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Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I have been wanting to do an episode on advice for a while, and I really feel like talking right now. I went to therapy today. I've been having a really good day, so I feel like this is a good time to do an episode on advice. I don't know how to explain it. When I'm in a good headspace, I think that my advice is a lot better than when I'm not. But also, when I'm in a good headspace, my advice is very optimistic, super...
I don't know. We're going to find out. I haven't even looked at what the questions are. Or not questions. Or what people ask for advice on. I literally don't have an outline or anything for this week. I just put on my Instagram story. What do you guys want to talk about? What do you need advice on? And then now here we are. Basically...
Quick little life update. I have been feeling really good. I was in New York City with my aunt and my grandma and my mom, and it was really, it was fun. It was also just like an emotionally draining weekend for reasons that obviously I'm not going to get into. It just was a lot. So it took me a couple days to get back to feeling like myself. When I got home, I just felt a little bit off. I don't really know why.
I've been feeling better and I want to share with you quickly before I get into advice, like some of the things I did that have been making me feel better. Along with everything that happened this weekend, I also have just been feeling super icky about what I've been putting into my body because you guys know I can put it down. Like if you follow me on TikTok, you know that I love food and I will eat...
I'm never full. Like I don't, and I am also the biggest supporter of like eating what you want and eating for your soul, like not to look a certain way, but just to feel good. And that's what I do. And feeling good for me often includes, you know, grilled cheeses and like a lot of junk food and all that stuff is great in the moment, but it just kind of like added up really, really quick. And over time it started to, I don't know the phrase I'm looking for here. It built up inside of me for a long time and I started to feel like crap. I was breaking out.
Well, still am breaking out on like my face and places that I normally don't and on my back and feeling extra puffy and just feeling bloated all the time, but not in like a comfortable way, not like a bloated because I just ate a bunch, but taking like one bite of food and like my stomach is rock hard kind of thing. So I've just been feeling like that. Oh, and the biggest thing is I just was so low energy. Like I would go to bed, I would get full night's sleep and wake up and just be so tired and struggle to get out of bed. And I'm like,
Okay, something's off. You know, I don't usually feel like this. I'm a very happy, energetic, ready to wake up in the morning kind of person. I don't know what's been going on with me the past couple of months. And I was watching this TikTok and I want to do a whole episode on this. I'm not going to get too into it right now. Watching this TikTok that was basically talking about how if you want to heal things that are happening to you on the outside, you need to start looking in and figuring out what's going on on the inside. And
With all the traveling and stuff I've been doing, I have not prioritized what I'm putting into my body and what I'm doing with my body. So the past couple days, I went grocery shopping. I'm home for a week. I leave for Hawaii in a week. But I was like, okay, I have a week to sit down, to sit still, to organize myself, to not eat out, to save some money, to prep some veggies. And it's been so fun. It's been my little...
hobby of the week I guess is to just cook vegetables and eat vegetables and and just like put greens into my body and good things and do a morning routine and drink my greens and You guys get the point. I don't need to go all the way into it right now But that has been the little thing in my life lately that has been bringing me so much joy And I guess it's my reminder to you to number one pay attention to what you're putting in your body It might be affecting the way that you're feeling on the outside um
And who knows? It just never hurts to add more greenery into your body because it's good for you and it fuels you and I don't know, it's been fun. And also your reminder to find your little thing that's going to bring you joy this week. I don't know what it is you have going on in your life. All of our lives are busy and hectic and crazy and everyone's situations are different and everyone's feelings and things are valid.
So find something that works for you that brings you joy and focus on that and prioritize that and take care of yourself because you deserve to feel good. And yeah, that's what I got on that. Let's go ahead and get into this advice. I'm also drinking a Celsius right now.
Because the day that I'm recording this is literally the most important day ever. It's freaking Taylor Swift's album day. She's coming out with Midnights. And I've been looking forward to this since the day she announced it. I've like had a literal countdown on my phone. And I am so excited. But anyways, she posted on her TikTok that there's a surprise at 3 a.m. I'm like, 3 a.m.?
Why are you going to make me stay up until 3 a.m.? Because I'm convinced that she's going to announce her tour and it's going to sell out immediately. So I have to get tickets at 3 a.m. I don't even know who I'm going with. I just know that I'm buying two front row tickets and that is my Christmas and birthday present to myself because I don't think you guys understand how much I love Taylor. But I'm sure some of you do because we all love her. Moving on. Let's go ahead and just kind of get into this. I'm going to scroll through here. I'm going to pick the first one that stands out and we're just going to kind of talk about it.
Okay, there's actually a lot about friendship. Just in the first screenshot, there's a bunch about friendship. How to leave a toxic friendship when you have to see them every day. Getting rid of friends that affect your mental health. What to do about a tough friendship. One just says friends. Making friends. Okay, let's talk about how to slowly dismiss yourself from a friendship that's no longer helping you grow.
I was talking to my therapist about this today, not in a friend scale. We weren't even talking about friends at all, but it was a very cool reminder that I think relates a lot to this. She was explaining to me that some things are healthier from a distance, and sometimes you have to...
what you had with someone and understand that it might not be that way anymore. Like people grow apart, people grow differently and it's a really hard pill to swallow. It's something that no one really wants to experience. Like there's obviously many different situations here, but if we're talking about a friendship where you've just grown apart and it's not healthy for you anymore, love each other from a distance, you know, send each other pictures every time you think of each other and like bond over things that you still do have in common and like,
Just do what you can to focus on what still works for you guys and what you have in common instead of trying to force a friendship over something that you guys can't bond over anymore, if that makes any sense at all.
Just be there for each other from a distance. And I've had a lot of friendships in my life where I've had to do this. And it never really feels good. It's never really ideal. And sometimes it was one of those things where I put the distance there on purpose because I knew that it would be healthier and I needed it. And there have been other times where I have physically moved far away from people who I used to be extremely close with and spend every day with. And that's just as hard. You just have to...
Figure out a balance and figure out where it works for you, but take your time to figure it out and now if we're talking about Leaving a toxic friendship like someone is making you feel like excuse my language shit about yourself I know that those can be hard to leave I've had a couple of those in my lifetime and it never really gets easier because you've built this friendship with someone and you really like them and you want to be close with them and you want to stay friends with them, but they literally make you hate yourself and
It's not ideal and it doesn't feel good and that's another thing where I think to start off you need to really evaluate what are you gaining from this friendship? Are you gaining anything that makes you feel good? If you're not, step away. Make some distance, create some distance and slowly but surely you will realize that you're going to be okay on your own and you don't need this person because in reality they're doing nothing but drain you and
That is one of the harder pills to swallow because I know that it's tough. I know that we think we give a lot of times. This is what happens to me. At least I give a lot of people the benefit of the doubt. You know, if someone's hurting me, I will first be like, okay, well they're hurting themselves. It's okay. Like I am going to sympathize with them. I'm not going to take this personally. And then that happens, you know, over and over and over again. And all of a sudden you're like,
dude okay I know that you're hurting but you shouldn't be projecting on me for months and months at a time and I shouldn't have to feel like shit because you feel like shit and it's hard to navigate it's like you want to be there for that person but that the thing is that person has to be willing to heal themselves and to fix themselves and you can't sit there it's not fair to you to sit there and be there punching back you don't need to hurt because they are hurting
You need to step away. You need to give yourself distance to grow apart because that's when they'll blossom. That's when they'll find themselves again. And hopefully when the time is right, you guys will cross paths again. If someone is meant to be in your life, they're going to be in your life. And there's chances that there might be phases of life where you're not together. I mean, that's okay, but that's my, that's my take on it. I don't know. I just kind of really started thinking about friendship. Friendship is such a crazy, hard to grasp concept. It's,
It's scary, especially as we get older. And I was thinking about this with Lissette, for example. Obviously, her and I have two very different life paths. She's going to be an accountant, and I have no idea what the F I'm doing with my life, but I'm trying to make it work. And I constantly think about if she gets a job and she moves far away, I don't know how I'll function without her being at my house every single day. She's my best friend in the whole wide world. And when I moved to Hawaii, we didn't have struggles. We didn't fight. She's basically like my long-distance boyfriend, but...
It was so much harder for us to communicate and I started thinking about the future and it's just scary. Like I don't want to have to be like that for, you know, our whole lives. Like I hope we settle down in the same place, but it's one of those things where I just have to trust that God or Miss Universe, whoever it may be watching over me and creating my path. I have to trust that they, they've got it all figured out and that everything is going to happen for a reason. And also I don't need to stress about the future, but yeah,
I've noticed in a lot of my other friendships too that like my best friends from high school, I don't see them anymore. We talk all the time, but we don't see each other, you know? We stay kept up with one another on our private stories, but for the most part, you just kind of wonder. I'm like, oh my gosh, will I ever? Okay, I'm getting too into it. It's such a weird concept that I'm handling. Also, I was thinking about all my friends in Hawaii. I'm like, am I ever going to see you guys again? Or was that just like...
that was one year of my life and I'm never gonna know those people again, never gonna talk to those people again. It's crazy. And one of my friends from Hawaii, I was talking to him for a little while, like he, we ended up drifting apart, whatever. He has a girlfriend now. I don't really talk to him at all. And it's just crazy. Like you go from talking to someone 24 seven about like every detail of your life and knowing each other so well and talking about your dreams and your goals and your future to
And then all of a sudden you just don't ever speak again. Like, it's so crazy to me. But it's one of those things where you just got to understand that some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. And it all works out. This episode of the Moments podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp.com.
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Next one I see not feeling lonely without male attention. Give yourself that attention Male validation is the stupidest crap of all time It has been something that we are conditioned by society to believe that people need to compliment us to feel good about ourselves I've been there. I've been in that phase of my life. Don't get me wrong I still am when I don't like, you know, I have I'm like I have like a little situation ship with you know, there's what am I saying?
When the boys that usually compliment me don't compliment me, I get so hard on myself. I'm like, oh my God, I must look like shit. Like I must look really ugly right now. And it's not even just that. It's like that, I don't know. But my only advice to that is
is to understand that you, I've said this 10 million times, have to be your own best friend. You have to hype yourself up. You have to fake it and look in the mirror and say, you know what? I look beautiful today. Even if you don't feel beautiful, okay? Sometimes we don't look as good as we do on other days. That's okay. It doesn't mean you're any less valuable or any less worthy. Like what you look like has nothing, nothing, what's the word? What's the word?
It doesn't matter because who you are on the inside is what matters and that's who that is what is going to attract people to you in any ways not feeling lonely without me that tension just be there for yourself hype yourself up understand that you are worthy and that's really all I got on that next one how to become a better version of yourself. Oh gosh, I love this one so much believe that we are constantly evolving and One of these another concept I've been thinking about lately. Um
I have these like, okay, let me figure out how I need to word this. I have these gummies and they're THC gummies, but they're not illegal. They're literally legal. You can buy them online and you don't have to have like a medical card or anything like they're, they have like the smallest, tiniest amount of THC. Anyways, I actually did an ad for them on the podcast, like way back in the day. They're called loomies. If you want to look into them.
I'm sure the code moments doesn't work anymore, but you could try. Anyways, I have a couple of them every single night, just because not every night, most nights, because it helps me sleep better. And the other day I ate a couple of them and I was going to bed and I was sitting there and I was thinking about how crazy it is that we never feel like we've done enough or we never feel successful. And one of the reasons for that is obviously besides society, you know,
making us feel like that, we are constantly comparing ourselves to a past version of us. So every single day, we feel like we have to one up what we did the day before or what we did the month before or what we did the school year before. And if that is something that we continue to do, we are only going to make ourselves feel worse and worse and worse. If we're constantly comparing, we've learned that if we compare ourselves to other people, we feel like crap. Yeah. So when we compare ourselves to ourself,
It's like this whole different level of feeling like you're never good enough. So that was a whole little moment that I had. I was sitting there in bed. I'm staring at the ceiling. I'm like, oh my gosh, that makes so much sense. So I hope the way I worded it made sense, but it made sense in my head. And I was going down a spiral of just thinking about everything. So what I say to that is how to become a better version of yourself is to one, allow yourself to be.
Becoming a better version of you, yes, you know, I'm always gonna say work on being a better version of you. There's always things we can do to improve as human beings. But when I say that, that doesn't mean discredit who you were in the past. That doesn't mean discredit who you are right now. Where you are is good. It's okay. And you should be proud of yourself. We can grow on that. We can evolve from that. But we don't have to be better than that, if that makes sense.
we are always going to be learning more and we are always going to be growing more and ever since I had that realization I've also had this realization that elders like old people yeah sometimes they have like really negative things to say and they are like very close-minded but also they've been through a lot of life and as I'm getting older and when I compare what I know what I knew at 15 to what I know now I'm like holy crap when I'm 70
I'm probably going to know a lot. I have a feeling I might be a lot wiser. And that's something super important to me. Not to think about the future or anything, but as this lifetime goes on, the number one thing I have to tell you and to tell in...
to remind myself is that you have to keep an open mind. It is one of the most valuable things in life is keeping an open mind and always being willing to learn from other people. I know it can be hard to do. I know some people, it's hard to talk to them, but there's always something to learn. Even from the shittiest people. Sorry, I guess I really seem to like that word today, but even from...
the worst people. We can learn exactly how we don't want to treat other people and we learn what hurts us so we know how not to hurt other people. Just be willing to learn and grow and evolve and don't take what someone else has done to hurt you and go do it to someone else. Turn it around. End the cycle. End the generational trauma or the trauma passing along. We don't need it. We can grow from it. We can heal from it. And yeah, I don't know how I got from Better Version of Yourself to that but
As far as simple tips to becoming a better version of yourself, drink your water. Have a little bit of a routine. It doesn't have to be perfect every day, but stretch your body. Move your body. Do some yoga. Yoga is powerful, not only for the body, but also for the mind. And stay active and inspire people and follow your purpose and follow your passion and never give up on what it is that you want to do and accomplish in your life because you will. And when you are doing things that...
you are passionate about without even realizing it, you're going to inspire people. And I think that's a good sign. And I think that that's you becoming a better version of yourself. So do all those things. Journal more. Talk to people. Listen to people instead of just waiting for your turn to talk. Like little things like that will help you evolve. And I still have that TED Talk list that I want to share with you guys. I'm making it a Google Doc and I'll post it on my Instagram story very soon. Okay, the next one.
Best ways to get motivated again. This sounds so hard because we are human. We're going to go through phases where we lack motivation. And something I've recently been doing some research on, I want to do a whole episode about this when I talk about like the nutrition and stuff too, is...
Cycle syncing. Like it talks about all the different cycles of your period or whatever different phases of your cycle. I don't know. It talks about how certain phases of the month you're going to be extra motivated and certain phases you're going to be super lethargic. And it's cool to sync up your schedule to your cycle. I'm like, that's pretty interesting. And the reason I say that is because I...
I've been having a really hard time figuring out why some days I'm so motivated and some days I'm just not. Like nothing could change in my life. And one day I'll wake up ready to take on the world. Like you could throw me on a TED Talk stage and I would have so many things to say. And other days, again, nothing has to change. I'll wake up and be like, I'm not getting the F out of bed. Like I'm staying in bed. I don't want to do anything. I have no drive. So it's one of those things to just kind of gently take
motivate yourself again. Like, be patient. If you're not motivated, give yourself grace. You know, there's other things that you can work on that are going to evolve... a glitch, going to evolve you, going to make you feel better, and...
You don't necessarily need to be so motivated to do that. Sorry, I looked outside and I got a little bit distracted. But just give yourself grace and encourage yourself. You are not going to motivate yourself by being an asshole to yourself. I've tried this before. It works sometimes, but long term, it's just going to make you constantly angry at yourself. And when you're constantly angry at yourself, you are going to be angry towards other people. Just saying. I've learned that one the hard way. I was talking to my therapist about this today too.
What were we saying? Basically, you have to treat yourself with compassion. You have to be kind to yourself because, yeah, you just do. And also, you don't need to set expectations for yourself because if you set a lot of expectations for yourself, there is a strong chance you're going to be disappointed because we're human. And sometimes we don't meet our own expectations. Like the expectations I've set for myself are so absurdly impossible that
Obviously, you guys know I always say nothing's impossible, but I will write on my to-do list things that there physically isn't enough time in the day to do. I could not take one break and I wouldn't get it all done. So when I set those super high expectations for myself, I am disappointed every time I go to bed and that to-do list is not complete, even though there was no way that I could have gotten it done, even if I stayed up the whole entire night and didn't go on my phone one time. Don't set such high expectations for yourself. Just be proud of yourself and...
When you do life that way, you're even more motivated. And anyways, I'm getting on a tangent. We're going to move on. I've literally only gone over three boxes and it's been 20 minutes. That's crazy. Okay, next one. This one says relationships or lack thereof. I talked about boys a little bit, but I am a huge believer of being single. And maybe that's just because I am single and I can't get a boyfriend, but...
That to be said, I also have had opportunities in my life to date people. Really awesome people. I mean, I have had some really freaking great guys in my life who would like do anything for me and inspire me and are super great and awesome and I could hype them up all day. Right now I'm at a point in my life where I know that getting myself into a relationship...
is something that is going to take some emotional strength and it is going to take up my time. It is going to weigh on me. And obviously, you know, people say, well, when it's the right person, it doesn't matter. Those things don't matter. I know that and I get that, but I know that this person could be the right person. And the reason I'm not getting myself into a relationship is simply because I don't want to ruin it.
I don't know how to explain what I'm saying, but really I'm at a point in my life where I am so happy and I am so confident and I am working so hard every day to make my dreams reality. I don't want to take the time to...
be emotionally responsible for someone else. And I know that being in a relationship doesn't mean you're emotionally responsible for anyone else, but to me it does because when I do get in a relationship, I want to be in it 100%. I want to be my person's rock. I want to be able to talk to them at all times a day, be there to support them through every single thing that they do, and I'm at a point in my life where I can do that. I'm on the move. I'm traveling. When I'm home, I'm literally just working. I don't take a break. And
I'm just at a point where I'm prioritizing me. I am figuring out who I want to be. I am making my dreams reality right now. And once I do that, I feel like I'll be ready for a relationship. And everyone has a different opinion on this. Like this is just my personal, from the bottom of my heart, this is me explaining to you why I don't want a relationship and why I think it is so okay to not be in a relationship. Whether it's you don't want to be in one, whether the right person hasn't come into your life.
whether boys treat you like shit. Like I've been through all of those different stages and at every stage it's okay because you know what? You still have you. You don't need anyone else in this life except you. I mean, obviously, you know, you should have friends and people who support you and, but getting down to the nitty gritty, if you got you, you'll be okay. And I do believe that when the time is right, things will happen. Things will happen as they're meant to happen. And if that's not right now, and you know, in your heart, that's not right now,
That's fine. I promise. And if you think in your heart, it is right now. I want a boyfriend right now. And God's not giving you one? Well, it's a sign. My dad works in B2B marketing. He came by my school for career day and said he was a big ROAS man. Then he told everyone how much he loved calculating his return on ad spend.
You know? So that's what I got on relationships. I...
um, some people oh, there's actually a bunch about relationships staying single Why is it hard kind of just went into that? I know it can be hard But that's where you have to come into play and make yourself your own bff and your and your hype man and keep yourself busy I think that that's the reason I literally don't think about relationships is because I keep myself so so so busy And I just don't have time, you know um
Okay, struggling with the idea of moving out of my hometown and across the country. So obviously this is a very specific one, but I think that this can be valuable to anyone who is moving, going to college, moving away from home, taking a leap and doing something that is a little bit scary. Number one, I'm so proud of you. Number two, it's going to be hard. It's not going to be easy, but it's also going to be the most beautiful and empowering experience
that you're ever going to take in your life. And moving somewhere far is a different experience for everyone. I first moved away from home when I went to college. I got super depressed, super homesick, and not necessarily because I was away from home, but it was just the place that I was in wasn't healthy for me. And I moved home and then, you know, decided to move across the country to an island in Hawaii. And you guys know Hawaii.
I've told you time and time again that that place brought me a little bit of pain. It brought me not a little bit. It brought me a lot of hurt and I was in a really dark place, but at the same time brought me some of the most incredible friendships, the most incredible opportunities and experiences. And I look back on that move and that phase of my life and I'm so proud of myself for doing it. And I'm like, girl, I know you hurt, but I don't feel that pain anymore.
I've moved on and now when I think back to it, I just think of like the really good memories and I don't really need to get into all of that. But basically what I'm telling you is that you're going to learn a lot when you move and it's going to be hard. You might get a little bit homesick. I'm not going to sit here and like lie to you. Like I'm not going to sugarcoat it. It's not easy, but it's valuable and it's fun and it's incredible and it's great. That's like, that's what I got to say. It's freaking great. And yeah,
it's going to be worth it and you're going to be able to look back on this time of your life and be so proud of yourself for taking a leap like that and doing something crazy like that and I'm proud of you and that's what I'm going to leave it at I'm moving I'm moving down what do we got next advice on making your dreams happen uh not to be a delusional optimist but you have to speak like they've already come true and you have to talk about them like they've already happened I will say this
while I'm in the grave. You have to speak things into existence. You have to manifest. I actually, when I was in New York City, we went to see the MJ, the musical. It was, if you live anywhere near the city, it was the best Broadway show I've ever seen in my life. Like so good. I know Michael Jackson had like some weird stuff going down before he died. Like, I don't know. I don't know too much about him, but besides I love his music.
Basically the musical told his whole story. And before he wrote one of his songs, like he was being interviewed and Michael was just talking about how he already wrote, wrote his Grammy speech, hadn't won a Grammy or anything. And he ended up winning however many Grammys for that one song or something.
And it just was a reminder to me. It was like confirmation that you have to speak things into existence. And when you do it, it is powerful. And I am telling you, I pinky promise you, it works. Like everything that I've written down in my journal saying that I am going to accomplish, whether it's taken a year or two years or it still hasn't happened, it's going to happen.
it has, it has happened for me. Like I manifested, I would get a van. Yeah. The van broke down the day I got it, but I got a van and I learned so many lessons from the van. And not only did the van break down and I lose a lot of my savings, but the van also brought me the best opportunity in my life. And it brought me to the agency that I'm signed with right now. And the van also brought me my podcast recording studio while I was living home. It was the place I could escape to go be by myself and watch my Ted talks and
and everything happens for a reason. And everything that you think of and that you speak and that you write down will become your reality. And that is why it is so important to focus on your mindset. Pay attention to the thoughts that are going through your mind because if they are not positive and if they are not encouraging...
then I promise you, you're not going to feel good and great things aren't going to happen. But if you can change those thoughts into empowering, valuable, really awesome things, really awesome, empowering, and valuable things are going to happen in your life. You have more power than you realize. So use it for good. Don't use it to destroy yourself.
All that being said, I know that there are times I'm speaking from a place where I'm not in a funk right now. Like I feel good. I feel happy. I feel like a nine out of 10. The times that I'm feeling like a two out of 10, it would be a straight up lie for me to say all these things to you because it's hard to be in control of happy thoughts when you feel like a two out of 10. I know it's hard.
So when you are at that state, I just don't know if you're listening. There's probably everyone who's listening. Some of you guys might be at a 1 out of 10 and some of you guys might be at a 10 out of 10. But all I'm going to tell you right now is to just keep telling yourself that it's going to get better and that it's going to pass because then it will. You don't know when, but it will. Moving on. I don't even know like where that came from. I have no idea what we were talking about before. But a lot of these kind of are repetitive. Okay. Okay.
Finding your passion. I'll touch on this one really quickly. Never be afraid to keep trying new things. Like constantly try new things. And I'm someone who... I have one passion that sticks with me like from the bottom of my heart. Just to... I've been saying from the bottom of my heart a lot lately. I don't know where it came from, but...
Rooted inside of me like glued to me. My number one passion is to inspire people to live a life that they dream of and to never give up on their dreams and really it's just to inspire people and to help people feel better. That is the passion that has stood through everything in my life, but I have tons of side passions. I love them all. I love photography. I love clothes. I love collecting things. I love traveling like there are so many things that I love.
And I consider them all to be little passion projects. And that being said, sometimes I fall out of a passion. And sometimes I find new passions. And the only way to continue to find new passions is to try new things and to not be afraid to try new things. And to keep an open mind.
And understand that you're going to find more things that you like. You don't have to be limited at all. You can love everything. You can have 10 million different passions. Just do what makes you feel good. Moving on to the next one, academic validation.
You're talking to the wrong girl, but also the right girl. Actually, I think I could touch on this a little bit. And don't take my advice like I am some genius and I have it all figured out because I'm not. I have nothing figured out. I am a mess sometimes. Here's how I feel. I grew up in a household where I was in the gifted program. I was in the honors program. I was taking AP classes. I
had to be a scholar like if i didn't come home with a's and b's i was done and i know there's people who obviously same situation but they have to come home with all a's well that being said i came home with a c my freshman year of high school i was done like grounded my parents were so mad at me it was my freshman year of high school i didn't know how high school worked it was a big deal it was hard it was stressful i also don't do my work i also had undiagnosed adhd at the time anyways
I got my grades up in high school, took all my AP classes, went to college. Community college. First of all, that was the biggest gap that I had to cross. Like, I didn't get into university. And I know that this varies from town to town, but where I live in Florida and the school that I went to, everyone got into really good colleges. Like, community college was frowned upon. And I know that that's the case for a lot of people, but community college is literally the same shit as university. I don't.
basically had the same professors that my friends had at university. So first of all, if that's a situation that you're facing, don't stress it. People get over it. People literally don't care. They just love to figure out how to be better than people. It's something very common with us humans. They just want to one-up everyone. Like, I don't know why we're all so driven to be competitive like that. Anyways, back to academic validation. I went to community college. I
I had a really hard time telling people that I went to community college. Even when I first started doing TikTok and first started talking about the podcast, like I'll just say I went to FSU. My freshman year of college, I went to FSU because it's easier and because I didn't want people to think I was like some stupid idiot because I knew I wasn't, but I also know that the way the world is, like people just love to make assumptions. And I think I'm a very smart girl. You know, sometimes I lack school smarts. Sometimes I lack a little common sense because I'm human, but for the most part,
I am confidently smart and I know that my test scores don't always relate with that. Like they don't correlate, they don't line up very well. But grades aren't everything, okay? You are going to learn more in your real life experiences than you are going to learn in your class.
I can pinky promise you that. Obviously not when it comes to, like, if you're, like, doing nursing degree or stuff like that. But real life things and how to be a good human and how to be a human and how to be an adult, you're going to learn a lot of those things in the real world. Not from your school. Not from your...
I'm literally glitching. Not from your school. So just trust me and obviously do your best if you're in school. And if you're in school, work hard. It's worth it to get your degree. Like I'm speaking from someone who I get really down on myself because I didn't finish college sometimes. And
I know that that's okay and I know that what I'm doing is absolutely incredible and I know that I am studying more than I would be if I were taking classes. Like, I'm watching TED Talks, I'm taking notes, I'm reading studies on psychology, doing more work than I was doing in college. But I just tell myself I should have gotten my degree because that's what other people want me to do. And that's the only way that I feel validated and appreciated.
I have to remind myself that that's not the case and that you just have to be confident in who you are and what you're doing and that your grades don't really matter. And if you dropped out of school, it's okay because you're going to learn just as many things. Clearly, as I'm giving advice on that, I am recognizing that I still struggle with academic validation, but it is what it is. We're all working and healing and growing and we're just making it happen. Okay.
I'm gonna pick one more and then I'm realizing now that it's already been 36 minutes and I want to go to yoga at 6:45 so I'm gonna speed this up but I'm looking I'm looking last one I'm gonna do this a two-part advice thing because I want to do a lot more of these when life doesn't go according to plan how do you tell yourself it's gonna be okay you literally lie to yourself
That's how you do it. That's how I do it, at least. When I bought that van, I'm not kidding you, it wasn't a cheap van. Like, it wasn't like a couple grand. It was a lot. A lot, a lot.
that I did not really have at the time. But I was like, God sent me this van. I've manifested it. I wrote it in my journal. I was ready to spend all my money on it. And since it was my own money, my parents couldn't really stop me. They both suggested that maybe it wasn't a good idea. Maybe I should do some research on the van that I was buying. Anyways, I did not agree with that. So I bought the van. I dropped the check. I spent my savings and the van broke down the next day.
I had to sit there after that van broke down, look myself in the eyes and say, Lexi, it all happens for a reason. Do you know how hard that was to do? Like I was out like a lot, a lot of money. I'm not talking, I'm not going to say numbers on here, but like money I didn't have, it was gone. And I was like looking in the mirror saying, it's okay. Everything happens for a reason. Something's going to come of this. For months I had to do that and lie to myself that it was all going to work out.
tell myself and remind myself that it's part of the path, it's part of the journey, and it finally paid off. It finally paid off. After months of having to fake it until I made it, I started to understand the reasons of why it happened. And I started to understand all the lessons that I learned, all the reflection that I did in the van, all the emotional attachment that I had to that van, and how valuable it really was. And those things are going to take time. But you have to just keep telling yourself...
Take control of your mindset because 90% of life is how you make meaning of it. 10% is what actually happens. So your life can be a total shit show, but if you're making proper meaning of what's going on around you, it's not going to feel like it is. It is going to feel like it has value and it's worthy and that's what's important. I think that's all I got for now, but I love you guys and I will do more episodes on advice. If you guys want to DM the Moments Pod,
With things that you need advice on. Whether they're really specific stories. Whatever the case may be. Please send them there. And I will do this again next week. But I freaking love you guys. And I'm so grateful for everything that you're doing. And everything that you're becoming. And I hope you know that. Because you're freaking awesome.
And I really think that you guys are my best friends. And Moments Collection 2 comes out 11-11. I've been working so hard to get it all ready. I'm going back to Hawaii. I'm going to shoot it. It's going to be epic. Like, I can't wait to share this stuff with you guys and take everything to the next level. But I don't know what I would do without you. Thank you guys for everything. Literally everything. I love you. I will talk to you next Monday. Bye.