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What is up my beautiful people? Welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I am currently recording in my kitchen because I don't know why. I just feel like this is my safe place right now and this is where I want to record. So we're going to talk about a lot of different things. I don't know how this is going to go. I like made an outline but not really. It's a very, very...
messy outline. Honestly, I'm lying. It's not even an outline at all. I have like three different bullet points of things I want to talk about and the rest we're just going to wing it because I don't know. Sometimes I just want to talk and I feel like that's kind of where I'm at right now. My voice is a little bit gone. So if it's a little bit raspy, that's why. But I'm
I have just been going and going and going and having the time of my life. So obviously you lose your voice when you're doing that. Lots of singing, dancing, screaming, going on roller coasters, all that stuff. Last time I talked to you guys, I was with Hannah, not with Hannah. I was with, Hannah just texted me. That's why I said that. I was with Meredith and Anna.
And we're about to go on a family vacation. I had just gone home from Universal and now I'm home from that family vacation for 24 hours and I'm about to go to Greece, which is the coolest thing in the whole entire world. I am so grateful and so excited about the fact that I'm going to Europe. I've never been to Europe. I've always wanted to go.
So this is going to be awesome. And all that being said, I have not really had a minute to sit down and chill and think. And I still don't really have a minute to do so. So having this opportunity to just sit and talk with you guys is kind of my own personal moments of finding peace. So thank you for that. And thank you for this. And
That's really my life update. Family vacation was absolutely amazing. We had the time of our lives and we went with five different families so I didn't know what to expect. Like I had a feeling there was going to be drama or just I don't know if you've ever been on a family vacation especially with another family and they all have kids your age and like just that kind of thing. There's always drama and there's especially when there's drinking involved like I don't know maybe that's just a personal experience but I think it's a universal experience that like family vacations bring drama. What am I saying? Anyways...
So much fun. We went to st Martin the place we stayed at let me tell you guys it was so weird It was like a simulation and honestly one of it's one of those places where I'm like I would never recommend anyone to go stay there But it's also like I want everyone to experience that once in their life just so they can understand like it felt like we're in a simulation That was the joke that we made the whole entire weekend We said an all-inclusive resort and I've seen all-inclusive resorts before and they are usually like so nice The staff is so friendly like everyone's awesome and
This place did not feel like that. It was just...
I don't know. I'm not going to rip on the place. I'm not going to say the name of it. We ended up having so much fun, but it definitely was different than what we expected. Like, thank God we had all of us in our big group because I felt like we were the only people there. And I felt like everyone else was robots. Guys, it was so weird, but it was so fun. And I'm so happy that Meredith and Anna finally got to meet because just like I expected, they are two peas in a pod. Like, we just laughed the entire time that we were together. And they are now invited back on every other family vacation.
Also, I just want to touch on this because I got a few DMs about people being like are you still friends with Lisette? Like why didn't you invite Lisette on this trip instead like blah blah blah you guys know Lisette is my sister She is always my number one. I will never put anyone above her trust me, but she had an internship So she could not take off of work to come so I was like well I gotta bring I gotta bring in the troops because we want to have a squad and we did and
But next year, Lissette, Meredith, and Anna will all be on the family vacation because they were officially initiated into the Dalgo family. Moving on. Really what I want to talk about today is struggling with your body image. And the reason I just gave you that whole entire life update and kind of explained to you that I'm going, going, going nonstop is that when I'm going, going, going nonstop, I tend to struggle with my body a lot. Like not even just my body, but like my mental health, my...
my thoughts on how I view myself and just I started to perceive myself in this super negative way because I am out having fun and I'm drinking and I'm eating whatever I want and don't get me wrong even when I'm home I'm eating whatever I want but if you know what it's like when you go on vacation like it is like five different meals all the time like you're always snacking you're always have a drink in your hand I think I had like way more pina coladas and strawberry daiquiris than I can count on both of my hands like I probably had like
At least 50. That is so gross to think about. But anyways, you can assume that that comes with struggling with my body. And you guys also know about me. The one thing that is so important to me is loving yourself at all stages that you are at and just loving.
Being okay with what your body looks like at different stages and understanding that if I am out having the time of my life, the last thing that should be on my mind is what I look like right now because that's not what's important. Like the memories I'm going to hold on to for the rest of my life aren't going to be or they're not going to have anything to do with what I looked like. That being said, we're all still human. We all struggle with what we look like and
I just kind of want to touch on different ways to get past that or like the feelings that I have about it just to maybe help you feel less alone and understand that it is normal to feel these things, but it is also important for us to work on bettering our mindset in the future. And obviously now I've come home from this trip and I've kind of journaled a little bit about what's been going through my mind and why I feel so negatively about myself and how
Feel a little bit better. So I kind of want to share that advice with you and those I guess you could say pieces of wisdom because they helped me Something that's interesting when I am writing in my journal. I swear. I don't know if it's God I don't know if it's like something spiritual whatever is someone talks through me like I am not Thinking the things that I'm writing and then all of a sudden I read it and I'm like, holy crap like I either pull that really subconsciously deep from the back of my mind or someone pulled that through me to think about and understand and
It's crazy. I don't know how to make that make sense. I know I probably sound psycho, but when I'm writing, I just go into this like different world of, I don't know, thoughts. Like I learned to really shift my mindset when I'm writing. Anyways, let's just get into it. Like I said, just got home from a trip. It was a five day vacation of food, drinks, fun, joy.
And now I'm home for 24 hours and then I leave for Greece for 10 days. And all that was on my mind yesterday on the airplane, I don't even like to admit this, this is like pretty vulnerable for me, but I still want to share it with you guys, was, wow, I'm going to hate every picture of myself in Greece. How stupid does that sound?
Like I know that when I say that out loud, it sounds so dumb. But I also know I'm not the only one that thinks that. And you don't have to admit it if you don't want. No one's asking you to admit it. But I know that we've all had those thoughts. And that's why I'm okay with being open and saying it right now because the only way to get through it
to fully understand it if that makes sense So that's what was on my mind on the airplane. I'm like wow. I hate my body I don't want to put on a bathing suit. I don't want to take pictures But here I am going on this brand trip where what I am going to do is take pictures for this company of myself and of my body and in the clothes and It was draining me for a little while and when I feel super insecure about myself it tends to
Weigh very heavily on my mental health like it just adds all this extra pressure and all this extra stress and I begin to get so Overwhelmed by every little thing that's going on in my life. I get irritable and I can't explain why it's something that I don't understand I don't want the way that I feel about my body to affect the way that I feel in general But again, we're human and that's what happens and it's normal. Maybe it's not normal. I think we've actually been Conditioned to believe that that's normal
The point is, though, we all feel it, and we all need to figure out how the heck to just love ourselves and not think about these things. And it gets me so angry because it's just so frustrating. I wish it was as easy to just switch the way you think as I make it sound like it is. That's the goal. I guess that's where we're going to start. You fake it till you make it. Say the affirmations. That's what we're doing. But while I'm sitting on this plane thinking about that,
I also started thinking about the fact that I just had so much fun and I don't know, I really started to dig deep into my thoughts and I came to the realization and I just started to understand that quite honestly, nobody is paying attention to the small details that you notice in yourself. Like I started looking around and I'm like, there's probably a lot of people on this plane right now who are insecure, who don't like the way that they look or are thinking about something that
Only is noticeable to them like for example one of the things that I was thinking about is the fact that I haven't had my eyebrows done in like months and listen to how sad this is by the way I have only let one person touch my eyebrows ever in my life since seventh grade Like I was like 12 or 13 years old when I started going to this eyebrow lady No one else has ever touched my face. She moved to California. I'm like queen I can't move to I can't go to California once a month to get my eyebrows done I'm really gonna have to figure this out
I just think that is so sad and I don't know what to do. If anyone else had that struggle or if you live in South Florida and have an eyebrow lady, please tell me. I don't know if I'm ever going to let anyone touch my face again. I might just deal with the bushy brows forever. Eyebrows are so important to me. I don't know why. I'm getting off track.
What I was saying with this is that nobody else on that plane, I can promise you this, noticed that my eyebrows weren't done. Nobody else on that plane noticed that my hair was a little bit gross and disgusting. Nobody else on that plane noticed that my armpit was being squished by my sports bra and it made me feel fat and disgusting. Nobody noticed that my collarbones looked swollen, which doesn't make me feel good about myself. Like, listen to how stupid I sound.
Right? Like you can listen to this and be like, wow, girl, you got bigger problems. Like, why are you so worried about that? Exactly. That is exactly the thing. Nobody notices if you look extra tired. Nobody notices if you're puffy. Nobody notices if your nails are chipped. Nobody notices these things except you. And when you think about them in such detail, of course, you're going to continue to notice them.
But one thing that we can do and we do have the power to do is shift what we're thinking about. If you're so focused on what you hate about yourself, like your eyebrows or the way that your chin doesn't look very good or the way that maybe there's multiple of them, you're not going to feel any better. But instead you could choose to focus on, for example, what I chose to focus on instead was, oh wow, I look a little bit tan. Oh wow, my hair looks a little bit extra curly and wavy or whatever.
I'm trying to think right now because I don't remember how I did this shift. I was really, really struggling with my insecurity on that flight home. It starts with the small shifts like that. Notice those instead. Begin to focus on the things that you do love about yourself. And obviously, again, easier said than done. Body image is not an easy thing to handle absolutely.
I feel like I've struggled with my body image for a really long time in my life, and I feel like that's why it's so important for me to continue to just share body positivity and loving yourself at all stages because one thing that I've noticed I do is whatever I'm struggling with the most is what I'm going to talk about the most. So...
And I'm struggling with my body a lot. I'm going to post a lot about loving your body because just as much as I want to share this advice with you guys, it's stuff that I need to share with myself. And that's why I just felt as though this episode was so called for right now just because I did find myself at kind of a low yesterday. And just throughout this trip, this whole summer, I've been go, go, go.
Going traveling non-stop. I haven't had much of a routine ever since I got stitches in my hand Which was almost a month ago now. I haven't worked out at all I've gone on a couple of walks like and when I say like a couple of walks I really mean maybe five or six in the past month and just walks like I haven't really I've done a little bit of yoga. I haven't really broken a sweat I haven't been to the gym in over a month and Obviously that kind of affects your mental health because I'm like dang I
I probably don't look very good if I haven't been working out and I haven't really changed anything about my diet either, if that makes sense. And I don't know. It's just been heavy on my heart, so it's heavy on the pod now. We're getting through this together. And I also, since I started this podcast, have had so many different DMs of people just wanting to talk about this and just kind of, here's someone else's point of view or take something away from this that might help you
First thing I want to say, I guess it's not the first thing I want to say. I've been talking for 13 minutes. But one thing I want to say is that I'm going to be cringy for a second. I need you to understand, and it might be cringy, but I'm also talking to myself when I say this. I need you to understand that you are made to be exactly the way that you are. God created you to be unique, to be special, to go through different changes, to allow your body to change, to grow, to develop, and...
That's just so important for you to remember. And it's so important for me to remember when it comes down to comparing myself because I know this isn't really going in any formulated way at all. It's just going all over the place where my thoughts go. But another thing that is huge with body image is comparison and comparison.
Gosh, comparison is literally the devil. I can say this over and over and over again. Jealousy is the devil. Comparison is the devil. Everyone is made to be different. Everyone is made to look different. You are not made to make yourself look like someone else. No matter what you think, no matter what social media has made you believe, no matter what you hear, you are you.
Other people are other people. And someone else's beauty is never going to take away from your own. There are so many different kinds of beauty. And social media just likes to stick to one. And another thing that I think is really interesting to think about before I dig deeper in the comparison thing is I saw this TikTok. And it talked about the different beauty body standards from, I want to say it started in like 1920 all the way up until now.
And every single decade, every 10 years, they have changed so much. Like what the industry called beautiful has ranged from super curvy to super thin to super big boobs or to super big butt, whatever it may be, it has focused on all of them. So understand that if right now your body isn't in this like beauty standard, which first of all shouldn't exist.
Understand that at one point it is and at another point it will be it is just what the media wants to feed you that they're gonna feed you I don't know if any of what I just said makes sense But what I'm really trying to tell you is that you are beautiful just the way you are and that at every point in history The beauty standard is changing. So don't pay attention to that and if you notice yourself in
Paying attention to it a lot. If you notice yourself scrolling through TikTok, scrolling through Instagram, looking at magazines, going on Pinterest, and always focusing on what people's bodies look like and how yours may or may not look like that,
You need to check where your mindset is at, where your priorities are at, because I promise you it's not important. But back to comparison, back to jealousy. I have struggled with this and I can't sit here and tell you that I don't still struggle with this. Again, I'm human. I am. I'm not a teenage girl, but I'm basically a teenage girl.
I am going to look at people and be like, wow, I wish I looked like that. I can't sit here and lie and say that I haven't because that's just not, I'm not all about that. I'm about just being straight up honest with you guys. But I can explain to you the way that I've shifted my mindset when I do start thinking like that. Not only view, I don't know if you guys can hear the sirens.
i doubt that you can but if you can that's my grandpa checking in on me every time i hear sirens i think of him he used to be a firefighter i've probably told you guys that 10 million thousand times but dude i don't know how he does it he always comes in at the right times just to say hello anyways comparison is not it jealousy is not it learning to appreciate others beauty
That's where it's at. That's what you need to focus on. Because one thing I've learned about life is that when you pay attention and understand and appreciate the beauty in other people and the beauty in other things and the beauty in other people's success, that is when you learn to give yourself credit for everything that you are.
and everything that you've done and everything that you look like because when you're constantly tearing yourself apart you'll notice that you're also constantly tearing other things apart and it's all connected when you can start to slowly shift these little tiny things you will notice that your whole entire life is going to change and the way that you think is going to change and not necessarily on the surface level immediately because like I just said I've done all these mindset shifts I have really changed the way that I view the world and I still will see someone absolutely perfect
even though we're all perfect, and be like, damn, I wish I looked like that. Why aren't my boobs that big? Why doesn't my six pack look like that? But the way, the key, is that I've shifted it. When I think that, instead of
I don't know. In high school, when I would see people like that, I would get mad at them. I would get angry at that person because they have what I want and I don't have. But as I've gotten older, when I see that, I'll compliment people. If I think someone looks great, I'm going to pop off and be like, dude, you look amazing. Good for you. You're killing it. And when I started to do that,
I don't even know how to explain it or how to put it into words. When I stopped blaming the person I wanted to be and started appreciating them, it slowly taught me to appreciate myself because another thing to think about is I want you to like think about your best friend or your brothers or your parents or people that you love in your life. The things that you love the most about them, what are they?
They're not physical, usually. Yeah, you might love their eyes, but you love the way that their laugh lights up a room. You love the way that their personality can charm people. You love the way that they make you feel. Never once, I mean, at least for me, have I looked at the people I love and been like, I love you because you have a great rocking six pack, right? I mean, if you have done that, I guess to each their own, but I don't really have any advice on that. I've never done that.
admire the way that people make me feel and when I do that and when I think about that it also helps me understand that the people that love me in this life don't love me for what I look like they don't love me for what my body looks like and honestly to them that is probably the least important most irrelevant thing about me they like my smile they like my laugh they like the way that I talk they like the way that I think they like the way I
that I chase my dreams. Like whatever the case may be, it's not my body. And when I think like that, I notice I can let go of a lot of that comparison and a lot of that jealousy. And I think that we all could. And I don't know if that's something that we all understand or we all think about. And if it's not something you've ever thought about, start thinking about it. Notice the way that it changes everything. And obviously all that being said,
I still have my struggles. Like right now, I feel a little bit gross and a little bit disgusting and I have to go take all these pictures, right? Like I know that and be a little bit hypocritical, but we're learning, we're growing, we're doing this together. I am reminding myself of all of these things that I'm sharing with you.
Loving yourself is a journey. It is a never ending journey because listen to this, you are constantly changing. So obviously the way that you feel about yourself and the way that you perceive yourself is also going to constantly be changing. Does that make sense? I think it does. I think it does.
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When you think about your mind developing, you are constantly growing and evolving and you are okay with that. If anything, you actually encourage that. You want your mind to constantly change and grow and develop. But yet when it comes to the physical aspect of that, when it comes to our bodies changing and growing and developing, we almost don't want it. Like we don't allow ourselves to see that happen and we get stuck in the past. And when I say this, I mean that I will...
Look back on old snapchat memories or old selfies of myself from when I was literally 15 16 and 17 and I don't know if this personal or vulnerable whatever it is I'll look back on those and be like dang. Why don't I look like that anymore?
Like, why am I not a twig anymore? And gosh, it sounds so bad to say out loud, but this is what society has convinced me of, that I need to be teeny tiny. But again, we're working on it. And like I said earlier, I went more in on that. But I look at these old versions of myself from... I'm 21 now, from five, six years ago. And I'm like, dang, I wish I still looked like that. Girl, no. You're not going to still look like that when you're 21 years old. And...
When I start thinking like that, I really have to just click myself back into the present moment and be like, if I was 16 years old, I don't think I'd be looking at pictures of myself being eight years old and thinking to myself, why don't I look like that anymore? Like, that's just weird. Like, it is weird for me or for us. I hope it's us because if it's just me that does that, like, I'm going to feel real stupid. But I don't think it is because I've talked with my friends about this.
It is weird for me to look back on things from six years ago and be like, I wish I could go back to that because think about this. Yeah, you could go back to that body, but you'd also go back to that mind. Like I have grown so much and learned so much and met so many people and done so many cool things in the past six years. Like why would I want to go back to that? You know, we are constantly ever changing and ever growing and our bodies are going to do the same. And, um,
The whole moral of this podcast, like, the thing I just feel like I am going to keep saying over and over and over again is that your body is the least important thing about you. And you literally shouldn't give two shits about it. I say that so harshly because I mean it. And I'm saying it to myself. I am currently filming this podcast because, if you didn't know, I also post them on YouTube. I don't really promo them when I post them on YouTube just because I like it better when you listen. But...
I am looking at myself saying that because even when I look at this little camera sometimes, I look at my chin and I'm like, oh wow, I have a really round face. Like shut up, Lexi. Get over it. Nobody's paying attention to that. And if they are, they can go. They don't need to be in my life anyways. I think it also just becomes a struggle when I'm constantly reading what people think of me. It gives me this...
I don't know the term for it, like an identity crisis because I am formulating this version of myself that other people perceive me as and getting it confused with who I actually am. Because when I'm constantly reading comments about what people think of what I look like, what I wear, what my, I don't know, just very small personal details that like most of the time I feel like people don't comment on in person, having to see them
not sure really sure where i'm going with this but basically what i'm saying is that reading comments about me on tick tock or reading dms about me or reading instagram comments all of these things really cause me to confuse myself on who i am and my self-love journey because back to just kind of getting into my struggles with my body image
Back in the day, back in high school, way long ago, even when I was 16 and 15 and 17, like, you know, those pictures I was just saying I looked at, I'm like, oh, I wish I could be that. I could look like that again. Well, even back then, I was struggling with what I looked like. Like, I just, for some reason, for some odd reason, I was literally tiny, you guys. I always just, like, didn't like my body.
And then, you know, I go in phases. Like sometimes I love her. Sometimes I hate her. It's human. Just like emotions are a wave. Our self-love journey is also always going to be a wave. But the one time that body image became super, super impactful and important for me was, well, at least talking about body image became super important for me, was back when I was in Hawaii. The first time I moved there in January of 2021.
I moved there and was living the coolest life obviously was partying a lot We've gone into detail on that and i'm not going to get into it again right now But if you want to hear more about that journey just go back to I don't know any podcast where the description talks about hawaii We were drinking a lot. We were partying a lot. We were eating a lot We weren't working out when I say we I mean, I guess just collectively as a group But me personally was not really doing anything to take care of my body. Um
But I also was just enjoying life and not focused on my body at all. So I ended up gaining weight, like a decent amount of weight. Like I think I gained – I don't know. I'm not going to get into numbers here. But it was a lot of weight. It was a significant double-digit, like a lot of weight. And I personally didn't really notice it too much. Like I noticed it in certain pictures and noticed that I couldn't really –
sound stupid but take mirror selfies the way that I used to and I was just so focused on doing other things that I didn't really let it get to me until TikTok let it get to me fuck TikTok excuse my language but this was a really really tough time in my life because I was constantly getting comments from burner accounts people who wouldn't show their face didn't have a personality picture I had to block so many people at this time because people just kept commenting on how much weight I gained like
People had nicknames for me like chonkers. They would talk about how round my face was and it's already something I always struggle with like to this day. But back then it had gotten even rounder and I think that's beautiful. But apparently other people didn't and I was just getting wrecked and it sent me into a spiral with myself. Let me tell you because I am a self-love girl. I am a love your body at all stages and
But that's a lot harder to do when people are literally nicknaming you chonkers. Like guys, just think, just think about that. That was not, not it. My DMs were filled with it. And I think people just kind of hopped on the bandwagon and just were, they weren't having a field day with it. But that was also just because I was at a point in my life where, like I said, my priority at all was not my body or my physical health. It was more just having fun. And I'm so grateful for that. And I am not mad about that weight that I've gained. And I've,
Think lost some of that weight or it's just kind of like shifted in my body because again your weight is gonna fluctuate You are going to look different even if you're the same weight or vice versa I don't weigh myself anymore the only time I really weigh myself is if I'm at the doctor or sometimes My gym has a scale like if I just did like a great workout. I'm like oh, let's see what I weigh But I don't really pay attention to numbers I don't own a scale and I I never will because I don't know it can just get messy point being I
My weight still fluctuates and my body still fluctuates, but I don't get as many chonkers comments anymore. Thank God. Where I was going with that, though, is just that people are going to sometimes have something to say. But what they say is so irrelevant. I like to think about the fact that these comments came from people who wouldn't even show their face. And I know that no matter what, they wouldn't say this to my face. So...
If you struggle with comments like that, please just understand not to take it personally. And another one of those things, easier said than done. Like, I know, reading comments about what people think you look like is not a good feeling on the inside. And it definitely makes you second guess everything that you feel about yourself. But...
It's not personal. It's people projecting. It's people being upset that you are confident in the beautiful body that you are given and they are not. 99% of the time someone has something to say about what you look like. It is because they are upset.
That you are confident in yourself and they are struggling with their own insecurity. That is where these negative comments come from. It is literally just projection. And even on a scale that goes further than body image, like anything that people say that is negative about you or negative in general is just projection. They're struggling with something subconscious that they don't
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I don't know how we got onto that, but the thing that I want to tell you guys about is Athletic Greens. You guys, you are, I'm blinking. My brain just like turned off. A car drove by and I got distracted by it and then I forgot where I was going with that. But you are more than a body. You are literally a soul. You are a beam of light, a ball of joy. Like you are so much more than what you look like. And this whole podcast is just to remind you of that.
And to remind me of that and to also kind of just dive in here for a second. I know that with body image issues comes a huge struggle with food for a lot of people. And I want to talk about relationships with food in a whole nother episode because this is something that is so personal for me because so many people in my life, I have watched struggle on such a deep level and I have watched people I'm not even close with struggle and
and even people that I went to high school with struggle I have such a soft spot in my heart and it leads me to a lot of like I don't know I get very empathetic when it comes to struggles with food because I don't know see again this is something that's really hard for me to talk about because I want to get really into detail about relationships with food
That's when I really need to have an outline for and articulate how to talk about it because I know that that's something a lot of people have a hard time listening to. And I don't know. It's just kind of a trigger warning. I'm not going to get deep into anything now. But when I do the podcast episode about this, I am going to get deep into things.
But food is fuel. Food is a beautiful thing. And even at every given point that I have struggled with my body image, I am so beyond grateful that I have been able to keep a healthy relationship with food. I don't know what it is, but food is just like a passion thing for me. I have a huge appetite. I love food. I'm always hungry. You can ask anyone in my life how much I eat and how much I will make sure that I am fueling my body. And I just want to...
quickly remind you that you need to do the same that food is what gives you the ability to to walk to run to dance to skip to jump to swim like all of these things food is what gives you energy to live and when you avoid it to look a certain way number one it's not sustainable long term number two it is hurting your mental health so badly and number three you're hurting yourself
You deserve more than that. You deserve to enjoy the things that you love. You enjoy to eat pizza when you want it. You enjoy to have balance in your life. And don't get me wrong, if you're struggling with your body image,
It's okay to incorporate more health and wellness into your life. It's okay to add an extra workout every couple of days if that's what makes you feel good. That's what mentally makes you love yourself a little bit more. It's okay to add more fruits and vegetables into your day. It's okay to maybe have four slices of bread instead of five slices of bread. You can make small changes like that.
I think that that's healthy, and I do believe in, you know, fueling your body with the proper things and the proper nutrition, but I am also a huge believer in eating a full pizza every once in a while if that's what your body wants. And I'm not saying do that every day, but I'm saying find the balance in your life to where you can enjoy everything that you love in moderation.
Again, I don't want to get too into food right now. I just want to remind you that you are deserving of food. It is your fuel. It is what is going to keep you going and you deserve it no matter what you're struggling with with your body. When it comes to fixing your body image and learning how to love yourself and let go of body dysmorphia and be able to look in the mirror and be like, I love you. If you change what you eat or don't eat,
I promise you are only going to make that mental health and that body dysmorphia worse. And again, since this is so personal to people that I'm close to in my life, I cannot get into it right now, but I can promise you that no matter how much weight you lose, you are not going to love yourself until you can make the change in your mind that you love yourself. And I know that that's harsh and it's deep and it's a hard pill to swallow and no one wants to talk about these things,
Trust me. You need to learn to love yourself at every stage Because if you don't you will never love yourself and I mean that think that you're beautiful and I love you and I think that you are perfectly made the way that you are and Gosh, I know that I can sound like so cringy when I talk about stuff like this or I just remind you that you are loved and worthy and valuable, but it is so important for you to understand and
Want you to listen to this and I want you to write it down and I want you to say your affirmations and I want you to Look in the mirror and remind yourself that you are more than a body You are a soul and you have a purpose and no one is paying attention to what you look like except you to put this in a more like straight-up way, do you really want to be Thinking say it's two years down from the down. Okay, I glitch two years down the road and
You had your priorities all focused on what you looked like. And no matter what, two years down the road from now, whether you like it or not, you're going to look different. Imagine you spent all that time focusing on what you looked like and how you changed your body instead of your long-term dreams and your long-term goals. Check your priorities, okay? Focus on what you really want to make happen. Focus on how you're going to change the world. Focus on how you're going to find your passion and make yourself a life that you live. Make your...
Okay, starting to glitch. We're going to cut this off soon. Focus on how you're going to make a life that you love. Focus on your future, okay? Not what the boy that sits next to you in math class thinks about you, okay? Because he's irrelevant. He does not matter. He probably won't be in the picture in five years. And if he is, good for him. He probably loved you for more than your body. I'll say that. If you can grasp this, it will change the way
That you feel about everything. And you're still going to struggle sometimes. But for the most part. You're going to be a lot more. For lack of a better word. You're going to be a lot more woke. You're going to understand that. It literally doesn't matter. And when you can understand that for yourself. You're going to notice. Again I'm getting repetitive. You're going to notice that you find a lot less comparison. You find a lot less hatred for people who have it better than you. And this goes in all levels. In all directions that go further than just your body. A quote that I love.
This doesn't really have anything to do with body image, but you could tie it into it if you wanted to. If you can't clap for others, it'll never be your turn. Let go of comparison, please. Cheer your friends on. Love your friends. Help them become successful in what they love. It's not ever going to take away from your own success, okay? Remember that. It's just something that's also been heavy on my heart. I know it didn't really have to do with the episode, but there it is. There you have it. I
I think I touched on some of the stuff I wanted to touch on. I also think I rambled and I repeated a lot, but that's okay. We all need to hear it multiple times and I say that every episode, but shut up, Lexi. Shut up. I love you guys. And you guys, the moments merge. I'm literally getting samples tomorrow. Like I think that they're going to come in time before I leave for Greece and I am crapping my pants. I'm so excited. You have no idea. This is a dream come true. Moments is going to be something and yeah,
I've had some late night thoughts lately of all these other dreams and goals I have for moments, and they're all going to happen with time when they're meant to happen. I'm being patient with it, and I appreciate you guys for being just as patient with me, but moments merch is coming like August 15th, like really, really freaking soon. It's August, you guys, like a week from now. I think, yeah, I think a week from this podcast is when the moments merch
merch is going to be launching. So let's freaking go. I'm so excited. I am recording an episode with Lissette. I'm actually recording another episode today in case I don't get the chance to record in Greece. I don't want to be super stressed or overwhelmed on getting a pod done there. So me and Lissette are going to record an advice episode and that's what you're going to be listening to next Monday and I'll probably be talking a little bit more about the merch on that episode. So get hyped, get excited. That is going to be launch day actually. So yeah, we're definitely going to be talking about the moment's merch.
I love you guys. You have changed my life and you, whether you realize it or not, have helped me love myself and all I can hope and pray that I do is just a little bit of the same for you. Thank you for being you and I will talk to you next Monday. Peace, love, moments, pot. You guys are angels. Seriously. Bye.