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Hello my beautiful people and welcome back to the moments podcast It feels kind of weird to record because I haven't recorded in actually over two weeks because I had pre-recorded Last week's episode and the week before because I was going to Greece and Greece was a 10-day trip But for me, it feels like it was I don't know like a three-month trip like a two-year trip I felt like I was gone forever
And I guess that kind of leads me into my life update. I should probably just start with that. Greece was insane. Probably in the top three trips I've ever been on, if not like number one. I am obsessed with Greece. I didn't realize there were so many different Greek islands, but it's now on my bucket list to go to all of them, even though I'm pretty sure that that's not possible, no matter how hard I tried, unless I went to Greece like every single year or stayed there for like a year. Anyways, I'm getting really, really...
far past what I need to get into. Greece was awesome. The time of our lives. The first island that we went to is Mykonos and I want to do a podcast episode one day on just like all my trips in general and talk about, not that I have full itineraries, but just talk about what we did in each place and like what the highlights were, I guess. That way you guys could like know what to do when you go to these places, but I'm
That's a story for another time. Basically, in Mykonos, we partied a lot, which I didn't really expect to do. I don't think any of us expected to go out as much as we did yesterday.
We went with Boho Pink. So the owner of Boho Pink is Eva. And me, Anna, and Eva ended up having like the actual time of our lives. We all got along so well because we're all the same age. And we went to the bar, the club, Mykonos, and I'm pretty sure that's where I got sick, which is leading me to my next life update. I have been battling this little sickness, this little illness since I was in Greece. Like my last...
Few days of grease even I was pretty pretty sick and then I came home And I thought it was better and then I woke up again with a fever So basically, I don't know what it is. I've tested for covid twice and I haven't gone to the doctor, but i'm probably I don't know if i'm gonna do that. We'll see but hopefully by the time this is posted I'm better because by the time this is posted i'll be in california for lisette's birthday and i'm so excited to be going but
Obviously, I'm a little bit drained and I only have a couple days home. So that's really what we're going to talk about. And I think you guys can tell even just two and a half minutes into this, I'm already kind of all over the place and I'm blaming that on
A whole number of reasons, and a lot of them have to do with exactly what I want to talk about this week, which is basically just moments under the wave. You know, like when we have those moments where we're on top of the world and we're at like the highest of highs, and then all of a sudden you're just thrown back to the wolves and you feel like you're at the lowest of lows.
Basically, that's what it felt like for me going from Greece, the trip of my lifetime, to coming home with a 101 fever, not being able to get out of bed, and having to face all of my responsibilities and get back to work and get back to real life with only a few days before I'm leaving on the next adventure. And obviously, that's a first world problem. I am so excited to be leaving on the next adventure. But
That being said, it's still crunch time when it comes to work and business and just all that stuff. I don't know. You guys know what I mean. And with back to school coming around and a lot of people are already back in school, I don't really know how that works. I know that my brothers, like in Florida, we all go back to school like now. But I'm pretty sure in all the northern states, and I don't know about any of the other states, you guys don't go back until like mid-September.
I don't know. Besides the point, a lot of us might be feeling that crash where it's like, oh, summer's over now, back to reality. How do we face this? Why does it feel like this? And why am I going through all these things? Before I get into that, I haven't launched the merch yet while I'm recording this. I'm recording this two days before the merch drops, so I don't know what the outcome was, but...
Either way, I am so grateful for you guys. And I thank you so much for supporting me. And I don't know if there's things still available. Go shop. If we sold out, that's even better. I'm so excited. And the next launch is going to be insane. Amazing. I can't wait for it. I actually have kind of a plan in set for how I want to drop the next launch or photograph it or video it. Like, I don't even know.
But look at me, having a plan. Nothing's booked, of course, but I'm going to actually be going back to Hawaii to shoot for the second launch. Getting ahead of myself here, you guys don't care about that yet. I'm not there yet. I am here in this moment, and this is part of my problem. I'm thinking way too far ahead. But then at the same time, that's what I need to be doing is thinking ahead so that I'm not constantly stressed about the future. And now you see this is exactly...
root of everything that I'm talking about it's like constant conflict constant wait but I should be doing this because of this or I should be doing it this way because yada yada yada you guys get what I'm saying it's like this constant cycle of really good and then really stressed and then really bad and then really good again and then why is life like that like why does it do that I kind of just want to talk to you guys about what it's like to be under the wave and
You know, I always am talking about how life is a wave and it's a roller coaster and mental health is never linear and it's constantly changing and it's constantly evolving and all that stuff. But there's nothing worse than feeling like you've gotten to this point in your mental health where you are on top of the world and you feel like you finally have it figured out. And then boom, all of a sudden you're literally being held underwater and you don't understand why you feel this way again because you thought that you finally got past it.
It's not fun. It's not ideal. And that's what I have just been feeling so much of lately. And I guess I really just want to talk through it with you because I'm not a professional here. I wish I could just come on here and tell you how to immediately fix that and immediately get yourself back on the surface and get you riding the wave hanging 10 again.
But I can't because I too am human. And if I can't just give you the bits and pieces to fix it, we might as well go through it together. If you're not someone who struggles with being held underwater, please share your advice with me. I have a few friends in my life who actually just don't have this struggle. Like if you listened last week, actually, I talked about it with Lisette. She just kind of like
doesn't really have all these mental health problems. She's like, she'll get stressed sometimes. She'll get overwhelmed, but it just doesn't really affect her as much as it affects me or a lot of other people. And I don't know. I just think that's interesting. And basically, if you can tell me how to stop feeling like this, please, please share your words of wisdom and your advice with me. But for those of us who are stuck underwater, let's talk through it. I figure I might as well tell you guys some of the things that happened to me when I feel myself going underwater in the
I don't even want to say that like I feel like I'm underwater right now because I don't. I'm very grateful and I'm very excited and I have huge things happening in the future. I mean my merch is literally launching in two days and I've been working on it since January and it is so fulfilling and last night my mom threw this little picnic for Moments merch and she invited all my friends and I was so sick. Like so sick guys. I couldn't even hold my eyes open on the drive there and I...
It was awesome. The sunset was beautiful. Like, we still had so much fun. But all that being said, all those little tiny factors, like the fact that I was sick at this awesome event that I was supposed to be excited for, just kind of drains me a little bit sometimes. And...
I don't know. I'm not underwater at all. I'm excited for the future and I'm looking forward to things, but my mental health is still on this little roller coaster. And it's weird. You could ask me at different hours of the day and at certain hours I'd be like, yeah, no, I'm hyped. I feel great. I've never been happier in my life.
And at other points in the day, you could ask me and I'd be like, I feel like I'm drowning and I don't know what to do. And I don't know how to get to the top. And I feel like I'm never going to be able to accomplish anything or be successful at anything or see here I am getting deep. I don't know how to figure out which one I'm in right now because I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions. I kind of feel a little bit at peace and caught up on life. And then I also kind of feel again, like I'm drowning. I'm also coming off the, the end of,
Hopefully the end of whatever sickness it is that I have. So that's been draining me not only physically, like also just a lot mentally. So two days ago, three days ago, yesterday, I was down so terribly bad. I tried to sit down and record this podcast and I was just a wreck. Like I was crying and stuff. And you guys, you guys know I don't cry too often. I cry like once a month when I'm about to get my period. And it could be that too. But I was just...
Very emotional. I don't know. I think it was from going from the tippity-top of the world to reality. And I know I've said that already, but before I just keep rambling about everything, we're going to talk about what it feels like for me to just be under the wave. And I wrote a list down in my little podcast journal. And what it feels like for me when I'm really going through it and...
struggling a lot mentally People won't always know it on the outside especially the people that are closest to me because I try to hide it and I try to Not really talk about it and that's something that I've been working on But I've noticed that it doesn't really make a difference when I do tell people that I'm going through it I don't know why it doesn't really help me that much it almost helps me more when I can keep it to myself like it helps me get past it faster and
Which is also not something you necessarily want to do. You don't need to force yourself to immediately be happy again. You need to like let yourself feel emotions. So that's just me contradicting myself again. But yeah, that's what I've noticed I do. I don't really tell people how I'm feeling or what I'm going through. And I just kind of expect everything to stay normal. But depending on how bad it is...
I don't know. Sometimes you need to tell someone. Sometimes you need to talk to people. And usually when I feel like this, I would go to therapy. But I don't have enough time home to go to therapy. And since I was sick, I also did not want to get my therapist sick.
Moving on. That's one thing that I do and I know that I'm not the only one who does that and depending on who you are sometimes it's better to just keep it to yourself, I guess. I don't know if that's good advice or bad advice but if you're someone who benefits from talking to people don't be afraid to tell the people closest to you that you're struggling mentally or you're going through something or you're stressed about your future. Like I don't know. I do notice though that
When I try to talk to people and by try to talk to people, honestly, a lot of the times, I mean, you guys like I'll just go on TikTok and I'll ramble because it's not that my the people close to me in my life don't get it. They do get it. It's just very hard for me to talk to them about certain things because I'm
They're so personal. And you know what? I guess I can say it like this. They don't get it and no one really gets it, but I find so much comfort in just talking to you guys because I do feel like you guys are my friends and I love you and I trust you and I know that you're going through it too. So we can all do it together. I don't know.
but when i do start talking about things all these other things come to my mind and even now just talking about this as i'm sitting here talking in the back of my mind it's screaming all these other things that it needs me to talk about and i'm like okay give me a second i'll get there let me just take this one step at a time and then my thoughts are just super overwhelmed but then i'm like oh that makes a lot of sense of why i feel this way because subconsciously that's what i'm thinking
Long story short, when you start talking about it, you'll start to understand why it is you're feeling the way that you're feeling. Because all your subconscious thoughts will come to the front of your mind, if that makes any sense. We're moving on. When I'm feeling like this, when I'm at these lows, I tend to notice... And again, I don't want to call them lows. I'm not at a low point in my life. I'm just at a point where...
For a second, I'm just being held underwater. And I know that if you ask me in a couple days, I'll probably be back on top of the world. It's how the wave works. You know, it's just how it goes. When I am struggling like that or like this, whatever you want to say, I notice that everything that the people close to me in my life do tends to not necessarily get on my nerves, sometimes get on my nerves, but usually just make me upset.
For some reason when I'm going through it, I believe that everyone is out to get me literally everyone and their mothers is out to get me and it's so selfish of me to think that way because 99% of the time honestly 99.9% of the time that's not the case. The people are just checking in on me making sure I'm okay making sure that I keep my head screwed on straight making sure that I get things done or I stay on top of things and
When I'm at a good point mentally, I'm like, great, awesome, yes, give it to me. What do we got next, you know? But when I'm struggling, I just think everyone's out to get me. And I think that everyone is just telling me that I'm not good enough or I'm not doing enough for them. And then I get extra sad and dramatic about it. And I'm like, guys, I'm trying my best, you know? I can't be the only one that feels that way. So that's something that I'm definitely working on. When I'm at a low point mentally, I need to not take things so personal because...
One of the keys in life, I've told you guys to read the four agreements. If you haven't done it, please do it. Please, please, please just read the four agreements. It talks about not taking anything personally because nothing is personal. Everything is a projection of other people and yada, yada, yada. Don't take anything personally. So that's something that I'm working on because when I'm struggling...
I'm taking every single minor detail personally. I'm taking my DMs more personally, my comments more personally, and I'm just taking everything to the heart and I'm getting extra sad for no real reason. Like there's really, really no need to. And then on top of that, the next thing that I do when I'm underwater, I'm under the wave is that I blame everything on myself. Like I just sit and I sulk on the fact that I'm the reason that I'm failing. Like for example,
I just told you guys probably 10 times I've already told you that I've been sick and you've probably seen me talk about it on TikTok and on Instagram and I don't know, I guess I just like to make it very known that I'm sick and that's why I'm not accomplishing anything. See, like even that, it's just unnecessary. I'm allowed to move slow and take things slow and take breaks and take time for myself to heal and what I do is I blame myself.
I'll be like, well, it's your fault you got sick. You shouldn't have stayed out all night and made the best memories of your entire life out in Greece. Like, that's what I tell myself. And that's so wrong. Like, I don't want to look back on those memories and have that come to my mind.
When I look back on the memories of staying out all night in Greece, I want to just remember the fact that it is a core memory and it is something that I will never forget. And it is probably the one story that I'm going to tell my kids about until the day that I die. It's going to be the story that I tell my kids and my kids are going to be like, dude, if we have to hear this story one more freaking time. You guys know what I'm talking about, right? Like your parents have that one story they tell over and over.
Well, that's what Greece felt like for me. And I don't want to look back on it and blame myself for having fun. You know, obviously it's not ideal that I got sick, but it's not my fault. It was out of my control. You know, even if it wasn't necessarily out of my control, there's nothing I can do about it now. There's nothing that I can do to change it. So I can't sit here and blame myself. And obviously that's my personal situation with it right now, but it looks different for everyone just in general.
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I lacked so much motivation and obviously this time it was a little bit different, this little, you know, this little crash around because I was also sick. Here I go again, just making it known that I was sick. But seriously, this time, I mean, I do mean it this time. I just was so tired, like couldn't even keep my eyes open doing pretty much anything. So
I lacked all motivation, but even when I'm not sick and I'm just going through it mentally and I'm under the wave, I have a really hard time getting anything done because I just get confused and I don't know what my priorities are and I don't know what I'm supposed to be focused on. And
everything stresses me out and everything overwhelms me and I'm sure we can all relate to the fact that if you're allowing everything to stress you out and everything to overwhelm you of course you're not going to have the motivation to accomplish your tasks or to do anything or to move forward so
I don't have too much advice on that one right now because it's definitely something I'm still navigating myself through. Towards the end of this, like once I get through this whole list of what it feels like for me to be underwater, I'm going to talk about some of the things that I do to get me back to the surface. But as far as motivation goes, I don't know. I'm still struggling with that one. Moving on. The next thing is that
I question everything and anything. When I'm going through it, I just simply refuse to believe that I'm on the right path.
And obviously I am constantly saying, just trust that you're on the right path. Understand that you're in the right place. Easier said than done. When I'm struggling, no part of me believes that I'm on the right path. I question what I'm doing for my career. I question my self-worth. I question how I value myself. I question how people perceive me. I question how I perceive myself and all of those things. And,
When you question those things, especially when it comes down to the things about who you are as a person, it's only going to make you feel worse. So that's what I end up telling myself, I guess, is that if I keep thinking like this, it's only going to get worse. And then that is probably the one thing that helps me redirect it just a little bit because I know that I really don't want it to get worse. Make sense? Moving on. When I'm going through it, I feel like that is just a...
I've said that so many times. But I don't know. Clearly, you guys, I've got some things going on in my brain right now. But I'm also so excited for the future. So it can't be... I don't know. What am I saying? See, this is usually a point where I just pause the audio and I recollect my thoughts and I like, you know,
regroup everything but I don't really feel like doing that. I feel like being here and talking to you guys and I don't know I feel like it's a little dramatic but it's really not because all of our brains have felt like this at some point in our lives and I don't know we're in this together. You guys are my family. You guys are my BFFs and this is our little community. This is our little squad. We're moving on.
When I feel like this, all the small tasks are really hard. And I guess this kind of has a lot to do with lacking motivation. But it's a little bit different. When it comes down to the small tasks, usually for me, it's,
Doing the dishes isn't something I think twice about. Making my bed isn't something I think twice about. It's all just natural. Like, I just do it. I don't think of it as, like, something to cross off the to-do list or I don't think of it as a chore. It's just, like, part of the everyday routine. But when I am down in the dumps or I feel like I've been hit by a truck, those small tasks get so difficult. And the way that I reframe my mindset when it comes to that is I just sit there and I'm like, okay,
This isn't usually something that's a chore for you. So just do it. Sometimes that's the only thing that works is literally just looking at yourself in the freaking mirror and being like, why are you being a baby? This is not that difficult. And I just got to give myself tough love. But it's also important to be gentle with yourself. See, I'm a hypocrite sometimes. I am controversial. Controversial is a wrong word. I just say like two opposing statements. And I'm like, yeah, take that and roll with it.
But the thing is, we're all different. We're all going to take different pieces of a... Like, hold on. I'm glitching. Different wording is going to help different people. And...
Different ways of self-care are going to help heal people. Some people need to be gentler on themselves to get back to a healthy place, and some people need to be harder on themselves to get back to a healthy place. So I guess that's why I'm giving you both. Whichever one works better for you is the one that I want you to take. And maybe it's both. For me, I need all of it. I'm like, give me all of the advice you could possibly have, and I'm going to take it all in.
And then who knows one of them is going to work. One of them is going to do something. We're moving on to the next one. When I am down in the, I feel like I'm reading a children's book by going through this list. I also feel like I, I just get a little bit lost when I'm going through it, especially after the trip that I was just on. I was in Greece. All right, we get it, Lexi. We know. But again, the high of my life coming back to reality, which at one point,
this little house of mine was the high of my life at that time. Now, I'm trying to make this make sense, but it's really weird to come back to somewhere after you or somewhere even better and then being like, "Okay, yeah, this is what your normal is." Like, you don't get to experience that feeling or that high every single day. And I'm like, "Well, shit. What if I wanted to?" And then you just get a little bit lost. You're like, "Well, why can't I?" And then you're like, "Well,
This is home. This is... you love it here. I don't know. Do you guys... See, I want to pause it again and I want to regroup my thoughts, but I'm not going to. I am teaching myself how to not feel lost or not feel confused because I am very confident in who I am and what I'm doing and what I've chosen to do and I love where I live and I love every little piece of my life.
As I'm sitting here, I do sound really dramatic. I think I'm going to choose to snap out of this right now, and we're going to talk about this in a very, very different way. And fine, okay? I am happy. I am healthy. I have so much in my life. This episode is brought to you by Shopify. Whether you're selling a little or a lot...
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Actually, you know what's crazy and you know what I wanted to talk about, you know, while I'm just getting totally off track is that I don't know if I ever told you guys about this on the podcast, but on August 8th, there's like this Lionsgate portal that opens and I saw a TikTok on August 8th last year, 2021, and it said to write a journal. I definitely told you guys about this, a journal entry, but write it in the
Present tense but date it for a year from now. So basically I wrote a journal entry in the present tense of August 8th 2022 Obviously that day recently just passed and I went back to read my journal entry and you guys so much of it came true It's actually insane. I'll tell you just a few of the things it was basically a book like I wrote so much in this little journal entry thing and
Anyways, I wrote that I had bought a van. I literally bought a van a few months later. I wrote that I had a podcast, you guys. A podcast wasn't really even in my thoughts too much back then. Like I had just barely had the idea. And then a few months later, I launched the podcast and I wrote that I was in a new country. And I happened to be in Greece when that date came around. And I wrote that I took my family on a vacation, which has been the biggest dream of mine for so long. And I did that this summer. And I'm so grateful.
Those are just, I also wrote that I had a boyfriend. That didn't happen. Like, obviously not every single thing in it came true, but it was really crazy to see how some of that stuff came into fruition. And it was so cool. And I also wrote that the next podcast episode that I was going to be recording was all about gratitude. And here I am.
Complaining about how I'm under the wave and how I lost myself and how I'm so sad and miserable like come on Lexi Let's snap into it. Let's get back to it and understand that it's okay to be under the wave But it's also important to be grateful for the fact that you are under the wave because I wouldn't be under the wave had I not just had Been hanging ten on top of the wave and if I can choose to be grateful for that moment instead It's gonna make this one feel a lot easier and feel a lot better and
I don't know. Did you see how I just did that? Because I don't know how I just did that, but mentally I feel a lot different right now than I did 10 minutes ago. Not 10 minutes ago, five minutes ago, whenever I was being all sad and mopey. Gratitude is going to be your key. It is going to be the thing that takes you to the next level of joy, the next level of fulfillment. And I actually just made a little TikTok about this yesterday, but if you didn't see it, I'm going to explain it to you again now. I think that
We're kind of conditioned to constantly be chasing the next thing or chasing more or chasing society's idea of beauty or of success like just chasing something we're conditioned to be chasing the next big thing and I compared this to the way that a lot of people are in Costa Rica I spent a lot of time working in the community there and it's a pretty poor country Costa Rica and
Somehow all of the people that I've met that live there seem to be the happiest people that I've ever known and I'm convinced that they live a happier life because they're chasing less. They live with the mindset that if you are alive and well and you are breathing and you have people that care about you and people that you care about and somewhere to sleep and somewhere to go to the bathroom then you're already blessed enough. You already have everything that you need.
And I think that that is a mindset a lot more of us need to incorporate into our lives. I need to incorporate that more. You need to incorporate that more. And honestly, not a lot more of us. All of us. All of us could use a little bit more understanding
that you are already blessed and that you already have enough and that we deserve to be grateful not deserve we need to be grateful for all that we already have because you'll notice that if you do that you will live a happier more fulfilled life and we really got off track there I was talking about what it feels like to be going through it and now I'm talking about how important it is to be grateful
But again, I guess that's just the wave. I guess that's just how it works. And I literally wrote down, like it's the next thing that I have bullet pointed. I didn't even look at this until right now. Is that sometimes, sometimes this wave lasts an hour. Sometimes this wave lasts a month. Sometimes it's two weeks and sometimes it's a day. This one happened to be...
Like a little bit less than a week because I am choosing to change it right now. I'm changing my narrative. I'm changing my mindset. I'm redirecting my thoughts and I'm shifting things around. I am no longer say these affirmations with me because I know I'm not the only one who was just under the wave.
quite literally while I was talking to you guys. Also, maybe this is the power of talking to someone. Maybe you do need to talk to someone when you're going through it. I'm realizing all these things right now because you guys are the ones that just cured me without even realizing it. I don't even see your faces, but in my head, like I'm talking to my friends and you guys just healed me. And thank you, first of all. Like, thank you more than you'll ever know. I'm so lucky to have you guys.
But I'm realizing, yeah, maybe you do need to talk to someone. Maybe that makes a whole world of a difference because it definitely is for me. Anyways, I'm changing my narrative. I'm taking things back into my control. I know that I can't control the things that are going to go on in my life and I can't control the outside factors, but what I can control is how I react to them. And
And obviously there's different times and different cases where sometimes no matter how hard I try to fix the feelings and fix the mindset and fix the emotions, I'm still going to feel like crap and I am still going to be down and sad and under the wave. But other times, like right now, if I at least try to redirect everything and reshift and reframe and do all that, maybe it will make the world of the difference and I'll be fine.
And we'll be able to move on and get past it and look forward to the future and be happy and hang ten again. And that's what we're going to try to do. That's what we're doing. And it's all because of you guys. And it's all because we've got this big little family of moments, listeners and friends and whatever, whatever. You guys are just the best. Anyways, the next thing that I'm going to be talking about, if I'm looking at my little list here, is how do we get past it? Well, number one, we've just decided to talk to someone. That's going to do a lot.
But another one is to just let it happen. You don't necessarily get to control the timeline. You can do your best and sometimes your best works and it gets you here to where I'm at right now. And sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it gets you to where I was at yesterday where I was forcing myself to snap out of what I was feeling and it wasn't working. It was only making things worse. So just let it happen. Okay.
You're only going to make it hard on yourself if you're forcing it, you know? And that's the next one. Don't force yourself. Give yourself grace and be kind as you go through it because the only way to get through it is to get through it. And life is a wave of emotions and I'm getting repetitive. So I'm going to end this soon. The moral of what I'm trying to tell you is to just listen to yourself, to take life one step at a time, to understand that it doesn't all have to make sense right now and that you're right where you're supposed to be.
right here, right now. Just breathe it in. Just take it in. Just do the silly little things for yourself. Go on a walk, make a green smoothie, set your intentions, write in your journal, go to bed early, wake up early, watch the sunrise, watch the sunset, hang out with your friends, laugh a lot more, and just notice that your life will get better. It is going to be a wave and it is going to hurt sometimes, but it's also going to feel really good sometimes.
But you couldn't have one without the other. I know it's cliche, but there's no rain without the rainbow. So appreciate the rain. Okay, I'm going to leave it at that. I love you guys more than you will ever, ever, ever know. And thank you so much for listening to this podcast and supporting this podcast. And if you got Moments merch, I cannot wait to see you wearing it. And as soon as you get your packages, I want you to take that Moments sticker and
the one with the globe that says, uh, the podcast with Lexi Doggo, I want you to put it on a stop sign in your hometown. And I want you to take a video or a picture of it and tag me on your story tag, not just me tag the moments podcast too. And I want to share them all because I think it is the coolest thing in the world. And then also send me the picture that without my tag, because I want to post them too. I know I'm needy, but I love you guys. And I think it's going to be so cool to see them all around the country and all around the globe. Um,
Because this is the first time I've ever been able to sell something with worldwide shipping. You know, honestly, this is the first time I was ever able to sell anything that I really, really, really, really was so excited about. Anyways, thank you guys. I love you. You mean the world to me. And clearly, I couldn't get through this without you because you guys just shifted my mindset in more ways than you'll ever understand. I know I can be repetitive and I know I can be a little obnoxious, but it's what I'm here for, right? Okay.
I love you guys. You're the best. Thanks for listening. I'll talk to you Monday.