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Beautiful people, this is The Moments Podcast and I'm your host, Lexi Hidalgo. I hope you're ready to learn a little bit something new about yourself or the world or feel a little bit more seen, heard, and understood because you are. And you are beautiful and valuable and I want to be your big sister and your best friend and I'm going to remind you of that hopefully in each and every episode that you listen to. So tune in and enjoy The Moments.
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Stream on Hulu. My beautiful people, hello. Welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I am your host, Lexi Hidalgo. I'm sitting here with my dog, Leia, of course. So if you hear her snoring, that's why. And they're also doing, of course, the day that I record. Then again, I feel like they're doing work every single day, but...
One of the houses next door is redoing their roof. So since 6 a.m. this morning, I've just heard banging all day long. But it is what it is. Who cares? I'm just warning you in case you hear it. It might drive you a little crazy. I know the feeling. But I really want to get this message out to you. And I have to record right now because this is all fresh in my brain. And it's just a message I'm very excited to share with you. It's probably something that I've talked about on the podcast before.
It is definitely something that I try to encourage and remind every single person willing to listen to the message of every single day in any way that I can. And even more than that, it is something that I work to remind myself of every day that I exist because we live in a world where it is really, really, really easy to take things for granted. And...
I know that the world is tough and it is hard and we live in a day and age where things are difficult and a lot of us struggle with all sorts of things. But that being said, looking at the other side of it, we also live in a day and age where we have access to so many things that people never had access to in the past and
We really do have it good. You know, if you are in a place where you can listen to this podcast and we can build a relationship and we can be friends from across the world, like we have life pretty good and pretty simple, more than we even realize we do. So this week's episode, this week's topic is simply just reminders on why we should be grateful to be alive and why we are lucky that we get to exist and why we
Life is beautiful, essentially, you know? The story that made me really want to do an episode on this, besides the fact that it is something that I do my best to encourage and remind myself of all the time, is a story that my boyfriend was telling me. And he's told me it a while ago, but we re-discussed it. Sorry, what is with me and yawning in these episodes? I don't know what's going on. I just drank a coffee, but...
Gabe was telling me the story. We were re-talking about it, and it just sparked something in me because I have noticed that I haven't been as grateful as I should be. That being said, all of the things that I've been going through, all of the feelings I have been feeling, they're 100% valid. Mental health struggles are real as crap, and it doesn't get more real than that, and I know that, but
When I feel and focus on those things so heavily, it's very easy to be distracted of the fact that I'm here. I exist, right? So I want to tell you the story before I get into just kind of the list of things that I wrote down on why we're lucky to be here. And I'm going to just basically make up names and try to make the story not personal because it's really not my place to tell a personal story. But...
My boyfriend's friend of a friend of a friend took his own life. And this was a few years ago. And at his funeral, as you guys can imagine how heavy something like that is, how heavy and hard it is not to blame yourself in a situation like that, no matter how close you are to the person or what.
It's not a situation that's easy for anyone. So this funeral came around for this boy who took his life and one of the boy's closest friends went up to the mom and was talking to her and was saying, I'm so sorry for your loss and just giving his condolences. And of course the mom was like, thank you so much.
I mean, so much to me, but I'm really just grateful that I got to experience the 18 years of him that I got to experience. And she chose to take that situation and simply focus on the fact that she got what she got. You know, she didn't see it as, of course, I'm sure she wished that she had more, but instead of living the rest of her life, wishing that she could have done something or changed something in a situation where she
That's impossible to do. She focused on the good that came from it and how long she did get to embrace her son and have her son as a part of her life. And she recognized that having 18 years of him was more of a gift than any of us should ever ask for or want, you know, or chase. We should instead value every day as the gift that it is.
God gives each and every one of us whatever higher power it is that you believe in. Maybe it's not God. Maybe it's not... Anyways, you get the point. Someone is gifting you another day on this earth. Whether you believe that or not, you get to be here for another day. And I could honestly leave the episode at that and just give us all that to think about, to take in, to recognize. But I don't want to do that. I want to give you more things to focus on. But...
The story just made me think. It made me think about so many things and it made me recognize how much bullshit, excuse my language, that I complain about, that you complain about, that everyone complains about. And to be completely honest with you, I think even recognizing this, we're still going to have things to complain about because, again, shit's real and I know that. But...
I keep saying but with such a... It's like a but with a period. You know? I don't know why that's happening, but there it is. Ignore it. This also related to me to...
breakups and friendships and long lost friends and long lost memories and places that we miss because a lot of times I get DMs about people wanting to ask me advice on a breakup or a friendship breakup and to be completely honest I don't really have much relationship breakup advice all I know is that I cannot imagine losing Gabe but I think that if I did I
This would be a very important story to remember because I would do everything in my power to recognize the time that we did get to have together and allow that to be beautiful enough for me. Do you know what I'm saying? And all of the friendships that fell apart, that drifted, that I kind of reflect on and I miss and I wish I still had or I wish I did differently or I wish didn't end the way that they did.
I'm choosing to notice them and recognize them as gifts. I had them for the time being for a reason and that in itself is enough to appreciate. And I think this also goes for places that we used to love, different chapters of our life that we used to love, versions of ourself that we miss. We got to experience her and we should cherish her and it's just as important to
I know that it's very easy when we look at the past to shift these mindsets and to recognize them. Like I look at when I got to live with Lissette and we got to live next door to each other and spend every day to each other. It's very easy for me to look at that and be grateful for it and like really, really value it the way that I should. What's much harder is for me to really, really value the things I have in this chapter of my life before it's already gone.
You know, it's really easy to look at the things that we've already done and see them as good and great, but it's very hard to look at our now and understand that one day this is going to be the past that we're reflecting on and missing. Whether it's good or bad, I promise you we're going to one day look back on it and maybe not wish we could relive it, but we're going to reflect on it at some point. So, moral of this first part of the story is
is to appreciate and embrace things for the time that you have them. It can be simple things, it could be little things. If you break your favorite camera, if your favorite shoes fall apart, you got to have them while you did. And that's a win. That's more than a lot of people can say. You get me, you feel me. And that's not to say I'm not going to be heartbroken when my favorite camera breaks or it didn't cost me a very big chunk of what's in my savings and now it's gone.
Yeah, I could focus on that, right? It's very easy to do that. Or I could focus on the fact that I had it. Okay, now I've been talking about this for 10 minutes. We're going to move on.
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The deeper message of the whole story is obviously a reminder to appreciate our life and appreciate every single individual in our life. Good friendship, bad relationship, annoying family member, annoying sibling, stressful co-worker, whatever it may be. Everyone that we get to cross paths with in our life
is a lesson or a gift or something we have something to learn from everyone and I truly believe that's why we should appreciate everyone even the people that make us feel like shit like for example you know when I read hate comments or I get nasty dms or people just saying like mean things about me
that aren't necessarily criticism they're just mean those are the people i want to shame off and be like why do they have to do that like why would they do that to me why would they say that about me
But instead, what I've done to really, mostly for my own mental health, do is just recognize that most things are a form of projection. Most things aren't personal. It has nothing to do with me. And what I can do is pray for that person and send them love and light and good energy through the little air bubbles of the world. You know? Like, just be... Kill them with kindness. And...
recognize that hopefully I will do good in their life in some way, shape, or form. And if not, move on from it. But still, appreciate that person. Because, let's backtrack. I don't know if you know this story. I think most of you do. If you're an avid Moments listener, if you're new, maybe not. But when I was 13...
I dealt with a serious mean girl. Like, I was getting bullied in the movie kind of way where there was bananas rubbed on my seat so I couldn't sit at lunch and I had to eat alone in the bathroom and this girl hacked into my Instagram and went and commented on all my inspirations posts and was like, I hate you, you're worthless and was leaving hate comments. It was a whole thing. There was a lot more pieces than that. But it was the first time in my life I faced a deep, dark depression and...
She took away all the light I saw in the world. And I don't even want to blame her. I did. But I was at a point where I was so impressionable. My mind was so weak that anything that someone said about me, I let it stab me. Like I really let myself feel it. And...
Obviously, when someone tells you enough times that you're ugly, worthless, and stupid, you believe it if you don't have that strong structure around your mind. Do you get what I'm saying? Does that make any sense? I hope so. Like, I didn't know my worth enough to not believe someone telling me if I was worthless. Therefore, I faced a dark, dark place, and I didn't see any good in the world. I didn't see any light in the world. I simply just believed there was nothing good in the world. And because I felt that,
is the reason that I can even be here doing this. Because I faced that depression from that person that made me feel horrible, I grew this platform and we have this family and we have this community where we get to be best friends and we get to grow together and that's all because of a person I hated back when I was 13. You never know the impact that somebody is going to have on you and it could change your life for the better.
Even though in the moment it might feel like the worst thing that you've ever experienced in your whole entire life. Moving on. Mic drop. It's true. It's actually amazing to see how that can happen. And I haven't really reflected on that story in a while. So that was cool to do so. Because I honestly just pulled that one out of my butt. I didn't write it down. But it does relate a lot to everything that we're talking about. So moving on to the next bullet point. I don't know how we got so off track yet completely on track.
They're looking at this statistically, scientifically. If you're someone who likes facts, I'm right there with you. There's a one in four trillion chance that you were born. One in four trillion. I mean, I want you to think about that. There's not even four trillion people on the earth, right? No, there's seven billion. I probably sound stupid, but it is a miracle.
that you were the one who was chosen to be born and if you want to go even further back than that our parents what are the odds that they were born? that they crossed paths that they birthed us they made us and then you think even like
Crazier than that, like how the fact that there's only this is something I find so fascinating. There's only about two days in our cycle that we actually can get pregnant. And we were born, we came to life like that. That's when these things happen to happen. You know, what are the odds? Well, I just told you the odds. But how beautiful is it to recognize that? And I think that there is no possible way you can tell me.
knowing that information that you weren't put on this earth with a purpose with a reason for something bigger than you now whether you're religious or not I know I kind of keep going back to religion in this episode but I want to share it with you if if it applies to you God created us all for something for something way bigger than us and we have no idea what's coming
And that in itself is something that should keep us grateful and excited to be alive. You know, moving on. We were also born capable. We were born able. Most of us listening to this have two working legs that we can walk on. We have working fingertips and hands and we can see and we can hear. We can taste and we can touch. Our bodies work without us having to work on them.
What a gift that is. There are so many people who don't have access to that, who can't walk on their own, who can't go to the bathroom for themselves, who can't do things that we don't even think of. They can't sign a paper when they need to at the bank. They can't sign the back of a check. They can't see. Like, when is the last time you really looked in the mirror or just sat and thought, wow,
My body is able. I am able. I am not in need of anything. I can do things and I can function in society and that is such a blessing. More than we think about. And I think that when we get in our head about very silly things, it's a very powerful thing to come back to. We exist and we work. That's beautiful.
We can walk, we can talk, we can have conversations with just about anyone. Anyone. How incredible. We have a functioning brain. We can think, we can create our own thoughts, we can create these problems in our mind.
Just as equally as we can create these little mindset shifts, which speaking of, I'm doing a podcast episode with my therapist again this weekend that you'll get, I believe, next Monday. And we're talking about all the different shifts we can do in our mind. So it should be a very exciting episode. Tune in. But we can shift our mind to take bad thoughts and turn them into good ones. And we can create scenarios in our head and we can have dreams.
That's actually crazy. And it is so easy to overlook. And honestly, you might be listening to this episode being like, girl, shut. Because I have been in mental states where people tell, like, if I'm in a bad mood and Gabe comes in the house and he's always been such a light in the way that he reminds me of these things every day. And I'm like, okay, okay, I get it. Whatever. Yeah, I get to complain that my food's too hot, you know?
And I'm a little bit of a brat about it. And then I reflect on it later. And I'm like, he was not wrong at all. He was completely right. And just because he's pointing out the obvious that I should be grateful for the fact that I have food on my plate doesn't invalidate the things that I was stressing about. It just adds to them. You know, it shifts my direction of thought. And I'm really hoping that this episode can do that for you in some way, shape, or form. Okay?
Another thing, we've made it to the age that we've made it to. I want you to really recognize here that whether you are listening to this at 12 years old or you're listening to this at 35 or 23, whatever it is, we have existed a lot more years than a lot of people in this world. We have made it a very long time. There are so many people who lose their lives for, I mean, hundreds of thousands of reasons that people pass away.
We didn't. We're still here. And there must be some reason for that, right? There must be some reason that we still exist. And God gave us another day to be here. Am I right? You feel me? You hear me? Like if you've ever lost someone younger than you. I've lost a couple friends from high school, which is...
Crazy. I mean, I don't, it breaks my heart that I can even say that, you know, that I know people, I've been to funerals for people that I grew up through high school with. And it's never easy because it's so sad when everyone is like, he had so much life ahead of him. We are getting to live that life. Whether you've personally experienced losing someone or not, imagine that you have and live for those who don't get to live another day.
Because we're still here. We're still here after all these years. And we're going to hopefully continue to be here for a longer amount of time. And we should enjoy and cherish that time no matter how hard, how shitty. We're still here.
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You might say, "Lexi, why would it be a good thing that I get to fail my classes? I'm in trouble. I'm stupid. I'm..." You know, we could spiral down a lot of things. But this gives us the opportunity to discover what we want to do in our life. Like, truly, so many people aren't given an option to discover what it is that they want to do. They're just thrown into something that they might hate.
But I'd say at least 80% of us having the access to listen to this podcast have at least a little bit of a choice in what we want to do with our future. And I know it can be brutal to go through thing after thing to fail and succeed and fail and fail and fail over and over again and think that you finally found something you love and watch that spark fade away.
It sucks. But if you really look at it in a different way, it's a gift. It is a gift because so many people don't get to choose. And we get to choose. And getting to fail over and over again is a blessing in disguise. It leads us to what is actually meant for us. And I will always stand by that. The next one.
We have a roof over our heads, okay? If you have an iPhone in hand, I would assume, then again, I don't know anybody's situation, it is likely that you have somewhere to sleep where you are protected from the weather. Could be a car, could be a house, could be a mansion, could be a hotel room. Whatever it may be, you live somewhere indoors. And...
That is something that is so easy to take for granted. That is something that I take for granted all the time. You know, I love following Arc Digest and I see these beautiful mansions that celebrities have and I'm like, wow, I want that. And I take a freaking step back and look in the mirror and recognize that I just bought a home. I have a home that is going to provide me with a space to live and love and create for probably the next at least two
10 to 15 years of my life, I'm going to raise a family in that home. And if I take that for granted, I can't imagine how much else I take for granted in this life. So snap into the awareness. If you live with your family, I know how easy it is to take family for granted because with family comes a whole lot of shit, a whole lot of struggles that most people can't explain if they had a year to do so.
I have never, ever opened up on the internet about some of the issues that happen in my family, within my family. And that's for a reason because, you know, other people in my family, of course, I share my whole life on the internet. I have no reason to share their shit, you know, not my place. But I know how hard family can be. And I know how much of a struggle it can be and how easy it is to just want to
"Ugh, I want to get out of this house," or "I want to get out of this family," or "I never want to speak to you again." But don't do that. Don't fall into that. I know that a lot of family relationships can be toxic, but if you have the chance to still live with your family and you are not being physically hurt or mentally abused,
that's more of a gift than we recognize and I know I go back and keep saying that but but with reason for a reason there's a reason this episode is kind of obnoxiously in our face about how grateful we should be because I think it's it was time for all of us to have a reality check and I say us because I mean mostly even me like I've said this and I will say it in every single episode for the rest of forever living with your family is a blessing
One that most people, not most people, a lot of people don't get to experience. So cherish it while you can. Because also as someone who was quite literally so excited to get out of my parents' house and not live there, not because there was ever any issues really, but more so I just wanted to be free and on my own and be an adult and be a grown up and not have a curfew. I miss that every single day.
And like I talked about in the beginning of this episode, it is so effing easy for us to look back and be like, oh, what a beautiful time in my life. It is so hard for us to recognize in the moment that that is a moment we will one day miss. I mean, never at the times that I think I would miss living at home, never having my own personal space, right? But I do for so many different reasons.
Moving on. I'm not sure where exactly I was going with that. But while I'm still on the family one, I want to encourage you to try to understand the people in your family who might be the most toxic ones. It's really important for us to recognize that. And like I said, even with people being bullies, being haters, it all stems back to the same thing. Our family members that are the most toxic, friendships that are the most toxic, our
These people are often the ones who kind of need you the most, who want you to see them beyond their behaviors. And I know that it can be very exhausting, and I'm not telling you to give up your life to be someone else's punching bag by any means. But if you can be there a little bit more for that toxic family member who is clearly struggling with something deeper than us, something bigger than us, you might just change their life.
by one extra phone call a week. And I really say this to remind myself, like I do with everything else, but just be there when you can. Show up when you can. Make the time to do that because we really all should. Anyways, moving on. The next one, we have a toilet to flush. We have somewhere that we can go to the bathroom. We don't have to go to the bathroom outside.
Like, when is the last time you took a shit and thought about how lucky you are that you're shitting in the comfort of your own home? You're not embarrassed. You could stink it up. You could do whatever you want. And you get to do that. You know, it's the little things like that. Recognize them. Food on the table. We have something to put into our bodies. To fuel our bodies that are capable and that are able. A gift. A blessing.
To be able to go to McDonald's and order french fries and a cheeseburger. Imagine before that was even a thing. Having to hunt and gather your own food, honestly, it does sound fun, but I know that if I lived in that time I would be like, "What? Heck no!" I don't want to go hunt for a tomato. I want to just go to McDonald's. We get to do that. We get to try new foods and try new restaurants and cook for ourselves and cook for people that we love and share meals with people that we love.
So many people don't get to do that. So, the next one. We have freaking iPhones, guys. We, right at our fingertips, have access to an entire world. And I know that iPhones and social media can be so toxic. But, wow. I don't get to live near my best friend anymore. And if this was a time...
before, you know, iPhones, before I could text or call, we would have to write each other letters. We would have to go days without being able to have a conversation or send each other a meme. I can't imagine. I take for granted and I don't pay attention to the fact that, wow, when my parents were growing up even, my grandparents, they did not have the ability to continue and grow relationships from afar.
Like we, yes, I can very much justify how hard it is not physically being with my best friend every day. But if I really think about it and I really want to shift my mindset, I can recognize that at least we can still talk.
Because in a lot of situations, that is not an option. Even people with military spouses who are deployed, they can't have conversations every day. They have to miss each other and love each other from so far apart. Gabe's dad tells us this story. I mean, every single time we get to be with them and every single time he says it, it honestly does remind me how lucky Gabe and I are. When Gabe's dad, Luis, first got with his wife, Claudia, they had to go five years away.
long distance, five years and the whole entire time. They were the only other person that each of them thought about and they would write letters to each other. And it's just beautiful. It's just a lovely reminder that it is a gift to be able to text anyone, to be able to
listen to the people that we love from the internet, like the fact that you and I can have this conversation, the fact that I can go and listen to a Jay Shetty podcast and feel I'm in the same room as him. I can keep up with all of my friends on social media. Like that's another gift. Let's go back to the roots of social media. It was given to us for the purpose of sharing our lives with the people that we love. It wasn't to brag or to be perfect or to be
the coolest person with the most followers or get the best pictures or capture the best moments or create the best videos. Social media wasn't about that. It was about sharing our lives. Simply, simply that. And I think when we can go back to looking at it like that, it becomes a better place for all of our mental health. So we are just lucky.
We are given the opportunity to fail, and I kind of already brushed over this one, but failing is a beautiful thing. Every time you fail, you're one step closer to the thing that you're not going to fail at. And the reality of it is, we are probably going to fail every day until we're in the grave. We're supposed to fail because when we fail, when we make mistakes, when we mess up,
That is what we learn the most about ourselves, about the world, and it is a good, good, good thing. Okay, next. We can listen to new Taylor Swift. I mean, my whole For You page lately has been hate about her, but like, either way, we get to listen to music. Music is art. It is passion. It is such a lovely thing to embrace and enjoy, and it is 100% something that I've taken for granted many times in my life.
We have summer, we have snow, we get to experience seasons. Like the future is bright. And I know that when I'm releasing this episode, it's the middle of winter in a lot of places in the world. And I know how hard seasonal depression can hit. And I know what it feels like when the sun is not outside shining. But a reason to be grateful and a reason to look forward to being alive is that the sun will come.
The ocean will be at your fingertips before you know it. You will be given an opportunity to go somewhere, to touch sand, to roll in the sand, to see a waterfall, to see a tree five million times the size of you, to drive on the coast somewhere, to go skiing, to go snowboarding, to do something that you wish you were doing right now. And I know that it sucks when you can't do that in the moment. And you're like, I don't care about the future. I just want it to be now.
But if we can all shift a little bit and recognize that one day, if we continue to appreciate and live this life the way that we are, we will get to do those things. That time will come. What else? Oh, this kind of goes along the same thing. The future. We have so many people, and this is probably my favorite thing to think about. There are so many people we have not met yet. I put a big pause there because...
Oftentimes, we're worried that our friendships aren't the best or they aren't the best for us or the relationship that you're in, maybe you know that it's not going to be the one or whatever it may be. Like, if you feel you have no one, you don't have a person, that's because God hasn't put them into your life yet for, again, here I go again, some reason. You have not met even a quarter of the people
that you're going to meet in this lifetime. You are going to meet someone else who makes you belly laugh. You are potentially going to meet someone else who is going to teach you what love is. Again, that comes when you least expect it. And it's a beautiful, powerful thing. Anybody I think listening in a relationship that's very healthy and loving and beautiful, you understand that, wow. And if you haven't found that yet,
I want you to keep pushing because you will find it and likely when you least expect it and you don't think that you want it, that's when it's going to come. Even aside from that, you are going to meet new people in your life who are going to be a motherly figure or a fatherly figure. Like the opportunities are endless. You're going to meet people when you travel. You're going to meet someone in the front yard of your house. You don't have to go far for someone to change your life. And you also, if you're someone who feels like
Less fulfillment from what you get, more fulfillment from what you give. I want you to keep pushing because you are going to change people's lives. You are going to be the reason that people keep going and stay alive even. You genuinely don't recognize the impact that you can have on someone's life even if it's just a wave or a smile or a compliment.
That person could have been on their last day. They could have been ready to give it all up. They could have been planning to go home and do something heartbreaking. But because you took their cart from them in the Publix parking lot and said, have a beautiful day, God bless. And you said, I'm so glad you're here or I'm so grateful that you gave me this shopping cart. That could be their reason. That could be their willpower. That could have been what gave them the willpower.
to go another day and 90% of the time no one's going to tell you that that's what you did for them. You know, it's not likely that that person's going to be like, oh my gosh, you just stopped me from taking my own life or oh my gosh, you just stopped me from caving and having a drink after I've been trying to go sober or oh my gosh, you just made me realize that I have like you don't even know half of the things you've done for this world. So recognize that.
And keep pushing. And keep going. Because you have done more for this world than you will ever, ever, ever know. And I want you to keep doing good in the world. And you do so by simply existing. So if you're not doing it for you, I want you to keep going for others. Because that will fulfill you just as much as getting all of the things that you want.
And then I just kind of wrote down a bunch of things. You get to read new books. You get to experience more life and make new memories and go new places. And one day, maybe you'll get to be a mother or a father. And if you're lucky, a grandmother, a grandfather. Imagine you make it to the point where you get to have great-grandchildren. What a crazy concept. We get to keep reinventing ourselves. This is like the failing one. We get to keep trying and keep trying and keep trying.
and every single day find new pieces of us that make us us. We get to live somewhere safe. Like for the most part, aside from the fact that we have school shootings every day, which is terrifying, we live somewhere safe. We live in a country where we can walk on the street and not have to worry for our life. I mean, yes, it is dangerous and there's a lot of dangers. When you bird's eye view it, you take the drone up and you look at the bigger picture,
we are lucky and safe. Which leads me to the fact that we are all privileged. And yes, some of us more than others in different ways than others. But even existing is a privilege in itself. And I really do hope that this podcast did a good job at reminding you of that in any way. I hope that you were able to take away at least one of those points and apply them to your life. Because even after recording it,
I feel happier. I feel more grateful to start the day and to go interact with people because most days I take all of those things and I don't think twice about them. But maybe we should think twice about every interaction, every moment. Because like I've been saying 20 million times, does somebody have a it's a gift count in this episode? Because I don't even want to know.
But one of my favorite quotes makes me mad half the time, makes me really appreciative half the time, is we don't have to do anything. We get to do everything. And I said this on a podcast episode a long time ago. Gabe reminds me of this every day, but it is so true.
We don't have to do nothing. We get to do everything. Leah threw up this morning. I get to clean it up because I have a dog that I love that is happy and healthy and actually taking her to the vet today because this little baby girl has been pooping out a little bit of blood. It's actually really heartbreaking and really scary, but I get to take her there and I get to have her and I get to experience these things with her.
It's the little things, you know? So if you're listening, please say a prayer. Hopefully by the time this episode launches, she's all okay. But I did cry already this morning just out of worst case scenarios. Moving on. I really just want to tell you that I recorded this episode as a reminder, as I've mentioned, and I didn't do it to invalidate any of your struggles, any of the things that you're going through. It is just an addition to the things to think about.
Because I know I'm still going to fight with my mental health. And I know that a lot of times making these mindset shifts feels very much out of my control. But some of them are in my control. And just adding this thought to the multi... Can I speak? One million thoughts I have going on up there might make a world of a difference. And I hope that it could do that for you. And I hope that this has encouraged you to think beyond the negative thoughts, the...
complaints, the whatever it may be. Okay, I know we have our struggles, but we are gifted, privileged, and lucky to be here. And I simply wanted to remind you of that. And I really love you guys. And I really appreciate you. And you guys know you are my bestest friends in the whole world.
And I am so beyond grateful for you till the end of time. And I can't wait to chat next Monday. And I'm happy you're here. And I hope you know that I appreciate you forever and ever and ever. Keep pushing. Keep loving. Keep learning. Keep growing. Okay. Bye. I'll see you next Monday.