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Hello my beautiful people, welcome back to the moments podcast. I'm your host Lexi and today we're going to be talking about different ways that you can fill up your cup.
And I'm sure we've done this on another episode, like you guys know, for two and a half years now. We sometimes have to go over the same topics because life is a roller coaster. It's a cycle and sometimes it's not necessarily a roller coaster and it's more like a hamster wheel. And we face the same problems. We go through moments in our life that we're really...
poured into ourself, like locked in on our well-being and our mental health and our physical health and our brain health and our friendships and our relationships. There's times where all of that is going really well and times where without even recognizing it, before we even realize it, our cup is empty and we realize that we are
Literally pouring, trying to pour into other aspects of our life, whether that's our career, our friendships, our relationships from an empty cup. Because over time, this cup that was full, because we poured into it, once it got full, we stopped taking care of it. And then of course, like anything, it ran out of gas, it ran out of fuel, and now our cup is empty again. And having an empty cup doesn't always mean...
You're sad. I posted a TikTok about this kind of a little while ago, and I think it's like an early 20s kind of thing that I'm facing because I'm at a point where I'm really happy in my life. You might be really happy in your life. You might be surrounded by good people, good things, success in your career, valuable friendships.
lots of fun things going on, but you still feel kind of like you're missing something. And it might just be because your cup is empty and you haven't really been pouring into you so much. You've been pouring more into a lot of these external things. And like I said, a lot of times this happens without us realizing it. And I think that even if you're at a point where your cup does feel full, and let me explain to you how the two things might feel to the best of my ability. Having an empty cup, you kind of feel like you're
Well, running on empty, like you're out of gas, like you're out of stamina. You don't necessarily have the fuel to keep going. You don't have the desire. And of course, this is a spectrum. You know, it's a cup. It might be halfway full, might be three quarters of the way full, but a full cup, what that feels like, an overflowing cup feels like you are excited.
for every new day. And a lot of this and a lot of these things are mindset shifts, but a lot of the times we need to do physical things to get to the point where our mindset can shift. Hope that made sense. Probably didn't. 90% of the things that come out of my mouth don't make sense, but an overflowing cup feels like joy to exist. It feels like happiness. It feels like
confidence and excitement to be around people and desire to try new things, to meet new people, to socialize. It's really like completely opposite sides of the spectrum. And this is something that we're going to experience in our life is going through this cycle a million different times. So instead of just explaining what we're going to talk about, I'm going to tell you things that you guys said are ways to fill up your own cup.
So essentially these are just things to incorporate into your life where and when you can that are going to just make you feel better. Hopefully that's the goal. And some of them are very simple, very cliche, but as we know, the moments podcast is a beautiful place for that. It's a place of reminders of the same things because most of us need to hear them every week to apply them every week. It's the same way. If you're somebody who practices your faith and you read the Bible and
a chapter of it once in a year, throughout that whole year, your faith isn't going to grow stronger, your relationship with Jesus isn't going to grow stronger, it's going to stay exactly where it was. Right? So these are things we're going to do as often as possible where we can. And the first thing, very, very, very important and heavy emphasis on this, if you want your gas in your tank to last longer, you have to stop paying attention to other people's cups.
If you want your cup to be full, you cannot be peeking into everybody else's cup because listen to this. Everybody has a different beverage. You know, some people have half lemonade, half iced tea. Some people have matcha. Some people have coffee. I'm using like really cringy examples here, some might say. It's the truth. The same way we're all in a different chapter and we're all reading different books, we are all filling different cups. The things that fill your cup
might not be what fills somebody else's cup. And the things that are filling somebody else's cup, like you see somebody with this overflowing cup and you can feel their energy, you can see it in their aura, but they go out every night and drink every night. And when you do that, your cup is dry as a bone. It's empty. We all have different things that fill our cups. These are some of the overall ones that I think most people would agree fill up everyone's cup. And if these don't work for you, try a different one.
But stop comparing your cup to other people's cups. Stop comparing your life to other people's life. And by that, I think another way to really focus on filling your own cup is to
Let yourself be at a point where you have a healthy, healthy relationship with consuming other people's content. And I think we've touched on this. Not I think. I know we've touched on this pretty deeply in the last couple episodes. This is one I feel very strongly about because this is a major reason that my cup gets empty really quickly. I will get kind of obsessed with other people's success and
And I will always want to know like what they're doing next, what's their next move so much so that it takes away from, you know, what my own success could be my own projects, my own goals. And it's never in a jealousy kind of way, but it is very...
important to know that the more time you spend watching somebody else's success, the less you're going to be taking the time to pour into your own. That's not to say you can't watch your friends succeed. You can't follow influencers doing cool things. All of that we should do. We should support one another and encourage each other, but don't lose sight of what you want to do and who you want to be while trying to consume everybody else's things. You get me? Moving on.
Now, these are some more physical things that we can do to fill our cup. That one's more of a mental thing to take into account and I'll probably touch on it at another point in this episode. But walking, simple. You're going to hear me say a lot of these things and you're going to be like, okay, girl, we know that those are all really basic, probably. But were you thinking about it? There's a reason that you came to listen to this episode.
And maybe it's because you're not walking. I'm just kidding. But I think that walking is so important because not only are you being active and moving your body and always that is a good thing, whether it's a little movement, heavy movement, we'll get into movement levels in a second. Walking is the opportunity to be active and you have a choice while you walk to consume or to consume nothing. And I encourage one of two things. If your mind feels overwhelmed, if you are feeling depressed,
completely stuck and you can't organize your thoughts, I encourage you to go for a walk with no music. I encourage you to go connect with nature and be alone with your thoughts. Being alone with your thoughts is very important and very crucial to filling your own cup. You don't even know what's in your cup if you don't know what your thoughts are. So organize them, feel them, understand them, don't avoid them. Oftentimes when our thought processes are so overwhelmed and so
and connected and stuffed, we can't even move forward. We can't take steps in the right direction because we can't comprehend what we're thinking and we will do everything in our power to avoid figuring out those thoughts. So you will just keep running from them and running from them and running from them until they explode. So while you go for a walk to fill your cup,
Spend time alone with your thoughts if you feel very overwhelmed by them. If you are somebody who doesn't feel very overwhelmed by your thoughts, you have them all organized, you have your shit together, put on a podcast or listen to your favorite music. I notice...
That when my cup is starting to get empty, I kind of stop doing the little things that make me me. Like I stop listening to Taylor Swift on repeat. I stop listening to some of my favorite podcasts. And this isn't always a bad thing. A lot of the reason that I stopped listening to Taylor Swift on repeat and listening to my podcast is because I do...
So many things with my boyfriend or with friends that like when we are together, we're going to listen to music that we, you know, compromise on that we meet each other in the middle and we listen to different podcasts or we just talk. So it's not always a bad thing if you stop having as much alone time to do these things, but it is important that you always do your best to make time for them and to allow for them, even if you are in a new relationship or a new friendship is taking up your time or you're working a new job or whatever.
You just moved in with a new roommate. Don't lose sight of the little things that make you you, whether that's taking pictures or editing pictures or scrolling on Pinterest. Where was I? I just looked out the window and got distracted. Here we are. Walking is good. We're decompressing. We're getting some endorphins going. We're spending time alone with our thoughts or we're putting on a podcast or we're putting on music or we can do another form of working out. I notice...
How many people commented working out on this ways to fill your own cup? And it's very true. But working out, when I come to think about it first, I think like, okay, super serious, super sweaty, super intense. Working out doesn't have to look like that. We can do Pilates. We can do yoga. Working out can be just stretching. A lot of the times when my thoughts are heavy and my heart is heavy, it's because I haven't stretched and I haven't released energy.
all of this fluid and intenseness and emotions from my hips and my neck and my joints, we don't realize how much negative and dark emotions we hold in our hips and in our neck. And both of those things are things that get very stiff if you're somebody who works at a desk or is sitting a lot of the time, even if you're not. If you're not going out of your way to open your hips and stretch your hips, you're going to be storing some things there. So I encourage you, I'm not going to try to
Give you the breakdown of these yoga poses on here because it just it won't go over well But Google pigeon pose and Google lizard lunge and I want you to do both of these things if you think that you might be storing some negative Emotions in your hips and in your neck both of these will be very good for you But as far as working out goes yoga is a very powerful tool not only just like move your body physically but also to clear your mind mentally a little bit and get to know
Like we just said, your thoughts a little bit better. You can do HIIT workouts. You can get a little bit intense. If you're feeling anger inside of you, if you having this empty cup is making you feel anger, you need to get rid of that anger. You need to release it. There's many ways that you can do that, but sometimes it's fun to do that through working out.
Most of these things, honestly, guys, when I'm angry, working out isn't really my favorite thing to do and I don't know why. It's just my body does not release anger when I work out. If anything intensifies it, it's just how my body reacts to things. But for a lot of people, working out when you're angry is the most amazing way to release it. For me, I need to do very soft things when I'm angry. I need to get into my girly girl mode. I have to do my makeup, maybe look cute, maybe make a TikTok, whatever.
Essentially here, everything that I'm bringing into this, these are just all ways to spend more time with yourself. A few things I'll say include other people, but for the most part, the easiest way to fill your cup is to give yourself you time because a lot of the reason that our cup gets empty is because we pour so much into other people, sometimes physically, sometimes emotionally, whatever it may be, sometimes through calling people too much or texting people too much or spending too much time around others and
This brings up a whole other conversation of if you're not spending enough time alone, you should spend more time alone. But essentially here, best way to fill up your cup, spend time with yourself, be a friend to yourself. Yes.
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Read. A lot of people said they practice their faith or their religion or they pray or they read their Bible when they're feeling empty in their cup. And if you are somebody who's religious, you're a Christian too, this is something that I really like to do and it's not something that I started doing until recently because there was always parts of me that liked to believe I have all of the control and yes, God created me beautifully, wonderfully, all of that, but in my head, I'm not
I wouldn't actually believe that. I would just like kind of fake that I believed it. But the second that I actually opened my heart and my understanding to the fact that there was someone bigger than me and Jesus really did handpick me, hand create me and his hand carving my path, it brought a lot of ease to me. It helped with a lot of the comparison, a lot of this empty feeling. And it made me feel better.
less alone, even when I was alone. And every time I am feeling a little bit empty, the more I go back to Jesus and I talk to him in prayer and I evaluate my emotions and I give them to him, the better I feel. But this isn't something for everybody. This isn't me trying to push any of my faith onto you. But if you are somebody who is Christian and you're looking for ways to fill your own cup
Ask him to fill it for you and he will definitely help. The next one, somebody also commented like I put read. The reason I paused previously is because I put read Bible or books next to each other in my list of things. But they're two very different experiences. If you are somebody who likes to escape your world, sometimes reading books is a really great way to pour into your alone time without needing to read.
fully be alone. Like it's a very good in between point and reading books is fun because you get to go into this like alternate fantasy universe, but you're still just spending time with yourself. And it's a good thing to do. I definitely encourage it. I also encourage you to be outdoors.
You physically need sunshine to feel happiness and to feel fulfillment and to feel joy. Vitamin D3 is very, very important for us. And this is a vitamin that we receive from the sun. You can take it. There's supplements for it. And I'm sure they could definitely help your energy levels, but I'm not a scientist. I can't give you or a doctor, I can't give you these prescriptions, but vitamin
I do know nothing can supplement the actual sunshine as well as the sunshine can. So spend more time outside if your cup is feeling empty. Connecting with nature is a very beautiful and powerful thing because it kind of helps you realize how small you are and how big the world is. And those peaceful reminders will always help bring you some ease. You know, hearing the birds chirp and hearing them talk to each other and watching nature
the different branches on a tree grow or how one plant wraps and morphs into another or how the weeds grow from the grass and yet there's flowers. All of these little observations will help you realize the world doesn't necessarily revolve around you. And once we do that, our cup gets a little bit more full, you know? Next one: Stop waiting for other people to take care of you.
This is something that I notice. I used to be very independent. Not used to. Like, my parents have always helped me with little things like making my dentist appointments and stuff like that from obviously when I was younger, but even more recently. But aside from that, I've been pretty independent in the sense of I didn't really blame people if I wasn't doing things that I wanted to do. I wasn't blaming outside factors. I'm sure subconsciously I was sometimes, but...
It's really important for you to recognize that you need to be the one to take care of yourself. You know, you shouldn't be waiting for a man to do things for you or for a friend to do things for you or a partner to do things for you. You should do them for yourself because once you start doing that, you start to gain this confidence in yourself, this independence, and it feels powerful and it's very empowering and motivating. So don't wait for other people to take care of you. Just start taking care of yourself, okay?
Have an adequate sleep schedule. I promise your cup is going to stay empty if you are not properly getting your sleep and taking care of your sleep. I know some people wear an Apple Watch, tracks their sleep now, Oura Ring tracks your sleep. I love my Oura Ring and I haven't charged it in three months because I lost the charger, but...
I'm determined to find it because I miss wearing this thing. I loved tracking my sleep. It was so cool to see the nights that I wouldn't sleep well and the nights that I would and then be able to compare like what did I do in the days that my sleep was good? What did I do in the days that my sleep was bad? Sleep and our sleep schedule and how it affects us is one of those things that's very subconscious. Like we don't actually recognize the differences that it makes, but they are very, very, very large. If that makes sense, get good sleep.
I really, really encourage you to not go to bed at 3 a.m. And I don't say any of this with judgment because I just say this from experiences I've had because I used to go to bed at 3 a.m. and I would be like, no, no, no. Like, truly, that's when my brain functions the best. And yeah, it might be when I was the most creative, but it wasn't worth it for how I would feel the entire next day.
Like now I don't reach those hours of delusion anymore. And I think the delusion is what would bring me the creativity, which is kind of an interesting realization I'm having right now as I speak this. But yeah, I would get so creative because I was so exhausted. So now I don't necessarily have those moments anymore, but I do feel overall better every day because I go to bed a little bit earlier. Therefore I wake up earlier and I,
Then again, this is probably personal preference. I know for me that when I wake up earlier, my day feels longer and I feel more generally happy and productive. And when I do sleep in to any time past the very early morning of like 7.30 a.m.,
My whole day gets set back and that's probably something I could shift with my mindset. Like maybe your work schedule makes it so that you have to sleep in and go to bed super late. Just make sure you're getting enough sleep. That's, that's what I'm really trying to say here. Whether your hours of sleep are different than mine, I encourage you to make sure you're getting seven to eight hours at minimum. Actually seven, eight hours is probably good. I'm I'm I've heard too. If you oversleep, you kind of ruin your sleep and you're more tired throughout the day. Next, um,
have short-term and long-term goals this is something that I kind of haven't had in a while have reached so many of the important goals that I had for myself in my life which is so cool so beautiful and I'm sure a lot of us are like a lot of us are at the age where maybe your goal is to graduate college and you just did it or graduate high school and you just did it and you're like okay what's next and you're in this chapter of I don't really know where to go from here and
That's probably a huge reason of why our cups might not feel so full because we're not really working towards anything. And when you don't have goals, you have less desire, less motivation, less passion for each and every day and what you can accomplish that day, you know? So set some short-term and some long-term goals. Now, I know that I said most of these ways to fill your cup are involving just you, but I said there were a few that involve other people. So I'm
Communicate with people you love and to people you love. If this is a way that you are feeling and you're in a long-term relationship or you're super close with your best friend, talk to people that can maybe help hold you accountable. Not in a negative way, not in a way of people being hard on you when you open up to them.
making you feel like shit about not really knowing where you're at in life because there are people who do that there were points where I surrounded myself with friends and if I were to have said anything like oh hey I'm not really feeling myself like can you help encourage me they would have taken that and ran with it and made me feel even worse than I already did so use your judgment and and tell people who are going to make you feel good what you're trying to do and what you're going through like for example if
I had a sit down conversation with Gabe, my boyfriend, about, hey, like my cup feels empty. I need to pour into myself a little bit more. Can you help encourage me and remind me that this is something that I'm working on? I don't know if this is just an ADHD girly thing, but I think it's not. Like I forget that I'm feeling this way sometimes and that I am trying to have more goals and do more things. And then I just get caught up in this cycle anyways.
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Step out of your comfort zone. Step out of your comfort zone. Do things that maybe not scare you. I think that filling up your cup, there's a line here between stepping out of your comfort zone too much is going to kind of drain your cup because it's a lot of adrenaline. It's a lot of exhaustion. It's a lot of anxiety. So I'm not saying go jump out of a plane if your biggest fear is skydiving. I'm sure that would be super liberating and super freeing. But
More so, if your fear is heights, maybe go to like a rooftop bar and get a dinner there. Do the little things like stepping out of your comfort zone. So for me, if my biggest fear is public speaking or interviewing people on the podcast, maybe I should...
At least set some dates for when I'm going to do those things or watch some videos or get some inspiration from other podcast interviews. Those things are going to excite me. They're going to motivate me and they're going to make me want to take the next step in my own goals and desires and fears and hopefully help me eventually take
bigger steps out of my comfort zone, if that makes sense. Like do little things that motivate you to do more. Don't set yourself up for failure and give yourself these crazy tasks that you know are going to be too difficult for you. It's okay to admit that there's certain steps you're not ready to take. That's completely healthy and that's completely normal. Next, focus on cooking yourself good, healthy. And when I say healthy, I don't mean
fit foods. I mean, nutrient dense foods. I mean, give yourself proteins and carbs, carbs for energy, protein for brain fog and functioning and hormone balance, seeds and grains, um, sugars, natural sugars, healthy fats. Okay. All of these things,
are very important for us to include in our diet that are going to help us feel good on the inside out. And it's going to fill our cup up more than we realize. A lot of the things that we do internally for ourselves, I mean, I guess they're physically external things that we do like cooking a meal, but the things that we put into our body really, really, really affect our
who you are going to show up as and what you're going to feel like on the outside. So pour into yourself in that sense. But also do the little things. This kind of goes back to how it's important for you to listen to the music that you love or the podcast that you always listen to. Do your skincare and moisturize your body and take an everything shower once in a while or put on a face mask. These little things are going to make you
feel this tender love and care towards yourself. And the more that you show the little moments of appreciation to yourself, the more you are going to want to keep taking care of yourself and the more you're going to build this love for yourself. All of this comes back to being your own friend and being a good friend to yourself. I think that so much of this podcast revolves around that topic because it's such an important conversation and it is so encouraged by everybody else to
Literally be your own worst enemy. But the truth is you should not be your own worst enemy ever. Next one, learn something new. Continue to find new hobbies or pour into hobbies that you love and that you enjoy. And if you don't have any, don't be afraid to try them. Pick up painting, pick up rollerblading, do a lingo, learn a new language. I really encourage you to
either do hobbies or learn something new and learning something new might be listening to a new podcast, maybe even listening to this podcast. Not that I have any real knowledge for you, but hopefully I do have some valuable things for you to take away. And I like to think it's real knowledge. I've just bullied myself into thinking that it's not because the haters will do that to you. They really will. But either way, moving on.
Never stop learning. I think our cup starts to drain and it starts to feel empty when we aren't working towards anything. And that goes back to like the goals thing, but also just learning and constantly learning and sharing the things that you learn is going to make you want to keep moving forward. It's going to keep motivating you. It's going to fill your cup because you're going to feel more powerful and more proud of yourself. And I strongly believe that.
Next, mindfulness. Remember that you have the power to shift so many of these thought patterns that are negative and sad and lacking and my life is horrible and my life is miserable and whatever.
I have it so much harder than everybody else does. A lot of these things, maybe they're true. Maybe on the surface they're true, but you have the power in your mind to switch them, to rearrange them, to understand that you can change your perspective on the way that you see the world. Does it always work? No, but we can remember constantly that we do have that power in our hands. Next is gratitude.
Be appreciative of everything and every experience and every feeling that you go through. Gratitude goes a really long way, a really long way. And gratitude is one of those things that can sometimes be hard to practice because sometimes there's this fake gratitude where we say, yeah, I'm so grateful that I have a roof over my head. But we don't actually feel it. We don't actually understand the heaviness that gratitude
this gratitude or the heaviness of how much of a blessing that is. You know, like we're so used to having a roof over our head that we take it for granted. But the more deeply you can feel gratitude on every level, the more joy you will feel overall and towards the world. Next.
Self-love. Obviously, this all pours into self-love, but go back to being your friend. Talk to yourself with kindness. The more negativity you talk to yourself with, the more empty your cup is going to be, and that is 100% a fact without fail. Okay, new one that I'm adding on here. Stay away from alcohol if your cup feels empty. Like, in a non-judging, anybody-who-drinks kind of way,
Because I also drink. I have learned from experience and I know and I'm actually like studying and will be doing a podcast on the effects of alcohol on the brain and the body when I'm back from Brazil in the next few months or a few weeks, whatever it may be, once I actually have the proper knowledge and can share it the right way.
scientifically speaking alcohol is a depressant it makes us unmotivated unwell and it is damaging our brain in more ways than we can possibly imagine and even if you're just drinking once a week even if you're drinking every couple weeks whatever it may be any amount of alcohol is not good for you and it is really not going to help you fill your cup and that's not to say I think everybody should be sober and everybody should stop drinking I just think if you
or not feeling well mentally, it might be a really good step in the right direction. The next one, very important, help others. Be there for other people. So often used to think that if my cup was empty, it wasn't going to get full by pouring into other people. Like that's why it was empty. But the reality was for me, volunteering is something that fills my cup up more than almost any other thing on this list. And that might just be because of how much I love
helping. That sounds really so, I don't even know what that sounds like, but it is very true. When I go and volunteer at the dog shelter, I am kind of taking myself out of my negative feelings, my thoughts of ungratefulness or unappreciativeness towards my life. And it just puts me into the real world. I don't know how to make any of this make sense, but when I go help
I'm not saying people because it's dogs. When I go help the world or get involved in the world in a way that benefits it, the better I feel and the more my cup feels full because helping other people fills your cup. And this isn't the case for everybody, but I do encourage you to try it because I know if you're here listening to this podcast, I really do hope at least you're
I can imagine that you're a good kind person who has good intentions, who wants to be a good person to themselves and to the world. So I strongly believe that's the family that we've created and that we've brought to this podcast. But I think that if you help other people and you go volunteer or get involved in your community or take part in any good things that you can, your cup is going to feel much more full than you realize. Okay, two more things.
And then we're going to call it, but I'm sure I could do pages long of ways to fill up our cup. There's a million ways. Be around good people, okay? Hang out around people who inspire you, who motivate you, who make you feel good about yourself. All very common sense, but sometimes we don't recognize when we're surrounding ourselves with people who are actually bringing us down rather than lifting us up. So just do a little evaluation, check in. That's not to say you can't be friends with people who don't,
make you feel the best about yourself or who don't inspire you. But it is to say that if you are struggling at the moment, maybe pour the extra time into the ones that are going to make you feel better, not worse. Last one is nurture your inner child. When you take care of your little baby inside of you, when you give her all the things that she was lacking in her childhood or that makes her feel young and naive and happy, this tends to be
hobbies. It tends to be being outside. It tends to be dancing in the kitchen to your favorite song or baking cookies. These are all inner child healing things. They'll fill your cup. Simply put, it's very anytime you're having fun, you're filling your cup and you're feeling happiness and you're just enjoying life. Very important thing to do. Anyways, I encourage you all to fill up your cup, even if you're not on empty yet. Maybe just evaluate where you're at and take it from there. But
I love you guys so much. I will talk to you next Monday. Going to Brazil tomorrow, actually. So I'm going to pre-record a couple episodes, record another episode in the morning. So the one you'll be listening to next week was recorded tomorrow. Did that make sense? Did my timeline make sense there? Anyways, I'm so excited. I'm going with my boyfriend's family. And we're going to have the best time ever. I will be...
vlogging, documenting the whole thing on my TikTok, on my Instagram. Go watch over there. I also do Snapchat now. Never thought I would be on there, but we're having fun with it. And hopefully I'll make a YouTube vlog after, but we'll see. I always say I'm going to do that and never do. But yeah, thanks for tuning in. I love you guys. I'll put all my info and all the goods in the description and hopefully your cup is full and I know you will continue to fill it. And I love you. You're valuable, beautiful, and wonderful. Have the best day ever.