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You Can('t) Break the Cycle of Miscommunication

2025/6/17
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Alayna: 我发现与家人进行开放和诚实的沟通非常困难,尤其是在黑人和移民家庭中,传统上更注重尊重和顺从。千禧一代的我们,因为互联网的普及,能够获取更多信息,从而更好地满足自身需求,并改善与家人的关系。我一直是一个以解决问题为导向的人,无法容忍问题存在而不采取行动。因此,我希望通过制定家庭服务水平协议(SLA),明确家庭成员之间的需求和期望,从而打破沟通的僵局。这个过程对我来说既恐惧又充满力量,因为我是一个正在康复的取悦者,害怕让别人不舒服。但我知道,我不能总是顾及别人的想法,否则我无法快乐地生活。我为自己能够开始表达真实的自我,并在建立界限的同时,还能保持良好的人际关系而感到自豪。我希望我的孩子能与我的父母(他们的祖父母)建立良好的关系,但这需要我与他们保持良好的联系。因此,我必须采取行动,改善与家人的沟通,而不是仅仅希望事情会变好。 Lauren: 只要你努力,你就有机会打破与家人或伴侣的沟通障碍。为了改善与他人的沟通,你需要首先了解他们所处的位置。Alayna认真对待改善家庭沟通问题,她正在制定家庭服务水平协议,这是一个真正的商业文件,需要家庭成员认真阅读和讨论。与他人沟通时,要从爱的角度出发。Alayna在给予建议时以解决问题为导向,但在接受建议时则更情绪化。焦虑不是你对正在发生的事情的恐惧,而是你对你对正在发生的事情的反应的恐惧。

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It's not always easy to share how you feel with the ones you love most. In this episode, Alayna shares her plan to make communication with her family even better. 

Alayna's story is a reminder that change doesn't occur through hope alone. Instead, you have to make an active effort to shift your circumstances. The process may be imperfect, but as a phenomenal woman, she's making an effort to build a solid foundation of communication with her family from a place of love. 

In this episode you'll hear about:

  • being a recovering people pleaser, 
  • establishing boundaries while maintaining great relationships,
  • defining your needs and expectations to the ones you love, 
  • providing logical solutions vs managing emotions, 
  • creating a structured family agreement of communication,  expectations,
  • feeling defensive when someone gives advice, and 
  • being proud of how far she's come.

 

At the end of the episode, we reframe her limiting belief "you can't break the cycle of miscommunication" to fit more within Alayna's desired reality. Stay tuned until the end to shift your mindset.

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