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What is up my beautiful people and welcome back to the moments podcast I haven't recorded in what feels like forever because for last week's episode I recorded it on Tuesday I don't I don't really know where I'm going with that it's just it's been a really long time since I recorded the last episode last Tuesday and lucky for you guys I have a little special guest
Oh, no way. Could you guess who it is? Drumroll. Drumroll. All right, guys, it's Lissette. Lissette, say welcome back to the podcast. Welcome back to the moment in podcasts. Oh, God. Okay, so I was originally going to do this episode alone, but Lissette got home yesterday, and I didn't see her yesterday, so today was my first day seeing her, and suddenly I was like, Lissette,
I want to hang out, so can we just record the episode together? And she said, yeah. I also didn't give her a choice. And I asked my Instagram story, and my Instagram story gave 96% yes. Yeah, but some people still don't like me. Yeah, no, some people still don't, but that's because they're wackos. And if you guys voted no Lissette, I'm sad. I love Lissette. But I get it. Her and podcasts, you know. Yeah, I don't know. This one's going to be a tough one for me. She's learning the ropes. It's going to be like 96% Lexi, 4% me.
Just like your votes. Okay. But for this week's episode, I asked you guys a couple days ago what you wanted advice on. Like what you were struggling with or what you need right now. And I just thought it would be cool to do an episode like this every 10 episodes. I don't know. It just sounded like a fun idea. No, I think that is cool. Yeah, and a lot of people have asked for it. So I was like, I'm just going to do it.
And it's hard because a lot of these topics I could talk about for a full podcast length. And I'm sure eventually I will. But for now, what I'm going to do is like we went through the comments on the post and I went through some of my DMs and I wrote down the ones that I feel like I could talk the most about and that are the most relatable. Lissette just burped. No, I didn't. No, I didn't. Lissette, you have to get closer to the mic. Sorry. Sorry.
Also, side note, if you guys don't remember, last time I did a podcast episode with Lissette. First of all, if you haven't listened to it, it's all about friendship, and I totally think you should. But while we were recording that episode, Lissette got a call and got the job that she had interviewed for earlier that morning. Was it? It was the same day? Yeah. Yeah. And I don't know. I just think that that's super cool. Yeah. Now I might be... Maybe something... Oh.
I was just going to say maybe something like that will happen again. And Lexi might be coming out with me for two months. Yeah, we'll see. We'll see. Anyways, I know you guys don't really care about that. So we're going to go ahead and get into this whole little shebang. I'm actually really excited for this episode. Lissette's a little nervous. Very. Very nervous. Okay. I'm not good with this stuff. And I'm honestly going to kind of go through this in like bullet points because that's the easiest way to do it. So I'll read you kind of what...
the person was asking for and then we're just going to talk about it for a couple minutes and then we'll move on to the next one um before i do that if you guys haven't listened to all the other episodes if you haven't liked on spotify followed on apple i don't know which is which rate on apple also if you haven't heard lexi came out with presets okay wow pretty good if i do say so myself what's that hyping me up for no reason at all
Yes, but I did come out with presets. A lot of you guys asked how I edit my pictures, so did that, and you can go check them out. I made a whole Instagram forum, but we're not going to talk about that, and I'm not going to do any more self-promo. So let's just get into it. Also, some of you guys may know what just happened with my family and all of that, and I seriously appreciate every single one of your kind words and every message that you sent me. I read them all, every comment, and it really meant a lot to me, and I'm finally starting to feel...
Like, ready to get back to real life, which is why I'm recording this episode on Saturday. I normally record them on, like, a Tuesday or a Wednesday. So it took me a little while. But we're here, I'm ready, and I've learned a lot. And let's actually get into it this time. Alright, Lissette, you want to read them number one? Number one. Healthy relationships with mom and friends. So, this is a really good question. Not a good question. Just a really good thing to talk about because I feel like at the age that a lot of us are at and a lot of the people listening to this...
You're at a point where your relationship with your mom can be so up and down. Especially through middle school and high school, I feel like it can be such a hard thing to navigate because...
at least in my case, and I know that everyone's is so different. My mom always wants the best for me and she always wants to see me succeed and be happy. But sometimes I think a lot of moms and a lot of adults in general don't really understand the things you feel and the things that you're going through. So their way of supporting you or encouraging you sometimes feels like the opposite. Like something I struggle with with my mom
is when I'm trying to get a lot of work done and I have a bunch of brand deals, she'll come in my room and be like, oh, did you get this done yet? Did you get this done yet? Or she'll come and bring me ideas and things I should try doing. And I'm like, mom, I have enough on my plate. I'm taking things one step at a time. And it's still something that's hard to navigate. And me and my mom have a great relationship.
But I think the most important thing when it comes to building a relationship with your mom is just being honest. Telling her how you feel. And a lot of times I find that when I do that, I think she kind of has this realization or just remembers kind of what she felt like as a teenager and something just clicks and she'll step back. And you just have to be aware that a lot of times when you feel like your mom's pressuring you or encouraging you and it's hurting you, it's coming from a place of good intention. She's not...
trying to hurt you and I don't know it's it's just helpful to know that she wants the best for you and I think when I started thinking that I stopped getting so upset with her or agitated with her and honestly it just comes with time my relationship with my mom in middle school when I was going through the most and I was at my lowest low is when it was seriously the worst like anything that she would say to me I just remember getting angry or upset and just Lisette you got anything I
I mean, I was just thinking, like, once you realize where they're coming from, you kind of view what they're saying in a different light and not so much as, like... So much different. Just picking at you. It's more like... Oh, she's looking out for me. Yeah. And it's also important for you to be aware that your mom or anyone older than you really... It's such a weird pill to swallow, but they've gone through a lot more life than you. So sometimes they're just right. And sometimes you just need it to be handed to you straightforward in the way that they do it because...
I don't know. My mom gets through to me when she does that more than anyone else does. So just, I think it's just important to be aware and to be willing to meet somewhere in the middle and know that a relationship with your mom goes both ways. Okay. So I just had a realization. I like paused the recording and I was like, Lissette, we definitely need some more words from you. And I was like, we just need to pretend we're having a conversation. And then we're like, well, we don't talk about these things. Yeah. Well, I feel like, no, that makes it.
makes it sound bad, but... Lissette's just not my deep friend. Yeah. We talked about that in the other podcast, though. We just don't get deep, and a lot of these questions are really deep, and
I don't know, me and Lissa were talking about it in my room, too. She's like, I just see these questions, and I'm like... Yeah, I was, like, writing them down on her iPad as she was telling me what to write, and I was like, I don't know how you do this, because when I'm looking at these, like, I don't even know what I'd say, yet you're looking at them, and you're like, oh, yeah, that's a good one. Like, yeah, I know what I'll say to that. I'm like, oh. We just have two completely different brains, and that's why we're best friends, I think. Yeah. Yeah.
Anyways, number two is how to trust what's meant to be will be. I love this one. I like that one too. I love this one so much because I've struggled with it so much and I feel like I've learned so much. Wow, so much, Lexi. You tell them. I think I just said so much so many times. Yeah, you did. Trusting what's meant to be will be is such a hard thing because...
In so many cases, we're so set on making a successful future. And we're always looking too far in the future. And I talk a lot about, you know, wanting to do things for the future and, like, wanting to become a better person in the future. I mean, I feel like that's, like...
You, like, with guys, every time you, like, meet a guy or even just say one word to them, to me, you're like, oh, but I don't see myself marrying them. I'm like, Lexi, that's not the point. You're 20 years old. Yeah. See, in some cases, I'm way too focused on the future, which is why this resonates with me so well. But it is so important to stay in the moment and just understanding that you're supposed to be in this moment for a reason. You're either going to learn something from it, and it's okay to feel stuck.
Because down the road, it's all going to make sense. And I know that when you're in that part, when you're in that happening, you feel like, okay, this is never going to make sense. What am I going to gain from this? I'm never going to learn anything from this. Yeah.
Until you do. Yeah, when I went into college and I was in a different major, I was like basically, not actually, but basically failing my classes. And I was like, oh my gosh, what am I going to do with my life? And then I switched my major and then it was like, wow, that's so that that was meant to happen for me to switch my major. I don't know if that's close enough. No, it is. It is. Because honestly...
so many people that are in college listen to this and I've probably, like people probably damn me about that exact same thing. Yeah. How do I know if what I'm doing is what I'm supposed to be doing? And you're never going to know in the exact moment
What you're gaining from the situation and that's okay, and I think it's just so important to start accepting that and Obviously easier said than done, but like I say all the time over and over and over again It all starts with your mind You just have to start telling yourself any time you start second-guessing and you're you're thinking about the future too much You're like well. What if this doesn't happen? What if this doesn't happen or what if this goes wrong? Just say no I'm gonna be in this moment and
There's this one, I think it's a poem or a quote, I'm not sure. And it was trending on TikTok for a while and I don't remember exactly how to say it. But it was like, I am only going to be with this version of myself once. So let me be with her. Something like that. And it just spoke to me because it just says so much to just be patient with yourself and understanding that it's okay. It starts in your mind and it starts with you.
Just start telling yourself every day that it's going to be okay and that you're going to learn something from this and you're supposed to be here. That doesn't mean you can't work towards creating a better future for yourself. It just means to just patient, trust, everything. Just start believing that you're meant to be where you're supposed to be and what's meant to be will be. Kind of goes with like the everything happens for a reason. Exactly.
And when you don't know the reason, it's because you're in the happening. Exactly. Okay, I just had to pause it for a second because Lissette keeps playing with her hair and distracting me very much. So, with that being said, we're going to move into number three. How to stop caring what other people think. Lissette, how do you stop caring what other people think? I wouldn't say I'm a master at this. I wouldn't say I'm a master at this. Fair enough. I don't think I am either, but I do... What? I usually, like...
Like, in a way, like, I'll go out and, but that's not really, like, like, I'll go out in public and, like, see, it's like, who lets you wear that? Whoa, whoa, whoa, okay, that's not. Like, in that sense, I don't care what people think, but I guess on more of a deeper level, that's a different story.
Yeah, I... Okay. To be fair, I haven't done that in a little while because I used to always be dressed up. Like, in high school, I would be the one going to school in, like, dresses. Yeah, I know. I'd come over to Lexi's house on, like, a random day. She's in, like, a dress or jeans. I'm literally in my pajamas. I'm like, where are you going? She's like, Lissette, we've been over this so many times. I'm not going anywhere. I just like to look nice. I'm like, okay. I used to dress up for every occasion. And I also used to be... But that was because you liked it, not because you were trying to, like...
about what others think. But I also used to be in a point where
know what it was but I would roast Lucetta if we would go somewhere and she she would be like a hot mess but now I go places like a hot mess like I don't know things have just kind of changed since then and I think I've changed as a person I mean I also just don't know how to dress and I don't care anymore but you do so when you see me and whatever I decide to put on you're like but that's what I'm saying I don't think I care so much like I used to like I haven't said that to you in a while but I
I think that people meant and wanted deeper advice on that question, not necessarily going out in public in, like, pajamas, because I think we all do that a little bit, especially since we definitely all do that. That was just the first thing that came to my head, and you asked me first before you started talking. I was under pressure. Anyways, guys, not caring what people think is such a hard thing to do.
And I went through this so much in Hawaii and it was so bad for my mental health because I would act like anything that people said about me or to me didn't bother me, but it was completely wrecking like my, my insides and my mental health. Like I was not okay. And I've talked about that in a bunch of different episodes, so I'm not going to go so into detail of it, but people would call me things and would, would make jokes that I laughed at at the time. And I,
They hurt. A lot. And it took me a really long time to realize that anyone who tears someone else down, it comes from a place of their own hurt. And it's not always their own insecurity or their own jealousy. Sometimes it's just the way that people were raised and they haven't changed yet and they haven't changed for the better. And...
I don't know what kind of did it for me was just having that realization that it's coming from their own hurt and it's not personal. And whatever someone has to say about me should not change the way that I genuinely feel about myself. And again, all of this just goes back to starting with changing the way that you see things. Mindset is what fixes everything. There's nothing I could say that would would make all of these issues disappear for all of us unless we're willing to take the action within our own mind. You know what I mean?
Yeah, you literally just have to tell yourself you don't care and not think about it. And it's really as simple as that. And honestly, I feel like what I do, I feel like I don't think about it that much. I just, whoever I'm with, like, you just can't change who you are based off the person that you're with. Like, I feel like no matter who I'm with, I'm always the same exact person. I don't, like, I'm open to everyone, basically. That's actually so good point.
pointless set. Thank you. No, because what a lot of us do is try to people please or try to fit into a certain group or category or want to be friends with a certain person. So not that you act like them, but you mirror, like it's, it's psychologically true. If we want someone to like us, we mirror their actions. And,
I think once you like actually know who you are, you don't really care to do that anymore. I feel like you feel less of a need. Yeah. But it's a lot harder to do that, especially when you're meeting new people. And that's what happened to me in Hawaii. We met new people and I was like, okay, I'm going to,
Here's how it went for me in Hawaii. I got to a place where my mental health was really, really good. And then we met a new group of people that made me feel like the absolute worst person in the world when I would try to be myself. And I just stopped being myself. And I lost all of that joy that I felt. I don't really know. But...
Yeah, and when it gets to that point, you just have to evaluate who you're surrounded with because if you're surrounded with people like that, you're obviously going to care what they think because they're making you care what they think. And then that leads to the next question we have, which is how to let go of someone or something that isn't benefiting you.
And this is so hard to do. Literally so hard to do. Yeah, so hard. I don't know how to do it. I feel like it takes a while. It's a process. It's a slow process. You don't wake up one day and you're like, hmm, no, no. It takes a while of you contemplating and thinking, maybe even going back and forth. But then once you cut it off or let go of it, you'll be so much better. It'll be such a weight off your shoulders. 100%. I see it as...
When I was with a group of people who made me feel bad about myself, at first I'd let them do it. And then I tried standing up for myself. And when that didn't work, that's kind of when it crossed the line. You have to know your boundaries and you have to know the difference between someone who's just unaware that they're making you feel a certain way and someone who is aware of how it makes you feel and they keep doing it.
And that's when you know that it's time to just take a step back. Whether it's surrounding yourself with that person less, talking to that person less, or just completely drop... I mean...
When someone's hurting you that badly, I think it's very understandable to just drop them. And it's not always easy to do, especially if it's someone that you consider a friend. So I think my piece of advice to that would be first have an open conversation and be like, this is how this is making me feel. Yeah, and see how they take it and receive it. And see how they respond. Because some people you'll meet will be like, I am so sorry. I never knew that that made me feel that way. And they will never do it again. And then you'll meet people who will be like,
sorry, like, whatever, like, I won't do it again. Yeah, or they're like, deny it, or they'll even try to defend themselves, and if they're trying to defend themselves, no, like, that's not acceptable. If they're like, if you tell them that they make you feel this way, and then they're like, oh, well, I did that because that, like, no. Yeah, no. No, that's not, that's not how a friendship works. That is, that is the line, and that is the cliff, and if they get there, no more. No more. No more.
It took me a really long time to realize that because I just, what I do is try to see the best in everyone. So I would keep justifying their behavior and justifying the jokes they made about me. And until it hurt me so bad that I couldn't do it anymore. And then even after I did say something, it kept happening. And that's when I escaped the situation and I evaluated who I'm surrounding myself with. And that's when I realized how important your circle is. And I've talked about this also in a bunch of episodes, just like,
making sure you're surrounding yourself with people who inspire you and want to see you grow and believe in you. That, that is the key. But also just know that sometimes that takes time. Sometimes it's a month long process. Sometimes it's a year long process. Sometimes it's even more than that. So just take it one step at a time and really evaluate the situation and
And I do believe in giving the person the benefit of the doubt in the beginning. But once you have that conversation with them, and if they still aren't willing to change, that's when you know. Yeah, like you can give them one, I don't even want to say like freebie, but one kind of like conversation. Well, that's like exactly what you just said. Never mind. Anyways, next question. How to be happy with where you are.
That's kind of similar to what's meant to be. Yeah. But yeah, that also goes back to always wanting more. And I think that's something a lot of us don't realize is that when you're constantly looking for more, you're never going to be satisfied with what you have.
And it goes to, I just, I have this in my notes and I don't remember exactly what it is, but I'm actually going to pull it up. So start enjoying your life as it is and everything around you will start to feel perfect. That's what it is. And I just think it's so beautiful because when you start looking for all of the good that you already have, everything that is good that comes to you in the future feels so much better. It doesn't feel just like,
Oh, finally, I've been waiting for this. It's more so, oh my gosh, this is incredible. This is what's happening. Like there's like, I don't know. You just have more of an appreciation for life. And I think all of it goes back to your mind. You have to start believing that everything you have is okay. And eventually what's meant, this goes back to the second one, what's meant to be will be. And what I'm supposed to have is going to come to me. And I just have to be patient. And I just have to keep living this life.
and enjoy it for what it is. Also, this kind of goes back to the, that second and third one that I talked about, but it's still such a cool thing. And Lissette found it on LinkedIn and she sent it to me. So I'm going to read it to you because it's pretty valuable and it's a very cool analogy.
A bottle of water at Costco is 25 cents. The same bottle in the supermarket is worth about 50 cents. The same bottle in a bar costs $2. In a good restaurant or a hotel, it can be worth up to $3. In an airport or on the plane, you may even be charged $5. The bottle and the brand is the exact same. The only thing that changes is the place. Each place gives a different value to the same product.
When you feel like you are worth nothing and everyone around you belittles you, change places. Don't stay there. Have the courage to change places and go to a place where you are given the value that you deserve. Surround yourself with people who truly appreciate your worth. Isn't that awesome? Yeah. I think it's pretty cool. And I, Lissette wanted to bring it up, so we brought it up, but it didn't really relate to what we were just talking to you. But it's still an awesome piece of advice and I think that we should all hold on to it. This episode of the Moments Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Quick
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Are we on the next one? Yes. How to stop being jealous and comparing slash not relying on other people's validation. I wanted Lissette to take over this one first, but then she said I don't know what to say. So I guess I'll take it over. I struggled with this a lot. I grew up through middle school and high school as a very jealous person. And I wasn't jealous to where I would tear people down for things, but I was just internally very jealous. I was always...
Thinking, oh, why can't I have that? And why does that person have this? And why does that person have this? And there's a lot of things that I've done to kind of help myself get past this. And the first thing I did was I started turning my jealousy into inspiration. For example, if I was in a yoga class and someone was doing handstands or doing something that I couldn't do, instead of getting jealous and aggravated towards that person for being able to do it, I was like, wait, that is so cool that they can do that. I'm going to start working on that. And I'm going to just...
It's just, again, here I go again, twisting the way that you see things and shifting the thought that goes through your mind. Instead of, that's unfair. Why can that person do that? I say. Use them as like a role model. Yeah. I look up to them and I'm like, that's actually very beautiful. And one day I hope that I can do that. So I'm going to start working on it. And the other thing that I find to be super beautiful, and this I deal with often.
Okay, I forgot how to speak English. This is more so when I'm struggling with my body image. And don't get me wrong, I still struggle with my body image. But when I find myself in a place and I'm thinking, oh, well, why does that person get to have that color eyes? Or why does that person look like that?
I start to think about how we are all, like, made up from so many different ancestors and so many different people that we're not supposed to look the same as everyone else. Like, we are each supposed to be unique. And when you start appreciating that beauty and start thinking about how you've come from your great-grandma, your great-great-great-grandma, and it goes so, so, so far back, it's just really cool to see. Like, I wonder what traits I still have that were around hundreds of years ago in my... Oh, whoa. That's really cool to think about.
Generational line? No. Ancestry line. Whatever. You guys know what I mean. What is that called? I don't know. It's really cool. And it's helped me a lot. And I think those are like the two biggest. We're past it. We're still thinking about a conversation we had hours ago. Anyways, I think that's all I'm going to give on that just because it's pretty simple. And once you start thinking like that, it definitely helps a lot.
All right, the next one is how to make money young. Love this one. What you got, Ossette? Well, I mean, I would just say, like, what I did in high school is I was a hostess at a restaurant. So that's... You still have to be 16, I think, most times. Yeah, probably. Well, I didn't make money before I was 16. You did. Yeah, so you can talk more about this one. Okay, so...
I know the urge to make money young. When I first got certified to be a yoga teacher, I was always doing donation-based classes. So I started making money through that, but that's not really what my sole source of income was back when I was 13 and 14. Babysitting. Totally recommend babysitting because number one, it gets you experienced with kids. Number two, it brings out like
Your childhood again. And I don't know. You just... If you like kids, I say do it. Because it makes me feel young again. And I don't babysit much anymore. But while I was in college, I nannied. And it was my favorite way to make money. And probably still would be if I had more time to babysit. But...
Anyways, I just wrote that one down because I thought it was cool and I wanted to say like babysit or... But it's also, also, it's not that important to make that much money when you're so young. Like, it's important to be a kid and not worry about the future so much. I see both sides because I wanted to make money when I was little and I'm glad that I did, but I also think I would have been just fine if I didn't. It just depends where you're at. We're all different, you know? The next one is how to be at peace with someone not loving you back.
Lissette, how do you be at peace with someone not loving you back? Um, know your worth. There you go. Okay, Lissette. Is that right? I feel like I just got like, it was like a quiz question. I was like, is that right? I'm just testing her.
No, this is hard. This is not a fun thing to accept. But what I like to do in situations like this is just be aware that there are seven... Is it billion? Seven billion people in the world? Yeah, well, now it's probably more. Anyways, there's a lot of people... It's okay. I don't think we need specific numbers. I'm interested. Okay, fair. Anyways, there's a lot of people in the world, and if someone's not your cup of tea, you will be someone else's.
7.8 billion. Okay. 7.8 billion people. Someone is going to be attracted to you and someone is made for you. And when you don't have that connection with someone or you think you do and they don't reciprocate it,
You just have to say, you know what, that's okay. There's someone better out there for me. And you have to not keep trying to get that person to love you. Yeah, because that's kind of back to, like, everything happens for a reason. Because then you learn something from that relationship. And then you realize in your next relationship when you find someone who...
does love you, you're like, oh, wow, like, this is what I deserve. Not... Not, like, begging for someone to... Yeah. And it's actually cool to go through different stages with people and learn something new from each relationship because... Yeah, you have to, like, appreciate it. Yeah. Appreciate what you learn. And then...
Eventually, you start to learn what you actually want in a relationship and what you will not stand up for. Like, what is a major deal breaker or red flag for you? Yeah. And the more relationship... I'm not saying, like, go date everyone. But the more relationships you go through, the more you learn and the more likely you're actually to match. And then you know what you want and what you don't. Yeah. And what's going to be good for you. So, just...
Love yourself. When someone else proves to you that they don't love you, that's when you have to take the step from within you to just start loving yourself and to start showing yourself compassion and being your own best friend and taking your mind off of it by doing new things or...
Getting into hobbies, baking cookies, I don't know. Just take your mind off of that person. And I know that that is so hard and it is way easier said than done. But when you just remember that someone else out there is waiting for you, it just makes it a little bit easier. So hold on to that. Mm-hmm.
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Okay, this one's cool because our bodies are going to go through so many different changes. Our body is going to want to be at different points at different times. For example, last year, I was flat as a piece of wood. I had no boobs at all. Not saying I have big boobs now, but it's been a year and I have boobs. I didn't change anything. And it just kind of made me realize that our body is going to change. And so are our needs. So is the amount that we eat. When I was in Hawaii and I was struggling,
Some of y'all, some of y'all been commenting on my TikToks. Tell me about all the weight I gained, which is not cool. If you never comment on someone's appearance and never comment on something that someone can't change within like a minute, like never, ever, ever do that.
If you take anything away from this, please let it be that. Because sometimes we have no bad intentions with it. But even like backhanded compliments where you're like, you look so much healthier. People can read right through those. So don't do that.
Anyways, I gained a lot of weight while I was in Hawaii. And I was struggling mentally. And when I struggle mentally or when I'm going through things, I enjoy food a lot more. And my appetite is a lot bigger. Your taste buds are just like... My taste buds are like, more sushi, more bonzai bowls, more everything. So, obviously, my body changed. And...
There's nothing wrong with that. And I wish that I understood that more so then. And as much as I understand it now, I still have struggles with it. I mean, both of us, we both struggle with our body image issues like to the max sometimes. But it's just important to know that your body is where it needs to be. And you just have to work on loving that.
And by the time that we're 40 and 50 and 60, we're on our deathbed, we're not going to be thinking about when we were 20 and our legs looked a little bit bigger than they did month to month. Does that make sense? Just love where you're at. And then also, go back to that one where I talked about jealousy and just realize it's okay.
You don't need to compare yourself. You are one of a kind. You are this unique, made-up miracle that has come from so many incredible people. Just be patient, not be patient. Be loving of where you are and keep understanding that it's going to change no matter what. We're all going to have wrinkles one day. I don't want to have wrinkles, but it's going to happen. And when I get to that point, you know what? I'm going to do my best to love that version of myself. All right, next one. How do you express your feelings without feeling like a burden to others?
This one's hard. Yeah. And I honestly don't know that I have too much advice on it because... I mean, I think if it's your feelings, you shouldn't feel like a burden because you're just expressing how you feel. I also think that goes... Lissette just said that and just started laughing because that made no sense. You know what? If you wanted it to make sense, it made sense. Did it make sense? Guys, please tell Lissette that made sense. It made enough sense, okay? But I also think that that one goes back to...
the people you're surrounding yourself with. If you're surrounding yourself with people that you wouldn't feel comfortable talking about your feelings with, maybe it's time to reevaluate. Yeah. Yeah. If you feel like a burden at all, that no. That no. And she's right. That no. You just... You just... Sometimes we overthink and make ourselves think that we're a burden and the person that you're talking to probably doesn't think that at all. So...
Just start small. Start with little things that you've always wanted to talk about or whatever you're struggling with and see how they react. And then again, learn from the situation. See if the person is willing to be understanding of you and be there for you. And if they're not or if they make it about them, that's a sign for you to take a step back. Lissette, anything else? No, I thought my advice at the beginning was perfect. It was perfect. It was really good. Thanks for listening, everybody.
Honestly, recording podcasts like this, like deep ones with Lissette, pulls her so far out of her comfort zone. Oh my god. Well, no, I just don't even know what to say. Well, that's okay. Like, my mind just doesn't work like that. That's okay. See, I would be the person asking the question, not the one answering it. I feel like you're giving me the podcast right now. We're both learning a lot from this. I think. I learned a lot from your sentence a couple minutes ago. Oh, really? Uh-huh. I don't remember it.
Okay, moving on, moving on. What's next? Okay, you literally talked about this multiple times, how to change your mindset. Guys, me and changing my freaking mindset. I'm like a broken record. It's what you live by. It is what I live by, and I will preach it forever because here's where I was at. This happened for me in middle school. When I was severely depressed and at the lowest point in my life getting bullied,
I saw nothing good in the world. I saw everything as negative. I thought everyone hated me. I wanted nothing to do with anything.
And I went to my first yoga class and the yoga teacher told me about like changing your mindset and seeing the beauty, basically all the things I preach now just in one yoga class. And no one had ever told me that before. No one had ever helped me flip that switch. And once that happened, I saw the world so differently. And obviously I wasn't a professional. I
When I started to see the good in the world and believe in myself, it only got stronger and stronger and over time. And that's not to say that I don't have lows. I've talked about all my lows since that happened after middle school, but I still always remember that it just starts with my mind.
And it's not going to change everything right away. Your mind is going to play tricks on you over and over and over again. And it's going to go back to those negative thoughts. But you just have to be conscious enough to snap yourself out of it and shift that statement. Yeah, see, I'm much more of a simple and logical thinker. So I see this question is I just think like glass. Bro, what?
understand why you said that. Glass half empty, half full type of thing. See, she's going off on this whole brand. I'm just like, glass half empty, half full, you know? If you look at a glass, it's half, what is it, half full? Half empty. And that is basically just changing your mindset. Because if you're like, oh, it's half full, then you're seeing the brighter side. If it's half empty, you're looking at it in a negative way. Yes. Me and Lissette have very opposite ways of thinking, but still portray the same thought. She's just type A, I'm type B.
I'm much deeper and she's much not surface. Simple. I think it's just simple, like easier. Not, well, not, not that it's just like more like straight to the point. Yes. Straight to the point. Yeah. Anyways, we went off on a tangent there.
So do you want to go to the next one or do you have more to say? We can go to the next one. Okay. You guys hear me talk about mindset enough. Well, this is, again, a lot of these kind of like flow into. They all end up time against each other. How to know when you need to make a change. Okay. So, yeah, we've talked about that a decent amount. Kind of.
But I think you know when you need to make a change when you just can't freaking do it anymore. Yeah. When you're so... When your glass is half empty. When your glass... No, not half empty. When that glass is empty. Empty. And you realize that the things that... Well, no. This is how I know. The things that used to bring you joy, if they're not bringing you joy anymore...
That's when I always realize that something is up and it's time for me to make a change, whether it's a change in how I'm taking care of myself, who I'm surrounding myself with, what my environment is. That's my signal. And we're all going to have different signals. And when you know, you'll know. You just, you have to be self-aware. And I think that that is another one of the biggest takeaways I want you to take from all of this advice. It's just to be, it's just to work on being self-aware, you know? Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, you know. Anyways, what's next? It's in quotes. I sleep so much, but I still feel tired all the time. Me and Lissa were laughing about this one because she's like, right when I told her to write it down because she was making it online, she goes, I do that. Well, I,
I'm... Yep. Alright, okay. I sleep a lot. She's a sleeper. But I would say I feel tired all the time, you know? Caffeine exists for a reason. I think what this person meant... See, this is what... Again, we go surface, we go deeper. The way I saw this question and the way I felt this question in my soul was, yeah, you might be physically tired, but I think this person more so meant just emotionally tired. And you feel...
Because when you're emotionally tired, you're going to also feel physically tired. No matter how much you're sleeping. Sometimes there's also a thing as like oversleeping to where you're constantly exhausted. Yeah, that's like actually science. Yes. Lissette loves science. No. But yes. Okay. What? Sorry about that, guys. I don't know what happened. But being so emotionally tired where you feel like you can't even function in a normal day is another sign that you need to make a change. I think that that kind of signals...
Okay, it's time for me to figure something else out. Maybe adding different hobbies into your day. It's just a sign that you need to take care of yourself and not just by resting more, but evaluating what you're putting into your body by, I mean, the media and physically and just start to be aware, self-aware. How many times am I going to go back to that? I don't know. Mindfulness and self-awareness, the key to life and having an open mind. I'll say it forever. Mm-hmm.
But I think that's all I got on that, honestly. The next one, how to cope with being alone. I love being alone. I don't think I like being alone as much as you do. But you're also a very big homebody. I am. Like, very much. Like, when we're...
I mean, when you lived in Tallahassee for the year, you would never came to my apartment. That's also because you hated my parking garage. But you never... Yeah, did I have a few parking garages? No, it wasn't even that. She would, like, ever...
Anytime she'd pick me up and come into the parking lot, she'd be in a bad mood. And I'm like... Guys, they give me a lot of anxiety. I'll say it. That's not what we're talking about. Yeah, I know, I know. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Anyways, like, even there, I would always go to your apartment. And where I'm at home, you're always like, oh, no, just come here, just come here. And, like, so I'm always at your house. You're never at mine. Yeah, I'm a homebody. I like being home. I also love to travel. Like, I just like my space. And I love being alone in my space because, honestly...
I used to think I was an extrovert and maybe I did used to be an extrovert, but I'm like an introverted... No, an extroverted introvert. Like, I can do well in situations and I can be outgoing and I can, like, have fun when I'm with a group of people. But where I gain the most energy and where I feel the best is when I'm alone or, like, with, like, Lissette or a really close friend. But finding comfort in being alone is just...
Making yourself your best friend. Honestly, like, when I'm alone, I talk to myself. Oh, me too. I just have a blast with myself. And I think that that's what you have to do. Instead of seeing yourself as someone who's hurting or going through something, you just look at yourself as your best friend. Have conversations with yourself. And maybe, like...
Start looking at ways to find new hobbies alone or things that make you happy. Start journaling. Baking cookies. Ways to better yourself, I guess. Not really. Like self-help. I don't know. Maybe do a spa night. Take a bath. Do a face mask. Self-care, baby. Self-care! That's what I was thinking. Not self-help. Self-care. They both work. But just remind yourself that you need to be your best friend and it's going to help you a lot in that loneliness department.
Don't see yourself as an enemy, I think. Mm-hmm. Next. Yeah. Stress, period. Okay, the stress one, I honestly don't think I'd be very good at advice with this because I'm stressed a lot of the time. You are. Yeah. You are. Yeah.
Like, I feel like it's at least once a week, once every two weeks. You're like the set. Bro, what? Once every two weeks? This is like every other day. No, like the moments where you, like, break down of stress. Oh, yeah, yeah. Like, where it, like, actually, like, takes over you. And that's something that I'm working on. Yeah. You know, and I think that that's a weird thing with, like, the job that I have. I have the job that I love. Literally wouldn't change it for the world. I don't like to be the person who's always looking towards the future. Just...
Just be easy on yourself. When we get stressed, we tend to get super hard on ourselves. And I think that that's another time you need to really bring out the be your best friend thing. We're constantly learning and every single moment we don't even realize it. And we're always learning something from other people, which I also think is a very cool takeaway. We learn something from everyone.
Oh. Also, guys, super random, but the other day, I was, actually, no, I haven't, for a while I've been thinking about this. I love to learn. Like, I love watching TED Talks and taking notes, but I hated school, and that's not why I dropped out at all. I just had a, I'm not going to go into the whole reason I dropped out of school, and I didn't drop, anyways. No.
Anyways, I think that I want to go back to school and take, like, a class a semester because I'm so passionate about writing, but I kind of miss, like, English classes and having to write essays and poems. And Lissette laughed at me when I said that. Because I hate English. I think it's important, but I would never voluntarily do it.
go back to school and take writing and English classes. I think, honestly, a lot of it is I want to learn how to use bigger words because I know a lot of big words. I just don't know how to use them in sentences. And I want to be able to write with them. Guys, they're random things, but we all have our different little things, you know, that make us happy. And I also want to take a psychology class because since I talk so much about mental health and how the brain works, I want to be more of a professional on the topic. And don't get me wrong, I took A-psych, AP-psych, I took psych in college too, but
I want to take more. And then I also want to do, obviously, like, PR and social media because that is what I do. Sorry, very off topic. I know that nobody cared about that. Anyways, let's do one more and then wrap this up. Which one did you?
you are? Let's do, okay. Letting go of negative experiences. I'm going to make this one short and sweet. Um, simply you can't change the past and there's, there's no point in sulking in it because you will not gain things from it except that it happened. And if it was something where you were in the wrong, forgive yourself, apologize to who you hurt and all you can do is work towards being a better person. If you keep focusing on how you were a bad person or what you did that hurt someone, you won't change.
I mean, that's just like, you gotta learn from your mistakes. Like, everyone makes mistakes, and that's okay as long as you learn from them and don't continue to make them. I have this saved somewhere, like, on my Instagram, you know, and you just save posts, and it was something like, the first time it's a mistake, after that it's a decision. So...
I don't know. Take that however you want. Oh, that's a good one. But I think it's cool and I like it. But just know that you can't change the past, but you can be in the present and you can look towards the future, but not focus on the future.
If that makes any sense. I don't know if it does. But I feel like at this point we're 10 episodes in. You guys kind of know how my brain works a little bit. Guys, I love you. And I appreciate you. And I really do hope that you took something away from this. This is not my forte. I don't know why Lexi decided for me to be on the podcast for this one. Because I love you. You guys are the best. I appreciate you. And I'm really excited for next week's episode. I don't know what it's going to be yet. But I've had a lot of ideas. I have like so many written down. So let me know what you want to hear the most about.
Maybe if it's something I talked about today, if you want to hear more about that, let me know. Okay, I love you guys and I will talk to you next Monday. I hope that you have a very good day and I hope that you're smiling. Lisette, say your goodbyes. Goodbye, beautiful people.
All right, if you guys want Lissette in more episodes, let me know. She always makes me laugh. She also makes it hard to get deep. So you tell me how you feel. I know. This was probably supposed to be a deep episode, and then I came in. It's okay. Sometimes we need a little bit of humor. That is true. Okay. I love you. That's all. I'll see you guys next Monday. Bye.