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You want to go get your butt waxed with me? Let's do it. No, I'm not doing that. For me, some things I want to do a lot. More, more, more, more, more, more, better. Welcome to More Better with Stephanie and Melissa. A podcast where we stop pretending to have it all together. And embrace the journey of becoming a little more better every day. Or at least trying to. That's Melissa Fumero. And that's Stephanie Beatriz. Hey, welcome back. Welcome back. Hi, how are you? Hi.
How are you, friend? Pretty good. I'm on like a lot of caffeine right now. Maybe we have a caffeine problem. What do you think? Oh, no. I think it's a way of life and we're just part of a club. It's a way of life. It's a way of life. It is a pretty cool club to be a part of. I have a lifelong membership. It's never going to run out. Same. Card carrying. Card
Card carrying caffeine addict. Yeah, man. What have you done lately that's a little bit more better? Oh, you know what I've been doing lately, Stephanie? Yeah? I'm just coming out of this crazy marathon of working time and
And it's something small, but I'm just getting back to like taking my supplements and my vitamins. Oh my God. And like just starting there. Yeah.
Any advice? Because what do you take? Because I don't take jack shit. I take a multi. I take vitamin D, which is really important. How many? What's it? So vitamin D? I don't know. I'd have to look and I'd send it to you later. I take a few things. Then I take like some womanly things. Okay.
And then what I do do though, one tip is I got one of those like weekly pill dispensary things, you know? Yeah. I have, I have that for my anti-anxiety and anti-depression pills. Okay. So I bought one for my supplements. I bought, I bought one for my vitamins and then every Sunday or whatever, I fill it up for the week so that after dinner or whatever, or after lunch, like whenever, whenever I remember, um, I usually try to do it after dinner. Um,
I just have to pour it into my hand and take it. Do you know what I mean? Because if I'm going through bottles, I'm never going to fucking do it. Like it has to be easy in the thing. Like, you know, people get those like packs, those pre-made packs. Like I get it. So I kind of do like a version of that because that helps me remember every day. But I do feel a little better when I'm like on it. And then I find that like it also jumpstarts like other healthier habits. Like, you know, I drink more – I drink my water. And like I'm just trying to like drink.
Drink the water. Take the vitamins. Like, I'm just starting there, you know? That's pretty good. Have you been doing anything lately that's a little more better? I took the TikTok off my phone. I took the TikTok off my phone. I know. That's a big step for me. I love the TikTok. You love the TikTok. My
Oh my God, I love the TikTok. I love the memes. I love the songs. I love to see what's going on with people. I just, I love the funny dogs. So what happened? You needed a break? I found that like I was spending a lot. I mean, listen, it's really easy. It suddenly...
two hours has gone by and you maybe didn't do anything but sit there and, you know, follow a couple links and watch a bunch of dogs do funny stuff. And these dogs are funny, but I'm not sure that I need to spend two hours of my life every single night just stuck in a rut on my bed looking at TikTok. So I took it off my phone. And can I say, I miss it.
Is it like a combo of like you feel better, but also you miss it or you just miss it? I think what I feel is less... What I feel is less like zony because I think I was on it so much that I was like zoning, which I think is the allure of it. Totally. The allure is the sort of like dopamine hit of the new video. But then you just zone. So...
I feel less zony, but I really miss, you know, seeing what's going on in lots of places in the world that are important to be paying attention to. And I miss my fashion videos and I miss, you know, like I miss, you know, I just miss it. I miss TikTok. I get it. But it's better for me to not be on it. So, um, thanks, I guess. Yeah.
I feel like you're holding a boundary with yourself. Is that what they call it? Is that what that is? I don't know. Yes. Oh, God. Holding a boundary with myself. Barf. This is a podcast where we talk about stuff that we're interested in and we're interested in trying to be better people. Kind of.
One of the things we wanted to talk about was how to get more better at making friends as an adult. So, you know, what does that mean exactly? Well, Webster's Dictionary defines adult as gross. I think adult is like, you know, anybody that's not in an environment in which they're like thrown together with people the same age. So like if you're still in high school,
This isn't a combo for you. Or maybe, hey, please listen. Please listen. You might think of it 10 years from now. Yeah. But it's more like when you are grown up and you've entered, you know, a job market where you're thrown in with people that you might not necessarily, they might not be your people.
But you want to find your people. How do you find your people? Yeah. And how do you meet new people as opposed to, you know, I have friends that I've been friends with since I was 17, 18, 19. But I also have new friends and how do you make those new friends? And how do you know whether or not those new friendships are going to pan out for you, you know? Yeah. So that's kind of what we wanted to talk about today because it's really hard, you guys. It's hard.
It's so hard. I literally just felt myself getting stressed out as I was listening to you talk, thinking about how horrible it is to try to make friends as an adult. Oh, my God. Because it's just different. It's really different. I feel like when you're younger, at least this was my experience, most of my closest friends that I'm still friends with today, it was like this instant kind of thing, you know, like a burst of just like, oh, my God, I'm going to be a mom.
I love you or you're hilarious and we're like instantly connecting and like I think we're going to be best friends and then you just like become best friends. Like it just felt like when that would happen and you like – I feel like I found especially in college like my close group of friends and like a few people got added into it sort of very organically and naturally in my 20s and then that was like the last time that happened and like every experience since has been like agonizing. Yeah.
I'm just like, do they like me? Are we becoming friends? Yeah. I don't know, overthinking it or yeah, it just, I don't know. And you work and you get busy or you move to a different city. That's a big one. What was making friends like when you were younger, like when you met those friends, those close friends at like 18? I mean, well, a lot of it was being thrown into a new environment. Like when I think about
High school, I have a couple, I have one really good friend that I'm still friends with from high school. We rarely talk, but when we do, it's like it was then. But that was my high school boyfriend. And so like it was this new of like,
hormones and like, and we were experiencing that together. And then the next group, like the next person that I can think of that I was, I'm still friends with was college. Cause it was like new thing. And we're experiencing this new thing together. And we're having all these like similar experiences at the same time. We've never been away from home and you know, we're drinking beer for the first time and all this stuff. It's like new, new, new, new, new together. And then when you're older, it's like, well,
what is the what is the sort of common denominator for friendships and it's really tricky and then you know moving I moved to New York when I was 20 something and like I thought it was gonna be like sex in the city I thought I was gonna have you know my three friends we were just gonna have brunch every Sunday and talk a bunch and it wasn't like that you know I moved in
with some girls that I knew from college and it was a, it was a nightmare shit show. Like we didn't, we weren't, we didn't click. You didn't click. So like it was hard. It was really hard. Sometimes you just feel the click immediately. I think that happens a lot when you're younger. And then sometimes it takes a while to make the click happen. So you go,
okay, maybe I can look past this weird thing or maybe I can, you know, get behind. Maybe she didn't mean it like that. And then other times you're like, oh my God, you turn around and go, I've invested a year in this and I don't know if I really love this person. It's tricky. It's tricky, tricky, tricky. You know, I mean, I think when we first met each other,
I feel like it was a little bit similar to that college experience, which is like we were doing this new thing together. Yes. Like you were saying, it was, yeah, we were immersed in this new thing. We were both at the time like what the first network show to have two Latinas in the main cast. If you don't know, we were on a show called Brooklyn Nine-Nine. It was pretty good. You should watch it. Yeah. First four seasons are on Netflix. That's what we're talking about. Yeah.
This isn't an ad. This is not an ad. This is not an ad. No. And I, yeah, I think that we were kind of clinging to each other because we were both afraid we were going to get fired. And we also, it was both of our first series regulars, right? It was for your first. Yeah. So there was, yeah, like first time newness, like, and there was a little bit of like,
Joe and Andy already knew each other and Chelsea and Andy already knew each other. So not like feeling outsider-y because everybody was so warm and welcoming, but a little bit of like, yeah, oh, people have connections and know each other because all of these people have been like working for so long. Established. Everybody was like established actors or writers. Established actors or writers felt, yes. And we were like, what's up? What's up? I'm pretty sure you guys made a mistake casting me, but I'm not going to say anything. So...
Yeah. Like I remember feeling pretty quickly that I was like, oh, I feel like I can trust Stephanie. I feel like close to you or just familiar. And I don't know if that was like the cultural thing or, you know, because sometimes that happens. You meet other Latinos and you're like, oh, we get it. We get it. Yeah. Yeah.
Or, yeah, just that we had things in our background that were similar and a lot of things in common, I think. But we're also very different. Yeah. And, yeah, I don't remember. It didn't feel like a dating phase, whereas I felt like there was a little bit of a dating phase. I remember I was a big fan of Joe Latrullio's when I was so psyched that he got cast. And then there was like…
I just wanted him to like me. And so there was that period of just like getting to know each other. And I think maybe... Lucky for you, he likes almost everyone. He does, but I didn't know that at the time. And then... He is a very friendly guy. He is. But if he doesn't like you, whoa. Whoa.
Maybe look inward. Yeah. But yeah, he – yeah, and I remember, you know, like becoming friends with Joe. I remember becoming friends with you. It didn't feel like with you I had any – there wasn't any like walls to break down. Yeah. And it didn't feel like you were – to me, what I really –
think about now is, at least in friendships, I look for honesty. I look for people that are
honest, funny. I like funny, you know? And you seem to be both of those things. You weren't like, oh yeah, you know, I know what I'm doing. You were like, like I was. And it felt very like, oh, okay, well, she's being real with her experience. You know, she still has had more experience on camera than me, but she's being real about that. This is also nerve wracking for her. So I can get behind that. I can get behind this honesty. And also I don't,
I don't see that in anybody else around here, so I'm going to cling to that. Everyone really looks like they know what they're doing. Yeah, and they did. They sure as hell did. I mean, fucking, yeah.
I don't even remember what was like the first time we hung out outside of work or a work thing. I feel like it just happened. Yeah. But that's also like we were very lucky in that we had this, again, this work situation where we were there for hours and hours all the time and, you know, we were thrust into
into a situation in which we got to spend time together and it just so happened that we were, we liked each other. Yeah. And our job is sort of weirdly convenient in that way, especially when you're on something like Brooklyn where it went so long and, you know, we, we did trips together like for work. I mean, we did one fun trip. We all went to Paris. What was that second season, which was so fun. But we also like,
we did work trips together. Like, you know, you and me did panels in Austin and we went to Montreal for the comedy festival and like, you know, so then there's like dinners out and like fun things that like doesn't always happen, I think with some other careers. And so there was like all this like bonding time and friendship time. And I think that's kind of where we all sort of went from like just colleagues to like
Real friends, real friendships. Yeah. And I have to tell you, like, I realized – because I moved to LA like a year before I booked Brooklyn. And I was already –
I turned 30 after I moved to LA. So I spent all of my 20s in New York and I grew up right outside New York. So it was like really starting over. And it wasn't until Brooklyn ended that I realized that the whole time I was on Brooklyn, I sort of took for granted and also took advantage of the fact that like we were all such good friends and we spent so much time together. I did it. I realized then it was over.
And everybody like – not that we went – we're all still close, but like we're all busy. Like everybody – Yeah, you don't see each other every day. You know, like shooting out of town and da-da-da-da, whatever. And I realized like there was a little bit of like a lonely period where I was like, oh, I have not been –
like giving time and effort to like, what is my community in LA? Cause I just totally, you know, like what are my friends and like realizing that certain friendships I should like put more time and energy into because I just kind of was like coasting for a long time with like, I totally, I, I can totally, I,
Empathize with that. I know what you mean. Yeah. Not like I know what you mean, like, yeah, you really messed up. More like I know what you mean. No, but like it was like a weird transition where I was like, oh, and then it was like getting into –
making friends as an adult, which is really fucking weird. It's like a weird dating thing. And it's like... It is so weird. It is like... I mean, because that's the thing, right? Like, it takes a long time to make friends. It takes...
Hours and hours of time put in around the person. And like, if you're busy, if you're a parent, if you have a family, even if you're like a single person and you work a lot or you just, you know, you don't have a lot of time. Or you've been burned in the past by friends and you're like worried. I'm in. I'm in. That's for me. That was like, oh, I don't want to go.
go through it all again. I don't want to go through it all again. It really is like, it's like dating where you're just like, you have to take that leap and you're kind of nervous that like, it'll blow up again because you went through that in the past and it sucks. God, it's so hard.
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I read this thing about making friendships. It was a... This is... Sorry, nerd time. Let's get into it. Nerd time. N-n-n-nerd time. Nerd time. It was a study out of University of Kansas. And it was about, like, how long... It was an average on all these people that were, like, they did these questionnaires. And some of it was people that had moved to a new... It was like a two-part study. Some of it was people that had moved to a new town. It was, like, about...
How many new friendships they've made since moving. And, you know, like moving is hard, as you know. You're just talking about it. And then another one was like people in school, college age. So like another new thing, a move or like a beginning of a new moment. And on average, to count someone as like a good friend, it's between 50 and 100 hours spent. I know that's so depressing.
It's so much time. It's so much time. But like that's, so I say that only because like sometimes I'm like, I don't have any friends. Why don't I have any friends? I have four friends. And I'm like, oh, because these are the four people that I've actually spent this much time with. Yeah. That I trust and believe in, you know, because like what I used to do was absolutely throw myself into friendships and try to be besties with people.
Prior to spending, I think, and not like you have to spend 50 to 100 hours. That's just this one study. That's only in Kansas, you guys. University of Kansas. Just kidding. But I do think in the past I was like, for example, I was desperate to make new friends when I moved to LA. I was so isolated and alone. And I joined a comedy dance troupe.
And I, what I really wanted and what I was really sold on was the idea that all of these women were spending their off time together and making up these really funny dances and having this like female bonding time. And it was just going to be like,
woo woo we're all gonna be besties and like that's how it looked on instagram you know you can never never believe the instagram lie but like i i actually still do have a really good friend who was in that dance troupe with me i just went to her birthday party the other day i love her dearly she's a fantastic friend who i trust trust trust but i have other friends from that dance troupe that
I don't know where they are. It didn't work out. You know, it just didn't work out. And like, but ultimately, yeah.
I guess I can look back on it and be like, that was, it was hard because there were a lot of, it was drama, you guys. It was drama without getting into it. But I do have one good friend that I got out of that. And like, I don't know that I would have ever met her. She's, she is a writer, but we just run in different kind of circles. I'm like, I don't know that I would have met her, but I really, really like her. So it was like taking that risk and putting myself out there. We had to audition for that dance troupe. Yeah.
It was not cool. But I remember – That's brutal. Actually, I remember when you did that and I remember thinking like, oh my God, that's so cool and so brave. But like – I just hate when people say that. So brave. It was like so brave when you did that. You like really put yourself out there. Oh my God. No, but I remember just being really impressed with it because I –
Like for me, the challenge is I can be a little too closed off sometimes. And like it's hard for me to let people in sometimes. And I don't put myself out there as much as I should, I think. I'm trying to be more better at that. But when I had Enzo –
I thought of you doing that dance troupe because I was doing this – I did this like amazing prenatal yoga class that was more of like a get ready for birth kind of class. Yeah. And I really loved it and I loved the teacher and she was – You just like stretch her vulva. You just – Get ready for birth. No. You know what she would do? She would make us do like wall squats.
And like breathe and be like, and like if you were closer to like the end of your pregnancy, you would have to do extra. And it was like a practice. Oh my God. No, no, no. But it was like, it was great. It was a practice in staying calm while doing something hard. Okay.
Yeah, because if you've ever done a wall sit, you know, it's absolute hell. But her whole, like, coaching while you were doing it was, like, slow your breathing. Like, keep your mind calm. Like, it was that kind of training. So I, like, loved that. Anyway, and she did, like, a mommy and me class right after that. And I was scared to go. But…
I knew I needed to like practice getting out of the house by myself with the baby because my husband was on a show in New York and I knew I was going to be doing a lot of that. But then I remember thinking about you joining that dance troupe and thinking like maybe I'll make some mom friends because I only have like a couple friends. I had two close friends that had had
Yeah, like two or three. I did have a few close friends that had had kids around the same time. But I just felt like exactly where you are in that moment. You know what I mean? Of like step by step. I was like, I could use some more mom friends. I ended up making like
And one of them has become like one of my closest friends. And like there's a couple other that I still – like I became really good friends with a few of the women from that class. Yeah. I remember you talking about this and being like, yeah, some of my like core mom friends. Yeah. My little like mom group. It was a baby. Yeah. We have dinner and like all our kids are the same age. And so every time I feel crazy like what is going on with him and I check in with them and they're like, oh, yeah, same over here. Yeah.
It's amazing. And it sort of, you know, and it was like the same kind of experience where like it was a big class. It was a lot of people. We tried to do these like big get togethers and like it slowly got like smaller and smaller and like little, you know what I mean? And then you sort of just end up with- You separate the wheat from the chaff. Yeah. You sort of end- Your wheat, your wheat, your wheat. Oops, chaff. It's like, gotta go. This is a match. This is not a match. Oh, that, you know, um-
And, you know, and now, you know, Enzo just turned eight. So eight years later, it's like it's come down to this little core group. But it's great. And, you know, yeah, we went to Hawaii with one of the moms like with that family. Oh, my God. Yeah. That's like how close we become. And our sons are besties. And it's great. But like. Honestly, that makes me feel like I need to join some kind of like mom group or something because I don't have any friends. I mean, you. Yeah.
Right? But your kids are both older than mine. Older than yours. And I really don't have any. Yeah. I don't have anybody that's going through what I'm going through right now, which is like.
Yeah, it's huge. Toddler Town. I think too when you start – It's Toddler Town over here. Yeah. When you start like any type of school or anything too, like that's – I feel like that was the next time that I was like, oh, here we – What if I was like, we don't believe in school. We just don't believe in it. So we're not doing that. Okay. Well, good luck. No school at all? No learning? Nothing? No books? Great. Okay. Great, great, great. Have a good time. We just go to the same park at the same time every day. Yeah.
I do need some, though. Like, I need some. I need some. Or I need, like, a new hobby or something.
You know what I need to do also? I just need to like text people because I have met some women who I think are really, really cool and then I get their numbers and then I don't. I'm like, I don't know if she wants to hear from me. Maybe she just gave me her number out of pity, you know? Well, that's like the hardest thing I think about making friends as an adult because yeah, it's like this weird like, should I ask them to coffee? Like, do you think they want to go out with me? And like it brings up all of those feelings but yeah,
Yeah.
And just like take that little leap of faith and hope it works out. But it is so nerve wracking even just talking about it. Like my voice just keeps like pitching up. That's why there's like shirts and hats that say no new friends because it's really hard. It's so hard to make them. It feels very like, I mean, I'll say this, the time investment is one thing, right? But like setting that aside,
It is like the, the nervy feeling I think is something that as we get, as we get a little older, it's, it's hard to like, you know, you go like, I have my friends, I have the things that I like to do. I don't want to try anything new. I don't want to be uncomfortable. And that's the part that's hard. Yeah.
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Yeah. I also find what's hard too is like getting to know someone all over again. Oh, God. It's the worst. Right? It's like I wish I could just plug my history and like my weird things and my quirks just like into your brain and be like, oh, no, do you like it? You think this will work? And then, yeah. Oh, my God. Not me being like, have you seen that TikTok? What am I talking about? There is this TikTok that has this great sound and it's like,
How many brothers and sisters do you have? What do you do for work? Do you like that? Do you like that? It's so boring getting to know people because we all ask the same dumb questions. For me, it's like the time investment is... I know I said it's a different thing, but it's tricky. It's really tricky because...
To get myself out of the house, to like get dressed, to have a babysitter watching my kid or ask my husband to do it. To drive somewhere, to like... It's like, bro, I don't... Bro. Even though like during the pandemic, honestly, I would have killed. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Killed. Oh, 100%. So I try to think about that sometimes. Yeah. I try to think like during the pandemic, would you have paid to have been able to...
sit with someone and ask them boring questions about their life. You know what I mean? And like probably yes. Yeah. Well, I, so I also have an interesting article that I read. It was in Teen Vogue. Oh, snap. This friendship coach.
recommends these tips to make friends. Are you ready? Oh my God. I'm going to vote. I'm going to vote a scale of one to 10 whether or not I think these are good. I love that. Let's do it. All right. You can also vote as you listen. Here we go. Show up. Befriend people who share your hobbies, like the gym, pottery class, et cetera. So like maybe for...
First of all, I'm not making friends at the gym. Yoga, Pilates, maybe, but the gym? I don't want to talk to anybody at the gym. Nobody wants to talk to anybody at the gym. Don't talk to me at the gym. Nobody wants to talk. No, stop having conversations at the gym. Can we just like all collectively as a society agree to that?
I feel like Pilates is different because like you just did the thing all together. Sometimes there's a little hang in the lobby. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm with you on that. Okay. Yeah. All right. Okay. Next. Second one, take risks. Let people know that you like them and make plans. That's a big – that's hard and good. I will give this one a seven because – no, I will take it up to an eight because –
our mutual friend, Lauren Ash. I met her at an event and I had been looking at her Instagram and I was like, I know I have things in common. She likes Disney. I like Disney. She likes comedy. I like comedy. So I went up to her at the event and I was like, hey, I think you're so cool. I have been following you. I know you love Disney. I would love to go to Disney with you sometime. I straight up told her. I was like, I think you're cool. Yeah. And she was like, oh my God, thank you. And I was like, I did too much. I did too much. And then
We had a couple drinks and it was great. And now we're friends. Now we're like real friends. You're like real, yeah. That's a big one because it is so nerve wracking to be like, hey, I like you. Let's like get lunch or let's hang out. Like even just saying that, like, can we hang out? I do feel like you need to give space between the like, you know,
Or like we should get dinner sometime. Not be as thirsty as I just was. Well, but then, you know, what I worry about is like people say that all the time. And no, no, no. I think like tag on this sometime. Yeah. But then I feel like I get to follow up with the text. You have to follow up. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You have to follow up. OK. So, OK. We like that one.
Okay, we like that one. Tell your circle you're looking for new friends. Meet your friends' friends. That's a good one that I've never thought of. You know what? I've never thought to say to you, for example, I'm actually looking for new friends. If you have people that you think that I would like, I'd love to do a three hang and see if we hit it off. Yeah. Because that's kind of safe because then you have a mutual in common. Yes.
And I've actually like, yeah, I've even been thinking lately too of like we should combine some like, you know, sometimes especially in LA because it's such a driving city, you sort of have, I feel like I have very like separate groups of friends. And trying to like orchestrate like more group hangs with people I think would get along because I want that like group kind of community thing that we had in New York. And I just think it's good, especially when you have kids and stuff, you know, like I
I like a group hang. I like community. I like that. I like tell your, this is good. This gets an eight from me. Well, let's give it a seven because we haven't tried it yet. That's true. I might, yeah. What's the next one? Okay, and the last one is invite people to things you usually do alone. Like getting your bikini waxed?
You want to go get your butt waxed with me? No, I'm not doing that. No. For me, some things I want to do alone. Like, I want to get my manicure alone because, well, honestly, because I want to talk to my manicurist who I would say is a friend. Yeah. G Nails in Highland Park. Go. She's amazing. Lupe. Shout out, Lupe. Hey, Lupe. Um...
I really like to hike alone, but I do enjoy a hike with someone else. And I should ask somebody to hike with me more often. Not me, girl. No. The hike is not for me. That's not my territory. No, I would go. I would go on a hike with you. I think it would be nice. Or we could just do like a neighborhood walk. Yeah. That's at my level. I love a walk. You know? I love a walk. Marble.
Okay, let's discuss and digest. I feel like one thing that I came away with from today was I should tell my friends that I'm looking for new friends. And I'm glad I'm also, I mean, I know we've talked about this a little bit before, but I am glad to hear that.
It's as hard for me as it is for you. Yeah. Because you strike me as somebody that's, like, so friendly and so outgoing. So it's, like, very calming to me to hear that you are, like, it's hard. Thanks, friend. But, yeah, I think that that's what I'm digesting as well is, like, this comfort in that, like, it's fucking awkward and hard, I think, for everyone. And...
Yeah, I think like initially, like I'm okay kind of getting along with people. It's like taking it to that next step of like friendship, right? Where it's like you're revealing. Why did I just say next step? Like the French kiss. The French kiss with your friends. Because until you feel their tongue, how do you know if they're going to be a good friend? How do you know? That's how I make friends. Okay.
Obviously, obviously. I don't know. Do you feel, Melissa, do you feel a little more better? You know, I'm going to say like half C's on this one. Because just talking about it gave me anxiety. Do you feel more better?
I do, actually. I'm kind of excited by the tell your friends you're looking for friends because, I don't know, it's like set me up with some of your cool friends. I feel like I could, even if I do that with one person, I might meet one more person that I like, which is totally kind of exciting. Anyway, I'm glad we're friends. I am so glad that we're friends. It's pretty good. Yeah. And to whoever's listening to this,
you know, maybe put yourself out there or don't. Yeah. You know, or, you know, maybe one day we'll have a little pod party and you can come and we can all meet in person and be friends. And be friends. How cute. I love it. Okay. All right. Cool. So if, if you're also, you know, living your life, trying to be more better, we appreciate you listening to us. Talk shit about it for a little while. And we'll see you next week for more shit talking.
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