180: The Motherload – Balancing Business Savvy & Parenthood
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I woke up crying and I didn't take that as a red flag. I just wiped the tears from my face and said, buckle up, let's make it through another day. And I finally got my kids out the door after yelling at them and having a breakdown and, you know, I'm sure just having a very high stress morning. And as I was closed the door, as I was walking from my son's room to the laundry room, holding this basket of filthy clothes, I just, my body froze.

Welcome back to the B word, Scotty. I love, love, love when I get to bring you online because I feel like it's the only time you and I ever get to connect in real life as real life as this is. If only we lived close to each other.

We would dominate the Southeast. I can just tell you right now. Yeah. Right. Although, I don't know. Sometimes I wish I could just move out West because I think the time zone, the weather, everything's better out there. But, you know, it's because we live with the allergies here in Georgia all the time. Right.

All right. So my Momplex Mommy Life Coach. Walk my listeners through because if they haven't met you before, by the way, guys, if you haven't met Scotty, you're welcome for this episode. But, you know, Scotty is like the Momplex podcast. She is all about the mom and she takes such a different approach to it. So walk us through the journey of becoming that certified coach for moms.

Love that. Thank you for that introduction. Yes. So I am the mom coach and this became, this is an existence because this is what I needed. I'm a mom of three. By definition, I chose the role of stay at home mom early on. My husband travels all the time for work and I wanted to raise the kids. That was a big passion of mine that I didn't want to miss out. I wanted to be at home with the kids. However,

When I decided to do that, I learned it took me a while to really admit the truth that that truly wasn't enough for me. And I think specifically in motherhood, there is not one way to do it. We have to listen to the cues our body and our mind and our soul is giving to us because they're there for a reason. And I was getting all these cues that is this it?

I think I meant for more. I'm not sure I'm fulfilled. What's wrong with me? And all these questions started dropping in. I ignored them for a very long time. And because I ignored the cues, I ended up having a breakdown. And I realized, oh my gosh, I can't stay where I am. I need to get myself some support, some help. I need to make some changes. And through that, I started working with a life coach. Through that, I started my podcast. Through that, I started hearing from other moms that, hey, I feel this way too, but

Can you help me? And I realized, yes, I absolutely can. And I went back to school and got certified as a health and life coach. And now I'm on this mission to help moms in the moment. I don't, we don't have to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough. And so I'm on this mission to help moms really feel empowered to,

Define and identify what do I want out of motherhood and life and how do I want to show up and how do I want to feel? Let's make that happen. Let's do that. Let's create that. And so that's truly where, how I got to where I am. And that's what I'm so excited about. That's what I'm so passionate about, helping other moms do the same.

Okay, let's loop back really fast to the breakdown because in my head, I am literally picturing a time a few years ago when my husband found me downstairs on the guest bed, curled up in a ball, just falling my eyes out because all of a sudden the pressure of being the mom and being the entrepreneur and doing all the things, I literally looked up, Scotty, and I was like, I don't even know where I am or who I am anymore. And I didn't want my kids to hear me

Cause I didn't want them to have any guilt over any of it. So I was in the basement crying in a ball. I can feel that. It actually, like I feel a sting of tears behind my eyes because I know that feeling. And I, I know so many of us are in that place and we feel so lost, so confused, but so upset with ourselves, right? That we are not, we're not showing up as that quote, perfect mom that we were hoping that we would be.

And my, I call my breakdown. It was my laundry basket epiphany. I know I'd woken up. I woke up. It was a Tuesday and I woke up crying. I woke up crying and I,

I didn't take that as a red flag. I just wiped the tears from my face and said, buckle up, let's make it through another day. And I finally got my kids out the door after yelling at them and having a breakdown and, you know, I'm sure just having a very high stress morning. And as I was closed the door, as I was walking from my son's room to the laundry room, holding this basket of filthy clothes, I just, my body froze. Hmm.

And I just like crumpled to the floor and I literally, I couldn't even physically, I was, my brain was saying, move your body, move your body. And my body actually shut down on me. And it was the most surreal experience because I had never been dominated by my body that way. And I realized, I mean, I was just like hyperventilating and I couldn't breathe. And I was feeling this like panic and choke in my throat and like tears were streaming down my face. And I was like, oh my gosh.

This is it. I can't go one step further living the life I'm living, not only just for me, but for my kids. How is this?

This is not the mom that I want my kids to see. Not that I had shame over it, but I, I love my kids, but I was not loving motherhood. And that was a massive epiphany for me to realize I'm happy, but I'm not happy. I cannot stay here. And in that moment that I had the aha, that I wasn't doing well, I didn't have all the answers. It wasn't solved in that moment. That was my awareness. And I, from that moment on that my goal was I need to figure out what I need. Well,

What do I need to get my shit together to get myself to a place where I feel like me again? So I can give myself to my kids because right now I'm missing. I don't know. I don't like you said, I don't know who I am.

I am. I don't know where I am. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what's happening right now. And I felt out of body. And so that's, I can go deeper into it, but that was my laundry basket epiphany. Thank goodness my body hit the brakes on me because I think I would have, my ego would have just forced myself through another day. I would imagine that so many of our listeners right now are

legitimately kind of like glancing over the side of their, you know, like I just did, I just glanced to the right at the laundry basket sitting there and thinking, yes, like we've all had those laundry basket epiphanies, whether it's in the guest bedroom, you know, balled up in the, in the corner or with the laundry basket. And none of us truly want to admit that that's, that's happened, especially as entrepreneurs, because we are those women who

who are go-getters and the world is on our shoulder and come hell or high water, like we're making it happen to admit that maybe, maybe this isn't quite what I wanted and had pictured in motherhood. Like how difficult is that? It is hard. And it is hard too when you're sitting here thinking, why isn't this enough for me? It was enough for that mom. It's enough for my friend. It's enough for my mom. It's enough for that girl I saw on Instagram. What's wrong with me? Right? And so you have this

And you have these thoughts in your head thinking there's women out there who are not blessed with children. Why isn't this good enough for me? Why do I get to say that I want more? And why is it, why aren't my kids enough for me? And that was a big part of my, the journey. I had to really work through that grief of realizing, gosh, I have to make some changes. I have to admit that.

that how I've been living isn't working for me. And it doesn't mean I don't love my kids or my husband or my life. And it doesn't mean I'm not grateful. We have to also separate the two. You can desire more and be grateful at the same time. You can need more and still be grateful. It's not in competition with each other. And I think when we let, give ourselves that kind of permission that, you know, when we tune into our bodies and realize, wait, my body is my compass.

It's telling me something is missing or I need something different. I need to respect that and trust, even though you can't see it, but trust that's going to actually allow me to show up for my kids stronger, better, more available, more present, right? Rather than just pushing harder through the pain.

And it was hard to admit. Yeah. Yeah. All right, girl. I know you've got like some daily self-care practices that you probably sneak into your clients' routines. What do you do to practice self-care and to keep those boundaries up and to make sure that you're not falling apart again? So good. Great question. You know, I'm going to go back to the basics and

And I will say that I consider that my sleep is as important as my kids sleep. And I make sure that that is priority number one. It's the time where we regenerate, we recover, we renew, and it allows us to refill the tank in the most non stressful way, because then you can wake up a little bit more present the next day. I think when we,

hold on so tight trying to be everything to everybody all the time but then we save all of our alone time for that those wee hours of the morning when we can binge Netflix that you know they kind of call that the bedtime revenge bedtime procrastination that self-care number one I put my phone out of the room out of the room and I just treat that I am relentless about my sleep is it perfect all the time no but I have a foundation so I know that I'm not living off of

four hours of sleep. And I will, before I move on to the next thing I do, I understand as a mom, an eight hour night, not always possible. So my goal is how with my clients and myself, how can I make the five, six hours of sleep I am getting really count. Number one, get that phone out of the bedroom. That it's just too, it's too, too tempting, too distracting. The next thing is I, some sort of mindfulness or meditation. And I don't want to put the pressure on a mom because it's really hard to

Put that, I need to spend, I have to spend, I must. So sometimes I just, it's a connection to myself before I connect to the world.

Even if it's for 30 seconds, I just do a check-in. Scotty, how are you doing today? What do you need today? What do you want to focus on today? What are those thoughts in your head? Sometimes I do that after I've dropped my kids off at school and just take 30 seconds just to hear my own voice before I pick up the phone and let other people's opinions fill my brain. And that's a big one. And the third thing, which is going to, everybody's going to say, communication. I talk to my family. I tell

tell them how I'm doing. I let them know, Hey guys, mom's having a week. Mom needs more sleep. Mom's working on this goal. I include them in my life. I'm not just mom. I'm also Scott, Scotty, life coach, friend, athlete, wife, daughter, all those things like that is mom is just one of the things I'm doing. It's not who I am. And I have to communicate that with my family. I need to let them know where I am, how I'm doing, how they can support me and how I can support them.

And so it really is, it's sleep, mindfulness, and communication. Those things are non-negotiables for me. Okay. So I'm going to ask on a personal level, and I guarantee you that some of our listeners are probably thinking it themselves too. You've got a junior. I have a sophomore. So we've got kids around the same age.

How do you start having those conversations? Because sometimes I feel like it's all I can do with the teenagers to get them to listen to me about anything, much less a, hey, mom's having a week or mom's doing this or mom's got this big goal. You know, like how do you get them in the habit of listening with you and communicating back with you? Yeah, that's a great question. One, start small, start small and set your expectations that you're asking a teenager to focus on you. Yeah.

They're self-centered. They're supposed to focus. Oh, there's that. Yeah. They're supposed to focus on themselves. So what I, what I first and foremost always do is really communicate with my husband and he is very aware of what's going on with me. And I, especially even when I had my laundry basket epiphany, I called him that day and I said, babe, I'm not doing well.

I don't need you to do anything, but just to know that I'm going to be working on some things and I just would love your support. Great. At least he was privy. At least I had a teammate. At least I didn't feel like I was doing this life and motherhood and business thing alone. One of the things I created with our family is I call it the Sunday sink.

And it takes 10 minutes on a Sunday. And I ask my entire family to come around the kitchen island. Everybody brings their calendars and we go around one at a time. And we say, what do you have going on this week? What are you focusing on this week? What do you want to happen this week? They get to go. My husband gets to go. I get to go. So we're all kind of equal.

at this table. So I'm not talking at them. We're collaborating, we're sharing, and we're starting to gain this understanding of what everybody's thinking, what's everybody going through, what's everybody prioritizing. And there's this kind of like collective understanding and respect that's being developed

Like, oh, yes, now I know why mom can't run me my laptop in the middle of the day. She's got that big thing that she told me about earlier in the week. So it's not necessarily like, hey, I need you to listen to me. It feels more of like a team, like a collaboration. 10 minutes. Start there. Okay. That's really good. And it brings up another question for me, which is mom guilt. Mm-hmm.

I personally would sit around that table for 10 minutes and I can already just see where my brain's going is. And the minute they started telling me about what they needed out of the week, and I know I can't accommodate all of that because of what I'm, you know, got going on the mom guilt comes on. So what, how do you handle the mom Gil? And, and what do you tell your clients about that? Mom guilt will always be there. Doubt will always be there. Fear will always be there. They are our constant companions and,

And it's a really good sign because it means one, you care. And two, it means your central nervous system and your subconscious are working. So Bravo, you're functioning, existing human body, and you're experiencing the world in the best way possible. Always one, acknowledge it.

So don't, don't shun it away. It's, it's, again, it's your body, it's your emotions, it's your energy, it's your subconscious talking to you and it's letting you know, hey, there's something that needs your, there's something going on here. What is that? What are you trying to tell me? What's really happening here? What's going on?

A lot of times I think moms, we typically are people pleasers and we want to do everything for everybody all of the time. One of the phrases that I love and that I've taught my clients is, hey, here's what I can do. So you're receiving the request, you're receiving the information and your son tells you, hey, mom, I have 17 baseball games planned.

I need you to also manage the bake sale and I need you to travel, you know, 35 miles to my baseball game, blah, blah, blah. Like you're getting all this stuff and you're like, hey, I see these incredible goals. Here's what I can do. I can go to three of those games. I'm going to get you with, you know, our favorite mom friend here and we're going to do this and this and this. So it doesn't mean that you're not present. It doesn't mean you're not helping, but there's boundaries there.

There's capacity acknowledgement there. And it allows you to show up at your best in the ways that you can. But it also lets your kid know, hey, I'm here for you always. But I also have boundaries. I also have limits. And I need to respect that's my job. My job as a human being is to maintain my self-care, is to bring my understanding of capacity into that so I don't burn out. And then I'm teaching you how to do the same thing.

It's a practice. But when I, as soon as I started saying that, you know, even if you need to have a one-on-one with your kids saying, Hey, I see all the stuff you've got going on. I am here to support you a thousand percent. Always. Here's how I can do that this week. Bing, bing, bing, bing done. I swear the kid's only going to hear mom was there. He's not going to hear all the things you didn't do. The mom guilt is truly coming from a story that we're telling ourselves about how we're showing up.

And I think for so long, I lived this way where I felt that if I am not exhausted working 24 seven, then I'm failing at motherhood. Yeah. And the truth is.

in order for me to be the mom I want to be, I need to be rested. I need to feel taken care of. I need to feel respected. Where does that start with me? And the mom guilt truly was coming from this need for external validation. As soon as I realized that the validation comes from within, the mom guilt has subsided. But communication, communication helps so much. And I'll talk to you about another mom guilt, right? Like,

You're a mom of young kids. You're dying to go to the gym. You want to lose the baby weight. You feel like yourself when you're working out. You want to disconnect to yourself as that person. But then you think, how can I go to the gym? My kid's going to need me and I can't leave them with a sitter. I can't ask my husband to stay with them. I'll just wait to focus on myself when they're in school.

When you share your goals, why doing these things is important to you. Like, Hey honey, for me to go to the gym, it's more of it than sitting, fitting in my skinny jeans. I feel more like me. I have some, you know, I feel right. And I feel more like myself, which is going to help me show up better for my kids. But when we share the why, when we, when we include our family in our story, in our desires and explain to them why that's happening, right.

They are so much more understanding. They want to support. They want you to be happy. They want you thriving. They want you to want to be with them. How can we do that? We've got to take care of ourselves first. When I started communicating my goals, my needs, my challenges, all of a sudden the mom guilt just went away because I didn't feel guilty that I needed those things. And my family was included. So they were eager to support.

So it's really just like, it's a practice, but as soon as you start, my gosh, getting those thoughts out of your head and communicate it out, they don't feel so massive.

And I mean, your family, I promise you, even my elementary school kid, he loves helping me. He tracks my water with me. He's like, mom, I know you want to drink water. You're, you're not, you're not on it. Like they want, they like you so much. Your kids like you so much. They want to know you. They want to know why they want to be included. They don't like being excluded. And the more you include them, the more they are able to help you and you'll have less mom guilt. All right. So,

I'm betting that this also helped your marriage. Not that your marriage was bad. I'm not saying that, but my brain goes to, and if you are communicating and forming this better relationship with your kids, how did that help your partnership marriage? You know, how, how, you know, what is that doing to the home life as a whole? Such a great question. It's so important. So when I was living as a mommy martyr, um,

And I was suffering, you know, pushing myself past capacity to burn out, trying to be the quote, perfect mom. I was never asking for help. I was never communicating where I was feeling, what the thoughts that were going on in my head. And I built up a lot of resentment.

I believed that my husband had it easier. I believed that I was the only one doing all the worrying. I was the only one shouldering the weight. I was the default parent and that he was able to walk out the door, go to work, play golf, sleep through the night, not toss and turn. He was like living the life. All he had to do was make the money, right? Like there was a, I had a definition about how I thought his life was going and it, it made, it pissed me off. I thought he had it much easier than me.

And so there was a disconnect because there was anger there. And I was testing him all the time. You know, I would slam the dishwasher shut and like huff and puff and, you know, kind of this passive aggressively make comments, but I never was really telling him, I need your help. I just was testing him saying, I hope he can read my mind. He lives in this house too. Why can't he see that the dogs are, you know, messy and the floor needs vacuuming. And I realized that he's never going to read my mind.

There's no way I, as talented as he is, he's never going to read my mind. And then if I truly, the only way I'm going to get what I need is if I ask for it. And so that day when I opened up to him after my meltdown and I let him know what was going on,

I said, you don't have to fix this, but you need to be included in this. And he was like, of course, of course I want to be included. I'll do whatever you need me to do to make you happy. And I will say this, there's a totally different conversation. If you've been communicating with your spouse and your partner and they are not there to help you and they are gaslighting you and pushing you back, completely different conversation. And I've helped clients through that as well. But

This, I had, I have a good relationship with my husband, but I needed to kick off that communication because in his mind, I told him all the time I was fine. So why wouldn't he take me at face value? Why would he not trust that? That allowed him, I had created these routines. I had created these habits. He was able to walk out the door and not look over his shoulder and worry because I told him I was fine.

So as soon as I started opening up and including him and how I was feeling, I started, we could delegate more. We could distribute, we could support each other. And the conversations I've had with him were,

Mind blown. I'm like, I had no idea this is how you were feeling. I had no idea this is where you need help. So now I feel more like we're co-pilots managing this team together versus me being the CEO and shouldering it all. And they kind of are all like separate, kind of living off their own dream. I really, truly call my family a team and we each have a role to play.

And the only way our family is going to truly work is if everybody knows their role, they know what's expected of them, and they know how they can contribute. And I'm saying everybody actually likes being important, having a role, being an asset, having a contribution. Everybody feels so much more united and

We don't yell in my house. I don't raise my voice. I don't have to. I mean, our energy is truly like we're smooth and flexible and easygoing. And even, you know, the way my husband and I communicate, we have great chats and

We don't have those blow up fights anymore because I'm not sitting on all this resentment. And he's like, what happened? You told me you were fine. And now you're furious. No, you're not. Right. Why didn't you just tell me you were fine? And it goes back to that whole thing that Brene Brown says all the time. Clear is kind.

All we really can do for the people in our life is be honest. That's all we truly can do. How they receive that information, that's on them. But we have to at least be honest and give them the information and give them the opportunity to be what we want them to be for us. Oh, I love that resonates with me so much. You know, Jeff and I, I can remember times in our marriage when I would do the same thing, you know, slam the dishwasher, slam the dishes as I'm putting them up.

He'd walk in the house and I'd be like, well, congratulations. You get to go sit down and watch TV. I still have to make dinner. And that's not fair to him. I'd never asked him to make dinner. I just expected that he knew that I needed some help with it. Yeah. You know, I think opening that line of communication so that you're also teaching your kids at the same time how to have a successful partnership and not just mimicking bad behavior.

habits in front of them and then expecting them to also communicate with you. Like you can't give them mixed messages. Oh, 100%. That is such a good, that's such a good way. Like we got to walk the talk, right? Like, so if we're going to sit here and say,

Hey, I need you to show up every single day, give school your best show up for your teammates, you know, never quit sleep through the night, eat your magic plate and tell me what's going on. When I ask you and not mumble. Great. Who are they looking to, to learn? We're the blueprint us. Right. We are truly the blueprint. So if you're,

you know, saying I'm fine and you're not, and you're feeling that internal frustration, it's going to come out somewhere else in how you're communicating and connecting with your family. Even if they believe that you're fine, there's a tension, there's an energy, there's a presence there. We don't live in a bubble. What we are going through 100% affects how we show up in our life in all areas. And so it's, you know, I think that's something that's always on my mind. Gosh, if I want

You know, if I want to, my daughter to, you know, want to have kids and be married and know that she can go after her dreams. Great. She's looking to me. She's looking to me to figure out how to do that. And it's okay that if I, it's okay that I'm fumbling. It's okay that I've messed up and fail and maybe don't do everything right or pivot or change directions. I want to show her how to do that too. So it's such a good point what you just said. Okay. So mamas, I want you to really hear what Scotty just said, because here's what I got out of that was,

As a mom and a mompreneur, I often say, oh, I'm modeling for my daughter, Emily, what she can be when she grows up. But sometimes I forget that am I also modeling the mom and the wife and the entrepreneur she can be, not just the entrepreneur. Because we want to open those doors on all the faucets, not just the one that brings in the financial stability. Oh, 100%. You know, there's this...

position I think that moms often take. And I'd like to go back in time and find the person who first told us that we can't be a burden, that we need to be quiet, that we need to just be fine being a mom and accept that role. I blame the Brady Bunch show. I really do. Who is the source of this?

I want to have them over to dinner, not to get angry, but to say, where did it come from? Right. Like where did this come from? I don't understand. You know, over history and stories and in art and, you know, even the Bible, we were told that a woman's desires not only are wrong, they can be evil. They can cause a lot of damage.

And there's this kind of innate programming that happens in women that if we want more than the average mom, if we want more than what we saw in the Brady Bunch, we are selfish. We are evil. Our kids are going to be screw ups. They're going to fail out of school. They're going to be the troublemakers because we're not there. We're not present. And that took me a long time to heal that. But then I thought, gosh,

I don't like, I don't like the way I feel. Is this how I want Addie to feel? Is this, do I really want her to feel this frustration and not feel seen and supported and she can't find her voice and she can't pursue her dreams? Heck no. I want her to look ahead and never look back. So, okay, then I have to go first. Okay. I'll tell you a funny story since you did bring it up.

Jeff and I used to laugh all the time if something was going on and he would, I mean, it was completely unjust, but he would say, oh, it's because Eve ate the apple. And we have actually, since Emily became a teenager, stopped using that phrase, even though for us, it's just a funny, because I said to him at one point, I don't actually want her to ever think that biblically we are doomed for this.

because we heard a pastor a couple months ago. He's a pastor out of Dallas, Texas, and we were streaming him live, and he's the first one that we've ever heard say, I'd like to rewrite this.

How history has told you the Adam and Eve story. And he went through biblically how Eve wasn't there in a bad way. She's not the reason everything bad happened. She was just, she was there to be a partner and Adam wasn't there as the partner to stop her from doing something bad. And therefore, anyway, it was this whole thing. I'll try to find the episode and send it to you because it was phenomenal. But ever since then, we're like, okay, we are not going to use the phrase.

It's because Eve ate the apple because really it's not, she wasn't doomed from the start to be how she was. No. And I love that you said rewrite. I think it's okay for us to question things. I think it's okay for us to, and that's where I, that check in with myself every single day is so important. You know, our, our heart and our soul and our bodies want the best for us all the time.

You know, that is your greatest advocate in this world. It's the same thing you would tell your kids, like trust your gut, right? Like there, there is information coming to you. And it's the same thing for us when we're going through motherhood, there is no manual. We can't every single day is different with our kids. We're raising human beings that have their own willpower and mind and energy. So there's no like set way that life is supposed to happen. The only thing that's actually happening is change and evolution and growth and

spirit and all of that. So as you're going through the ups and downs and challenges of life as a mom, as a building your business and trying to create, build this life of your dreams, you want to always check in with yourself because that's your greatest compass. That's going to help you show up in those areas of your life in a way that feels truly good for you. And that's going to help you rewrite that story that this is how motherhood looks. Motherhood doesn't have to look like that. It can look the way you want it to look.

You get to write that. You get to design that. And it starts like connecting to that source, connecting to that spirit, connecting to that heart. And that's your great. It's the same way you had that deep down desire to go join a different church when you were a child. Like you just knew you were being pulled toward this different energy. We have to give that space. We have to let that be a guide and be a partner in this journey so that we truly are showing up as our truth.

as are authentic, right? And I think the rewriting is, I love that pastor. I think that's the kind of stuff that we need to hear more and more of. So moms start to feel a little bit more brave to maybe do something a little bit different, you know? Yeah. So now Scotty, it's my turn to make sure that I have connected everything

my audience with you, especially those women, the moms out there who are just sitting sobbing in their own car or just thrilled to have had you introduced to their lives. So where and how do you want them to get in touch? I love it. It's, I spend a lot of time on Instagram. It's my name, which is at Scottie Durrett.

I have a website and there's a way that you can reach me and email me and contact me there. You know, I really want to create a lot of comfortable channels for moms to have somebody to reach out to. My DMs are always open. No question is wrong. Like I just want, if you're feeling something, if you're, if something is triggering you, if you've got a question in your head, it's there for a reason, you know, that's your, that's your next step. Right. I think with moms, especially entrepreneurs, it's,

We're different. We're built different, right? Like we just have this kind of desire to be connected to something that's bigger than us. That's new. That's exciting. That's impactful. That's outside, you know, it's connecting to that deep core identity outside of being a mom. But that also means we're on 24 seven. Our to-do list never ends. The mom guilt is prolific, right? Like it just comes with its own challenges and,

But it doesn't mean it's impossible. It just means you need to learn like, what are the right steps for you? And if you've ever been in that place where you're like, okay, I know I'm not as happy as I want to be. I know I'm meant for more, but I don't know what that is. That's your next step. What is your body telling you? What is that core? What's that voice inside your head? That's your next step.

And I want to reach out to me. I can help you with that. Like I can help you create an action plan or at least like your next step from there. So you don't ever have to tell yourself, no, you don't ever have to stifle yourself. You don't ever have to give up on something, right. Or to fall asleep, hitting the pillow and being mad at yourself that you didn't click everything off your to-do list or that you're dripping with mom guilt.

I'm the proof of it. I'm a working mom of three. I have a husband that travels 70% of the year. I've built a six figure coaching business from my workout room. Like it is possible to do all of it and to do it in a way that feels good, but it's, you got to find your way. And so, and my podcast. Oh yeah. I was, I was going to tell everyone. And after you've DM Scotty on Instagram, make sure you open up your podcast player at the end of this episode, just go ahead right now and post,

Find the mom plex.

That's where she pours so much wisdom into her episodes every single week. I absolutely love listening to them. And you've been on there so they can go press play on our conversation. Absolutely. Because you and I, like, we love to chit chat about this stuff. So thank you, Scotty, for being here today. I am so honored that you came on to pour some wisdom into my audience. And you guys keep on going forward. I will see you same time, same place next week on The B Word.

You just finished another episode of the B word podcast. Cheers to you. If I were with you, I would literally pop a big old bottle of Prosecco and for you a glass. Since I'm not, why don't you do the next best thing and share this episode with one of your besties? Because we all know you've got that one girlfriend that needs to hear it. Thanks friend.

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