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Girl, real talk. This whole it's a new year, time to reinvent myself trash is not the vibe for 2024. You can find someone who loves you for you as you are. You don't need to read a stack of self-help books, only eat sad salads or like start meditating at 5 a.m. to be ready for dating. So yeah, my advice is to download Bumble and find someone who embraces you the way you are right now. Let me know how it goes.
Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. One thing that I would like to do more and definitely going to start incorporating more of is reading your journal entries because, yes, you know, I can sit here and tell you everything that I'm going through and I'm feeling, but I'm only one person, and you might be able to relate to the things that I'm going through, but I'm not going to do that.
There's a whole lot of us in this world. And another thing that's really important to me is knowing that this is our own little community. This is our safe place. And I have a section on my website where you guys can go in and you can
Put in your own journal. It's basically a diary. So if you want to do that, go to themomentspod.com and click diary. And you can just journal whenever you want. It's a place for you to dump your mind. And if you're not good with putting a pen on paper and journaling on paper or you want it to just feel like you're releasing it, I recommend doing it. I'm not even going to lie to you. There's been times I've went and dumped in my own diary section just because I
I want to physically feel that I'm releasing something and letting it go and sending it away instead of keeping it in my own hands, you know? So what I want to do for this episode is I asked on my Instagram story for you to write some journal entries about either things going on in your life that are really beautiful. That was like the main goal. I want a lot of these journal entries to be things that are just...
Going well in your life to remind us all to appreciate everything that we have going on. And I know that this isn't really a podcast episode where maybe it's not straight up advice or a certain topic, but I still recommend listening just to one, feel less alone and whatever it is that you're feeling you're going through and two, to just to recognize how lucky we are and how we're doing.
What am I saying? I got distracted. And how to be aware of the beauty in our own lives. And sometimes the other things, the people, what? I'm so sorry. I'm having a glitch problem today. To notice what other people are grateful in their lives and to apply it to your own life and realize, oh, maybe I could be grateful for that. Or, oh, I could stop and smell the flowers every once in a while. Actually, really random funny story. I was at the beach the other day.
And I physically stopped to smell the flowers and take some pictures of them. And as I was doing that, a full-on snake went across my foot. And I realized I'm not going to stop and smell the flowers in the middle of a really, really scary field. Moving on. I'm just going to read these journal entries. I'm not going to...
Pre-read them. I'm just going to read them as they came into the email and these are all anonymous. If you hear yours in here, don't worry. No one knows it came from you. But just know that if you do, you're probably helping someone go through something or feel something that they needed to feel. So let's just get into it. And please stick around for this episode. You never know what you might be able to take away from it or what you might learn from it. I just think it's a really valuable way for us all to feel connected to one another even though we can't all be together at all times. First one I have.
My old best friend and I drifted apart. The worst part is I don't know why, and I also don't know why she turned so evil and bitter about me as a person. I sit and I look at our Snapchat memories, and I feel moved to tears over the loss that I'm facing.
Then again, I'm slowly starting to realize that jealousy might have taken over the friendship. A lot of people around me told me the same thing, and even my mom always had a bad feeling about her. I ignored them all because I felt that she was truly a good friend to me, and maybe she was, but she isn't anymore. I hope she has fun with her new friends, but I'm moving on. I found a good group of girls recently that I'm connecting with more this year, and I'm going to leave her toxicity manipulation from the past, moving into a new era of me with new friends, new thoughts, and of course more time taking care of myself.
I want to say something on that one just because I want you to know that people are going to come in and out of our lives and people are going to change sometimes for the worse but I want you to know that it's going to be for the better for you because there is a plan there's a reason for everything and like I always say even if you don't know the reason it's because you're in the happening and I really need to get that tattooed at some point but just know
You're moving on to bigger... Oh my gosh, I should just stick to reading journal entries today. You're moving on to bigger and better things and the right people are going to find their way into your life. And the person that you're drifting from might just be going through a sore patch in their own life. And a lot of it is just... What's the word I'm looking for? Projection. And it will pass. Good things are coming for you. And just remember that. Next one. I'm about to graduate high school.
and move on to a bigger, brighter future. Or at least that's what everyone keeps telling me. The truth is I have no idea what my future holds. I hate how society has made me feel like I need to have everything planned out when I just feel that's not realistic for most people. I really don't think a university is a good fit for me right now, but I don't want to disappoint those around me. I know my parents would support me no matter what, but I can't help but feel like I'm letting them down.
Doing an insert here because damn that hit the spot I just got goosebumps.
Continuing, I'm slowly learning that it's okay to take my time when making major life decisions. In the meantime, I think life has become even more beautiful to me. By slowing down and not stressing out as much, I can appreciate the things that I hadn't really noticed before. I'm going to cry at this next line. That was an insert. How my mom's eyes crinkle when she laughs, the way my dog sunbathes in the garden, the feeling of the wind in my hair. I think it's super important for people to remember that taking a breath outside and setting aside some time each day
Wow, that one gave me goosebumps. That one really, really, really hit the spot. Next I have... I'm so glad you're here. Thank you for being here. Continuing... It's something to be grateful for.
that I didn't get lost in the wrong paths in lives even after growing up seeing cousins and uncles die or go to jail or get involved with the wrong things just because they were lost. Sometimes I do feel lost but I have God that protects my mind from the bad thoughts and I got to grow up learning to use the internet in my favor and to look up people who truly inspire me. I have the strongest mom and dad that even when they are not together nothing ever lacked for me and my sister. I'm just a cool soul at least I believe I do and I'm just waiting to find my people and what I want to do with my life.
And that's beautiful. And you will find those people. And I want you to know that. What do I have next? I'm just scrolling through and reading here. Why my life is beautiful. If I'm being honest, I haven't been able to see the beauty in life. Let me try that again. Because clearly I can't speak or read or multitask today. But I'm human.
If I'm being honest, I haven't been able to see the beauty of life in quite some time. This year has been very hard, very lonely, and very, very uncertain. Everything that I thought would have happened by now hasn't, and everything that I planned for this year has fallen through. However, because of this, I've grown immensely and learned lessons that will stick with me for the rest of my life. One of those lessons being appreciate the beauty of life.
I think sometimes people get trapped in this ideology that we constantly have to be making the most of life, trying different things, opening new chapters. But I've learned that when you are constantly moving, you never have time to look back. You never get to appreciate the journey. And I've now come to realize that the beauty of life is not in the end destination, but the journey behind it.
My life is beautiful because I'm brave enough to take risks. My life is beautiful because I have friends who support me every step of the way. My life is beautiful because I'm healthy enough to run, bike, swim, surf, and call this...
Boom. I love that. Next.
My life is beautiful because of the amount of love that is shared in it. My dysfunctional family I find so beautiful. My batshit crazy friends I find so beautiful. All of the flaws of each person I meet, including myself, beautiful. My small hometown on the coast of Florida, always beautiful. My precious dogs and sister who are always so, so beautiful. I love everything listed and so much more. See, sometimes it's good to just sit down and think about what you have that's beautiful in your life. With those little constant reminders to ourselves,
Over time, it'll become the main thing that we're thinking about, not something that we have to force, you know? Next. "I believe my life is beautiful because everything always falls into place. I believe it's beautiful because every single little thing that you experience has meaning. It all makes sense and day by day you find out more about it. While you're working towards the reality of your future, that's the beauty of life. You can trust it and whatever it has in store for you, it will be what you need, what you deserve, and what's uniquely yours.
I believe that my life is beautiful because I'm with beautiful, inspiring people that make me smile every day because I get to see the sunrise, because I get to smell the flowers and put them in my room, because I can listen to music, because there's always something at the end of the day that you might not always notice, but it always whispers, good job. Keep on going. This is your moment and the future is in your hands.
Guys, these are so beautiful. If you have any ideas of ways that I can display these or share them, please let me know. I really want to go through and post some of these on the moment's Instagram, and I'm definitely going to. But anyways, let's continue. I believe that my life is beautiful mainly because my eyes open each morning. The beauty of my life comes from big things like going to church and small things like watching my plants grow. My life is beautiful because I've learned to appreciate the things and the people around me. Next. Hello.
I don't know exactly what to write here, but nobody ever understands where I'm coming from when I say that life is beautiful and precious. All I ever tell myself is YOLO. Insert, yeah, me too. But everyone around me is always so negative and never sees the beauty in the things like the sun and the sky. They always make jokes about harming themselves and even worse, I don't think they mean it, which I think is horrible because you should never joke about those things.
Because you never know how long you have left. So what I say is to live life to the fullest and take every opportunity it offers. I'm so thankful to have this mindset and outlook on life that I do. I know that I'm truly blessed and I'm thankful to grow up in this generation. Have a wonderful day and don't forget to smile. Okay, next. Oh, this one might make me cry. All I saw was one word and I'm already emotional. I'm sitting here...
Thinking about how thankful I am for my dad and how rarely I show it to him. Whenever I get mad or treat him badly, he doesn't get mad or angry. But when I think back on those situations, I believe I behaved in an unfair way and I want to say sorry, but I always feel it's too late. And then I feel bad for not treating him as a human being. He must hold so many feelings inside. I feel thankful for all the times he made me laugh, all his hugs and his smiles. I am thankful that I get to be thankful for him and all the great things he does.
He offers a lot and doesn't mind driving me somewhere or bringing people home, and he helps me make decisions, and he always wants the best for me. I don't want to take him for granted. That one hits me so hard because my dad is one of my best friends in the whole wide world, but him and I argue sometimes. Not so much now, but I'm the same way. I think back to the past for the times I was mean and I didn't say sorry and...
We can't do anything to change the past, but what we can do is work on those connections and relationships in the future and just continue to show your love and continue to make up for it every single day. As children, you know, we're not so kind to our parents, even though we really should be because we would physically be nothing without them. But as we get older, I think that should be a priority in all of our lives is to just appreciate our parents and show love to our parents and be grateful for them because they really are rock stars.
Next one I have is, I just wanted to share how excited I am for the month of June. The stress of school will be over. I'm going to the Arras tour and I'm going backpacking for a week. I'm so excited to be able to do these things with people that I love. So special. Just sit down and reflect sometimes on what you have coming up and what you have to look forward to because oftentimes when I do that, I feel a lot more peace about the moment that I'm in. Okay, next up I have, sorry,
I choked on my own air. Hi, Lexi. I hope you're having a great day. Thank you. Some things I'm grateful for recently and some things I think make my life extra beautiful are my cats, my beautiful garden, and my forest outside my window. The lake by my house, my friends, my new book, yoga. I'm grateful to have food on my plate at every mealtime since I know many of us don't. And I'm also so grateful for the fact that I've found peace in spending alone time with my thoughts as I've struggled...
I'm still struggling with general anxiety. Life can be tough, but I think it's important to reflect on all the blessings since so many of us are so privileged, you and me included. The biggest thing for me, as of now, that so many people take for granted of is that I can move my body, I can go on walks, I can swim in the ocean, run, lift, weights, do yoga, and even get out of bed without any pain.
I've had a back injury and a knee injury for the last two or three years, and being able to get up and work out or walk in nature or swim in the ocean has not been something I've been able to do without being in pain. Now that I'm finally free from my injuries, I can say that I'm no longer taking movement for granted, and I feel so blessed and grateful and happy every time I work out and spend time outside. I hope you're having a great day. That was really sweet, and that was a really, really good valid point that we should all pay attention to and focus on.
No matter what we have going on in our lives, each and every single one of us are privileged to be able to wake up every day and move our bodies. And when life gets heavy, sometimes helps to reflect back on those small things because for us, they may be small. But for a lot of people, it's something that they wish they could do. So don't let it slip. What do I have next?
Life can get so loud, busy, hectic, but these moments, common and ordinary, are when I feel as life is truly a beautiful thing. I rise with the sun to begin my day of chores, completely necessary and stressful, just as the bees do. I go about my day fulfilling the revision and homework and lessons and return to my haven, my hive once finished.
Okay, back to what I was saying.
Watch the steam from your tea in the morning. Laugh and dance by yourself. Feel proud and reward yourself when you complete your work. We are what makes life beautiful. It will not just become perfect one day. Dang, I really like that. I like that a lot. Next up I have, my life is beautiful because despite all of the sadness and how I've...
and how lost I've been feeling for a while now, I'm reminded every now and then that I'm not alone and life is worth living. Whether it's someone that I love showing their reciprocation of love by making me smile, a stranger's random compliment, the excited jumps of my dogs upon my arrival, the laughs of those I love, or even the sound of summer leaves blowing in the wind and being able to feel the cool breeze on my skin while squinting because the sun is so bright, but still being able to see that pretty pink little flower growing on the tree.
Every now and then, I'm reminded of the things I'd miss out on if I were to let go of this world. This one lifetime in this body with the narrative and the characters built around it solely for me. It really is the little things that make me want to stay. Yet I feel so consumed by the overwhelming feeling that I don't belong here. It's a constant cycle of me waiting for the next thing to remind me. And I want to stop needing reminders to want to keep living. I want to figure out how to do that on my own. I'm just struggling to figure it out.
I want you to know one that I'm so proud of you and that you are so belonging of being here and you have a really, really special heart and a really beautiful mind to be able to see each of these reminders that you're meant to be here. And I think that if you just continue to do so, it will become a second nature for you and I
I just want you to know that you're doing great and this too shall pass and you definitely, definitely, definitely are meant to be here because your little journal entry that I have just read has just changed the way that I see the world in many different ways. You're making a difference. Just continue to share that message, okay? I love you. Moving on to the next one. What do I got? What do I got? Okay.
sometimes it is so hard to see the good in my life i tend to get really down especially when school is hard or the weather is bad or if i have a fight with my parents for me finding moments throughout the day where i can notice beauty even in the small things helps me so much i love to smell the flowers whenever i see them i love to roll the window down in the car when i'm driving alone to appreciate the summer air while i still can
And she said that... Sorry, I have a hard time reading because I'm bad at reading words. She said that she made a rule for herself to always tell someone when she thinks something good about them. TBH, I think I saw that TikTok too.
I feel like sometimes it can be really awkward to talk to a stranger, and I've definitely felt that way before, but it is so precious to compliment people, especially when you don't know them. I try my best to follow that rule and always tell someone if I think their outfit is cute or their eyes are pretty or anything like that. Small things like that can really make someone's day. Anyways, that was kind of a ramble, but I hope everyone can find beauty in every little thing and give more compliments and spread more love. I absolutely love that, and I 110 million percent agree. The next one I have.
My life is beautiful because of the opportunities I'm gifted and blessed with. This is actually crazy to say for some people, but I'm forever grateful for the exams and tests I get to take. I get to show my knowledge that has been bestowed upon me by people trained in their fields, and I get to be a smarter and more educated person of society, and I am forever grateful.
You guys know I love knowledge, so that one hits for me because I do think that the privilege of learning is something very special in every sense, even though I know that taking tests sucks sometimes. It's really cool that we get to learn more every single day that we are alive. Next one.
I'm going to read a couple more. I recently had a realization that life is way too short to care. We can't spend our whole time here worrying about how others perceive us and if we look good enough, etc. There's so much more to life than that. I don't want to live stuck in a hole. Can I speak words?
Okay.
Okay, I'm going to read this last one and then I'm going to say a couple things and then I'm going to leave you to it. I'm going to give you a homework assignment to go write about why your life is beautiful.
Hey Lex, I believe it's the little things that make this life so beautiful. When you learn to appreciate everything you have, all the special moments and everything that is coming as well, you just feel so much happier. And if you are unhappy with something, you can create a more beautiful life. We have the power within us, which is also beautiful. Heck, there's so many things that are beautiful, but when you just zoom out and look around you, you're able to see everything a little bit clearer and just realize that this is life, man. You feel so free, euphoric, and genuinely happy.
And I think that feeling is one of the best feelings to experience. God has put us here to experience this world he has created, and I want to see as much of it as I possibly can. But he also made us in his image, which therefore makes us also incredibly beautiful. We are called to first be, then do. Anyways, not trying to make this a sermon, but just thought I'd add that in there. We all get caught up in so much stuff every day that we don't even realize none of this really matters. It's important to step back because life is not...
What? That's all I have on my mind. That's beautiful. I love that. I could read these for hours and hours and hours because they just helped me reflect so much as well.
But I don't want to take too much of your time. I just wanted this podcast episode to be your reminder to look at your own life and look at the little details in it and just learn to appreciate it. I know it's a hard thing to do, but it's a beautiful thing to do. And I'm very grateful for you. And they just started mowing the lawn in the front yard. So this timing could not have been any more perfect. I'm not sure if you can hear it, but please, after you listen to this,
Go in your notes app or go in a journal and write down the things that make your own personal life beautiful. And I mean down to the little details and down to the T. Doing that just made me feel a whole lot better. And I really hope that it did the same for you. And I love you. And I will talk to you next Monday. Thanks for listening to the Moments Podcast.