767. Your Inner Teen Might Still Be Controlling the Narrative: How To Heal + Integrate Her
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And we've talked about many things over the years, from aliens to ayahuasca to God to solo travel to dating to dating apps. We've covered and run the gamut. And today, I'm really excited for this solo episode with me. My name is Crystal Williams. I am a coach. I am a speaker. I am a teacher. I'm a teacher.

And I'm someone that is obsessed with self-development and healing and someone that really teaches a lot of things that I am going through or have just recently worked through, mastered but not healed, something that I'm really excited about. And today we're going to be talking about healing the inner teenager. We are going to be talking about inner teen healing. And I'm pumped because yesterday I was kind of noodling on my

sitting at my desk, I was noodling on the topics I wanted to talk about today with y'all. And I was going to talk about the voice and I was going to talk about things related to the body. The voice and the body are things I like to talk about quite a bit because I think if we can get those areas right, if we can find a way to express and feel into our bodies and our voice, we're going to live a life that we love. But I was like sitting there and I'm like, you know what? I need to think about what I'm going through right now and what's been happening in my life.

and share something vulnerably with the audience. And I realized that a lot of what I'm struggling with right now are issues related to my inner team.

So when we talk about the inner teen, the inner teen is basically the part of the psyche that relates experiences, feelings, and patterns from your teenage years. So it's the aspect of your inner self that can influence behavior, emotional reactions, and relationships. The inner teen is basically that part of you that existed at that time and all the experiences that little you as a teen went through. So the inner child conversation is something that we talk about all the time. It's

It's very popular in the zeitgeist. People are very aware of their inner child now. There's inner child meditations, retreats. We do a lot of inner child work. And the inner child has just gotten so much love over the past couple of years, all the love that they very much deserve. But I think we are over-indexing on the power of the inner child. And we really, really, really need to look at the inner teen. So if we think about the inner teen in our teenage years, think about

everything that you learned about, everything that you went through, and everything that happened during that season that's now potentially influencing your life today. I'll name a few things. For me, that's when I had my first love. So my first romantic relationship in my teen years set a huge standard idea, perception for the rest of my romantic relationships for my life.

So many of us just start dating when we're teenagers. We have our first relationships, our first love, our first breakup, maybe our first sexual experience. That all happens when we're teens. So those experiences of our inner teen are influencing and impacting us today.

As an example, I had my very first love. I fell so hard, you guys. Oh my gosh, I dissolved into that man. I was, you guys, I was 16 years old and I was going to get a tattoo on my ring finger of his initials. I was all in. I went all in. I dedicated my whole life, my psyche, every single thing to this man. And when we broke up,

It crushed me. What did that teach me? It is not safe to surrender in a relationship. It is not safe to let go. It is not safe to be who you truly are because when you are, you'll be rejected. So we can even think about, and you can even think about now, some of the things you've learned in your first breakup with your first love. Like what did that teach you? What did you

now apply to your romantic relationships today that came from a situation that happened when you were a teen. During our teen years, we are also figuring out our sexuality. I think a lot of us as older women or women that are getting older have to really rework and rewire the experiences of the inner teen.

For me, it was all performative. I think a lot of us have that experience as women where sex we had with men or whatever we were doing was so performative. I mean, I was...

I was the way that I was a freak when I was in my teens and the way that I'm not as much a freak now is so crazy because I was doing all of this performative type of sexuality because I didn't really understand sex. I didn't really understand relationships. No one really taught me. So I was learning from movies. I was learning from culture. I was learning from media. This was me as a teen learning these things that no one was really teaching us.

Something else that the inner teen also experiences or goes through during this time is our relationship with authority. This is where the rebel comes in. Our inner rebel really comes in when we think about our relationship to authority. We are really grappling and struggling with authority during our teen years. For me, I learned that authority was not to be trusted. I learned that authority was constrictive. I learned that authority takes from you. I learned all these things about authority that...

I had to really let go of and I had to really release because when you become an actual adult or a woman or you step into your queen, you realize that authority is not the enemy, that it's not the problem, that there's nobody to fight with. But that teenager is often fighting with their parents, fighting with teachers, fighting with police, fighting with principals, fighting with this perceived authority in the quest to have individuation.

So you as a teen seek individuation. You want to be an individual. You want to be your own person. You want to stand out from the crowd. You want to be an adult, you know, during this time. And authority is what's keeping you small and keeping you from that. So you have this desire often to challenge authority or resist these constraints because you really want autonomy. As a teen, you want that autonomy. You want that freedom. You want that, you know, ability to make decisions for yourself. You really want to, um,

to challenge authority because you have such a conflict. You really have this challenge in balancing respect for authority figures and then also this need to assert your independence because you want your independence. So during this time of our inner teens, we have this experience of really figuring out authority. I know for me in my personal experience, my teen years was also the time when I established my relationship with money.

So, I started working when I was 13. I think you had to be 14 in Ohio to work, but I lied on my resume to the nursing home that I worked at. So, I worked at a nursing home for my first job. I worked in the back kitchen with a man named Ray, and I pureed food for old people. So, older people at this nursing home needed their food chunky, but

or liquefied or normal. So there was normal, chunky, and liquefied. So I would take their meals as a 13-year-old in the back of this super hot, steamy kitchen of a nursing home in Ohio and either puree or chunkify meals. And then I'd slop it on the plate and I'd send it off to the person. And

And so I did this for six months, something like that. It was the highest paying job that I could get for my age. I think at that time I was making $8.25, which was balling out of control for that. So I was balling. So I was learning during that time, time is money, that if I do an hour of work, I get $8.25. Okay, so an hour of this equals this amount of money. And then this amount of money equals this amount of freedom or this amount of activity or this amount of things I can do or buy.

I also started to get other jobs during that time. I started to serve. I babysat. I worked a lot, actually. I worked five days a week. I started to work at Gold's Gym where I got fired because I kept leaving the cash drawer open. I left the cash drawer open at Gold's Gym.

three times. And he said the second time, if you leave the cash door open one more time, Krista, I'm firing you. And I was like, this man is never going to fire me. And I left it open a third time and he says, please leave. And I said, oh my God. So I had all these different jobs. Some of them are miserable. Some of them are great, whatever. But I was really learning about hard work equals having money. So my perception of money now still is work hard. The more, the harder I work, the more money I make, which isn't necessarily a bad idea. But

But it doesn't always have to be true. So I was like, work hard, make a lot of money, work hard, make a lot of money. You have to be uncomfortable to make money. Time is money. You know, all of these certain ideas that I had. I also saw my parents, you know, struggle with money in their own way. My dad lost his job quite a bit. And so

I remember one time I was like 13 or I was thinking I was 14 or 15 and in my dad had lost his job. And I remember just thinking in my head, like, Oh, I can't fuck up. Like I need to take care of the family. I, this is my teen brain. I'm like, I need to take care of the family. Like I have to find a way to make money. I need to not put pressure on them to pay for things. I need to help out. It's not safe for me to relax. I need to do all these things. So

even seeing my parents during this time also established this idea and perception of how I was with money. So oftentimes our inner teen is kind of creating or understanding money in a new way. I think as kids, you know, you can think of money kind of, it's like play money, or you can kind of see your parents fight about money, or you can see it on TV or something like that. But you're really going to have a deeper and more formidable understanding of money that's created during your teen years.

You're also going to understand friendships a lot during your teen years. A lot of us are really in these codependent relationships. You're spending every second with someone. You might have friendship breakups. You might have the mean girl effect where maybe you were bullied. Maybe you were the bully. Maybe someone gossiped about you. Maybe someone tortured you. Maybe someone talked behind your back.

For many of us, these old outdated programs and stories related to things that happened to us in friendship as a teen are also still running the show. So I think you can see with things related to friendships, money, sex, and love that there's such a core teen that is present.

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I also would be remiss if I didn't talk about how the inner teen is related to body health.

And our relationship to our body. You guys know I talk about body all the time. I believe that so many women are hiding and so many women are not living a life that they love because they are afraid to be seen because they're insecure about their bodies because they hate their bodies.

I struggled the most with my body during my teen years. That is when my eating disorder was the worst. That is when my perception of myself was the worst. That is when I had no reprieve or no support in thinking in a healthy way about my body or about food. I was struggling so much. I was not nourishing myself. I was not taking care of myself. And I really just so desperately wanted to change my body because I felt like if I could change my body,

I would change my life. And if I could lose weight, then I would be free. And if I could lose weight, then I would be loved. And if I could lose weight, then everything would be okay at home. All of these ideas and perceptions we get around food are really, really created and often exacerbated during our teen years. For me, my body conversation and the relationship I had with my body started when I was really young with certain situations, but it really, really

took the front center stage during my teen years and was the hardest for me during my teen years. So you can think about all the times that your inner teen struggled with her body or struggled with food, or really think about how, you know, that inner teen healing that's needed for the part of you that really hated her body and probably created or started you on the body loathing journey that you maybe were on. Additionally, the inner teen, you guys, the inner teen,

This is when our hormones are going crazy and we are very emotional. The way that I was emotional, the way that I was nihilistic, the way that I was atheist, the way that I could not get a grip or handle on my emotions. Oh my goodness gracious. I was, I thought I was like Elliot Smith. I was like, I am like Stanley Kubrick. I am just...

The deepest person of all time, Daskieski. I'm like, I just, I was so emotional and so deep. There's nothing that could just satiate the depth that I could feel of my emotions. And I still have that capacity, but I didn't really know how to control my emotions. I didn't really know how to be with them.

I didn't know how to pull them apart from me. And for so many of us, this is when we were called crazy. This is when we were called too sensitive. This is when we were called emotional. This is really when a lot of our shame around feeling and sensitivity and emotions began. This is when I really realized that it didn't serve me to be so emotional all the time, that it was a bad thing, that it pushed people further away from me than closer to

I just remember driving to school in Ohio and listening to like the postal service and just weeping or being so upset or so all these things and then going into school and feeling like I was the only one that felt so deep and that felt so much and feeling so isolated because of it, not feeling connected because of it, but feeling sad about it. And for many of us that are sensitive or empaths or have a lot of feelings that we

we now feel bad about or we now feel like we have to hide or that we have to put in a box. Healing your inner teen is going to be so supportive of you. Going back to that inner teen and loving her for the compassion, the bigness, the depth, the feeling, and the emotions is going to be so incredibly helpful.

There's another thing too. I would be remiss if I did not say this, you guys, about the inner teen, because your inner teen also holds so much of the patriarchy programming. And I am, you guys, I say this every time I say the word patriarchy. I gag a little bit when I say the word patriarchy, because it's just so choogy to me. Did I use that right? I don't even know I used that right. It just is like, come on. But it's true. So during this time,

For many of us is when we are the cool girl, we realize that in order to be liked by guys, we need to not have a lot of emotions. We need to like sports. We need to act like a guy. We need to like listen to their music. We need to talk what they want to talk about. We just need to basically be a guy, but be a really, really hot version of that. So the most attractive woman to men when you're in high school is an actual guy, but having a woman's body and having boobs in a butt. And

And so we learn that having boobs in a butt is like currency. We learn that being the cool girl is currency and gets us liked. And we really, really learn a lot of the ways of hating other women, putting other women down, competition with other women, jealousy of other women, talking bad about other women and gossip with other women during this time. So these sort of social structures and social ideas that a lot of us take into our lives and replay in the corporate world or replay in our jobs are from high school.

if you've been in the corporate world at a job, most jobs are in the corporate world. I was in there for eight years and I remember so much of it feeling like high school. I was like, oh, this is actually a popularity contest. Like I'll never forget at my first job in Chicago, skyscraper building. I'm like, okay, this is where adults go to work. And I'm at this place where I think adults go to work. And I'm like two weeks in and I'm like,

So I just need to make them like me. And I just had this realization in my head like, oh, it's not all about me being a good employee. It's about interpersonal relationships and being liked and being popular in a way. This could just be my job, but I just remember feeling that there was gossip, there was power dynamics, there was hooking up, blah, blah, blah. Happens at every job. And, um,

When we don't heal those aspects of our inner teen relationship to the patriarchy, to power, to other women, to men, being a powerful woman, then we carry them with us in life. In my, you know, the messages I was getting and sort of the visual I was getting related to the next coming year as being related to the inner teen is that we as a culture or we as a consciousness are

starting around 2020, maybe 2012, started to really awaken. And so in our awakening process, we're going to be taken through the stages of healing until we get to like the embodied conscious self. So we started with the inner child. So we're going to kind of be growing up till we get to versions of ourself that exist today. And then when you get to versions of yourself that exist today, you're healing more closely related versions. So as an example, in my healing process, not that I'm like the, I'm not like the

but this has been my path. So when I first started the process, I had to heal the inner child. I had to go from like very, very young to kind of like my inner toddler, my younger self. And then I worked on the inner teen. And then the things that I've been working on now, I'm going to shorter, shorter time span. So I was healing my divorce. I was healing my time post-divorce. I was healing, you know, a friendship breakup, whatever those things are, things that were more closely related to the time I'm existing in today.

Because I had gone back in time enough shamanically and through my work in healing to bring back the aspects of self. Because a lot of times healing is actually bringing back the aspects of self into wholeness. So our perfect whole self exists here on earth. And then we have these fractured aspects of self, the little girl that we left behind, the little girl that was bullied, that is stuck

in third grade, you know, the little boy that, you know, didn't get the basketball, like he didn't get the spot on the basketball team and is stuck at this point. We grab all of these fractured aspects of ourself and our soul, and we bring them back to the current time space. And we bring them back to be integrated into the whole self. And we bring them back into wholeness.

So on this beautiful journey that we are all on together, we've been doing a lot of really great work with the inner child. You guys have been doing a great job healing your inner child, inner child meditations, really powerful, stunning, and beautiful. And now it's time for us to look at the inner teen, to look at this really beautiful, sometimes neglected, oftentimes angry, oftentimes, um,

having intense feelings and emotions and moods, very sensitive aspect of ourselves. So the emotional characteristics of the inner teen are oftentimes very sensitive. They have this sense of rebellion in them. There's a lot of mood swings because the hormones and your emotions, everything that's sort of going on with you. And then there's this intense passions. My inner teen years too was my obsession time.

You guys can think about if you're dating or you're, if you're dating, the way that you get obsessed with a crush, the limerence that you have, the fixation that you have is oftentimes a very inner teen thing. It's like that very inner teen experience that you have of this obsession and this crush. And for me, you know, a part of this, my desire to heal the inner teen, to be open and vulnerable is,

has been in my dating process, you know, after my divorce, when I've been dating now, I was realizing that the man that I was like describing that I wanted, I was like, what kind of like people, what kind of guy are you looking for? I'm like, tall, swaggy, like can slam dunk a basketball, like always has cash on him. Like, and I was like describing like what I wanted when I was like in high school. I'm like, why are you talking like,

Like it was such a low bar. It was so like silly. I'm like, okay, Krista, if you were to describe yourself and you were to describe the man that you're saying you want to call in, okay. Yeah.

I needed to grow up my preferences for my preferences to meet me now because my inner teen was like trying to pick my man in my mind. I was like, what am I describing? Like, I didn't say anything about their character, their integrity, their emotional capacity, their emotional depth, their creativity, their kindness. Like I would describe these like

J 17 word descriptions of what a man would be like. And also the second thing that I really realized I needed to work more on my inner teen was my, um, the inner teen and aspect of the inner teen is the inner teen is really, really good at masking. The inner teen is really, really good at performance. So during this time in high school or your inner teen years, you are really influenced by, um,

your peers. There's a lot of peer influence during this time. So you're very susceptibility to external validation and the opinions of others. We all know how this goes. You dress alike. You want to be just like everyone else. Everyone's straightening their hair. I'm straightening my hair. Everyone's saying this word. I'm saying this word. I would need to be like everyone else. So the inner teen has this really susceptibility to influence. And I

men could only handle a certain aspect of me or men were not able to hold my depth. So this is something now with dating where I go to men and I meet them and I'm like, meet them right away and basically assume that they're going to want me to be the cool girl. They're going to want me to be funny, be charismatic, but not be too deep because they can't really handle it. So it was almost like this programming that I learned when I was a teenager with men that

when high school, when I was dating men in high school or dating men in college even, was still sort of running the show today where it had this limited belief of what men could hold or their capacity to understand and feel. And so I would present this version of myself that was like funny, cool, interesting, charismatic, but I would not let them in at all. I would not show them my emotional depth. I would not show them my like sweetness as much. And I would really just present this sort of self that I knew would get...

their approval, but wasn't the true version of me. So the inner teen is often the one that figures out how to be accepted by peers. So when we think about your inner teen, what did your inner teen feel like they had to do to be accepted and loved? What sort of mask did they have to put on? For me, that was perfectionism. That had to be the most beautiful. I had to be the smartest, the most well-spoken, all of these things. And for a lot of us, we have different masks that

that we're influenced by our parents, influenced by the culture that we grew up in, or influenced by our peers around us. And so the teen is really that version of us that learns how to mask or learns how to have this perfectionist idea because we really want to be accepted by our peers. So when we are healing perfectionist tendencies, oftentimes we're going back to the inner teen.

We need to look at what the inner teen was doing to be perfect. My inner teen wanted to be thin, beautiful, well-spoken, liked by everybody, all of these things. That was specific to my inner teen time. That was not really my inner child. Of course, my inner child wanted to be accepted and loved, and she did different things for that. But it was very specific that I negotiated my authenticity for the connection of the community and group in high school.

So your inner teen is going to be the person that is the perfectionist most likely, the person that negotiates who they really are for love, and the person that we're going to need to go to in the next couple years to really heal and become the person we came here to be.

I hope you guys got that. And I hope you're jazzed. And I hope you're really seeing the connections in your life for why the inner teen is so important and why I'm so excited about it and why the inner teen has so much wisdom. So the inner teen, before I go into how to heal it and how we're going to really work with it, the inner teen has so much wisdom, you guys. It has like, girl, my inner teen.

She just wanted to be respected. She just wanted to be seen as an individual. She just wanted autonomy. She just wanted like risk. Like she just really wanted respect. I wanted to be respected for who I was. I wanted to have a sense of authority. I wanted to have a sense of individualism and I wanted to really explore my life and figure out who I was without these ideas, without these perceptions of who I needed to be.

The inner teen is very curious. They're very willing to explore new ideas, interests and ways of being when they're not really in like the people pleasing mentality. They have a real deep passion and enthusiasm and they really have a resilience. I mean, some of my hardest years of my life were in my teen years. That's when I experienced probably the most trauma, um,

in my life was during my teen years. And so there's this beautiful resilience that our inner teen has because they're going through some of the most change in their lives, some of the hardest, most painful times, you know, sexual trauma,

physical trauma, emotional trauma, heartbreak, friendship breakups, you know, failures. Like there's just so much that happens during this time. So the inner teen is so incredibly resilient. It can just be so inspiring to look at them.

So healing and integrating the inner teen really involves revisiting and processing the unresolved emotions, the unresolved needs, the limiting beliefs formed during this adolescence period. So this process is really going to be beautiful for increasing your self-compassion, your emotional regulation, and to balance some sense of independence.

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So freaking important. You can do all the right things like eat clean, move your body, meditate, hydrate, you know, all the things. But if you're not sleeping well, the nights that you don't sleep well and you just feel like garbage in the morning, it's honestly like trying to build a house on a cracked foundation. It's the worst. Sleep is one of the most essential and most overlooked parts of our health. It's not just the end of your day. It's the beginning of how you'll show up tomorrow.

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so unmet was so sad and brought me so much. It was just such a bummer. Sometimes there's no word other than bummer, just a big old bummer.

But when we go to the inner teen, it is rip roaring. The inner teen is oftentimes angry and angsty, baby. That is why so many of us went through emo phases because we were angry and we were angsty and the emo music was literally describing how we felt.

Oh, it was like, I grew up in a perfect town with perfect family in the suburbs. And we were like, oh yeah. I just remember being in Ohio being like, yeah, they freaking know, man. Everyone's acting like they're perfect and they're freaking not perfect. Everyone's putting a smile on their face and this is all fake. Like you, it's crazy because the teen is sometimes so awakened. Like I literally remember being like, I hate small talk. I hate not deep conversations. I hate small talk.

Everyone's faking it right now. This is a fake life. And it's crazy because it's true. Like you get the maturity as you get older. You're like, yeah, everything's kind of fake, but like I'm going to be real and I'm going to create this reality of my own or reality of my own. But when you're a teen, you're like, oh my God, that job is pointless. And my parents hate each other. And I'm

you know, they're an alcoholic and everyone's sad and fake. It's like, you really see the truth of our world and it's can be so depressing. And it can also cause you a lot of anger. You have a lot of feelings and emotions that you have not expressed. So when we start healing the inner teen, when we start looking at the inner teen, you're probably going to have a lot of anger and frustration and rage come up. And that is okay. That is okay. Okay.

That is okay. You're also going to have a lot of feelings of a part of you that really is looking for you to respect them. So the inner child, like I said, with the respect to the inner child, you're going to be more loving and tender, but this is going to be a version of you that you kind of have to meet face on. It's going to be like, okay, girl, like I see you, like I'm recognizing, respecting you. Like, what do you have to say? It's

And a lot of the way I do this work is shamanically or, you know, through internal family systems, which is the psychotherapy technique that I work on with my clients. So I really see that inner teen version unblended from me. I see her outside of me and I approach her as if I would approach someone I really respected and loved.

She is not someone that I do not value. She is not someone that I do not see as an equal. We will see and we need to see our inner teens as equals. They have so much wisdom to show and bestow on us. They have so much information to share with us. So approaching that inner teen as an equal is going to be huge. I think you can also help to heal the inner teen by doing things that your inner teen love to do. Maybe that's art. Maybe that's rollerblading. Maybe that's listening to emo music. Maybe that's...

watching silly movies with your friends. Maybe that's sleepovers. Maybe that's straightening your hair till it fries off. Like whatever it is that your inner teen loved to do, part of going back and being with that version of you is doing things she loved to do. So doing activities with your inner teen is going to be huge.

And also in our inner teen healing, it's creating space for our emotions. So this is oftentimes the case with all healing, but really with the inner teen, it's creating space for the breadth and depth of the emotions to come out, whether it's anger, whether it's rage, whether it's frustration, whatever that is really being present to that.

is going to be really, really important and really loving whatever comes up, loving the wisdom that they have. But I am really seeing this now for all of us as such an opportunity to heal so many of the things you guys

that are holding you back right now. So many of your limiting beliefs were created or developed during your inner teen times. I know that's the truth for me. My ideas around money, my ideas around friendships, my ideas around what's possible for my life, my ideas around love and relationships were created during that time. And by really getting to know and love and honor the inner teen, we will be able to set ourselves up for a life that we love, a life that's more us and

and a life that is really going to be aligned to our healed self, not two different versions of us that are still running in the background. So the number one thing I think I would say to really getting to know and healing the inner teamwork is doing therapy, doing something with your therapist to get to know the inner teen, creating space for that conversation, and really getting excited about the potential possibility of the life you're going to live on the other side of this.

The only caveat I want to say to this, and I always want to say this when I talk about healing stuff, is that we are not doing this to add on another layer of healing, making you feel like there's something wrong with you. I think when we come up with different types of things, it's like inner child, then inner teen, then all this, we can be like, God, is there something wrong with me? No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. This is a part of our...

purpose here on earth. In A Course in Miracles, it talks about how heaven's purpose is creation, earth's purpose is healing, and this inner child work is all for your healing and all for your expansion and all for you to live a life that you love that you came here to do.

I'm so excited that we got to do that together. That felt so fun for me to just even go back and think about my inner teen. I'm just loving her to death right now because she's gotten me so far. I'm excited to hear what you guys have come up around your inner teen. I'd love to hear in the comments or just DM me because I think so many of us have such

a common expression of our inner teen, but then also a lot of different expressions of our inner teen. So I want to hear what your inner teen has to say. And I'm excited for you to get to know her and love her and support her. We have like 700 other episodes of almost 30. So you have so much more to get into. You can subscribe on Spotify or Apple podcasts. I'd love if you write a review, that would be so kind. It would mean the world to me. And you can connect with me on Instagram or anywhere on social media. It's at it's Krista. So it's I T S

K-R-I-S-T-A. And I do retreats. I have courses and programs. And I am a personal development coach for very special babes on the edge of breakthrough. That's my demo is women on the edge of breakthrough. So I will see you on the next one. Thank you for being a part of my life and my world. My name is Krista Williams. I love you very much. Bye-bye.

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