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You Can('t) Define Wife For Yourself

2025/1/28
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Toria Edmonds-Howell: 我认为许多人对“妻子”的定义都强加于我，而我选择自己定义“妻子”的意义。结婚两年来，我一直在思考婚姻的意义，并努力创造属于我们自己的婚姻模式。例如，我没有更改我的姓氏，这与许多人的期望不同。从一开始，我就决定不举行婚礼，因为我认为这并非资金的最佳用途，而且婚礼的意义更多在于满足他人的期望，而不是我们自身的需要。我们选择私下交换誓言，并举办了一个相对简单的订婚派对。我认为“妻子”的意义在于对完整的自我承诺，以及与伴侣共同创造一个空间，让彼此都能成为完整的自己。婚姻中需要不断妥协，要学会选择哪些事情值得争取，哪些事情可以放手。在与伴侣相处的过程中，我学会了如何更好地处理批评和建议，以及如何平衡个人空间和共同生活。我意识到，即使是完整的人，也需要不断成长和进步，才能拥有和谐的婚姻。我们每周都会去同一家餐厅共进晚餐，这已经成为我们共同的珍贵回忆。 Lauren: 我赞同Toria的观点，婚姻是两个个体结合，而不是融合成一个整体，保持个体完整性很重要。在婚姻中，给予彼此成长的空间非常重要，要选择一个能给予你成长的空间，并且你也能给予对方成长的空间的伴侣。即使没有完美的婚姻榜样，每个人也需要自己重新定义婚姻。在约会阶段就应该尝试不同的约会场景，以了解自己和伴侣的需求和价值观，为未来的婚姻做准备。

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What does the word "wife" mean to you? As Toria Edmonds-Howell was entering marriage she realized that many people had opinions on what being a wife should mean to her. She decided that instead of accepting other people's definitions and expectations for the term, she would define it for herself.

Becoming a wife is an experience that can't be solely determined by what your family, friends, society, or even your partner think of you. Your definition may not fit the mold, but that's ok. How you show up as a wife may seem imperfect to others but you have to do what is best for you and your relationship. And don't forget, you can be imperfect and phenomenal at the same time.

In this episode you'll learn about:

  • intentionally not having a wedding, 
  • managing people’s opinions,
  • carving a lane for yourself as a wife, 
  • being complete and an individual in a marriage and partnership
  • dating tips, 
  • compromise in marriage, and 
  • dealing with criticism and critique.

At the end of the episode, we reframe her limiting belief "you can't define wife for yourself" to fit more within Toria's desired reality. Stay tuned until the end to shift your mindset.

Connect with us 

Toria's IG: @toriamalia)

Lauren's IG: @lauren.e.will)

Toria's Strategy Business and Podcast: hernewfangled.com)

Toria's Cleaning Products: north24home.com)

Imperfectly Phenomenal Woman: ipwomanpodcast.com)