Things you probably haven't thought about lately
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Hello, my beautiful people. Welcome back to the Moments Podcast. We skipped a week. If you're a constant listener, we skipped a week. So thank you for sticking around and being patient. I got back from Brazil.

last week and I have been having a week of recovery. Let me just tell you, the things that have been going on in my brain are not so lovely, not so fun, but that's the thing about mental health. It's constant. It is something that we are always working on. And this week's episode is just for my overthinkers.

Not even necessarily my overthinkers. It's an episode for everybody who is stuck in a thought loop that is exhausting, that is draining, that is negative, that is consuming, because I am right there with you. The things that have been on my mind this week are, one, that I feel lonely. Lonely even though I have a circle of people who are so supportive of me and good to me and kind to me and special.

and loving to me. I love people. I love my support system, but that doesn't necessarily mean that we're not going to feel lonely sometimes. I've been feeling unsuccessful. I feel like I've been lacking motivation. I've been lacking passion. I've been lacking purpose. I'm emphasizing all of these things that I'm feeling and

Just in case anybody else is feeling them too. Again, always the goal of this podcast of everything that I share and everything that I put out. You're not alone in your feelings. We're going to have ups and downs and we're going to have cycles. But some more things I've been thinking about, I feel like I've been lacking connections with people.

all humans in all aspects. I miss my long distance friends. I haven't been pouring into those friendships. And really, I've just been getting so down on myself. I've been lacking confidence in every aspect of my life. And when we lack confidence, life gets a little bit sad and depressing. And that sounds like really silly, but it's true. When you're not feeling so sure of yourself and secure in yourself, it's harder to function day to day because you just

Don't have that pep in your step. You don't have the passion and purpose that you once did. So I encourage you to go tap back into that confidence, tap back into that sparkle, find yourself however you need to.

Anyways, getting ahead of myself, this is probably going to be a little bite-sized episode, a little short episode of some other things to think about. Maybe you haven't been feeling exactly what I've been feeling, and maybe you've been in a really happy and healthy and balanced headspace. And if that is your case, I am proud of you. That's amazing. I applaud you. Give yourself the credit you deserve. You are doing great. And for those of you who are kind of feeling maybe similar to me,

We'll get through this. Just another stepping stone, just another chapter. I know that many of this past few weeks, months, episodes have been around this topic, but I'm in a phase of life like that. I'm in a...

chapter that I haven't yet navigated, that I'm figuring out. And don't worry, I made a therapy appointment finally. It's time for me to go back. I've been missing it. But all that being said, thank you for being here. Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for supporting. Let's make this less about me and more about you and us and just bringing our mind to other things.

The first thing that you probably haven't thought about lately is nature. Yeah, maybe this morning you walked the dog and you looked at the trees and you maybe felt some sun on your skin and then you got back inside and you were sweating and you were like, "I am not going outside. It is way too hot of a summer." But when's the last time you sat outside or even looked at your window and looked outside and noticed the butterfly that flies by? Or the little birds that are talking to each other in a language that we can't understand?

Or the little flowers that are blooming or the mangoes that are getting ripe on the trees outside. There's so many beautiful things and lessons that nature has to teach us that God has given us. There's lessons in the outdoors that we don't pay attention to because we're stuck thinking about what that one person is doing in Europe on their vacation through their Instagram stories or, you

We're so worried about making enough money to do whatever it is that we want to do or need to do, which is completely understandable. Our world is very difficult to keep up with right now, but it's consuming us because we've been taught that it has to consume us or we're focused so much on the fact that we haven't found love yet or we haven't.

found somebody to start a family with yet, or we haven't gone to this place yet, and we're so focused on all of the things that other people have that we don't have, when the truth is, we could go outside, and we could really, really shift our mindset very quickly by just looking at the grass, looking at a worm, looking at a lizard, looking at a butterfly. Sounds really, really, really cliche and cheesy and silly,

but you probably haven't thought about nature in a while. So go outside, sit outside and allow your mind to wander as you follow the different things. First, find a leaf. Let your mind think about that leaf. These are just practices that I use when my brain gets really overwhelmed because like I said, it has been these days and I know that there's other people out there who have been having

The same exact thing because we talk about this on the TikTok, on the Instagram, we're all in the same boat. Okay, so go outside and let your mind take you, but don't go online and let your mind take you. The same way that you fall down the rabbit hole on social media, getting consumed by one person's post of doing this, you end up spending an hour being miserable about your own life or about what this person has and you don't. You can instead go outside and start the rabbit hole of the leaf.

I promise you will find more beauty than you can even recognize just by going outside and taking your mind off your screen, off your phone. Get off of it, okay? Because you also probably haven't thought about arts and crafts lately. I encourage you to let your inner child heal. Let your silliness, your goofiness, your creativity, let all of that spark through arts and crafts, even if you are somebody who draws stick figures. I am too. Buy some clay and shape a stick figure.

Get some paint and paint a canvas. Scribble. Do finger paint. Do splash paint. Do something that you can feel young and free and fun. The more that we open our mind through activities like this and we allow ourselves to be more creative in a fun, low-pressure kind of way where there's really no punishment if you mess up, there's nothing on the line, there's nothing important about it,

you will open your creativity and your mind and your heart in other aspects of your life. And this can show up in your journaling. If your career has to do with something where you need to be a creative, we're going to face times of blockages. And I think that this is, you know, another thing that I've been tackling in the past few months. But in order to break these blockages, you have to start from the beginning. You have to go back

in time, okay? Go back to when you were younger. What did you do for fun? How did you open your heart and mind then? What are the things that made you become this creative, you know? Like from when you were younger, what opened your heart and mind to having these thoughts and wonderful imagination and ideas? Do more of that. Do more arts and crafts, okay? Play more games in the same boat as like doing things that heal your inner child, okay?

by a Connect Four set. I just did that and I've played for like an hour yesterday. I played with Lisette and with Gabe and it was so much fun. And not only is it turning off my brain, in the same way it's turning on my brain. I'm sparking different brain activity than I spark when I'm sitting on my phone and scrolling through Instagram and TikTok. The biggest thing I want you to take away from this episode is to get off your phone. Crazy for me to say as somebody who's up

a podcast right now where you might see a reel of this on Instagram or a TikTok of this on TikTok. And it's me telling you to get off your phone. But it's ruining us. It's taking away...

Everything that we need. But I don't think all social media is evil and I don't think that you need to be off of it all the time. I'm just saying if you're somebody who's younger or not who's younger, who needs to get your younger child and wake her up, which we all do, put the phone down, pick up a game, get some cards, play cards, do an arts and crafts, do some painting, play dress up is the next one that I wrote down.

You can do all these things while putting on a podcast. If you're somebody who needs something going on and you don't really like how long and tedious it is to do arts and crafts, I'm right there with you. But one, let's challenge ourself to be more patient, to be more locked in in a fun way. Put on a podcast or pick up an arts and crafts to do while you listen to this. Anyways, next one. Play dress up.

It's the same exact thing. Go in your closet, clean out your closet, declutter your mind because you probably haven't thought about all of the clothes that you have in your closet that you don't wear anymore. But I promise you, the second that you go in there and you get rid of what's not serving you anymore, what's not fitting you anymore, what you're not wearing anymore, you're gonna feel better, you're gonna feel lighter, you're gonna find some cute outfits, you could play dress up, do a fashion show like you did when you were younger. These are fun things, these are valuable things and you probably haven't thought about them in a really long time.

And on this note, as you clean out your dressers and you go through the clothes that you don't need, I want you to remember that you are not supposed to keep clothes that don't fit you. You're not supposed to keep clothes that you had in middle school in hopes that those jean shorts that are a size quite

quadruple zero are going to fit you again. Your clothes are meant to fit you. You're not meant to fit your clothes. Okay. Don't keep things in hopes of getting smaller or tinier because it's not necessary. You're going to grow. You're going to change. Your body is beautiful. Just where it is at. Just get rid of those things, please. Okay. I encourage you to go clean out your closet. It's freeing your mind. It is making room for new things. And all of these things that I'm saying to you right now,

I mean some of them are really random like the next thing that I wrote down is dogs but they all are going to add more to your life than you realize they might seem like little tiny things but in the grand scheme of things they're not you know when's the last time you thought about your dogs and your cats okay go give your pets some love talk to some animals outside and this kind of ties into nature but we can learn a lot from animals they live a very simple happy beautiful life

And they tend to not put as much pressure onto things as we do. And sometimes people call me crazy for this one, but I like to just tap into the mind of an animal that isn't focused on what they look like or how many Instagram followers they have or what their ex is doing. And I just think about what they're thinking about. You know, they want to keep themselves fueled.

They want to exert their energy and they want to sleep and they want to pee and poop. And that's the same way that I want to live. So anyways, getting ahead of myself there. When's the last time you thought about your friendships? When's the last time you evaluated who you're surrounding yourself with and in a good way to like, when's the last time you checked in on the friends that you care about?

I am somebody who right now is at a point where I was just mentioning this earlier. I'm feeling a little bit lonely, but maybe I'm feeling a little bit lonely because I've only been focused on myself, you know, and not necessarily in the good way. I think there's a difference between focusing on yourself and pouring into yourself and becoming better and taking the time to move your body, fuel your body, journal, get to know yourself. There's that kind of spending time with yourself. And then there's this negative side

kind of spending time with yourself, which is what I think I've been kind of stuck in, where I'm just focused on what I'm not doing enough of, what I'm doing too much of, how I'm letting people down, how I'm being a horrible person to this person, whatever it is. How I'm being a bad daughter, how I'm being a bad friend, how I'm being a bad girlfriend. What value is that going to bring to our lives? It's selfish. It's selfish for us to waste our time doing that and sitting in this self-pity and this victimization. And that's not to...

Devaluate invalidate. That's the word i'm looking for. That's not to invalidate our mental health and our struggles it's just to Open our mind and open our perspective to other things that we could think about and other ways that we could think about things that we feel because Sometimes it takes a certain way of thinking about things to snap me out of it And I know that that might be beneficial to somebody as well I don't want to be selfish and this goes back to friendships because

I think that since I've been so focused on my self-pity and my self-struggles and what I've been going through, it has made me show up less as a friend. And it has made me drift more from my friends that are long distance, that don't live so close to me, that I haven't seen in years, that I haven't been able to hang out with. That doesn't mean I can't continue to be watering these friendships. And I want to continue.

know what's going on in my friends lives and in my family's lives and I've been so focused on my own struggles that I haven't been doing that and I think that if we were to all think about doing that more it would shift a little bit of our negative focuses from ourself and add a little bit of positivity and joy into watering our friendships which is ultimately going to make us feel better about ourselves do you get me it's like how I I see doing things for the community as a way of self

Help because when i'm mentally drained the quickest way for me to fill myself back up is to go Volunteer because when we care for others and when we love others it helps us love ourselves Even that to me sounds selfish like i'm telling you guys the things that have been going on in my brain Are so out of whack. It's beyond me. I can't even I will cry and cry and cry

And Gabe's like, what's wrong? And I'm like, I don't even know because my brain will just spiral. So these are things I've been practicing. Anyways, I keep getting distracted and dumping all of my trauma on you, but you're my best friends and my family. So I don't mind to do so. Another thing, super random. Just wanted to toss this one in here. Give it a little, a little dollop, a little reminder. When's the last time you thought about what was going on in the government?

or in the world or in the country or thought about the presidential nominees. I won't sit here and tell you who to vote for or what to vote for, and I can't give you all the knowledge on what's going on because I'm probably the least reliable source to take it from, but I encourage you to do your own research, and as you do that, remember that if you're listening to this and you're capable of voting, please, please, please go decide now

who is a better candidate for you to vote for and as you do that i encourage you to think about people other than yourself people who are in different life situations as you different races different financial groups different kinds of people think about people other than you and remember that everybody deserves to be loved and cared for and valued so

Please vote. Please register to vote. I just wanted to throw that in here because I think it's valuable and I don't think that we think about it enough. I can tell you how easy it is to scroll past any Instagram post opening my mind to what's going on in the world and scroll past any TikTok that's really opening our eyes to what's going on in the world and to just stay quiet about it. And I just encourage you to go see for yourself what's going on.

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Next one, stretching. When's the last time you thought about all of the stress, emotions, situations, experiences that your body is holding onto because you haven't stretched it out? You haven't moved it out? One thing that I remember very, very strongly from my yoga teacher training that I did 10 years ago now is that we store

so many emotions in our hips and in our necks. And do you know how often we're bent over, not bent over backwards, we're bent with our heads down, our shoulders hunched, just storing and storing emotions while we sit at our desk, while we sit on our bed, while we sit on our couch, we're not moving, we're not walking, we're not stretching our bodies out enough. And

And the second that you go and stretch and move a little bit more, I can pinky promise you, you're going to release a lot of the tension that's within you that you're not even recognizing. So go stretch. Stretching is also relaxing.

so important for the longevity of your life if you are somebody who is strength training somebody who's lifting weights somebody who's marathon training whatever it is that you do and if you do none of this and if you work at a desk and if you don't work at a desk go stretch your body because you probably haven't thought about it in a very long time there's tons of stretching videos that you can look up on youtube i'm sure of it when's the last time you thought about what you're eating

Unfortunately for a lot of us, it's probably all the time because I've been in phases of my life where I think about everything that I eat and everything that I don't eat. But I am not talking about in a body image in relationship with food kind of way. I'm talking about it in like a, are you having protein? Are you eating fats? Are you getting enough carbs? Like not thinking about food in a way of like what it's making you look like, but like genuinely thinking.

Are you are you recognizing that your body needs protein, carbs, sugars, fats, fiber, all of those things at minimum to function properly and to make you feel like you're capable. Our brain fog, our digestion, our energy levels, our strength, everything. The way that we can communicate. All of these things are affected by what we're putting into our body. So make sure you're getting your protein right.

Let me tell you a couple of things you can get protein from. Again, I'm no nutritionist here. It is something that I'm very curious about studying and would love to study. But proteins. Are you eating eggs? And I can't give you these vegan points because I don't know proteins that aren't meats, unfortunately, for the most part. Chicken, steak, chicken.

Salmon. Beans have some protein, but it's honestly pretty minimal. Peanut butter has some protein, but it's honestly pretty minimal. Eggs. Have some of those every day in your diet. Fats, okay? Eat some avocados. Eat fish. And by fish, I mean like salmon. Salmon's a great, great fat to have. Little bit of cheese here and there. That's a good one too. Nuts. Eat your nuts, okay? Fibers. Avocados. Nuts. What else? Carbs. Complex carbs.

Eat your sweet potatoes. Okay, have your whole grain bread. Eat some sourdough. Have a protein bagel. Just think about what you're eating in a nutrient level. Think about what you're feeling. When's the last time you evaluated? And I'm going to encourage everybody to do this because this is something that I'm going to start literally today. I'm going to open up a journal and it's simply going to be a daily log of how I feel. And when I talk about this, I'm going to be

slowly over time i'm going to be tracking the emotions that i feel and when i feel them and see if it's related to my period my hormones i just kind of evaluate when these certain dark feelings and when these really low levels of energy kind of manifest themselves anyways i think it's something that we should all do because we're not really thinking about what we're feeling we're just thinking about what we're feeling in the moment instead of over time and like looking back and evaluating it anyways

Start a daily log. Write down what your energy levels looked like, what thought kept running through your mind, what physically did you feel, what mentally were you struggling with, did you feel open-minded, open-hearted, or did you feel very closed up, did you feel easily irritated, did you feel easily angered, did you feel...

Like you were starting fights for no reason. Did you feel unloved? Did you feel insecure? Did you feel confident? Down to the tiny little things. I want you to log every day what you feel like. And I too am going to start doing this. So let's hold each other accountable. I'll bring it up again next Monday when we talk. But hopefully you're feeling good. Think about it though.

When's the last time you thought about opening a book? I know that a lot of us are in our reading kick. We're reading tons of cute little non-fiction romance books, and I think those are so fun, and I miss reading them because I myself have not been on as much of a reading kick, but...

I want to start tapping back into that and I want to get into some more self-help books and I want to challenge myself to read every single day because opening a book is again much better than opening our Instagram feed or our TikTok and I think that we can all learn something from a new book whether that's a Colleen Hoover book or

i don't know some doctor with a phd book there's there's value in everything that we read and sometimes i like to read because it helps me escape all of the darkness that's in my own mind sometimes not even darkness all of the stressors in my mind all of the anxieties that are in my mind it helps me to leave that world and enter a new one especially with fiction books and sometimes that's that's okay because when i leave my mental world to go into a

book world, it's very different than leaving my mental world to go into a social media world because my social media world only negatively affects my mental world, whereas a book doesn't affect my mental world. Hope that made sense. Not sure if I'm speaking gibberish. Okay, when's the last time you thought about learning something new?

You know, I don't know if you're in high school listening to this, if you're still in college listening to this, if you're post-grad listening to this, whatever it is, I know that one thing I have not been thinking of that I would like to touch back into is I want to constantly be trying to learn something new, making an effort to learn something new. Again, whether that's through a self-help book, whether it's through a podcast with like reliable sources and facts and knowledge, I emphasize that because yes, you might learn something new on this podcast, but I'm talking like

Doctors here. And that's not to invalidate my own advice, but learn something new. Take a course on Coursera, open a new book, just never let your mind turn off. And if you are somebody who's still in high school or college who is dealing with classes and having to learn new things constantly every day, maybe this is one you can skip. Maybe this is just not one that applies to you. Okay. When's the last time you thought about your family? You know, have you checked in with your grandparents? Because I haven't.

And I'm sure I'd feel a lot better if I did talk to my grandma or if I did pour into my relationship with my mom or if I did maybe text my brothers a little bit more often. I'm sure that I would feel more whole. And if you are somebody who's lucky enough to have each of those people in your life, there's so many people out there who could only dream that they could talk to their siblings or their parents or their grandparents again. So we should take that and not take it for granted. So think about your family.

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Overnight, Duncan's pumpkin spice coffee has sent folks into a cozy craze. I'm Lauren LaTulip reporting live from home in my hand-knit turtleneck that my Nana made me. Mmm, cinnamony. The home with Duncan is where you want to be. When's the last time you thought about old memories? You probably haven't thought about all the beautiful things that you got to do and all the cool people that you've gotten to meet and all the experiences that you've gotten to experience. And one thing I emphasize a lot is to...

reflect on your life, the good, the bad, the different feelings that you face. But also it's really fun to just reflect on the fun things that you've done with the people in your life that you love. And it's very rare that we remember to go back and think about our old memories, but it's very healthy to do so, especially if you're feeling a little bit stuck and overwhelmed with the moment that you're in.

You know, people say like, oh, stay in the moment and everything will be okay. Sometimes I need to leave the moment and a healthy way for me to cope with that is to just think about old memories and then think about how far I've come, what I've done since then, what I've been given the opportunity to do. And just think back and laugh and be proud of where you are and what you've come from and all the fun things that you've done, okay?

And the last thing that I want to touch on, things that you probably haven't thought about lately, is setting new goals. Maybe you have. Again, each of these podcast episodes isn't going to be...

valuable for every person because we're all at different stages and you might have might be listening to this episode right now and you're like girl I just made a one-week goal a three-week goal a four-week goal five-week goal six-week goal and you have your whole life planned out for the next 10 years and if that's you I applaud you and I'm inspired by you but if that's not you when's the last time you set new goals

I say this heavily talking to myself and not like projecting onto you and making you feel like shit about yourself. That's not the goal here. No pun intended. The goal is really to just speak to myself and open everybody's heart and mind to recognizing that goals are important constantly, even if they're little, even if they're simple. Because if you don't set little simple goals for yourself, you're not going to change and you're not going to achieve them and you're not going to become any better and feel any better.

It sounds harsh and it sounds dramatic and it sounds crazy and to me sounds like nonsense because I have not been setting these goals and I have been just letting myself kind of sink and sulk in all of the thoughts that I've been feeling and I've just been letting them get even larger and more thought consuming because I haven't been making room to think about other things in my mind and that's how this podcast idea kind of came to my mind and

Is because I just really recognize that i've been thinking about the same three negative things for the past I don't even want to say weeks probably months and In order to stop thinking about them or to at least make those thoughts dissolve or to make them a little bit smaller I have to add more thoughts Into my brain you get me. Do you guys hear leah snoring? I'm jealous of her nap right now. I Love you

And I promise you that your mind is going to clear and that there's beautiful things for us all to think about. And I...

Just encourage you to think about some more of these things a little bit more often than you do right now. And thank you for tuning in. I will talk to you guys again on Monday, hopefully, if all goes according to plan. Thanks for sticking around, even though this podcast has been a little bit all over the place. I'm recording with some really cool people at the end of July, so stay tuned for that. Very excited. I am...

I'll be traveling a little bit more this summer. So go ahead and follow along on TikTok, Instagram. I will make sure to continue to share my lessons and my life advice and whatever it is that I can with you guys because I love you more than I love myself most of the time. You guys are my best friends and I really, really thank you for sticking around and supporting me even when I have no idea what I'm doing. Okay, I love you. Bye.