761. The Secret to Reinventing Yourself—Again and Again
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Hello, and welcome to the almost 30 podcast. I am Lindsay Simsek. I'm so glad you're here. I'm one half of the almost 30 podcast and it's a solo episode today. So you're just getting me babies.

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Love you forever. Okay, let's get into this episode. I wanted to talk about the art of starting over. I have so many people around me right now, friends, family, who are, in essence, starting over, at least starting over in a pretty major area of their life. And

I have been thinking about the times in my life where I have been pushed or called to start over and just how much resistance I give, at least in the beginning where I'm like, start over. That feels like a lot. That feels heavy. That feels like too much resistance.

It feels like a burden rather than an opportunity. And so I think there is absolutely a shift happening in our culture and society and just in the collective in general where, you know, people aren't going to have the same job for their entire life or, you know, their relationships might shift at very poignant moments in their life.

perhaps they're inspired to make a huge move and they have to, in essence, start over. A lot of people I know are getting divorced because they've realized that they've kind of grown apart from their partner. And in essence, they have to start over. So

What I want to talk about is basically why this is actually a really, really powerful time and opportunity when you are thrown into this start over season. I want to talk about the emotional toll it takes. You know, these big pivots can bring on a lot of resistance and why that happens and just how to reframe that. And I also want to talk about

I think my number one hack when it comes to the start over. So I'm going to share that with you a little bit later on. Okay, so...

Let's get into it. So let me set the scene starting over. It's happened a few times in my life. Some notable times are when I broke up with my long-term boyfriend, my college sweetheart, who I thought I was going to be with forever. That was when I was 25 and

So just before my Saturn return, I feel like that was the precursor event to my Saturn return, which can happen where something big happens. It kind of thrusts you into this period of like the great unknown. And it certainly did. I didn't know I was going to be single for seven years, but I was. And it felt like such a major start over. And I was, even though the breakup was of my doing an initiative, um,

Yeah.

It was wild. But what I know now looking back was when I finally just took that season by the freaking reins, I was like, okay, like perhaps I am in control, even though it feels wildly out of control. Perhaps I can actually harness this superpower of a season.

and actually start to get clear on the life that I want and the life I desire. Another start over that felt exciting but really intense was my move from New York to LA in 2014. I was living in New York at the time. I

I had many jobs. I was training to become a SoulCycle instructor. I was a fit model. I had just gotten out of the bartending scene that I was in for years. And SoulCycle gave me an opportunity to move across the country to L.A.,

And I said, yes, without even hesitating. I had no idea how I was going to pull it off, how I was going to do it, logistically speaking, but I just knew it was right. And I had to start over, you know, my local friendships, community, the environment in which I was in was completely different. I had to like find my, find my flow on the daily and, and

I think that experience, though it was hard and though I quickly put myself into debt and just was treading water for years, it was such a formative time because it was just me and me. You know, I was thrust into that single season. Then this opportunity came about eventually. And I just built so much trust with myself. It wasn't perfect, but I...

I just, I remember feeling so powerful. Like I made that decision. I figured it out. You know, I am doing the most to keep myself afloat, but I'm also pursuing my dream. You know, it was, it was such a time. I look back on it fondly. I really do. Because that starting over in essence was an exercise in, can you trust yourself? Can you take a leap?

And not see five feet in front of you, but trust that the feeling you have around me, just the original decision is so strong and so clear. And so since then, I've been kind of this daredevil in terms of just taking chances on myself. And I'm just so thankful for that start over that happened in my late 20s.

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um, is becoming a mom. You know, it, it changes your life completely. And anyone who says it doesn't, I'd like to talk to you because it changed every aspect of my life. And I am so happy and so fulfilled, like more than I ever thought I could be. And it's been a bit of a shock at times. So I'm

You know, I started this brand called New Mom on the Block. And yes, it's for new moms, but really the secret hidden message behind it and one that I want to talk more about is just this idea of like the beginner's mindset and how we can actually leverage that in a season like this. And anytime we feel just...

inept or out of control or like we just don't got it yet. You know, the beginner's mindset is such a focused, honestly spiritual state that I think most of us can afford to practice more often. We're living in a time that's very distracted. We're on our phones, we're in our emails, we're on social media, we see other people's lives and we're not

singularly focused on something. We are not immersing ourselves in learning something new. So I've really treated motherhood as this, wow, okay, this is something that is innately within me. And it also feels really good and exciting to see everything through the eyes of I am learning something new every day. I am a

don't get hard on myself and judge myself when I don't get things right. You know? Because in essence...

Our children are changing on a day-to-day basis, like growing at a rapid pace. And so we really have to be agile and be willing to learn new things every single day. I don't think we become like master mothers. I unfortunately don't think that. I really think our responsibility is to be as present as possible, to be as curious as possible, to have that beginner mindset. So I've learned so much about that in this season.

I'll talk a little bit more about that later. But for anyone out there who is going through a start over, a starting over season, I see you, I feel you. It can feel incredibly dysregulating. It can feel like your life is falling apart.

It can feel like you should be farther along. It could feel like you're letting everyone down, including yourself. It might feel like you should have it all figured out. And I just want to talk to you about a really powerful reframe that helped me so much. And that is how this starting over is actually...

an expansion and not a failure and not an ending. It's actually a moment, a portal for some of your deepest expansion. And it's funny, you know, as a mom, you always hear like, oh, when your kids are young, their brains are so malleable and you could teach them anything. And that is true for sure. But actually,

Studies on neuroplasticity show that our brains are wired for change at any age. This comes from a study out of Harvard Medical School. So let me just say that your brain is hardwired for change at any age.

I know it can feel like it's not, and you can feel a lot of resistance around change, but it is hardwired. So believe that, allow that to happen. Allow new neural pathways to be paved. In your thirties, I think it is so exciting to have these opportunities to start over because, you know, we've had kind of like rocky, chaotic startovers in our twenties, but in our thirties,

We got that wisdom behind us. We have more life experience. So starting over is often more intentional, right? Than in our 20s. So own it, you know, own that start over. It is yours to take. It is yours to, it is yours to take advantage of, you know? And the other reframe that's really helped me

been a little bit harder to grasp, but has been probably the most powerful is that starting over actually resets your pace. I'm someone who at certain periods of my life was going so fast and doing the most. And I think, especially an unexpected start over and even some expected, because I think motherhood is this.

helps to recalibrate your relationship with time and really pushes you to take a step back and evaluate what's working, what's not, what in my life is aligned and what is not, and what am I going to do about it? So I think for me, I am more apt these days to slow down, literally like press

press a metaphorical button in the middle of the day and be like, slow down. You know, it's usually when my son is like, is wanting to play and engage, which is every time we're together. And I'm able to now slow down and be with him and actually take in what this moment has for me. And it's just, it's the best, you know, and I think it helps me

to prioritize. It helps me to get out of my head. It helps me to get out of the me, me, me mindset where it's just, you know, all about me improving me, doing me like that's fine, but it's actually been liberating to be like, Oh, actually let me care about it.

this little being and put all of my focus into him in this moment. And it just is such a dope recalibration. So allow these start over seasons to recalibrate your relationship with time because you might be going too fast to be completely honest with you. And you might have unrealistic expectations of yourself.

around the timing of your life. We must trust the timing of our lives. And I think start overs are such a cheeky way of reminding us of that. Oh, you thought you were going this way down this path as far along as you were, and now you got to start over. And it's just, it's so humbling to

but it's so enlightening and gets us out of the autopilot that could be just keeping us really, really small. Now, I spoke earlier about the resistance that comes up. It is so real, the resistance to starting over. I think a lot of the pain and anguish and challenge that I've heard from so many people out there in their late 20s, early 30s,

you know, in their relationships or maybe with their body or their career or purpose. So much of that pain, anguish and challenge and confusion comes from the resistance to the change wanting to take seed in this person's life. It's not about the change itself. It's the resistance to the change. So,

I am guilty. I have resisted change so many times in my life. I think one of the ones that comes up for me immediately is when I moved in with my husband after we had been dating for, I want to say a year, year and a half, year and a half. And we moved in together. Even though I was excited, like in theory, I was excited.

I was just, and it was like kind of a start over, right? I'd never lived with a partner before. And I was just like, whoa, this is a whole new experience. And I really had to let go of certain things that I felt like I needed to control in order to feel okay. I was just met with a mirror, you know, everywhere, everywhere.

We found each other because in our relationships, we are able to experience ourself in another way. And yeah, it was exactly what we needed. You know, I kind of needed that moment of resisting this change and him showing me that I was resisting it and me to him as well.

in order to embrace this new experience. And so parts of me kind of had to, had to die a little bit, that part that liked to control. And, um, the part of me that liked to hide parts of myself because they were kind of messy, they were kind of ick. And when you're with your person and you're living with them, especially like it's all going to be seen.

And he healed me so much because he just loves me unconditionally. And I was able to just slowly allow certain parts to die and certain parts to be seen and experienced fully. And it was just so important for our relationship to

as a whole. So I'm curious, is there an area of your life that you feel is kind of being flipped on its head? You are starting over and what is the resistance around it? Are you experiencing resistance? And what does that resistance look like? I think it's important that we just call it like it is. Call it like it is. And let me tell you why you might be resisting this start over.

there's cultural and societal pressure. You should be at a certain point by a certain age. That's real. That is so real, y'all. It's not just made up. We see it everywhere we go. We see it curated on social media. But the reality is that the average age of major life milestones is shifting. And

People are getting married later. They're switching careers more frequently and redefining success. I'm sure you see it around you if you really look. This comes from a Pew research study. So

I honestly, I think soon we're going to be dissolving all of those rules and all of those expectations that we place on ourselves because we're going to be seeing more often what's possible. You know, we're going to be seeing people switching careers a bunch of times in their lifetime. We're going to be seeing people shifting their relationships more easily and with flow. We're going to be seeing people redefining what success really is.

I feel like I'm seeing that in the motherhood space where it's just like, yo, being home with your child, with your children is actually one of the hardest and most fulfilling things that you can do. And that, if we can do that, that is success, right? So it's just fascinating to be living at a time like this. And I think we need to like kind of pull our eyes up out of our phones and

pull our energy away from, you know, the people that we're comparing ourselves to and really kind of look at our life as this mosaic, this mosaic that is

slowly but surely becoming this masterpiece that is so unique to you. So if you are, you know, spending five years in this career, and then you make a pivot over here because you're lit up by this thing, like how cool and how beautiful. And yes, you might be starting over. Yes, you might be taking a demotion at first, but like, Ooh, how interesting, how intriguing, how expanding.

I really want us to reprogram our brains around starting over. I was thinking about it

The most successful people, you know, traditionally successful, I guess, in this sense, have reinvented themselves many times. I'll name a few. Oprah, Julia Child, Martha Stewart, Vera Wang. I know there's a bunch of various actors who didn't hit it until 40 or 50 or 60. Like it's

incredible. It's incredible how many lives you can live within a lifetime. So I just wanted to mention that because I think we can forget and be so hard on ourselves when

that we quote, just don't have it together or we're behind or we're a late bloomer, you are right on time. And what is for you will never, ever, ever, ever miss you. What I do know looking back on the pivots and like the starting over moments that I've had is that the emotional toll is real. And I don't think you can prevent it, but you can take care of yourself through it.

It's supposed to be emotional, I think. It is a deep transformative time. And so if you weren't emotional, I would be a bit worried. Why? Why does this feel so emotional and so heavy?

I think the fear of uncertainty is just a human fear that we all have. We all want to know. We all want to know for certainty what's going to happen. You know, that's why so many people go to psychics and things and get readings and like, well, when am I going to meet my person? To live in the unknown and uncertainty feels uncomfortable. The brain does crave familiarity. So it does make sense. Um,

What helps me is to write down or reflect on what do I know to be true? What do I know in this moment? And so it's not the focus on what I don't know. It's the focus on what is true. What do I know in this moment? And that brings me a bit of comfort and a bit of, I think, the illusion of control, if you will.

Um, why is it so painful? Also the identity loss. I mean, starting over could mean you need to relinquish a certain part or whole of your identity. And that is insanely overwhelming. You know, that could affect your relationships that could affect everything to your identity. But let me just remind you, and I'm going to get spiritual for a second.

Your soul is not attached to that identity. Your soul actually, I think, loves to try on these things almost like jackets. The soul is like, let's try this on for fit. Yeah, this feels good. And then, you know, when it's kind of done wearing that jacket, it's like, let's go try on this jacket. And so the soul is not attached to your identities. But I think we as humans are like, well, if I'm not this, if I'm not X, then who am I?

Who am I? And the soul's like, you are, you know, the soul is profound. The soul is like, you are. And we're like, what, what are we? Um, we forget that being is really powerful. Um, just going to let a little silence in there because being is incredibly powerful. I don't even think I can wrap my mind around being.

I think in my meditation practice, I try, but it is such an infinite place to be that I don't know if my human can totally go there. But it's a beautiful question to kind of be in like, can I just be? It's also really hard because your ego just loves... Your ego loves to know. Your ego loves to have the plan. Your ego loves to feel...

successful and like you've made progress and starting over means all of that kind of dissolves. And so that success and stability kind of being called into question or dissolving is like very hard for the ego and the ego loves to hold on. So there's probably going to be a little bit of an ego death. That's why it could feel so emotionally intense.

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And then, you know, something I'm, I fall victim to all the time. Um, not even victim. I, I, I engage in all the time is just comparing myself. It's just such a trap. It's not, it's not real. You know, I'm seeing people live their lives and do these things and have success in various ways. And, um,

They seem like they're ahead or they're doing more than me or better than me or whatever story I'm telling. And it's just not true. And it's also making the change that starting over season feel horrible, horrible, horrible. I want it to feel fun, exciting, expansive. I want my curiosity to lead me. I want my soul to play in this space.

Um, so I think it's really helped me overall. All of those reasons for the emotional heaviness is to call it out.

So call it out, call it out, put words to it, write it down. Just being honest with myself and no longer allowing a story I tell myself or a judgment to take over. You know, I remind myself of the truth. I remind myself of what's really scary about this and acknowledge it. Like say it out loud. Because honestly, I think when we call out the fear, it just becomes less powerful. And then...

You know, I tend to get overwhelmed in these starting over seasons. Can we just break it into small digestible steps or small moments? And that's what I've done with motherhood. I think the most out of any start over season that I've had, it's like, how can we break this down into small digestible moments? And sometimes that's all my brain will allow me to do. And I'm kind of thankful for it.

So when it comes to, you know, thinking about my career and my purpose and what that looks like now that I'm a mom or, you know, how to spend my time or what my priorities are or any of that stuff or meeting new mom friends and, you know, being a good mom, what does that look like? It's like, how can I, how can I break this down into like an hour by hour thing? Yeah.

And just be the best mom I can be this hour. You know, can I be present? Can I be patient? Can I be honest? You know, can I just love? And that's really helped me. So use that as a metaphor for your own starting over season, you know, break it down, however feels proper to you. But that hour by hour thing for me, ooh, it helps because then I release any expectation I have.

beyond that. And I just focus on what's in front of me and it's helped so, so much. Okay. At the top of this episode, I mentioned I have, I think the real hack for approaching starting over, you know, and really making it an art and that is embracing the beginner's mindset. We've lost that. We've lost that y'all. Where did it go?

I think we've become so obsessed with being the experts, with progressing in our careers, being so far, which is fine. But there is a beauty of being a beginner again, like a child. Kids are so beautifully curious. They're asking all the questions. They are so...

deeply engaged in something they're learning after a certain point, you know, two-year-old, probably not. But there comes a point as a child where you just love to learn something new and want to master it. And it's just such a powerful practice that I've adopted, especially since becoming a mom. Becoming a mom is...

I'm a beginner every single day. New things pop up every single day. My child is changing every single day. So learning is like my jam. Um, I think what's fascinating is that learning new skills strengthens brain function and reduces cognitive decline. So if nothing else approach this beginner's mindset with a health intention, it is so good for our brains. Um,

Another thing that's really helped me in these starting over seasons related to the beginner's mindset is like actually engaging in something that I'm learning a new that has nothing to do with the starting over. So maybe I've been wanting to learn how to watercolor, paint watercolor, um, which I have been wanting to, I haven't started yet, but, um, yeah.

Perhaps I fully throw myself into some classes, virtual or in person, and I get a watercolor set and I set an easel up somewhere in my home. Like what if I really gave it a good old go and just fully immersed myself in that?

For me, having something outside of what's happening in the starting over season gives my brain, gives my spirit just a place to rest, a place to practice learning something new. And then the practice of learning something new gets applied to the starting over season. So it's by proxy that I'm learning these things, but it's being infused into the new season. I just think it is such a power move.

such an important part, especially of your thirties, to be able to embrace change with confidence, to allow yourself to start anew, to allow yourself to completely immerse yourself in the process of becoming and not resist it. You know, your life is working on you. Your life is helping you to become God, universe, source, your guides, whatever you believe in,

are working on you and your thirties are not the place that you're going to have it all figured out and you become like the person you are going to be for the rest of your life. That would be so boring. That would be so insanely boring. So give yourself that permission to start over, to lean into it, to embrace it,

to be that beginner and then watch what happens. Like your life is going to change. Your life is going to start to take shape into what you always dreamed of, or in my experience, what you could have never dreamed of for yourself. So I hope this was helpful. I know that we are going through starting over seasons, no matter what age we are. So I, I just want to like,

give you a big hug. I know it can be so overwhelming. It could feel very isolating. It could feel like you're stuck, but you are not. You are not behind. You are just evolving. You are evolving. And that is movement. That is movement, even though it might feel like you're stuck or moving backwards. That is movement forwards, just not in the linear time way that you have always known. So

The only thing scarier than starting over is staying stuck. Let me say that again. The only thing scarier than starting over is staying stuck. So what do you want? Do you want to start over or stay stuck? The choice is yours.

You are in the driver's seat of this. You have everything you need to embrace this change. You got this. I love you all. A major theme in our new book, Almost 30, A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond is embracing change. It's a huge, huge theme. I'm excited to dive deeper with you in the book.

But I wanted to bring this experience, this very specific experience of starting over to our conversation here, because I feel like we're living at a time when there's going to be a lot of it and it's going to normalize. And we're going to be able to lean in without looking around, feeling like we're being judged or we're falling behind. And I hope, my hope is that

then more people start living the life they're truly meant to live and, you know, moving into passions and purposes when they're called to and not feel stuck and not feel stagnant. I think this is the new way of designing a life. And I'm excited to be here today.

for it. So thanks for listening. I appreciate you all. Another solo episode in the books. You can listen to over 750 episodes of almost 30.

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