thankful for.
When we go through these moments where we're feeling out of body or we're struggling with our mental health, it's so hard to see things to be grateful for. And I've made it a practice now to remind myself, even when I'm really struggling, that there has to be something to be happy about. There has to be. Sometimes when we're in the midst of feeling like
the world is against us and things are really shit and we're having a really off day, it can block us from seeing our blessings in the future. But when you remind yourself that it's just one day, it's just one bad day, it's just one moment in time, and there's going to be so many other moments in time where you're going to smile and be happy again, it will help you ground yourself back into the moment. Most things, unless it's like serious health things, most things are not
As big as you're making it. I'm not saying it applies to everything. But unless it's like a life or death situation. Most things are not as bad. As it seems. It's just a moment in time. When I remind myself of that. Even today. I was super emotional for the full hour. I was like.
I hate New York. I know. I said it on my birthday episode. My relationship with New York City is like a toxic relationship. I just don't love it. And then I'm obsessed with it. And then it just goes back and forth. And today I had a moment where I was like, I need to leave. I just can't be here for more than a week or else I start losing my mind. But then I was like, you know what? It's just a moment in time and I'll be fine in a couple hours. And I was. So.
Just remind yourself that everything passes. Your feelings are valid. Your emotions are valid, but it will pass. And there are good times ahead. Number five, this is a big one. You have to take a bet on yourself and...
understand that you're going to fuck up and you're going to make mistakes no matter what you do in life, no matter what you're pursuing, no matter what you're chasing after. There's going to be moments where it's not perfect and the journey is not perfect or what you expected. And there's going to be shit that gets thrown your way where you're like, that was a curve ball. And I didn't, you know, I didn't know that it came with the territory where I didn't know that it was going to be this hard or whatever it is.
Point being, nothing is ever going to be 100% perfect and smooth 100% of the time. And when you take that pressure off of what you're doing or what you're working towards, you become more grounded because it creates anxiety and panic when you're thinking that everything is supposed to be done a certain way and everything is supposed to be so perfect and then it doesn't turn out the way you expected.
You're going to go crazy. When I was trying to sign with a network, that was all I could think about. And I was like, I need to sign with a network. I need to monetize the podcast. I have no money. I was so stressed. I was so out of body. I was so anxious and it depleted my mission. Like it depleted my ability to focus on what mattered, which is showing up, creating the content and, um,
just living in the moment. Like I was so focused on the future to the point where it was giving me the worst burnout and ruining my day because things weren't going my way. Like I was talking to networks and they were low-balling me and saying, no, we're not paying you basically. Even though I had bigger numbers than some of the people that were getting paid, I was like, this is so unfair. Like this is literally so unfair. And then when I took a step back and
And I redirected my brain and I said, you know what? Maybe this is getting blocked for a divine reason. Maybe everything happens for a reason. Maybe I'm being redirected because if I sign with a network, it wouldn't be what I thought it would be. So the journey to building the podcast was not what I expected. It's not what I had envisioned originally. And it was nowhere close to perfect for the first year.
But once I released the idea of what I thought I wanted and I released the idea of everything needing to go exactly the way I had pictured it, I became more grounded because I wasn't stressing out anymore about the end result. I was focusing on a solution, which leads me to the next thing. Number six is focus.
Being solution oriented and not focused on the problem is going to keep you more grounded. If a problem comes up in your life, if an issue comes up in your life, start to think of what can I do to fix this versus, oh my God, everything's over. My life is burned to the ground. Like my life's over. You know what I mean? Because I've been there and panicking does not work. Panicking does not find the solution. What finds the solution is you thinking,
focusing on how to fix it or focusing on ways to resolve whatever it is you're going through. I've also noticed that
the most successful people in the world are solution focused. They're not fixated on the problem. They're just focused on fixing it. And it's really inspiring. And I've seen it with people that I look up to. Do you want to fix the problem or do you want to dwell in it and be depressed and miserable for the next six months because you're being a victim to life? You know what I mean?
Obviously, that doesn't mean that your feelings, once again, are not valid because they are. And I'm human too. And I get it because I'm literally speaking from my own experience. But the point is to just
At least try and at least be self-aware. So when you are faced with challenges and you do feel a little anxious or out of body, you can recenter yourself and say, you know what? This is a problem, but how do we fix it? How do we get there? And it's also a really attractive quality to have. My ex-boyfriend, we went through a lot and that relationship obviously ended. But if I could say there was one thing I really found attractive about him, it was his
He was solution focused and oriented. Whenever there was something wrong in my life, he would try to fix it for me immediately. And that's really attractive. So just saying. Okay. Some other grounding practices. These are the obvious ones. These are the more tangible ones. But meditation, the Pilates thing, I'm telling you, if you've never done it, you should definitely try it. It's a very in-body experience because...
you're literally struggling so hard that you can't focus on anything else. You're just focused on getting through the workout. And I am the type of person that needs that. I need something to kick my ass so I'm not focused on my life problems on the future. It forces you to be present because you're struggling so much. So that's my advice to you. If you haven't done Pilates, go do it. Obviously meditation, as I just said, I use YouTube for my meditations.
The reason I created Dare to Detach, which is my detachment masterclass and the MindBodySoulReset
which is my other masterclass, all the meditations in those masterclasses are the ones that I know work for a fact. Those are the ones that I've done that actually work, that are actually the most effective, that have actually helped me become more grounded, more at peace, more confident in myself and in my future. A lot of the meditations are oriented towards the future. They are designed to help you focus on your future self, on your higher self and your goals and your
I'm the type of person who needs to focus on the future. And although that can be a little bit anxiety inducing, if you do it in the right way through meditation and through breath work and through the right exercises, it can be a very challenging
healing experience because you're not focused on the past. Focusing on the future is way healthier than focusing on the past. If you are stuck in past traumas, if you are going through a really bad breakup and all you could think about is your ex, if you are struggling really through anything and you've been in the same toxic cycles for years, the reason
I created Dare to Detach and MindBodySoulReset is so it can break those cycles for you. You can do these meditations. You can recenter your energy and you could focus on becoming the most unstoppable version of you. If you are interested in my masterclasses, you can visit the link in the show notes or
or go to my Instagram at Date Yourself Instead. And the link is in the bio. And it's usually in my stories when the masterclasses are open. If doors are not open, you could sign up for the waitlist. We would love to have you. We have an amazing private group chat where we all talk about our healing journeys, and we're all supporting each other. And we're
all in it together. It is so empowering. I highly recommend it for the new year if you are looking to up level and completely change your life. I'm also a part of these group chats. So you have me to support you along the way as well. If you are interested, go to the show notes on the podcast on Spotify or Apple.
Or you can send me a message on Instagram and check the link in bio. If doors are not open, once again, sign up for the wait list. They are open usually once a month. So don't miss it. Okay. Another grounding practice that I love is spending time in nature. Even grounding myself by sitting on the floor versus sitting in a chair when I'm home.
I know that sounds silly, but it really does work. There's something about being closer to the earth that mentally shifts you. It changes you. It's an energy thing. When I was doing Zoom sessions with my friend who lives in Bali and she's a healer and I've spoken about her quite a few times on the podcast. I know a lot of you actually have visited her in Bali, which is insane and crazy to me.
But she's amazing. We've done Zoom sessions while I've been traveling, while obviously I'm not in Bali and I'm in New York. And I've laid down on the floor doing those sessions. Whenever I'm laying down on the floor, it feels like I'm closer to the earth. It's just a grounding technique that actually works.
It's different than sitting on the couch. It's different than laying in bed. I don't know why it's so different, but it is. Even in my last New York apartment, I had this really comfortable rug. I need to share the link for this rug because I swear it was literally like stepping on a cloud. It was the best rug I've ever had. Anytime anyone would walk into my apartment, they'd be like, where did you get your rug? Anyways, so...
Every night, I would literally make myself a tea, take one of my pillows, put it on my carpet on the floor. And instead of laying on my couch, I would lay on my carpet. And I would also take so many naps on the floor on my carpet. And I know it sounds silly, but it's really not. It's really not. It really works. There's something about laying on the floor and taking a nap versus
on a piece of furniture. You should try it for yourself. Guaranteed, you will feel the difference. And that is a really random but really powerful grounding technique. I guarantee not many people have spoken about that on any podcast, but go buy a comfortable carpet and lay on it and stop using your couch. I just realized I went so off-tangent
This whole point was supposed to be about being in nature. The other thing, aside from laying on your floor, is being in actual nature, going for walks outside, going for walks and listening to helpful, motivating podcasts is very grounding.
walking barefoot is grounding on the grass. If you can access grass, if you're in a warm location right now, I don't know where you guys live in the world, but if you can be outside in nature doing things, obviously that's an amazing way to ground. Sitting by the ocean, hiking, reconnecting with the earth, just doing things to reconnect with the earth, realizing that we are on a living, breathing planet. This is why I'm
I know New York is too much for me now. As I've gotten older, the more I've needed to be grounded, the less I care for being in a big city. And being in a big city has its benefits for sure. There's so many things I love about being in a big city, but it's not grounding. It's hard to stay grounded. You really have to go out of your way. I've had to create such a strict routine for myself to keep myself in my body.
being in Manhattan again. And when I'm in Bali, for example, there's so much nature. There's so many beautiful things, beaches, and it's so lush and like fresh air. And just, I don't know, it's just a vibe. And obviously I'm going to get so much hate again. People are like, shut the fuck up about Bali. But it could be any tropical location. There's so many beautiful locations, okay, with
With beaches, Australia in itself, the most beautiful place on earth, beaches, nature, hikes, walks, mountains, anywhere you can access the outdoors and get some fresh air that is going to ground you.
And if you live in a place like this with a lot of nature, do not take advantage of it. There are people who cannot access these places and they wish they had your environment and your life. So be grateful if you do have access to these environments and you live in a very lush, beautiful place, take advantage of it.
Another tip I have, which is actually a part of my Dare to Detach Masterclass, and I have a lot of tips in there and a lot of advice in there about detaching and removing your energy and recentering your energy fields and knowing who the fuck you are. It's literally what the whole class is about. There is something in there. Sorry, there's like blaring fire trucks outside. If you hear that in the background, I apologize. The best thing...
that I used to do when I was in the process of healing and grounding my energy and detaching from my last relationship. I bought this copper ball from Amazon
It was a crystal. I just would hold it in my hand while I was either anxious or I was napping. And the copper is very heavy and it literally grounds you. It grounds your hands because it's heavy. It's like a weight and you're almost like holding a weighted ball in your hands. The first time I actually bought one was at a crystal shop in New York and I picked it up and it was like really heavy. But there was something like...
very special and charged in the copper where I almost felt like a little buzz going through my body and I was like, I like this. So I bought it and I would hold it when I was really anxious. I used to hold it while I was sleeping and I know it sounds like a little bit childish, but it really did work and it really was effective. So that's a kind of random tip. This is a really good tip for grounding your energy.
Being more powerful and assertive in communication. So instead of saying things like I think and I'm not really sure or I don't know because I'm guilty of this too. I don't know. Or does that make sense? I'm guilty of saying all these things, but whatever. Replace those phrases with
With, I'm sure, I'm confident in this. I know, I'm certain. Be more sure about what you're saying and what you're putting out into the world. Be more confident in what you're creating and what you're sending out into the world, wherever you are, whoever you're speaking to, whoever you're engaging with, be more confident in your word. Your words are powerful. Your words are everything. Stand tall and stand firm in what you believe in. And this also comes with loving yourself more.
knowing who you are more, getting more in touch with your inner self, you will exude natural confidence when you have more confidence
authority in what you're saying. Because I have my moments too where I'm like, I'm not sure. I don't know. Start replacing those phrases. The first step is changing the way you speak. Even if you don't fully mean it. Even if you're still not confident in what you're saying. Just catch yourself and try to replace those phrases. So instead of you're saying, I'm not sure, say, I know. I am sure. I do believe this. It will help you become more grounded.
and confident. The last thing I will say about being grounded is knowing how to take your energy off of yourself and engage with other people openly.
Be more active or proactive in genuinely communicating with others and caring about what they have to say. Being more engaged in conversation, focusing the attention off of you for a second if you're so in your head, if you're so anxious, if you're so stressed out and asking someone a question or complimenting someone.
This doesn't mean throwing all your energy at someone and not focusing your energy in words, because obviously this whole episode is about focusing your energy on yourself. But I'm talking about a way to get yourself out of a funk. If you're like having a really shit day and your brain is all over the place and your energy is all scattered, sometimes engaging in a quick conversation or complimenting a stranger or forcing yourself to
to interact with other people can snap you out of that funk, shift your energy, raise your vibration, and get you back to center.
I'll give you an example. There's a woman that lives next door to me. I was having a really off day today. I was very in my head. I'm also like PMSing. Okay, you get it. Your brain can play tricks on you. Your hormones are all over the place. I was feeling really off today. Also why I didn't record a video episode because I was like, I don't feel like being on camera today. I'm in a mood. So I was in a mood and I
I was very in my head thinking about just a lot of things that I was stressed about. And the woman next door, I don't I barely know her. She knocked on my door and came into my apartment and we had a conversation and we chatted and I got to know her and it completely shifted my attention off of my problems. And it just raised my mood a little bit because I
It suddenly made me get out of my head. And because it made me get out of my head and I engaged with her life and I was asking her questions about her backstory and her timeline and the things she's done in her life grounded me because I got out of my own head and I was focused on engaging with someone that I didn't know well. And it ended up making me feel better.
Because I was able to shift my energy and attention away from my problems. Does that make sense? Does that make sense? I just talked about not asking these questions myself. But I knew, okay, replacing the phrase, I know that it made me feel better. I know that it helped me.
And it changed my energy. And then I was able to be more grounded and more present in the moment because I was talking to someone new and getting to know someone new and asking her questions. All of these things combined, really helpful. These are all techniques and things that I've done to really just recenter my energy, ground myself, feel rooted, feel present, and change.
It's really changed the game for me. Just coming from a girl who's had chronic anxiety her whole life. I hope these tips were helpful. I hope this inspired you to be more grounded, to be more present. Thank you, as always, for listening to Date Yourself Instead. I really appreciate all the comments on Spotify, all the recent love, all the shares, all the reposts to your stories.
All the engagement on Instagram, all the subscribers on YouTube. I know I started YouTube. I'm not really big on YouTube right now, but trying to get there, trying to invest more into that as well. I appreciate you guys. I love this community so much. You keep me grounded. You guys also are a huge reason why I'm grounded and I keep going and I keep working.
Thank you as always. Remember to check out the masterclasses if you haven't already, Dare to Detach and the Mind, Body, Soul Reset. Doors open again very soon, once a month. If they are not open, remember you could always join the wait list and send me a DM at Date Yourself instead if you have any other questions. I love you. Have an amazing day and stay tuned for next Monday.