Master of Multitasking?: You Can('t) Slow Down
Imperfectly Phenomenal Woman
Deep Dive
What is the main limiting belief discussed in the episode?
The main limiting belief discussed is 'I can't slow down,' which Mariah Garcia Nelson, a working mom of two, explores in the context of adjusting to motherhood, multitasking, and prioritizing self-care.
How does Mariah describe her relationship with time before having children?
Before having children, Mariah could easily do things back-to-back, such as socializing and running errands. After becoming a mom, her relationship with time shifted dramatically, as she now has to account for her children's needs, which often slows her down.
What challenges does Mariah face with her toddler and newborn?
Mariah faces challenges like her toddler testing boundaries, having strong opinions, and requiring constant attention, while her newborn needs feeding, diaper changes, and sleep. Balancing these demands while maintaining her own sanity is a significant struggle.
What does Mariah say about multitasking as a mom?
Mariah criticizes the cultural expectation that moms should be 'masters of multitasking.' She emphasizes that multitasking often means neglecting something important, and she advocates for slowing down and focusing on one task at a time to maintain mental and emotional health.
How does Mariah prioritize self-care and 'me time'?
Mariah prioritizes self-care by committing to exercise four times a week, even if it means doing it at home with her toddler nearby. She also makes time to meet friends and ensures she communicates her needs to her husband for support, such as getting adequate sleep.
What does Mariah say about asking for help?
Mariah commits to always having an answer when someone asks how they can help her. She acknowledges the importance of relying on her 'village' and being explicit about her needs, such as asking for help with laundry or childcare to maintain her well-being.
How does Mariah describe her identity as a mom?
Mariah feels she has lost some of her identity since becoming a mom and is still figuring out who she is in this new role. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining her individuality and showing her kids that she has interests and joys outside of motherhood.
What is the reframed belief Mariah suggests at the end of the episode?
Mariah reframes the belief 'I can't slow down' to 'I can slow down. I need to slow down for me. I am worthy when I'm not doing it all. I am worthy when I'm just being me.' This emphasizes the value of simply existing and not constantly doing.
What does Mariah say about the importance of connection with her children?
Mariah highlights the importance of intentional connection with her children, which requires slowing down and being present. She notes that this connection is crucial for their social and emotional development and cannot happen while multitasking or being distracted.
What does Mariah call her current life chapter?
Mariah calls her current life chapter 'Realism and Grace,' where she focuses on setting realistic expectations, giving herself grace, and asking for help. She acknowledges that her capacity has changed and prioritizes self-compassion and balance.
- The drastic change in the perception of time after having children.
- The challenges of multitasking with children.
- The need to adjust expectations and slow down to maintain sanity.
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