LET THEM WALK. Let them go. The breakup is a portal to your highest timeline.
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Let them go. Let them walk. Let them make the decision to lose you. Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of Date Yourself Instead. Today's a very special episode. I'm back in London. I'm finally not jet lagged. I'm grounded. I'm recalibrated. And I'm ready to really dive into the podcast, dive into work again, and really set the tone for the rest of 2025. I was thinking about this concept of

Letting people go even when it feels impossible. Even when it feels like the hardest thing in the world because they are so integrated into your timeline. They're so integrated in your life and you cannot imagine your life without them. If you're listening to this right now, I'm sure you clicked on this episode because you're trying to rid yourself of this person, of this situation, of this relationship.

and it feels impossible. You cannot imagine life without them. I'm here to tell you that it is possible. This is just old programming. You're still living out the old timeline and the old program when you had initially met this person.

I'm sure when you met this person, things were different. Maybe you saw the best in them. Maybe you saw their potential. They were treating you the right way. They did all the right things. They love bombed you into the situation you're in right now. And now you feel stuck. Now you feel attached. Now you feel emotionally attached.

Like you can't rid yourself of them because you've grown feelings for them. You've integrated them into your life, into your friendship circles. Maybe you've even had them around your family. Maybe you've had them around during really low points in your life where you felt vulnerable.

And now you're attached. So how do you let them go? I'm going to give you the blueprint of how to fully release someone that you know you need to let go of. And I'm going to tell you why it's a blessing. I'm going to tell you why this is all positive. This is all for your highest good. I want you to walk away from today's episode feeling so empowered and confident enough to honor yourself and put yourself first and know your worth.

So let's do it. I want to start off by reminding you that your energy is a sacred field. It's a sacred force field. You are made of energy and your energy is royalty. Your energy is sacred. You are a goddess. And if someone isn't willing to appreciate your energy, your time, the place that you're in in their life, if they're not willing to see that

how special your energy is and how special you are. Letting them walk, letting them go, releasing them from your energetic field is really about you reclaiming your power. You're reclaiming your fucking crown. You are royalty. You have to treat yourself as the best. I made a TikTok about this and it actually went viral. I wasn't expecting it to.

But I know why it went viral because it talked about this concept of owning that you're the best. I'm the best. I'm the greatest. I'm the most attractive in the room. I radiate golden energy. When you tell yourself these things and you feel it into existence and you feel it in your soul and your body and you radiate magnetism and confidence and you know your fucking worth, you're not going to

care about people who don't see your worth anymore because you know there's something better on the other side of releasing them. When I'm in situations now, as I've slowly and gradually gotten back into the dating scene, I've been able to put myself first now in every situation with no emotional attachment. I can be sweet. I can be kind. I can be loving. I can be magnetic. I could be my truest self without the feeling of losing myself.

I took a year break off of dating to get to this point where now when I go into dating situations, I'm not thinking about if that person wants to be with me, if that person's going to walk away, if that person doesn't like me, if that person doesn't value me. I'm not even thinking about those things. All I'm thinking about is...

how I feel, if I feel good or I don't feel good. And I'm thinking about how much I love myself and how much I bring to the table and how much I've healed and how much I've bettered myself. And I anchor myself in that confident state. I anchor myself in that feeling of love for myself instead of thinking, oh my God, is this going to work out?

Do they think I'm cool? Do they think I'm attractive? The only thing I'm thinking about now is, am I happy in this situation with this person? Are they making me feel good? Do they value me? Am I having fun? Am I enjoying myself? Am I enjoying their company? I love myself. I just tell myself this all the time. I love myself.

I'm so excited about life. I'm so excited about my dreams, my goals, my passions. I transmute any energy that may manifest initially as worry, doubt, anxiety about that person. And I reframe it and I say, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what they're thinking. It doesn't matter if they walk away. It doesn't matter if they decide to move on with someone else. Doesn't matter if they don't like me. They don't think I'm attractive. They don't like my personality because I love myself.

I'm obsessed with my energy. I love what I bring to the table. I know I'm valuable. I know the right person will see me fully 100% and appreciate me and love me the way I love myself. Because everything in life is a mirror. Every relationship you experience is a mirror. So if people aren't willing to meet you where you're at in the sense of how much you love yourself, it'll be so easy for you to eliminate them from the timeline. Eliminate them from the video game of your life and say, blip, nope.

It's done. It's over. This isn't working for me. This isn't benefiting me. I don't feel good. The rule is to monitor how you feel, how you feel around that person. If they're making you feel like shit, if they're making you feel unworthy, unvalued, if you're anxious, if you're crying, if you're venting out to your friends all the time, if you're doing the most to get their attention, if you're posting stories for their validation, if you're checking to see when they're on Instagram, if you're checking to see if they're answering you all the time,

You're not in your energy field. You've left your energetic field and you're in their energy field. Take your fucking energy back. Take your power back. Don't allow someone to have that power over you. Why are you allowing someone to make you out of body? Why are you allowing someone to take you out of your energy field? Your energy is sacred. What I just said, your energetic field is sacred.

sacred you are a goddess you are royalty you deserve the best of the best keep telling yourself I am the best how dare this person make me feel this way I'm the best I know how amazing I am I know how beautiful my heart is I know that I deserve the absolute utmost respect from the people in my life

So this person is out of the timeline. They don't deserve access to my energy field. You have to start looking at your energy as sacred, as the most valuable commodity in the world. It's more valuable than money. It's more valuable than any materialistic things. It's the most valuable thing in the world, your energy and your time. Those are two things you can't get back.

When someone is draining your energy, when someone is taking you out of your energy field, they are not supposed to be in your field. They are not supposed to be in your life. They're not supposed to be living at the same fucking timeline as you. They don't deserve it. They don't deserve access to you. Your energy is a palace.

If you're the queen, your energy is a palace, a golden palace. You're supposed to feel golden. And if someone's making you feel gray and like you have a black cloud over your head, they're eliminated from the game of your life. It's like a video game. You have to treat it as a game.

These are side characters. They're not the main character. They're not the royal prince that's coming to save you because that person would actually appreciate you and worship the ground that you walk on. If they're not treating you like the goddess that you are and they're treating you like a convenience, letting them walk away is you reclaiming yourself, your power, and your crown. Okay, not going to get too cheesy, but I'm just using this as an example. You have to treat yourself the way God sees you.

This is something I've learned recently as I've become closer to God, closer to my faith and to my religion. As I become closer to my faith and to God, I now look at myself the way God sees me through his vision. You watch.

were divinely created. He sees you as golden. He sees you as deserving of the utmost respect and love. He wants you to win. He wants you to have a beautiful life with a beautiful relationship and everything you've ever wanted. But if you don't feel worthy of it,

You can't have access to it if you don't feel like you deserve it or if you let people run all over you and destroy your boundaries and destroy your confidence and you let them into your energetic space. You're not allowing God to work his magic in your life. You're not allowing the blessings to come into your life. You're not allowing things to happen the way that they should happen because you're blocking it by tolerating people that treat you like fucking shit.

So I want you to look at you, your energy and your time and your value as the most sacred commodity. Look at yourself through the eyes of God. The next thing. Oftentimes you're not even losing the person that you think you're losing if they're walking away. You're losing an illusion. You're losing a fantasy. You're losing reality.

the projection of what you thought the relationship was, and you're not even losing the actual human being and the soul that's walking away from you. I'll tell you from personal experience, there was someone that I dated a couple of years ago, and we met kind of the way you would meet in a movie at a bar, and we were like

you know, getting to know each other so quickly. Everything was moving so fast. I do feel like I manifested this person out of thin air. I spoke it into existence. I had wanted to meet someone the night I went out. I actually met this person. I was very attracted to him. And we had this whirlwind few week romance where everything was amazing. And I was on this dopamine rush and I thought I was in love and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Okay. And then

Over time, I just ignored all of the downsides. I started ignoring all of the red flags. I was making fucking checklists in my phone of the pros and the cons of this person. That's how you know someone's not right for you. If you start making checklists in your notes on your phone, they're not it. Okay. You won't have to make a fucking 10 page checklist of the pros and cons of a relationship if it's right, if it's supposed to be, if it's God sent. So when I

I was seeing this person. I was blatantly convincing myself that there was nothing wrong because I was so attracted to him. And I was looking at his physical appearance, the way he carried himself, and maybe some other superficial things because...

I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and I had goggles on. I wasn't thinking clearly. I had delusional fucking goggles on. Okay. And it happens because we're human and I'm human and I'm not perfect. And it's just something that we do sometimes because we're coming from a place of, I don't want to say the word desperation, but we're coming from a place of needing the attention and the validation of someone that we find attractive. Okay.

It was one of those situations where it also felt like a challenge because I knew he wasn't fully available to me. He wasn't fully emotionally available and there. And I love a good challenge, okay? That's something I've accepted about myself. Sometimes I love the challenge. Sometimes I love that high of chasing down love. And that's something that I've had to heal and work on and really...

unpack in my therapy sessions, in my Kundalini work that I've done in Bali. There's so much there, but it's a common thing. We often go for these people that we know deep down aren't fully there. They're kind of there and they like us and they might have feelings for us, but it's just not 100%. That situation is

cost me over a year of my energy because there were so many instances where we weren't even speaking. We were in no contact and

And he wasn't even a part of my life. And yet I thought about it all the fucking time. And it was still taking up my energy field and my space. And it killed me because it wasn't even about him. It wasn't even about him. It was about the fantasy I had created because I hadn't been able to properly live out the relationship's potential. A situation ship is often hard.

harder than getting over an actual relationship because you never got the chance or the proper opportunity to live out the situation ship you never got the actual opportunity to really get to unpack this person on a deeper level and spend enough time with them it's the potential that'll really sting

Because you're like, well, I see how amazing it could have been. I loved all these qualities about the situation. I loved this person during these moments. And I felt so good during these moments. But at the end of the day, if something is meant for you and it's God sent, it'll work out regardless. Let it be what it is.

OK, you are not losing them if it didn't work out. You are not losing them. You are losing the illusion. And if it's meant to be at another point in time, because everything happens in divine timing, you'll come back together. But for now, don't let yourself get lost in the what if scenario in the fantasy, because more oftentimes than not,

God sees things that you can't right now about that person. God sees things about that situation and the timing of everything that don't make sense to you in the 3D. It's not going to make any sense. There was someone that I was seeing last summer. And when we ended things, I thought it was completely done, would never even speak to this person again or give it the time of day because it didn't end well.

properly. It didn't end the way that I wanted it to end. It was a little bit dramatic and it was something that ended so intensely that I just assumed that it was done. But I let it be what it was. I didn't dwell. I

I trusted that everything was happening for a divine reason and I let it go. I released it. I put my faith and trust in the universe and God and I said, you know what? I'm giving it to you because obviously if this is the dynamic of me and this person, it's not meant for me. It's just not right for me. Then I went and healed and I did a lot of work on myself and I really reflected on the situation myself.

Eight months went by, which actually didn't feel that long. It did not feel like eight months at all because I think I was just doing so much working on myself, traveling, meeting new people and time just flew by. And then as of recently,

I kept hearing this intuitive voice just talking to me and saying reach out to this person. Just reach out and clear the air. And I did because I always listen to my intuition and even though eight months ago

I was bitter and I was pissed off. Eight months can change a lot, especially when you actually commit to changing. And I know I committed to changing myself and healing myself and healing my heart and, you know, addressing my trauma and my wounds and things that I carried with me for my whole life. In that eight month window, I knew I had changed. And regardless if

this person is a significant person in my life or not. I know I never want to end badly on bad terms with anyone or have bad blood with anyone. And we cleared the air almost instantly. And it was something that made me realize that divine timing and the timing of everything and how things play out is everything. It's literally everything. There are times in our life where we're just not ready to

to meet someone where they're at or vice versa. There are going to be times in our life where we feel a connection with someone, but one person is just in a different place than the other or one person is a little bit more mature than the other or one person is, you know, another place in the world and that's

The timing just isn't right and it's not sinking. But God knows when the perfect timing is to make things work, to make things happen. And he also knows if a situation is right for you or not. And then walking away and that situation that didn't work out at that timing last summer, there was a reason for that.

There was a higher reason for that and a purpose for that. If that relationship situation had continued when it did, it would have been a disaster anyway. It wouldn't have worked. It just me and that person were at two different places in our lives. It just wouldn't have worked at all. And that's the thing. That's the beauty of divine timing. It's like,

You can't force shit to happen when you want it to happen. You can't push things to happen all the time when it's convenient for you or when it's convenient for someone else. It's on God's timing. When you give it to the higher power and you give it to God, your life will get

It's so much easier because you're placing your trust in something bigger than yourself. And it takes the pressure off trying to make shit work and happen all the time. If things aren't working out with someone, if someone's walking away from you, if someone chooses to leave you,

or date someone else, or put themselves first and abandon you, for lack of a better word. You're not losing them. You're actually entering a new timeline. You're entering a recalibration period where you're about to up-level and grow and change because that was always going to happen. That is supposed to happen. It's part of the plan.

When you look at everything as part of your divine plan, it will get easier because you're trusting that what's meant to be will truly be. You are fully and wholeheartedly trusting the process of your life. You're not getting caught up in the small details anymore of, oh, I can't believe they left me. I can't believe they chose someone else. I can't believe they ghosted me. I can't believe blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

Instead, bless it and say thank you for walking away because now you're opening a new door for me. Now you're opening the new timeline where I either get what I deserve and I find someone that actually values me and loves me and respects me the way that I deserve. Or now I'm going to go heal, work on myself, better myself, grow as a person, and then maybe one day we'll come back together. Their departure out of your life is not actual abandonment.

It's not abandonment. It's your alignment. You are aligning with a new version of you. You have to reframe it. You have to tell yourself, this is divine guidance. This is a blessing. This is divine redirection. This is protection.

Everything that's happening for me, there is a reason behind it. Maybe God saw them. They were being shady and sketchy behind your back and you didn't know and you had no clue. Maybe that person wasn't fully honest with you about things and you had no clue and you just think, oh, they randomly lost feelings for me. No, maybe they...

were doing things that weren't aligning you with the best possible situation and they weren't aligning you with what you deserve and God saw it and you couldn't and that's why it ended or maybe he saw you needed to work on yourself and you weren't ready and you needed to go focus on yourself and build your character and build your strength to meet a better person

because he knew that you were settling. Maybe you are settling and you don't even know because you're operating at a certain vibration and you think it's the best and you think it's the best life is gonna get for you. But in reality,

You're fucking settling and God knows that and he's gonna push you out of that relationship and say nope I'm taking this person away because you need to go work on yourself You need to better your life. You need to up level because I have someone even better for you That's kind of where I'm at. I thought that I was healed a year ago I thought that you know coming out of a really long relationship. I thought I was okay I thought I was doing well and I

I was severely humbled. I was severely humbled because I got myself in another situation where someone had basically just flipped a switch overnight and said, you know what? I don't think this is going to work. And I was forced to move out of Manhattan, move out of an apartment that I loved, move out of my city where I grew up that I was so familiar with,

sell all my furniture, give away all my clothes, literally burn my life to the ground. I feel like I lost touch with everyone in my life. And I went and healed on a fundamental deep soul level because I was forced to. It felt like my world had just fallen apart overnight. And looking back, that was the biggest change

divine fucking blessing, even though I thought it was so scary and so insane at the time, it was the biggest blessing that my life burned to the ground, that everything fell apart, that I lost people that I loved, that I lost touch with people. I needed it. I needed it so I could go inwards and actually do the work and commit to it.

I had to leave my old life behind at the door. There was a new timeline and a new door waiting for me and I had to walk through it. And when I did and I had the courage to leave and I had the courage to actually step foot in the new timeline, a whole new world opened up. I found a new version of myself that I loved so

So much more than any other versions of myself. I made peace with the fact that I had to start over again. I had to build a new life for myself. This is a common situation in very narcissistic, abusive relationships. You almost have to start your life from scratch when you leave because everything feels like it's burned to the ground.

It's a total reset on your life. But now I view it and I've reframed it as the biggest fucking blessing that ever happened to me. I'm so grateful I went through all of that. I'm so grateful I hit rock bottom. I'm so blessed that I had to experience those lows in order to get to the top of my life, of my career, make new friends, bask in my own energy, love myself deeply, and radiate this golden aura that I have now and that I carry with me.

When I was forced to change because that relationship didn't work out and I was left with nothing, that was where the biggest breakthroughs came from. And tying it back to what I was saying earlier, that's what I mean. When a relationship ends, when something ends,

Treat it as a blessing. Trust that there's something greater for you on the other side of the ending. It's not an ending. You're aligning with a new timeline. If you keep clinging on to someone that's not right for you, you're not going to free your energy field to receive what the universe is trying to give to you.

You're not going to allow anything in because you're quite literally blocking it energetically. Your real blessings are on the other side of your release from anything that's weighing you down. Letting go is how you make room for miracles, for new love, for abundance, for the things that you want in your life.

When you clear your energy fields and you clear anything that is no longer serving your growth, you will allow new blessings to come in. And it happens almost instantly because you're making room for them. You can't expect all of these amazing, miraculous things to happen for you and to meet new love and to manifest everything you want if you're clinging on to your past life.

Because everything is energy. Everything is your energy. Everything is dictated by how you feel, how you're vibrating in the universe. If you are clinging to your past, you're literally poisoning your energetic field. One of my best childhood friends was in a relationship a while back with a guy that didn't even want to say I love you first. And they'd been dating for over a year. And

He was making her fly out to him and they were living in two different cities. And the whole thing was just so bizarre from the outside perspective for me. I knew she deserved better. I saw over time that her light was a little bit dim because this person just wasn't showing up the way that she deserved. But then there came a point where...

She was brave enough to release that relationship and let him go, even though she didn't want to. Because he wasn't going to break up with her. I guess he was fine doing whatever he was doing with her. And maybe he was just neutral to it or comfortable or whatever it was where she knew that he wasn't going to end it. So she had to take the action and do it because she knew that it was costing her her peace and her happiness. So she ends up ending this relationship and she's

He was like, okay. And it was the biggest slap in the face because why don't you care? Why are you okay with me just ending it? After all of that, she realized that she had made the right decision. But then it's like even more painful because you realize that that person never really cared anyway if they're just so neutral about the ending, you know? And I felt really bad for her because I love her and I want to see her win. I wanted to see her happy and in a really happy, healthy relationship.

She's been through a lot of dating situations similar to me. We both have experienced a lot together. Of course, you just want to see your best friends happy. A few months later, she moved to a different city and decided to let go of everything, surrender and trust in a fresh start.

She trusted her intuition. She moved somewhere else. And she trusted in the divine plan to start over. And she was still heartbroken. She was still really devastated over the situation. And she hadn't fully energetically let him go. But...

She did her best to surrender. I admire her for this so much because she's so strong and she's a very strong character. She knows how to put herself first, even if it feels impossible and even if it's really hard. That's something I love about her and her energy is that she knows her worth and how beautiful she is and how amazing she is. And if something's not serving her long term, she'll know to walk away even though she doesn't want to. That's really hard to do when you're...

a year or two into a relationship, it can feel like you're stuck. So she makes this decision to finally leave

start over move and she ends up meeting someone that lives in the same building as her and now they're madly in love and they've been dating for a really long time and he treats her amazingly he treats her like the royal goddess that she is and she's in a healthy happy relationship with someone that values her that appreciates her that respects her she's like I can't believe I used to tolerate the things I used to tolerate I can't believe I had stayed and I

experience the things that I have experienced. When you actually get what you deserve, when you actually experience what love should feel like, it makes you realize how badly other people were treating you and how much people didn't see your worth. That is the power of trusting in a higher plan, even though you can't see two steps ahead of you, even though you can't see what's going to happen on the other side. And it's scary and you're afraid to leave and you're afraid to make the jump.

There are miracles and blessings for you waiting on the other side if you choose to actually take the leap and dive in. The other thing that I've learned through many of my dating experiences and something now that I know is crystal clear, being with someone else should not feel like chaos, okay? God is not a God of chaos. If the connection brought more confusion than clarity,

He's already told you what you need to know about the situation. If you're feeling confused all the time, if you're feeling unsettled, if you're feeling like you're going to puke because this person isn't giving you what you know you deserve, that's the answer in itself.

God is not a God of chaos. Okay. He doesn't want your life to be a mess and chaotic. Although we all go through trials and challenges and we all go through hard, difficult things. Of course, God doesn't want to see you a broken mess for eternity. He wants to heal you. He wants to give you what you deserve. So think about that.

Was that relationship that you were in, was it chaos or was it peaceful? Were they bringing you the utmost form of peace? Were you calm and grounded and happy around this person? Or were you constantly in confusion, constantly in question, constantly scratching your head and being like,

What the fuck is going on? I know for me, I've been in tons of those situations. Most of the situationships I've been in have been me scratching my head. It's like there's this giant fucking question mark

sitting on top of both of our heads when we're together. If you feel like that, that's probably not the right situation because there's no reason to live a life of confusion. There's no reason because if both people like each other, if both people are on the same page, if you're on the same wavelength and you both have feelings for each other, it should be a gradual buildup where you build a connection, things go really well, and you end up together.

And it feels smooth and it feels light and it feels effortless. If something is dragging you down and bringing chaos into your energetic field, you really got to assess if it was really right or are you just trying to convince yourself that it was? Because you like the dopamine rushes when things are good. You like the high moments, right? It's so easy to get attached to those high moments where you're with that person and you're laughing and you're having a drink and you're running around a city.

a city together and you're in this like whirlwind romance. I know I've experienced this. I'm speaking from my own personal experience with someone that it took me a while to really move past. You focus on the highs

But then you don't get honest with yourself about the lows. You just convince yourself out of them and you're like, oh, no, it wasn't that it wasn't this. And I'm going to protect this person because they're really good person. It's just they're going through a lot and they have a lot on their plate and they're busy with work. And like you shouldn't even have those conversations in your head if it was right.

Do you get what I'm saying? You shouldn't even be trying to defend someone's character at all if it was right or trying to protect their character to your friends if it was right. It would just be right. You wouldn't even have to really speak of the situation. I know for me, when things go well with someone, I'm not blabbing my fucking mouth to the world about what's going on.

I'm enjoying the moment. I'm enjoying the piece. I'm like, this is great. I don't have to prove my relationship to anyone. I don't have to explain my situation to anyone because it's just normal. It's nice. It's natural. It's effortless. It's easy. You're just in alignment. So you're not like, oh, I have to text my friends and see what's going on with this person. Oh, I have to screenshot their messages and give them updates on everything. It doesn't really feel that way when it's right and when it's aligned. Now,

Now, I want you, as I said, to reframe this concept of someone walking away from you and letting them go. Because it'll initially feel hard and painful and you might be upset and you're like, Liss, it's not that simple. It's not that easy. You could talk about it and speak from an objective standpoint, but when you're in it, it's difficult.

I get it, okay? I've been in it, so I know this. I know that it's hard to take people's advice when you're struggling this much. I know that it's hard to take my advice when you're so deeply invested and so deeply attached. I get it, I've been there, but if this episode can at least...

Get you thinking, get the wheels turning, get you to see a different side, get you to be more inspired or hopeful about leaving. That's what I'm here for. So let's talk about the blueprint, the overall blueprint of letting this person walk away, releasing them from the timeline, letting them go, treat it as a spiritual graduation. Every time you hold on to someone,

that God is trying to remove out of your life, you're delaying your own ascension. You're delaying your own growth.

I look at breakups now as portals. I look at breakups as portals to a new version of me that's hotter, a new unlocked version of me. Every time I let someone go, I get hotter because I start to focus on myself more. I start to put my energy back into myself. I'm more motivated. I start to focus on my goals again. You have to use it to your benefit and tell yourself, okay, obviously I deserved better.

Obviously, I deserve more. If I'm brave enough to let this person go, if I'm able to let this person go fully and wholeheartedly, I know that there's a better life waiting for me if I just embrace that concept and I just trust in that concept. There's nothing to fear. There's nothing left to fear because life's only going to get better from here. Treat the breakup as your portal to up-leveling, to ascending, to reinventing yourself.

You can't evolve if you're clinging to people that aren't right for you. You can't. They're going to hold you down. They're going to weigh you down. You're not going to feel good. You're not going to feel fully in your energy. It's dead weight. Let them go. Letting them walk away is you saying, I'm ready for the next level of my life. I trust in the plan. I trust in my higher divine plan. I'm ready for the next level. The next thing is their exit out of your life is

is the key to your evolution. You didn't lose them. Once again, you leveled out of them. You're

built differently. You're going in a different direction. Stop selling yourself short on what you deserve. When your frequency is supposed to rise, when your destiny is calling you to be bigger and do bigger things and up-level, a lot of people are going to have to drop off or exit or leave. And it might look like they're leaving you, but really your soul is leaving them because you're supposed to be growing. You're supposed to be evolving beyond the relationship. You're

moving more towards your destiny and they can't they just can't be a part of your destiny because your soul is doing bigger things than them you're going to a different level and

And you got to leave the people behind that aren't going to be able to grow with you and meet you there and expand with you there. Okay. When you are an expansive person, and I know if you're listening to this, you probably are. When you're a very expansive human being, a lot of people will naturally exit your life because they can't keep up with you. They just can't. You might want them to, and you might have this fantasy that they're going to, and you might cling on to them because you're hoping and praying that they evolve with you. But

Life doesn't work like that. Maybe that's just not a part of their plan. Maybe that's just not a part of their destiny. They're not supposed to have access to the new version of you. The next thing is letting go is the best way to communicate to yourself how much you actually love yourself and to prove to yourself how much you actually value yourself and love yourself.

When you're holding on, you're doing yourself the biggest disservice. You're not listening to your soul. You're operating from ego. You're clinging because you're scared. You're clinging because you're living in fear and lack and you're not trusting the higher plan and you're abandoning your soul. Look at it as you abandoning you. You abandoning your soul. They're not abandoning you. You're abandoning yourself because you're clinging on to someone that's not good for you.

and not good for your soul and not good for your soul evolution so get real with who you are and look into your soul and say am I really honoring my soul am I really honoring it or am I lying to myself being dishonest with my truth and afraid to unlock the next level of my life because I

I had feelings for this person and I'm afraid I'm never going to find anything like this again. I'm afraid I'm never going to find a new one better. That's going to keep you stuck. That's going to hold you back. Choose to love yourself more than the person that isn't right for you, that isn't willing to meet you where you're at. When you really, really, truly know how amazing you are and when you know that you really are the best, it'll be way easier to do this. There's this feeling I have now of,

This beautiful dance between detachment and being my truest self and being loving and being warm and gracious and grateful. I'm a very loving, good hearted person. In the past, I would lose myself and almost lose my entire identity and get swept up in this like romance of love.

the moment with someone and I'd be like, oh my God. And I like literally fucking give my heart to someone. Now it's a dance between detachment and being loving. This is the place that you should be in because it is the most beautiful place to be in. You could still be a loving, kind person that enjoys spending time with someone, but it's without the feeling of expectation. It's without the feeling of needing someone

someone else to validate you. It's without the feeling of needing someone to constantly be up your ass and validating you through their words or actions or it's just

I'm enjoying this person's company. I like them. I care about them. But I know I'm so amazing and I know that I deserve the absolute best that I don't need anyone else to make me feel that way. I don't need their existence to be happy. I don't need their existence to keep me alive and keep me afloat. It's

okay to get excited about people and excited about new love. It's a good thing to open your heart to someone. But at the same time, don't get lost. Don't get lost in this idea of like needing this person to get through your day, like needing them to text you, needing them to be by your side, needing them in your life 24 seven. You are fully whole. You are divinely made. You're fully whole within. I promise you that.

The more you feel that and the more you radiate that energy of I love myself so much that anyone that's in my life, it's an honor for them. They should feel honored to be around me. When you start to embody that frequency, it will actually cause people to want to be around you more and treat you better naturally. So then you're also not really looking around.

for the external validation you're not looking or seeking it because it just happens naturally and it's just it is what it is because people see how much you love yourself and people want to be around people who love themselves because they're radiating a golden energy and they're radiating a golden aura everything and everyone and every relationship is a mirror to where you're at in your life where you're operating at so the more you pour into yourself and the more you say

Everything's good. I don't need this person, but I enjoy them. I enjoy spending time with them. I care about them. I love them. I appreciate them, but I love myself. I love myself too. So it is what it is. Once you get in that state, everything comes to you. The world comes to you. You don't have to worry about people running away from you because even if they did, you

Worst case scenario, even if they did, it won't matter because you know what you deserve and you're holding the frequency of I love myself enough to know what I deserve. So if someone's willing to walk away from me, there has to be something better. Your destiny is too big for someone's indecision. Your destiny is too great for someone to be unclear or unsure about you.

you're going to be out here doing huge things with your life. You were born for greatness. You were born to live out your greatest potential. And they just can't hold that space for you. If they're running away from you and they're not willing to stay in your life or remain in your life, treat it as a chapter. Okay, that was a chapter. That's not the full story.

There are obviously bigger blessings on their way because I'm built for an amazing life. I deserve the best of the best. I'm built for greatness. You shouldn't have time for someone who's still unsure about what they want because you know what you want. And if you know what you want, they're eliminated.

goodbye, you're unsure about me, that's not the energy I need in my field anyway. If you're unsure about me, that's a turnoff. That's not something that's heartbreaking. That's not something that's, you know, gonna cause me to lose sleep at night. I'm good because I know that there are other people out there in the world that will be 100% sure about me because I know what I'm looking for. I know what I want. I know how valuable I am. I know how sacred I am.

I'm not going to allow people who are indecisive about me into my field anymore. So let them walk.

Let them walk so you could propel further into your destiny. Let them walk so you choose forward motion. So you're moving forward. So you're moving and expanding and growing and building. You're here to build empires. Like you're literally here to take over the world. And you can't take over the world and do amazing things and pursue your goals and your dreams and your passions if you're clinging on to the past, if you're clinging on to things that were supposed to expire a long fucking time ago.

So I've had this experience a few times with men that couldn't handle my power. And they were so terrified that when I would tell them about my work, my career, my goals, they would freak and bail and run and ghost me. And I knew why they ghosted me because the second I start bringing up money, work, whatever, and my goals, because I have very big dreams, they were like, oh, my God, like this girl is too much. My reaction to them running in the other direction was good. Thank God.

Bye. Why would I want someone who can't handle my power? I deserve a man who's going to step in and appreciate my power and embrace my power and encourage me to be even more powerful and encourage me to be even more of a light. Push me to work even harder and to pursue my dreams even more. Why would I want a little weirdo man to...

be afraid of me and my power, right? Do you know what I'm saying? It doesn't make any sense. So when they would walk away or stop talking to me and

And there's been guys who have done this to me where they've literally jumped into relationships right after meeting me. I've been told I'm too intense. OK, it's not something new that I've heard. I've been told I've never taken it personally. I think it's a compliment. I'm like, I'm too intense for you. I'm not going to diminish my power and diminish my shine and my light and my aura to make you feel comfortable. Why the fuck would I do that? The right man is going to

thrive in my essence, thrive in my power, thrive in my energy field and be like, wow, I'm so lucky that I get to sit next to you. I'm so blessed and lucky that I know you, that I'm able to be around someone of your nature. I see how hard you work. I see how much you care about your business. I see how much you care about other people. There are other people out there that will appreciate my intensity. And I know that. So I never take offense when someone thinks I'm too much.

I'm like, well, we're just not meant for each other because I'm here to do big things. I don't know about you. I'm here to grow. I'm here to evolve. I'm here to expand. That's my purpose. I feel like my soul is constantly looking to elevate. If you can't match that, if you can't match my frequency and meet me there, bye. It's all good.

No bad blood, no hard feelings, but just get off my timeline. Choosing you, loving yourself, embracing all of your qualities, being authentic to yourself, living in your truth will always be the most powerful decision you ever make. Don't let anyone try to make you feel small, like you're too much, like you said the wrong thing, like you did the wrong thing.

It just wasn't the right match. And that's okay. Don't let someone convince you out of your power or convince you out of how amazing you are and how divine you are. They're just not the right person. And treat it as a blessing. If they walk, if they let you go, if they say, oh, you know, I'm not ready. I can't do this right now. Blah, blah, blah. Let them go. Let them go. If they are the right person, they will choose to rise and meet you where you're at. They will.

And everything happens in divine timing. So maybe it will take some time. You give each other space. You come back together at a different time. Fine. Or maybe you elevate. You realize it's not what you wanted all along. And then you end up meeting someone else who can meet you where you're at. And the last thing I want to say is if you're trying to seek closure, if you feel like things ended weirdly and you didn't get the proper closure, don't.

This is your reminder that you don't need closure from them. You need closure with your old self. You know what you deserve. You always knew. It's just about reminding yourself of it. It's just about remembering it. You always knew that there was something off. Be fucking for real, okay? You always knew that this person, there was something off and you convinced yourself that there wasn't.

I truly believe that every single person that I've been with where, you know, there were a million amazing things I could think of amazing positive things, but there's always this little voice or little weird feeling or little gut instinct where you're like, I wasn't sure about that. I didn't really like that. And then you convince yourself out of everything. Then it ends and then you're like, I fucking knew it. I knew it. I knew it from day one. I should have listened to my gut. I should have listened to my intuition about this person.

You already knew the answers from the beginning. Letting go is not about getting closure. You don't need their closure. You don't need to have that one last conversation right now. Maybe in the future you will and maybe in divine timing you will and it'll be at the right time. You can sit down and have a chat, okay? But if you didn't get closure right now and it's killing you and it's eating you alive, trust that that's also happening for a reason. Accept that your spirit and your soul knew already and that's the closure.

Okay, you're making peace with your old self that would tolerate bad behavior. Look at your old self in the mirror and say, okay, you knew, you knew what was up. You knew that you deserve more. But now it's time to honor the new version of me. It's time to step into the new timeline. It's time to become the greatest fucking version of me. That's never going to go through this shit again. That's never going to tolerate any of this again. Never again. I know what I'm worth.

And I'm not going to settle any longer. I'm not going to do this to myself any longer. I deserve the best. I am the best. I am divine. God wants the best for me. Who you're becoming is more important than what and who you're leaving behind. Who you are destined to become is way more important than the relationship that is costing you your peace. You're walking into a version of you

that will not settle anymore and doesn't question her worth. That is more important. When you reframe it and look at it like that as a soul evolution, as a new timeline, as a new opportunity to grow and step into the highest version of you,

That's how you let them go. That's how you choose to let them walk away. This is for you. This is for your highest good. This is for your highest benefit. And God wants to see you thrive. And with that being said, that concludes today's episode of Date Yourself. And said, thank you so, so, so much as always for listening. If you love this episode, be sure to leave a comment on Spotify, share it with a friend, share it on Instagram stories. I see everything. I see all your DMs.

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