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LinkedIn, the place to be, to be. Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I am here with a very special guest today. You guys know I love her, and I'm bringing you an episode that I told you I was going to make a really, really long time ago, but you know how I work.
It's definitely been a while. But I want to talk to you about college. And I thought no better way or no better person to talk to you about college with the person who made it through college a lot further than I did. So can we get a round of applause for Miss? Lisette Mon. Lisette Mon.
I just thought this would be fun and it would be cool to do this episode with someone else because I get tons of questions on like, oh, like, why did you drop out of school? Like, did you not like school? And you guys have heard me talk about before, like how my mental health was when I was going to school and just all sorts of things. But then there's always the other side where Lissette, for example, went to school, loved school, had the experience of her life and is now making like just, just being successful queen who has a job and loved college. Basically,
We're kind of opposites in a way when it comes to thinking about the college experience and just all sorts of things. So we're going to take everything that you guys put on the little... What is that even called? Question box on Instagram. And we're just going to answer them from both our different perspectives and both of our different ideas. And you can get, you know, the best of both worlds. And you can see where you fall. And it just doesn't hurt to have, you know, two different opinions and...
I know the adjustment of going to college is huge, and just so many things play a role, and we want to talk about them. So we're going to talk about them, and I'm very excited. I'm very excited. Alright, so I think we're just going to go ahead and get into it. Lissa, anything you want to start us off with? Start us off? I mean, I don't know. I'm excited. I loved college.
Yeah, she's excited. She loved college a lot. Quick little life update, I guess, before we get into it. I'm going on a road trip on Friday. I'm so excited. Actually, I'll be on the road trip by the time this episode comes out. Cannot wait. What else? What else is new? What else? I don't know. I can't think of anything right now, so we're just going to... Oh, guided journal. I can't tell you guys this because it's top secret information, but I'm going to tell you anyway, so please do not tell anyone. But the journal is happening. We're finally making steps in the right direction, and you know I've been saying this.
For so long, like since I started the podcast, I was like, we're going to have a journal that like you can follow along with and everything. But it turns out the best things in life take time. So patience has been key in this whole journey. But get pumped up because when it happens, it's going to happen in the best way possible. And it's going to be great. I just wanted to remind you about it once again, because it's been on the back burner and now we're pulling it up to the front burner. That was the life update I wanted to give you. So first things first, college. I would rate my college experience a five out of 10.
I would rate my college experience 100 out of 10. 100 out of 10. Okay, so you can see there's two very different perspectives on this little podcast episode. But we're just going to go through a list, and we're going to take it one thing at a time. And the first thing that I wrote down on my little guide is... Well, Lisette wrote them down. She wrote them down. I wrote the title. Oh.
Is it scary to leave home? Or are you scared to leave home? Or anything in that realm we're just going to kind of talk about. Do you want to go first or I'll go first? I mean...
Yeah, it's scary to leave home. But I mean, for me, it was also really exciting because I was just so excited to go to college and stuff. So I think the excitement overpowered the scariness of it. Overpowered the scaries. Yeah. Honestly, I would say I'm the same way. When I first, you know, was applying to colleges and getting ready to leave home, I was so excited to leave home because at that age, like at the end of high school, you've, you know, lived home forever and you're like,
about to get your taste of freedom and you're about to go meet all these new people and not have a curfew and not have to do like your parents list of chores. So it's exciting because you're like, get me out of there. And I honestly, at the start, wasn't scared to leave home. I got a little bit homesick, but I'm sure I'll get to that later on the list. So I'm going to save that for later. Hold on one second. You guys, Lisette's playing with her toes. I was trying to hold it up. Anyways, we fixed it. So
It's normal to feel scared to leave home, but just remind yourself that it's such an exciting chapter for you and you get to finally step out of your comfort zone, go meet new people, go do fun things, not have to follow your parents' rules, and just live under your own roof for once. And it's exciting. So remember that when you do start to feel a little bit scared and know that...
it's part of the journey and it's going to be a really awesome chapter. So yeah. And now we're lucky to live in this day and age where there's phones. Yeah. You can FaceTime call your parents pretty much whenever you want. They're always going to be there. Yeah. I texted my mom every single update of everything that I was doing in college. Cause you know, at first, obviously, like I just said, I was ready to get the frick out of there. And then I got to school. I'm like, mom, how do I load a dishwasher? Mom, how do I make sure my clothes don't shrink? Like you're going to,
Just know that your parents are still going to be there. You can still call them. You can still see what they're doing on Facebook. And you're really not like running away. You're still going to have them. So let's move on to the next one. Is it hard to stay close to your best friend slash your boyfriend? Well, I'll go first. And we've talked about this on a different episode before that I did with Lisette. She went to college a year before me because she's like a school year old.
ahead of me. And honestly, we didn't really have any struggles with staying close because she's my sister and you guys know this. And I would say the hardest part about it for me was having to accept that this is going to sound so bad and horrible, but like, it's the truth and I'm not going to lie to you guys. It was hard for me to accept that she was going to make other best friends and she was going to meet other people that were going to become just as important in her life. But then that happened to me when you went to Hawaii. Yeah. Because then I had to accept that was like the same thing. It's part of...
I guess, growing up and understanding that you're going to meet new people and you're going to make new friends and you have to be okay with your friends doing the same thing because you're still their best friend. In college or not college because you weren't in college when that happened. Yeah. So it's going to happen regardless. Your friends are going to meet other friends. It's just a part of life. And...
I would just suggest same thing like we were just saying with your parents, like FaceTime your friends, text your friends, like make sure you stay in communication. The only time you said ever had issues is when like we wouldn't be texting all the time because say I'd be too busy or she was too busy, whatever the case was. That was the only time we ever argued. Yeah. Just make sure you continue to say you're the friend leaving, remind your friends that you love them. And if you're the friend that's being left, not left, but you know what I mean?
Just keep in contact and stay close. And as far as staying close to your boyfriend, I have no experience in that department. But I would say it's the same thing. Communication is going to be everything when you're taking such a big step and you're going on such a big new adventure. Right? Yeah, communication is definitely key. So more of the story on that one. Just literally communicate. Right? Yes. Communication is key. Sorry if there's parts where you guys can't hear Lissette. We're really working on it.
I keep having to pause it just a reminder, but hopefully you guys can hear her okay. Yeah, next time I need my own mic, so I can just put it right at my mouth. Well, yeah, we just have a mic issue dilemma. Oh. We've had sound problems. Anyways, moving on to the next one. Is it hard to make friends slash manage time? I feel like we talked about the friends one in the last episode I did. We talked about the friends portion of it in the last episode I did with you. Like,
You just have to put yourself out there and join organizations or clubs or anything that interests you, and you'll find people with similar interests and go from there. Yeah, I would say we definitely did talk about this in the last one, but since it's a different episode, I don't know who listened to the last one or who just needs...
The reminders, I got lucky because when I went to college, I went the year after Lissette, who had made all the friends basically for me. Like, I had a couple of friends who were my friends from home that were also a year above me. So when I went to school, I kind of had my friends. And that was a blessing. And I don't have any regrets with it. I don't really necessarily wish that I put myself out there more and met more people because I was so grateful for my circle of friends. But...
Like Lissette just said, just get yourself involved in things and talk to your classmates and go out. And it's easy to talk to people and make friends when you're drunk. So go out and party and do the whole shebang. And unlike you, when I went, I didn't know anyone. I knew my roommate who I wasn't even close friends with at the time. They were like mutual friends. Yeah, barely mutual friends. And...
It just... Everything just intertwines. You meet people like... My dorm... My... Like summer C. Which was the summer before my freshman year. A lot of people... Like if you're considering doing summer before... I don't know if that's just a Florida school thing. I know Florida you definitely have to do a summer or something. But...
do it. It was the best time of my life because only like two dorms. It was definitely the best time. She had so much fun. Only like two dorms were open. So everyone, you just meet everyone in those dorms like every night after we'd like, we'd all go out together, like come home and just hang out. And it was, it was just so fun. And that's how I met so many people. And it, it was just awesome.
She told me all her dorm stories and they were, they were pretty epic. She met really cool people. So I was lucky to meet really cool people because of her. So thanks, Lisette. You're welcome. Um, I also just had different experience because I went to community college. So I had to stay in an apartment. Like I couldn't live in dorms.
So I, like, obviously loved my roommate. And that's another reason, though. I've never got the dorm experience, but that's when you're going to meet a lot of people. So do it. Go for it. And it's just so fun. And it's so fun. So fun, like the set says. But again, everyone has different experiences. And that's okay. And it's all part of it because we're not all supposed to have the same experiences because then we'd all turn out to be the same damn person. And that sounds pretty boring to me. So moving on to the next one.
Is it worth it? Like, college? Yeah. A lot of people said that, actually. Okay. Like, is college worth... I think it depends on what your goals in life are. Yeah. You guys know exactly where I stand on this one. I've probably gone over this 10 million thousand times. For me, I think that...
For me, I really like college. Okay, anyways. I think that college is very valuable. I think that you gain a lot from college, whether it's the experience, whether it's the people, whether it's the connections, whatever it may be. It is very valuable, especially if you know what you want to do with your life. Say you want to be a doctor or a nurse or an accountant or a dentist. Things where you need an official degree to do those jobs. College is amazing. And it's going to be a beautiful chapter of your life.
There's also situations where if you're someone like me, I don't know exactly what I want to do. I want to just kind of keep creating little things throughout my life. I don't know how to explain it, but I have explained it to you before, so I don't even need to get that into it.
It's not the end of the world if you don't want to finish college or if you don't go to college. But if that's the case, you have to continue to put in the work. You have to understand that your connections are important. If you're not going to college, you have to find a different route that is still going to be – hate the word successful because it just is perceived so negatively sometimes or just in so many different ways –
But what I'm saying, put in the work. If you're not going to go to college, you have to put in the work to figure out what it is that you want to do. And that's not to say it's not possible. I am happy right now. I am financially doing okay right now. And I didn't finish college. So that one's all up to just... It's the person and their personality and what they want to do, what they want to achieve. And that's it. Yeah, that's really about it. So just...
Just know that and just think it through. If it's something that you really don't want to do, evaluate its pros and cons. I'm always a huge fan of making a pros and cons list. And just take it from there. But if you do know what you want to do, go to college. It's going to be freaking awesome. And it's going to be great. And take it from Lissette. It's going to be the time of your life, literally. So I think that's all I got on that one. Up to personal preference. Talk to the people around you. See what they think of it. And just feel it out.
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Because I had a really hard time doing this hence why you know my mental health got so bad and down and just all over the place I Really liked making money in college ever since high school I've loved working and when college came around I had I found myself somehow all these different job opportunities I was working literally four to five jobs while doing school while going out every night and I
There wasn't much balance in it. I was just trying to do everything at once instead of, you know, spend some time doing more of work, some time doing more of going out, some time doing more of school. I was doing it all at once. Okay. Glitching. I was doing it all at once. And I think that...
It's a lot more valuable to manage your time just a little bit differently. Make sure you're giving yourself time to go have fun because that is such a good part of college. Make sure, if you are working, that you're not overdoing it. Like, you're not burning yourself out just because, you know, you want to make your own money. Like, I know that feeling. That's what I was doing. And give yourself time to get your schoolwork done. Like, just...
I don't really have much to say on that. That would be my say because that's what I should have done instead of just trying to do everything. Yeah, when Lexi first came to Tallahassee, I was so excited. I'm like, yes, Lexi's here. I'm like, all right, can we hang out? She's like, I have to work. I'm like, can we hang out tomorrow? I have to work. I have to work. I'm like,
When, like, what do you, are you doing anything besides working? Like, I was so excited. And then she was just always working. But for, I don't want to say it. I honestly don't even know. Well, okay, so my definition of, like, a balanced, healthy routine is probably different than, like. Well, yeah, same. So, like, my definition of a balanced, healthy routine would be having my school in order, not procrastinating and actually doing schoolwork every day. And, yeah.
Eating healthy, going to the gym, like, that is, like, when I read that. Like, Lexi, you read it, and you thought mental health, like, trying to do that. Yes, this is the thing you said. And then I read it, and I just, that isn't even, didn't even cross my mind. So...
It's hard. You have to... Everyone has their different ways. I definitely never mastered that at all. I can promise you that. I think that one thing I'm learning, and I talked about this on last week's episode, things I learned from my therapist. Since our life is, like, ever-changing and it's always evolving, it's never going... We're never going to be capable of finding perfect balance. But it's just, like, a constant learning routine. So continue. And there's... Yeah, you just...
Figure out what works best for you. There's no one way that is a perfect, balanced, healthy lifestyle for every single person. That's just not... People work differently. So I think it's just there's going to be a learning curve and you're going to have to take time to figure out what works best for you. Just take it one step at a time. Make sure that you're doing what makes you feel good and not what just...
is perceived as good. I don't know how to explain it. You have to feel it in your soul. Do what feels good for you and make sure that you're still giving yourself downtime. You're giving yourself time to go hang out with your friends, but it shouldn't have to feel forced to go have fun. I don't know how to explain it, but I hope you guys are picking up what we're putting down. We're going to move on. Next one is how to decide where you want to go versus what's comfortable.
Like, for us, me and Lissette both kind of stayed in-state. Yeah. We didn't really do the whole branch out and go to a college out-of-state thing just because we both loved Florida and wanted to go to school in Florida and grew up cheering for the schools that we, like, wanted to go to. But I would say if you're considering going out-of-state, I have heard nothing but great things from people who have done it. You're going to meet a whole new group of people with, like, different values and different morals, which sounds like it's whatever, but it's really cool to experience that because...
There are so many people to meet. What am I really trying to say here? It's really eye-opening and mind-opening when you meet people who didn't grow up the same way as you. And we went to school with all, for the most part, people who grew up in the same area as us and have always had the same beliefs and just have grown up with the same structure. And everyone I talked to who went to school out of state...
And the people that I've met when I travel or just that are from different places, I'm like, wait, that was your normal and this is my normal? It's just cool to compare. So I say literally send it. If it's at the top of your list and you're just scared to do it because you're leaving home, I say do it because that always works itself out. You're going to get used to being away.
I don't know. Go ahead, Lissette. No, I think you got it all. Because I don't have much to say on that because you're right. We did the comfy. We did the comfy. Well, also there's other factors like Florida prepaid. Like financial factors. There were a lot of things that we did that were the comfy for us. I take that back.
I don't know much about Florida proof aid, actually. No, no, no, no. I don't know if it's, like, just for... So, like, no one quote me on that. I think... I'm sure that most states have it. But basically, it was just easier for us to go to school here because financially it was easier on us and on our parents. And we just didn't even think of anything else. We didn't consider anything else. I say, if you have the opportunity, go for it. Yes. Unless you really, really, really effing love your home. Then maybe... I don't know. We're moving on. You guys get the point. We spent way too long on that one. Okay. Okay.
How to deal with anxiety about getting into your dream school. I didn't get into my dream school. Neither did I. Neither did Lissette. I didn't get into... I mean, I got into my safety schools that were, like, super local. And I got into a few schools. But the school that I really wanted to go to that I thought I was going to be 100%, like, I thought I was going to get in because I had the grades. I had a fire essay. I was so involved in high school. I was confident I was going to get in. And I didn't get in. And...
And you know what? I went to community college instead. It was like right next to my dream school and it all worked itself out. I still had a great time. I still basically went to the school. There's no fucking difference. Excuse my language, but it's the same thing. Like you don't have to, I spent so long, like literally even now just hate even saying that I went to community college just because I grew up and like people would be like, Oh, where'd you go to school? I'm like Tallahassee community college. Like people just give you like, people don't,
I don't know. People care about names, and they care about labels, and I hated it. I was embarrassed to say it. But clearly it worked itself out. And it's the same thing. Like, if it's going to save you money to go to community college, do it. And that's totally defeating the purpose of what the question was, or, like, totally going off topic. But don't stress about it. It always works itself out. Lissette, tell them. I could just tell you my story, but I guess I don't really have much. Like, I...
Also thought I was gonna get into my dream school all my like stats were there It was pretty much like I should have gotten in but I also only applied to the school I wanted to go to and then FSU which was kind of my backup
And so then when I didn't get into... Well, also, the FSU acceptances came out before the school I wanted to go to. So I was like, all right, cool. Like, I'm good. Once I got into FSU, I was like, whatever. Like, I know that I'm going to go to college. I'm, like...
whatever and then I didn't get into my dream school and that was fine and now I'm so happy yeah like I'm so happy that I didn't because I would have never met the people that I met and I would have never had the same experience that I had and I just my life would be literally so different like I probably wouldn't even be like doing accounting yeah like who knows where I would be I I have no idea take it from Lissette and like take it from me
Cliche, I know. I say it 24 freaking 7. Everything happens for a reason. And even if it sucks in the moment, like, Lissette was so upset when she didn't get into UF because, like, that's where she went. Way to out where I wanted to go. I just told him I went to community college. So, Lissette, it's okay. Like, it's fine. It all works out. Next. Yeah. Go Noles. Go Noles. Go Noles. UF is fun too, though. Like, you are a Florida person. Yeah. Like, they have really fun game days. Anywhere you go is going to work out great and you're going to meet the people you're meant to meet.
Moving on.
How to stay in a calm mindset when you're overwhelmed. Lissette, you tell them. You tell them about your little situation. Well, I wrote that one down for you. Oh, okay. Because my situation, do you think I'm calm? I don't know how to do that. I don't know how to stay in a calm mindset when I'm overwhelmed. I get overwhelmed and I lay on the floor and say, what am I doing with my life? And then, you know what? It all would always work out though. Exactly. Because I think I've always been a procrastinator, so I think that I just probably do well under pressure and pressure.
But calm, I don't know. Well, Lisette's told you guys this story before, but she would do this thing where she would wait kind of until exam week to study for her exams. That covered like all of the material from, you know, the whole school year. So then that whole week, she would literally just be crapping herself because she doesn't even know that she had all these exams. That only happened once where I didn't know I had all these exams. Well, she just...
Every time. Maybe she knew about the exams, but still. Anyways, she made it work and she got through it. She just had to be really overwhelmed for a week. So I would say my suggestion to that is don't procrastinate. And that's saying a lot coming from me and from Lissette because we both are actually CEOs of just procrastinating. It's one of those traits that we both have that makes us the exact same.
Try not to do that. If you can't avoid it, like I would say me and her can't avoid it, you're just gonna have to push through. You're gonna have to push through. By the end, I was able to figure out, like, a set-
Each class, I would say, is different. When I first start a class, I kind of look at the big picture of how the class is set up, and then I try to think, okay, how am I going to study for this class versus this class? They're all different, and you have to have different study methods for each. So finally, by like my last semester, I was able to figure that out, and...
stopped procrastinating. It was queen move. And it was, it was awesome. I was like, wow, this is how you're supposed to feel before a test? Like, no way. And it was, I was like, I don't know. It's just, it's crazy what happens when you apply yourself. It is crazy. It is crazy when you, when you put that work in. And also just know, especially if you're just going to college, it's going to take you time to figure it all out. You are supposed to be overwhelmed your first little while. Like you're supposed to have all sorts of different priorities and you're supposed to just
Let it be. Like, let yourself go through those things because that's when you're going to understand how to handle them. You know, like you can't avoid everything. You have to feel things. You have to go through shit to understand shit. Yeah. Language. Moving on. Yeah, you're profanity today. Profanity today. It's when I get super into it, I just boom, boom, boom. Like, whoa, Lexi, calm down. Okay. Next is how to find internships when in college.
Well, I would just say the biggest thing is like networking and joining clubs. And a lot of colleges have career fairs where companies go and talk to you and are specifically looking for people for internships and jobs. And you just have to put yourself out there. Don't be nervous. And just, yeah, go to all those. A lot of colleges offer things like that, if not all of them. All colleges offer that. Yeah, exactly. So that's really all I had to say on that.
Well, I was more so thinking not internships after college. Like, I had an internship while I was in college, and I worked for a few of the restaurants that were...
For the table was internship. No, I know, but I was saying that doesn't have to be after college. I did mine after college, but not everyone does. I know, that's what I'm saying. I wasn't moving on. Let me just, let me, I'm going to finish my story. So I had an internship in college and the way I got that was literally just, like Lisette was saying, networking, connections. Like I would just talk to people. I'm like, I want to work while I'm in college. What can I do for you?
Like, put yourself out there. Let people know that you're willing to do things. And jobs will appear and internships will appear. And, yeah, we're going to move on to the next one because that was, like, my internship, but it wasn't really an intern. I don't know. I'm going to do the next one. Lissette wants to skip this one, but I'm just going to quickly, quickly do it. How to pick a major. There's a chance you're going to change your major. Lissette changed her major. Go in. Start with something that you know you like to do.
or love to do. And then if it turns out you don't love it or you absolutely hate it, don't be afraid to change it. Even if it sets you back a little bit, don't get yourself stuck doing something that you can't see yourself enjoying for the rest of your life. Especially if you're paying for school and you're going to school.
It's okay to take time to figure it out. It's okay to take one class that you didn't necessarily need to realize that that's not what you wanted to do for the rest of your life. You know what I'm saying? That would be my say on picking a major. Yeah, I went into college. So in high school, I was doing medical field stuff. I was in the medical academy.
And so I went to college and I wasn't sure what to major in. And I was talking to my dad and he was like, why don't you try biomedical engineering? I was like, oh, that sounds super cool. I was like, all right, let's do it. I take biology and I'm like, uh-uh. I hate this. Why do I need to know the ins and outs of like cells? Like I couldn't, I, it made me mad. Like the class literally made me mad.
I just hated it so much. I'm like, I can't do it. I'm not, nope, I need to change my major. And so then I was thinking about what I like, what I enjoy doing in school. And then I found accounting and I was like, you know what? Let's do it. And I loved all my classes and never had that feeling about a class before.
Like I did with biology. With biology. I mean, sure, there were some classes that challenged me and I'd get frustrated because I wasn't understanding, but it wasn't that, I didn't have that hatred that I did with biology. And also, that's what electives are for, for you to find what you like. And, I don't know. Just feel it out. Yeah. But yeah, biology might be for you, but it's definitely not for Lissette. Lissette's a numbers girl. Yeah.
I liked biology in high school, but college biology, man, it's something else. Definitely different. Next one. How to plan post-grad life. I'm going to go ahead and pass the mic over to Lissette on this one because, you know, I am not a grad. Go ahead.
Well, I mean, you can't. You can't. You can't. Like, you can't go into college and know exactly what you're going to do post-grad. I mean, some people can if you're, like, that type. Yeah, I guess. I think it's just... Most people aren't. Yeah. Most people have figured it out. And through college, you're going to change so much with what you want and... Who you are. Who you are. Yeah. So, I think just take it as you go. I mean, obviously, don't, like, not have any plan for...
But you just have to plan it as you go. You can't. Okay, you know what? Maybe I skipped that question. It's a one day at a time kind of thing. Like, obviously, you know, I'm not a post-grad, so you might not want to listen to me. But I will say, I just think that you need to take it one day at a time. And like I tell you every single second of every day, make sure you're doing something that you love and make sure you're putting in the work to make it something successful. And then it'll work itself out.
Literally, that's all I say. I hope that that doesn't get... No, it is repetitive. We're moving on. But you're just drilling it in their brains. Just drilling it in your mind. Do what you freaking love and it works itself out. What was the most scary part? I don't know. For me? I really like porn. No. For me, it was all pretty scary. I'm not going to lie to you. I was not necessarily well in college. It seemed like I was great. You know, to all my friends, I was great. I was doing everything. I was...
Getting good grades in school. I was having the time of my life every time I went out. I had multiple jobs. I had financial freedom for myself. And I was still really not so okay. So I think it was just scary for me because...
At that point when I was feeling all that, I didn't know how to make that go away. And back then I was way, way, way less in touch with my emotions. And when I would feel like down or negative or just freaking depressed, I had no understanding of why I felt the way that I felt. And therefore I didn't know how to pull myself out of it. And I didn't know if the end was ever going to come. And I thought, oh my God, what if I feel like this for the rest of my life? So
That was scary for me. And I know that a lot of people struggle with their mental health in college. Some people don't, but a lot do. And just know that it gets better. Simple as that. Remind yourself that it gets better because when I was going through it, I wished that someone would have reminded me that it gets better. But there was no way for me to do that because no one even knew I was struggling the way that I was. So that's that on that. Tell people you're not okay and remind yourself that it gets better. That's that. I guess that's it. Yeah. Kind of had to do with the question.
What were you scared of? I mean, I was just scared of making friends and moving away, but we already talked about that, so, in the beginning. So I don't really need to touch anymore on that. But it all worked out, clearly. It's scary, but that doesn't mean it's gonna be bad. You know, that's just thinking of, like, what ifs. You can't, you know? Think positive. You can't think in what ifs, or you're just gonna send yourself down a spiral. Scary is also good sometimes. Yeah.
Yeah. I definitely went out of my comfort zone like, oh my gosh. So much. Like no other. So you have to – yeah, scary is good because you have to put yourself out there and it helps you grow and evolve. Like when I went to Jacksonville for my internship this summer, I was terrified. I knew no one in Jacksonville.
I said to Lexi, I was like, I feel like I'm on top of the world. I am thriving so much right now because I felt so confident in talking to so many people and like going out of my comfort zone. It was so exciting. It was terrifying at first, but once I did it, I was so excited and I was conquering my fears. Yeah.
And it was just, it was very rewarding, I guess you can say, because I was realizing how much it pushed me and helped me. Took you to the next chapter. Yeah. And I don't know if you guys listened to the episode, though. I think it was called Moments in Fear or something about fear. And, like, you just have to dance with fear. You have to, like, hit it head on and allow yourself to feel it and then watch what comes from it because it's almost always good things. And if it's not something good, you learn something. You know what? It is what it is. Next one.
How is it compared to high school? So different. So different. So different. It is like taking a fish out of a fish tank.
and putting it into the ocean. Yes. Like that is the best way that I know how to describe it. That is such a good way to describe it. That is so good. Like you're not getting fed in like you do in your fish tank. You got to go and you got to find it for yourself. And yes, literally with actual food, but also metaphorically you have so many responsibilities that you're not used to having that you need to learn how to navigate. Not in
a scary way we're not trying to freak you out but yeah it's a little scary but again we just told you to dance with the fear you're gonna have to learn how to do your all your own chores you're gonna have to learn how to go make new friends that aren't just in your classes I mean of course make friends in your classes but you're gonna want to meet other people too it's just a very different layout and it takes you from having a set schedule and like being under someone else's roof and and knowing like what to do at all times to here you go
Figure it out. Which is why I think that college is great. And that's why, even if you don't finish it, go try it out. Yeah. Because it did teach me a lot. And it's awesome, though, because you are literally... You are being in control of every aspect of your life. So you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. And...
You have to figure out how to prioritize certain things. With great freedom comes great responsibility. Yeah, yeah. Like, you need self-discipline, but you also have so much freedom that you just... You get to see what you like and don't like. Yeah, that makes sense. It makes sense. Yes. You're gonna really just learn a lot of lessons, and you're gonna be... Like, straight up, you're gonna be responsible for the stupid things that you do. And you're gonna... If you...
Wait till last minute to do your studying and you fail an exam That's on you and and like this done a bad thing because now, you know for next time not to do that again But give yourself some grace, but also, you know be a little hard on yourself Okay, you have to this is a really beautiful time for you to figure out who you are and who you want to be So set yourself up for again I hate the word success but set yourself up for success teach yourself the lessons discipline yourself say no sometimes say yes more none of it makes sense, but that's the best part and
I think that that's a good way to put college. Yeah. This podcast is supported by FX's English Teacher, a new comedy from executive producers of What We Do in the Shadows and Baskets. English Teacher follows Evan, a teacher in Austin, Texas, who learns if it's really possible to be your full self at your job while often finding himself at the intersection of the personal, professional, and political aspects of working at a high school. FX's English Teacher,
Premiere September 2nd on FX. Stream on Hulu. Moving on. What's the next one? Do you feel a lot of pressure to go out and drink? For me, this is why I got depresso. Because I personally, this is where everyone's different, so I'll let Lysette go after. I personally did feel a lot of pressure to go out and drink. And it's what people do in college. And it's so fun. But...
When I drink consistently, you know, a lot of nights in a row or even just multiple times a week, I put myself into this isolation, hibernation, depression. And it's something that obviously I still work on because this still happens to me. But drinking isn't something that I can handle at all times. And again, people are different in this aspect. Like people can go out every night and still feel on top of the world. And if that's your case, you can do it.
It's not going to feel like pressure. It's just going to be fun, you know? But for me, it did feel like pressure because I knew how it made me feel, but I still wanted to do it because I didn't want to miss out on things. And that's why FOMO was just a huge thing for me back then. And I did a whole episode on that, but that was my answer. This is where we are going to have very different, like...
Vibes about it. Yeah. So I'd say when I first went to college, I, for some reason, I never got hungover. I just, I didn't. When I first went, like in high school too, when I drank, I just, I never did. I was like, wow, I am so blessed. This is awesome. You're so blessed. So when I went, like I said, during that summer session and like basically the whole dorm, we were all friends. So I was so excited to go out. We'd go out. I think it was like, I'd go out Wednesday. Monday. No. I never went out. I didn't.
I maybe went like twice during summer. I never really went. I'd go out Wednesday for sure. And I think I'd go out Saturday for sure. Friday, maybe Friday and Saturday, whatever. But I always wanted to a lot, like three days a week.
Okay. I don't think I was going... Maybe like on an off week. It was a lot. Yeah. But also summer, you only have two classes. So it's a lot easier. So having that, I just... I loved going out. I was so excited to go out. I never felt pressured. But then once I got into actual school and it was... I had more classes, more work. Then I started getting hangovers. And I was like, oh, this is what everyone talks about. That's when...
I guess you could say pressure, but I would just kind of stick my ground. If I didn't want to go out, I wouldn't go out. And by senior year, I was going out the least. I was going out once, maybe twice a week. And it was... Like, yeah, sometimes my friends would convince me to go out. I wouldn't call it pressuring, though, because pressure is like...
Pressure, in my mind, is defined as doing something that you don't want to do. No one has ever forced me to go out. I would go out because I wanted to. They might have convinced me, but I still made the decision at the end of the day. You know? But then there are also times where I was like, no, I can't. Like, I have to do school or I just really don't feel like it. And I wouldn't. So... But also... Yeah. Some people just can also, like...
going out more. Yeah. And it's as simple as that. And if you are someone who's more like me in this aspect, it's, you're not missing anything. Like you are still going to have fun on the times that you decide that you can go out or you want to go out and you don't just have to feel this, this feeling that you're missing out because I promise you're not. Also, when I decided like when there were nights that I decided not to go out, um,
The next day, I felt like I never had FOMO because I was like, wow. They would tell me about what happened. I was like, you know what? That's pretty much kind of like every other night. Like, there was nothing, like, too crazy that happened or something that I, like, felt I missed out on. And then I was just feeling great. I would wake up early and I'd be productive. But also, on the nights I did go out, I wouldn't criticize myself the next day because I did. It's just you make that decision. Another thing that I think is important to note, just...
when it comes to learning about yourself and like being in this first chapter of college, figure out if you're someone who gets physical hangovers or if you're someone who gets emotional hangovers, because I get really bad emotional hangovers. Yeah. Sometimes I'll have a headache. Sometimes I'll be like down bad in the morning, but for the most part, my hangovers make me really, really anxious. They make my mental health just like plummet to the ground. And yeah,
I think if you're someone who struggles with emotional hangovers, it's important to limit yourself to how much you're drinking alcohol because it does play a huge role. And this is where, again, people are different. Lissette does not get no such thing as an emotional hangover. Well, I get anxiety sometimes. Maybe she has scaries. But, yeah, scary, yeah, scary. No, yeah, yeah. You're right. It's scary. So if I go out...
No matter, I can drink the same amount one night and the next, but like if I didn't do anything stupid one night, I'm not gonna have like anxiety. But yeah, I get stomach hangovers. Yeah, I'm just trying to tell you, just notice if it emotionally affects you very negatively. People might not understand what you mean when you explain that. Most of the time, actually. Like sometimes. I understand. Sometimes. So listen, just do what feels good, okay? Okay.
And understand your mind. And if you need to limit your drinking, please limit your drinking because it makes a world of a difference. And that's coming from someone who has to limit her drinking. I wish I didn't, you guys. I wish I could be as fun as I was in high school, but I actually go insane. We're going to move on. We're going to move on. What's the next one?
I think we could skip some of it. Are roommates worth it? I say 100%, 1,000, yes. 1,000 million percent. Don't live alone. That's it. You can do your living alone era when the time comes, when you're older. But have roommates. Roommates are so fun. And I think that roommates are also great because you learn so much from each other. And you also learn...
Well, when I find the person I'm going to marry, what can I handle living with someone and what can't I handle living with someone? Oh, that's so true. I never thought about that. It just teaches you so much for the future and it's a valuable experience and it's so fun. Like just busting into your roommate's room and I miss it. Even if you're not best friends with your roommate, still knowing that someone's there can help. It's like a hug. It's like an air hug. Knowing that someone, if anything happens. Moving on.
Is it the lifestyle people make it out to be? It's what you make it. Yeah. Simply put, you can choose to be someone who's drilled in on school and never go out and your lifestyle can be super... What's the word I'm looking for? Scholarly. Yeah. Or you can prioritize, you know, going out all the time and then your lifestyle can be super fun. And social. Or you can even be an athlete. Yeah. And that's your priority. Yeah. And that's your friends and that's your...
It's all different. Yeah. When it comes to is it the lifestyle people make it out to be, in a way, yes. But it's also, like we just said, exactly what you make it. Exactly how you manage your time and what you prioritize. And I will always tell you, prioritize what it is that you love most. For some people, it's school. Some people, it's sports. Some people, it's going out. Simple. Next. What? Wait, what does that say? What if you don't know how to connect your passion to your career? I thought you'd like that. I really like this one. But see, this one makes me think a little bit differently.
Too much. Like, I don't know how to answer this one right now. I would say, I never thought about this one. You guys really got me thinking right now. Do you have anything on it? I wrote it down for you. You know this isn't... That type of question is just not my forte. I think that...
Say you can't connect your passion to your career immediately because whatever the reason may be, you know, you need to get a job because you need to make money and you can't find a job that's going to make you money that aligns with your passion right away. Continue to do your passion on the side. Never really let go of that. Even if you're working a job that you might not necessarily love right now. I was working at college. I was working hospitality. I didn't see myself working in a restaurant or a hotel ever, but I was doing all the things that I loved on the side. And then eventually...
It all falls into place, but don't let go of your passion just because you're doing a job that isn't your passion. Yeah, that's really good. Keep doing what you love. Next, best late night memories. Me and Lissa have way too many of these. Way too many. Like every night. Yeah, even if we're not going out, we just stay laughing every single night. But my personal favorite was my first week at FSU or TCC.
went to... Guys, this is top secret information and this is so bad. No! Yes. No. No. You can't say that. I think that's like incriminating. It's not incriminating. Listen, guys. Top secret right now. Don't tell anyone. We went to a frat party. I'm not going to say what frat. I'm not going to say anything. It was first week of school. You know, silly week. Frat party. Lots of alcohol. We busted into every room in the frat house and said, hello, is anyone home? Do you guys have any alcohol? Because we didn't have any. Like,
We really went into every room in the frat house. No, it's so embarrassing. It's so embarrassing. We made a whole video about it too, just for fun, for us. And obviously that might sound stupid, but it was one of those you have to be there. Yeah, you have to be there because it was so funny. Because we were just messing around. And we were laughing. Those are the nights that are going to be so fun and they're going to be things that you remember forever.
So just, I don't, we're not going to get into all our late night memories. Yeah. One day we'll do like a story time episode and we'll just, but it doesn't really align with what this episode is. Yeah, no, no. Me and Lissette have been feral before. Like we, we have, we have our nights still. Oh yeah, yeah. To this day. Oh, we have a lot of fun. Have fun. Make your own late night memories and they will be the things you remember forever. How do social circles change things?
I don't really know on this one. Yeah, I mean, your friends are just going to change throughout college the same way they change throughout life. It just kind of happens naturally. Yeah. I would say that's a good one. Should I be scared? We already talked about that. Wait. You wrote it twice? Yeah, I wrote that kind of three times. Oh, it's okay. One...
Two. Three. Okay. Just don't be scared. Obviously, easier said than done. But just keep reminding yourself of all the good that's going to come and how awesome it's going to be. And that should help you. But also, at the same time, allow yourself to feel it. Because dance with your own fear. Go out there and step out of your comfort zone. It's one of the most valuable things you can do in life is step out of your comfort zone. So...
That's that. There was a couple on joining a sorority. I wanted to join a sorority so bad when I was in high school. Like, totally saw myself as a sorority girl. My friends would be like, oh my gosh, you're going to be yadda yadda, whatever. And then when I didn't get into FSU and I had to go to the community college down the street, I couldn't rush, obviously. And I was going to maybe rush the next semester when I did go to FSU. But that never even happened because COVID happened. And life happened in the way that it was meant to happen. But...
Sororities can be great. I think you can meet really awesome people. I don't have... I don't have much on sororities. I wasn't in one, unless that was. Yeah, I... Sororities, it depends on the person. Some people are going to thrive in a sorority and some people aren't. Like, I...
I've always been the type of person that, I think I've talked about this before too, where I keep a small but very close circle. Like, I don't have just 50 friends that are like slight friends. No, I have like 5 to 10 friends, but they are like my best friends and I have trust them and everything. That's just how I roll. And?
But then there's other people who thrive on socializing and meeting all these people. Yeah, and meeting all the people they possibly can and just they thrive that way. So I think it depends what type of person you are. I had a great time when I was in it, but then I think the reason I did is because one of my best friends was also in the sorority and then she ended up graduating a year early. So then once she left, I felt kind of lost because I'm also a person who's...
I hate to admit it, but I'm very dependent on friends sometimes. So I kind of just depended on her and she was my safety belt throughout. So then once she left, I was like, ah, well, now what? I mean, I still knew people. I was still friends with people, but I never had that one person anymore because when I had her, I didn't care to try to develop other friendships because I had her. Like, I had my person. I didn't care to have a million others. So...
I ended up dropping, but not under any, like, bad terms or anything. It just wasn't benefiting me anymore. I wasn't participating in anything. I was only going to the mandatory events. And then I dread that because I'm like, oh, why am I doing this? Why am I paying for this? So... Yeah, it just got expensive and just unnecessary. But, like, that's... It just depends on what type of person you are. It's up to who you are. I will say, if you do join a sorority, please stay true to yourself. Like, there's so much talk, you know, people can be so fake in sororities. Yeah.
Like, be true to who you are and there's probably gonna be mean people and shitty people who comment your life because that's bound to happen. But don't let people walk all over you and make sure you continue to be a good person and you don't become one of the mean girls because that's important. Very important. And yeah, since I wasn't in one, I guess that's all I really have to say on it. But we kind of went through all the main questions. There's one about expectations versus reality, but I feel like we kind of covered all that.
Don't set any expectations. I say just go into it and let it happen and do your best to appreciate every step of the way, even the parts that suck and the hard parts because it's all part of it. You're supposed to go through all of it. Everything can't be perfect, you know? But it's also going to be awesome and it's going to be exciting and you're going to make memories that are going to last your whole entire lifetime and friends that are going to be in your life for your whole entire life. So...
Yeah. I think that's really what I have on college. Yeah, me too. It's a different experience for everyone. Yeah. That's about it. But I hope that we, you know, had at least some one thing valuable for you to take away from this little chat. And, yeah. You'll go to college and you'll figure out what kind of person you are in college. Maybe you're a Lexi. Maybe you're a Lissette. Yeah. Two opposite sides of the spectrum, but they both worked out and they're both still best friends. Boom. High five. Boom. Ooh, that's a good one. Um...
Anyways, yeah, that's all I got. I will talk to you guys next Monday, and I think that next week's episode will be with Anna, for sure, and maybe our moms, too, while we're on the road trip. I don't know yet, but there's also one that I want to record on my own. I forget what it is, but I wrote it down. So, we'll see. I love you guys. I'm going to let you go. I hope you have the best day ever, and if you're stressed about college, don't be stressed. Just take a few deep breaths. It's going to figure itself out. And I love you. Lissette?
Sorry if I was screaming in your ear. Lexi made me talk really loudly. And I feel like I was screaming. She wasn't screaming. We're all screaming. We love you. Love you. Love you. Bye. Bye.