775. Feminine Hacks: Step out of the masculine and into YOU
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Hello and welcome to Almost 30 Podcast. I'm so glad you're here. My name is Krista Williams and I am one half of the Almost 30 Podcast. You do not need to be almost 30 to listen. Let me just clear that up right now.

I'm over 30. I'm doing my thing. I'm living my life and I'm still here at almost 30. And almost 30 is now a brand and community and we have our first book that came out in June. Almost 30 is a definitive guide to a life that you love for this next decade and beyond. And I'm so proud of it. It is a guidebook for your spiritual evolution. It is a guidebook to you living a life that you love. And I'm excited for you guys to get it.

Thank you for supporting us in that process. It felt so good. And yeah, I'm very hard on myself. And to love the book that you write feels very good. And I'm glad you guys are enjoying it.

So on the podcast, we have amazing interviews with guests, leaders in health and wellness, spirituality, personal growth. And then we also have conversations where Lindsay and I just kind of share vulnerably and honestly what's going on in our lives. We share things that are helpful and supportive and really just about our process. One of the things that I really love to do is do solo episodes. So in the solo episodes with you and I, we get to deep dive on topics like timelines, internal family systems, femininity, sex.

body, narcissistic abuse. Like I just kind of run the gamut of the things that I've experienced and work through. I teach from a place of embodied wisdom. I only teach what I know. I only teach what I've experienced and gone through. And that means that

What you're getting is true. And also it means that my life can be painful at times because I'm always teaching the things that I know. So I'm really excited today to talk about femininity hacks that can support you in your process to stepping more into your feminine.

And the conversation around the feminine and masculine has gained so much popularity. It's such a conversation in our space. And I know when working with women all over the world, I coach women one-on-one, I have groups coaching, and then I also do retreats all over the world. And then also through Almost 30, our community, that women are desperately in desire and need of being more in their feminine.

Really one of the most common complaints that I hear from women is that they want to be more in their feminine energy, that they want to feel more feminine, that they want to have the ability to step out of this place of being in their masculine at work or in relationships. And

They may feel like at work they have to be in their masculine. They may feel like in their relationship they have to be in their masculine. They may feel like it's all on their shoulders. They may feel like they're responsible for getting everything done and carrying everything. And the system in which we live in our society and culture has also created a space where that is true for so many women. And I'll speak for myself and vulnerably share about my process in that where I

I saw and was raised by a woman that was mostly in her masculine. She had shouldered the responsibility within the home of managing the finances. She was working full time. She was responsible for the growth of their relationship. She was responsible for the caretaking of the kids and really making sure whatever needed to get done got done.

And so I saw a woman that was mostly in her masculine, mostly not safe per se in that space and burnt out, not really feeling into or having the ability to tap into her femininity. Fast forward to my life, I get a job in the corporate world. My first aspects of my career started in the corporate world. So now I have the podcast and my own businesses, but I was in the corporate world for around six years, I think, six to eight years.

I don't know what time is or years are, but I was in the corporate world for some period of time. And during that time, I was in my masculine phase.

It's hard to not be in your masculine when you are going to work five days a week, nine to five, very structured, very formulaic. You're working at this time, lunch is at this time. You're in boxes and cubes. You're working at desks. You're under artificial light. You are structured. You are standardized. You are processed. You have to speak a certain language. You are not listening to your intuition, really. You have to listen to the rules like...

It was not setting me up to be in my feminine. And during that time, when I was in my early 20s, I didn't really have the desire to be in my feminine that much. I was kind of in the girl bossy era or we were all sort of a part of this culture that was more so glamorizing the hustle and glamorizing the process of doing a lot or achieving. And maybe that's still happening.

But there wasn't as much of a conversation about wanting to slow down or wanting to be in our feminine. And so I was just kind of figuring things out. I ended up getting into a relationship with someone that ended up being my husband, my now ex. And in that way of growing up, I was sort of in this process and idea that women, it's like, go for what you want, you know?

reach out to the man, approach a man. Like it was almost like leading was cool and leading was part of the thing that you did. Like I remember being like, I want him and then go up to him and it's like, speak your truth, make it happen. There was just such a culture and energy around the way we were with women where women were truly the pursuers and women were truly going after the men and we had to make it happen. We had to be clear. We had to speak our truth. We had to tell them what we wanted. We had to like,

all this stuff. And I was fully, what do you mean fully on board? If I could be bossy, yeah. If I could be like clear, yeah. If I could be direct, yeah. If I could go for what I wanted, yeah. It was just, that was my vibe. So I did that in most of my relationships. I ended up being the one pursued or the one that pursued. I ended up being the one that was like kind of leading the relationship, determining our timeline, determining the structure, determining just everything. Like, you know, gosh, yeah.

Just the way that I was leading was so crazy. So that was my pattern was leading in relationship with the men because I didn't trust men to lead. I didn't trust men to...

You know, yeah, I didn't trust men to lead. I didn't trust men to hold a form or a frame. I didn't really know what that meant or felt or I had never had that experience. And for a lot of women, they may not even know what it feels like to be around a truly masculine man or to be led by a truly masculine man. And I had never had the experience. I my dad is amazing. He's he's really sick now. So I'm kind of re re.

structuring and understanding our relationship. But what I've processed is that he was not someone that was in his masculine. He was not holding the frame. He was not very strong. He was not very present. He had other really amazing qualities, but I wouldn't say he was a masculine example. He was very weak. So I thought I had to care for and do it all. So I'm in the corporate world doing my thing, you know, girl bossing, being in the masculine, then I'm in a relationship that I'm fully leading.

And then adding to that, when I moved to Los Angeles and I decided to go for my dreams, you know, decided to go for almost 30. We're building this business on the side of starting the podcast, a.k.a. burn the F out. I was we were working 5 a.m. to 7 before work. I'd drive to work. I'd be working on my lunch break, any breaks that I could even during work.

I'd be working after work on the weekends. You know, we were building this business so that we could eventually quit and do it full time. And when the podcast started, it was just popping off so much. We were on tour. We were doing all this stuff.

So I was absolutely burning myself out. Not only that, because I had been someone that was leading in my romantic relationships, that also meant in my relationship with Lindsay, I made myself the lead. I made myself irreplaceable in the dynamic of our business by being someone that would be controlling everything. So I was very much in the masculine with her as well. And very much like the leader, the container, the like person that was just,

running on logic, you know, all of that. So add all of that of my relationships, my work, and then also my workouts. I was doing HIIT workouts five to seven days a week, running on empty, spiking my cortisol, not resting, not taking respite, like not really thinking or taking care of myself outside of my workouts with my body, like not...

you know, taking slow walks or stretching. It was all for the outcome. Everything was outcome-based. Every workout was outcome-based. How could I get to where I need to go? How could I do this thing? It was just forcing, pushing, going, doing, creating, manifesting, you know, efforting. All of it was like efforting. So much of my life was efforting.

And I got really sick at some point. My hormone health just crashed and burned. I had adrenal fatigue. I couldn't get out of bed. I put on a lot of weight. I was just sick. I was burning myself out to build this life that I wanted or to become someone or to escape

you know, the life that I was in and also in a lot of ways to find safety. You know, I didn't feel necessarily safe in the container I was in. Relationally, I didn't necessarily feel safe to, like, I didn't feel safe in like God had me. Like I didn't have a deep relationship with God or spirituality at that point. So it was like, I didn't feel like anyone had my back. So I'm like, I got to make this work. We got to make life work because nobody has my back. And if it's not me creating it,

Nobody else is going to save me. So that experience, I'm not sure if you can relate or if any of it's resonating, but you could be a woman that is doing the most, that is pushing yourself, that wants for more, that is responsible in your relationship for moving things forward or taking care of things, that is responsible in your friendships or responsible at work for many things.

And really feeling this feeling of not being able to drop into your feminine, not being able to experience things like softness, gentleness, sensitivity, kindness, tenderness, supportiveness, openness, expression of emotions, receptivity or nurturing.

in your life and these beautiful experiences of being in the feminine, if we're not able to feel those, if we're not able to feel safe, we will be armoring with the masculine. So in the example of the relationship I was in, or even my mom's relationship, she didn't feel safe. She didn't feel like anyone was holding the frame. There was no strength there. There was no protection there. There was no structure or form.

And so you will have to, if you do not feel safe in your relationship or at work even, bring forth the protector part of you, bring forth that masculine shield to help you feel safe. So an example would be if you're at a corporate job and you, you know, are someone that's very soft and emotional.

Because that's not accepted at your corporate job or it's not okay, you will have to bring forth a part of you that's a protector, that keeps you safe at work, or that masculine shield to function.

So for me in my life, in my romantic relationships, in my relationship with Lindsay, in my work relationships, I was bringing forth a masculine shield because I did not feel inherently safe. And related to Lindsay, it wasn't anything about her. It was that I didn't necessarily trust life to get me and I didn't necessarily trust women at that time.

And now she's the person I trust the most. But I had to have a shield with all of them because I was scared it would go away. Almost 30 would go away. I was scared that I couldn't be myself at work. I couldn't be soft, receptive, all of these things. And also in my relationship, I couldn't be soft, receptive, gentle, express my emotions. Showing these emotions of softness, of receptivity, of gentleness, of tenderness, of supportiveness, this all can technically make you vulnerable.

And when you're in the feminine experience, when you're a woman, you spend a lot of your life in fear. A lot of your life, you have fear. It's just part of the process. You know, when you're walking on the street, you have fear of someone getting you, a man looking at you. You know, there's just kind of a natural fear that we all have. And then you exacerbate it with the need to always be doing, producing, moving forward, holding the frame, all of this stuff. Then you have to shield and you have to protect.

So women who are able to bring forth traits of softness, openness, receptivity, and nurturing are usually women that feel safe. You are able to be soft and nurturing when you're safe. An example of this, just to kind of bring context for it, was something that happened to me recently to share vulnerably again. I'm in a relationship and...

this relationship it was really interesting because we were together recently and he was expressing to me how He was like I have noticed a completely different texture to you I've noticed a completely different part of you and your personality come forward since we've deepened and I never saw it coming I never Would have been able to explain it or describe it or see it from you, but I see a completely different texture and

And this texture is my feminine essence. It's my softness. It's my gentleness. It's my, you know, kindness. It's the supportiveness and openness that is available when I'm in a safe container, when I'm in a safe space. And it only is afforded to and accessed by men that I feel safe with. So if you as a woman are dating or, you know, in relationships,

It will be very hard for you to bring forward your feminine essence if you are not safe in your relationship. And safety is emotional safety, spiritual safety, body safety, mental safety. There can be different aspects of where the safety has been lost in your relationship that you maybe need to rebuild or fortify. I remember one of my clients, just as another example to put more color on this,

She was talking about this date she had been on with this man. And this man had ended up being a man that was out of integrity, a man that was inauthentic and a man that was kind of dangerous in a little way. Just took advantage of the situation, like wasn't very honest and in integrity, we'll say.

And she was saying, talking about the situation, then she was saying, you know, I really want to be in more, more in my feminine. You know, how could I have been more in my feminine in that situation and circumstance with that man? And I said to her, it's absolutely what is meant to be happened and good for you to not be able to slip into your softness and your feminine during that time, because you are not able to access safety.

And you do not feel safe. And your actual natural response to not be in your feminine, but be in your shield, your protective shield, your masculine shield was actually very appropriate. So the masculine shield that everyone is putting on right now, where women are desiring to be in their feminine, but they have to put up their masculine shield is very appropriate. It's very supportive.

For me and my relationship, because I didn't feel safe, I was in my masculine shield most of the time. And that was for my greatest good. That was very appropriate. That was an appropriate response to the situation. It's not appropriate for me to be in a situation where I'm experiencing emotional abuse or, you know, neglect or anything like that, and then be soft and tender and open and receptive.

it makes absolute sense that you would be more masculine, more logical, more clear, more direct, more guarded when you are unsafe. So remembering that, and that's something I really wanted to bring through, that your masculine shield is good. It's beautiful. But the way that we're kind of operating in it, over-indexing on it, and the way that we have to be in it is what is not ideal. We do not want to have to be in it. Just like in internal family systems, which is what I practice and teach,

We don't want to always be in protector. We want to be in self. And self is the beautifully integrated masculine and feminine. We want to be in that whole version of us. We want to be in that true version of us, not in protector. So the desire is to be in the self, in the true version of us. And that is the version of us that is curious, compassionate, that is soft and tender and sweet and also powerful.

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I think when we can focus on safety within ourselves and our system and get to the place where we feel safe in almost every case and scenario, that's when we can cultivate being in our feminine more often. That's when we can cultivate that essence that we really desire. And what I'm noticing in the conversation as it relates to the feminine is that so many women are talking about their desire to be in the feminine, but they're not willing to change their lifestyles.

They're not willing to change how they're living or relating to people. If you desire and are someone that's living in your masculine right now, and I'm saying this with love and reverence, to be more in your feminine, you have to change your life. You have to change the way that you're living because your body and soul and mind are reacting to the situations that you're in and adjusting accordingly.

In the way that I work and teach, everything is good. Everything that your body does in response, everything that you react to is good. So if you are feeling at work, like you can't show your emotions and you have a protective part, that protective part's really valuable. That's amazing. If your body is holding on to extra weight to protect you because you think you're unsafe, that's actually a good thing. It's not ideal, but it's a good thing.

So when we are desiring to be more in the feminine, this is what I want to bring through is that we actually have to change our lives and how we're relating to people. So talking about first changing our lives, what do we do to change our lives to allow ourselves more safety to be in our feminine frame more often?

And then two, how do we change the relationships that we're in so they can support us in our new feminine experience? I want to talk about both of those and kind of give tips on how we can do that as we step more into our feminine. But I want to talk a little bit about my experience first, just to give some context and examples, because I kind of left us at the point where I was really in my masculine in my story and I was burning myself out, pushing myself. I got really sick.

At that point, I didn't really know or have access to what it would be like to be in my feminine. So I was still in my relationship. We were still pushing ourselves. So I kind of just started to listen to my body. I started to slow down and sort of change my workouts. I changed my diet. I went on a journey to start to love, honor, and accept my body, which I've talked about before on the podcast. I talk about that a lot in the book, my journey to body love and body acceptance. And I

coming from someone that literally thought I would never be able to say that in my whole life. And it kind of unraveled from there. We would continue to have conversations on the podcast with experts in polarity, and we would talk about the masculine and feminine. But what I would really say that really allowed me to truly be in my feminine in a way that I've never been able to experience in my whole life was leaving that relationship.

And again, nothing about this person per se, more so focused on me and my experience here and the lessons that I can teach from it. But when you're constantly relating to someone and that person that you're relating to is in a polarity that doesn't support your ultimate expression and your integrated self and you being in a safe container to be in your feminine, it will be very hard for you to be in your feminine.

you can definitely cultivate a really healthy feminine. And I'm gonna talk about ways you can cultivate your femininity in this podcast, but it will be harder to do because when you're with someone in deep intimate relationship and you're not only engaging sexually, but you're engaging with their energy all day, your subconscious mind and their subconscious mind are talking, you're...

exchanging energy, you are sort of reminding yourself how unsafe it is and not really allowing your energy and frequency to calibrate to a beautiful feminine essence. So in that dynamic where I chose to leave,

I was finally able to recalibrate to my own essence, to my own truth. And if you followed me or the podcast, you've definitely seen my evolution. You've seen from that relationship ending how completely different I am as a person, physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. I mean, I've changed fucking 720, like not even 360. Gone back again and then back around again and then back a loop to loop and a flip. It's crazy. And I never thought it was possible. I never thought this would be possible, by the way.

So leaving that relationship was the biggest thing. So it will be something if you want to be in your true feminine essence. And I'm not talking about just being soft or receptive. I'm also talking about like queen archetype of like being in your power and your radiance. But if you want to be in your essence, you're going to have to change the relationships that you're in. This also meant for me, when we're talking about, you have to change your life and change your relationships. If you want to be in your feminine, you changing the dynamic with your friends.

I was even in a situation where I was more in maiden energy or I was in, I was almost like holding containers for and like kind of holding the structure for my female friends. I'd plan everything. I'd organize everything. I would be like kind of holding the frame, like just doing everything. And even with Lindsay, we had to calibrate to a place that felt like was supportive of us being in our softness and being in our ease.

So you changing and you balancing and you becoming the most beautiful, radiant, feminine version of you will require a recalibration of your relationships, of your friendships and your romantic relationships. Your romantic relationships will not be the same if you are currently in your masculine and want to be in your feminine. That partner will be requested and required to change to be in a balance with you that is not the way it looks now.

So this doesn't just change you. It changes your romantic relationships, your friendship relationships. It also will probably change the relationships with people that you work with. If you're more in your feminine, you are resting more. Maybe you are listening to your intuition more. You are not doing as much. You are being more intuitively loud held. You are, you are being more intuitively led. You are being more nurturing. You are being more creative. You are being more, you know, of an Oracle in your work.

your coworkers, your boss, whoever you're working with or around, that dynamic will also shift. So just recognizing this is all for your greatest good when we're integrating both masculine and feminine, but your relationships will change. So you need to commit to your relationships also changing when you change.

I left that relationship. I started to, I was single for a year on purpose to heal and recalibrate to my own true essence and my own frequency, something that I teach and talk about on my true essence retreat. And then when I started dating again, it's been a process and an unfolding of being more in the feminine and relating to men from a place of my true empowered feminine has been

the biggest joy and pleasure and it magnetizes different men. It propels different men. It creates a completely different experience sexually on dates. Like it's a completely different experience and it requires so little of me speaking about how I'm in my feminine. And it's so much more about me being in the energetic vibration of me being in my feminine. What do I mean?

When we're speaking about being in our feminine, we're like, hey, you need to pick me up and you need to pay for my dinner and you need to make sure that you are, you know, holding it down and holding the frame for a whole date. Hey, what are you doing? It's not in your feminine, bro.

Being in your feminine is being in the essence of being in the feminine. And the masculine notices and recognizes that, a true masculine, and they operate accordingly because they know they're around a true feminine. What does that mean for me? I never once have paid for a meal or been requested to pay for a meal. I have never once not been picked up or treated or had a man completely come correct with me in this experience because my essence is

is not one of just feminine softness, but feminine power and clarity. So the relating that I'm doing in dating and in my next relationship is going to be completely different. So being ready for that when you step into your feminine of how you're going to be relating to people is going to be completely different and being okay with that evolution, being okay with that process of the unfolding and more so coming into the truth of you. This isn't about

reaching. This isn't about changing who you are. It's about letting yourself be more of who you are. That's something that's so important in this conversation around femininity and masculinity. And I've talked about this on an episode I did probably a year or so ago. But when we have the conversation about masculine and feminine, it gets to be something that I don't want women to see as a way to hate themselves more or think that they're doing something wrong.

What you are doing right now to protect yourself when you do not feel safe with your masculine shield is absolutely right. But right now, what we want to cultivate is you being safe enough to drop that shield and feel into your feminine and be in your feminine and be in the most integrated aspect of you. The masculine aspect of you is also dope. I love my masculine. I love the ways in which my masculine has created such a life for me. I love it. And being balanced is the best thing.

So when we step into our feminine, we're committing to our relationships changing with all people in our lives. The way we're relating is completely changing. It's going to be really beautiful, but it might be a little rocky. You might lose some people. Things might shift and change your relationship, romantic relationship. If you are fully in your masculine and your man doesn't want to go on this journey with you might end. Hey, had to say it. It might end. If you have a man that you are caretaking, that you are doing everything for, that you are being in the full masculine for, that you are doing everything for,

And then you decide to move into your feminine. Hey, our brother might not make it because you are becoming a more whole version of you. You are choosing the path of growth. You are choosing the path of truth. And this person might not be on that path. My prayer and wish is that they are, but sometimes they might not be. So the second thing you to be more in your feminine, and then I'm going to talk about the hacks to be more in your feminine. You need to commit to changing your life and changing what you're doing and changing how you're operating and changing the way in which you're showing up in the world. And

This could be done through the hacks that I'm going to talk about. So five ways in which you can step more into your feminine that don't require you completely changing and shifting all areas of your life, but just add in different layers and textures of femininity.

If you are someone that is working nine to five, hustling on the weekends, you know, completely living by your schedule, speaking it in a certain way, disconnected from your body, disconnected from your cycle, disconnected from connection with women, disconnected from your intuition, just kind of, you know, out, you know, just living in your head all day. And then you desire to be more in your feminine. I'm actually really curious about what where that desire is coming from.

Because we have to approach the conversation around our desire to be in our feminine as a desire to love ourselves more and be more who we came here to be. It's not about you shifting. It's not about you using the specific language that's going to get you the outcome. It's about you truly being in the essence of the truth of you, of the feminine power that you exist in, and experiencing sides of you that deserve to be experienced.

You deserve to be both super strong and super soft. You deserve to be both bold and chill. You deserve to be both resting and taking action. Life is the yin and the yang. It's about both. So when you're committing to this feminine dance, this feminine experience, you are committing to changing your life and changing your lifestyle.

For me, some things that meant no longer doing HIIT workouts or working out unconsciously in ways that weren't connecting to my body. I was doing workouts that were hard, that were rough, that were in classes, that were loud music, that were early in the morning. And I was doing them without checking in with my body first.

So if you truly want to do and step into your feminine, you need to change your workouts. You need to no longer be doing all the workouts that are very masculine, cortisol inducing, crazy, not listening to your body. I changed my workouts. Also committing to changing your schedule. You might need to cancel things. You might need to say no to more things. You might need to allow your intuition to be the guide for things. And it might not make sense to people. I have done so many things intuitively led that I couldn't explain intuitively.

And that's just what it is. Darkness retreat. I don't know why I'm going. My intuition told me. Ended up going there, learning how to meet myself in the darkness, doing one of the hardest things that I think anyone could do. Five days in a cave, no light, no nothing. Intuitively led. One of the greatest gifts.

So much of your life and your feminine will be intuitively led. So you have to let that intuition. So I stopped doing the workouts that were more masculine. I also started to let my intuition guide me. I started to say no more. I started to rest more. And I started to really double click on the things that I was already doing in my feminine. So you right now are actually already so much more of a feminine being than I think you know.

And I say this all the time to my clients because I want us to always build energy around and expand the aspects of them that they're already good at or they're already magical in. And so many people, oh my gosh, I just got disheartened. So many of you guys are just so hard on yourselves and

I'm like getting emotional, but I'm not. It's like weird. I'm like, it's like I'm teetering on if I want to be emotional or not. And I'm not going to be. But you guys are so hard on yourselves. And you are doing so many more feminine things than you think. As an example, a lot of you are actually in very creative jobs and pursuits. Your creative job and pursuit is actually very feminine for me. As an example, I was like, oh, I'm in my masculine all the time. And I'm like, I'm literally surrounded by and serving women all day long.

Very feminine. I'm listening to my intuition and guided by my intuition. Very feminine. I am aesthetically driven. I'm creating with things that are aesthetic and beautiful and cool and interesting. And I'm just kind of like following what feels good. Very feminine. I'm allowing myself to be guided by something outside of me, something that I feel called to. Very feminine.

I'm nurturing and caring for and tending to the lives and hearts of other people. Very feminine. Many of you are healers, coaches, therapists, teachers, facilitators, guides, caretakers, empaths. Very feminine. So you already are right now in this moment experiencing and existing in a way that might be more feminine than you let on, might be more feminine than you know. What are the things in your life that you can look to now that feel already feminine?

What aspects of your life could you say, actually, I'm more in my feminine than I thought. I'm resting on the weekends now. Cool. I'm doing Pilates really regularly. Oh yeah, I have that dance class that I go to. Oh yeah, I walk in nature. Oh yeah, I connect often with my animals. Wink, wink. I am a mother.

I have a really beautiful community of women that I love. Oh yeah, I really held space for that woman last week. Oh right, right, right. I was really receptive to receiving support from someone last week. That was amazing. Oh yeah, someone tried to compliment me and I absolutely received it. There's ways that I would like, and you can even do this as homework from Krista, from me, to think about how you're already in your feminine. Okay, do you want to know the biggest health secret nobody is talking about?

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So after thinking about how you're going to change your relationships in your life to be more in your feminine, I want to talk a little bit about in addition to some things I just said with the workouts and stuff like that that are going to support you as feminine hacks that you can do now outside of having full safety. And if you guys want, I can do a podcast on how to create full safety in your system. Just let me know. We can do that. I think the first would be to make your life really beautiful and

even if no one sees it, just adding beauty to your life. And this is where the feminine, I think people feel a type of way when you say that, when you're like, make it beautiful. You're like, oh, it's all about how you look. It's all about the aesthetic. It's all about bro.

What are we talking about? That Venusian beauty, like beauty is God. God loves beauty. And we don't, and we're not thinking about it like a girl with an Instagram filter. We're not thinking about it like the perfect matcha on a marble table. We're not thinking about it like

you know, blonde extensions flipping behind the Eiffel Tower with flowers in your hand and a champagne Instagram post. We're thinking about it in the way of what is natural and what is organic. Flowers, butterflies, you in your radiant essence, your cat's eyes, my cat's eyes. And an important element that makes beauty femininity is the care and attention to achieve it.

As an example, if you have a pot, you're painting a pot and just taking your time to make all the colors and textures and to make it beautiful. Curating your home takes time. There are elements of time, care, attention, and nurturance that make something beautiful. When you go to a really beautiful space or restaurant or home, or you see a woman that has just beautiful adornment and jewelry, you're like, she took the time to be intentional and care for herself. And

We can look at beauty as care, time, attention, and nurturance. So I really would love for you to make your life beautiful, even if no one sees it. Curate your home, wear perfume, eat off a really beautiful plate, you know, decorate your space, create an altar. I have a beautiful altar upstairs on my third floor and it just looks beautiful. And I was able to decorate it and take time. And it's unique to me. You might see and be like, I hate that altar. What? I'm like, this is my altar.

Make your space beautiful. You can do that right now. You can feel more into your feminine about getting the intention of creating a space and feminine energy loves beauty. You could adorn yourself in jewelry, whatever that is. Secondly, letting people help you. Let people help you. I'm grabbing your little shoulders and I'm looking you directly in your eyes and I'm saying, let people help you.

And I'm just giving a gentle squeeze when I say that. And I'm looking my eyes down and I'm nodding and we're both connecting and we're both now laughing because you're like, I never let anyone help me. And I'm like, I know you don't. It happens all the time. And you're like, I just can't receive. And I'm like, I know, but we need to. Let's receive. It's time to allow people to help you. Feminine power thrives in reception, not just resilience. So you don't just need to be resilient all

You need to also receive and be receptive. Let people help you. Ask your friends, hey girl, I'm not, you know, I'm really doing bad at this receiving thing. Please, can you help me? And have them receive you. Thirdly, ritualize the mundane. Ritualize the mundane.

Light incense before you write emails. Breathe before conversations. Make your routines sacred. Make breakfast sacred. Make your prayer sacred. Make your pleasure practice sacred. Make your hard conversation sacred. Make work sacred. Make it sacred. Make it intentional. Make it beautiful and make it feminine. Fourth, move for pleasure and not performance.

So that means walking slowly with intention, feeling into your body, feeling your feet hit the ground, feeling your body just move in the world. Walk with no destination. Just kind of walk in a way where you're exploring nature, you're exploring what's outside, you're exploring the world around you. Just kind of notice and witness and honor. Stretch in a way that feels like worship practice.

Just like worshiping this body that you came here on, this like a vessel for divinity that you have. Like, whoa, I've been in this body my whole life. My body's always been here. Stretch in a way that feels like worship. And lastly, speaking from sensation and not a script. Ooh, I'm really feeling like, let me tune in. Yeah, I'm really feeling like pizza. I'm really feeling like pizza tonight. I would feel, that would feel so good to have pizza.

Ooh, I'm really noticing that something's coming up for me around this. Ooh, I'm really feeling the energy shift in the room when we talk about that. And I'm noticing that there might be more here. Oh, I, you know, I picked up on something and I'm curious if you picked up on it too. I noticed that when we were talking about this thing, that there was kind of a feeling that I had an intuitive hit around this person. And I'm curious what comes up for you.

Be more not only in the sensation, but in the mystical. Be more in the intuition. Be more in that like the unseen. Invitation to explore and be in and experiment with and enjoy the unseen realms, baby. The unseen. Oh, juicy. I could go on forever about that. Okay.

So we're going to move for pleasure, not performance. We're going to make our lives beautiful even if no one sees it. We're going to speak from sensation and not script. We're going to let people help us and we're going to ritualize the mundane. All of this while creating and cultivating safety in our system, acknowledging that our relationships may change, acknowledging that our routines may change, and we need to commit to this new unfolding of us being in our feminine and us being in this beautiful, magnetic, spiritual, powerful experience.

of what it means to be outside of burnout and in our divine feminine. And if you are someone that wants to truly step into the most powerful aspect of you, this experience of being in the feminine, that it's making me emotional, but I can't tell you guys enough.

how stunning it is to live my life from my feminine essence now and to relate to people from my feminine essence and to be in this experience of feeling the radiance and magnetism of that and the receptivity and the rest and the joy. I never thought this life would be possible. I feel more beautiful than ever, connected than ever, intuitive than ever, magical than ever. And mostly I feel more me.

And I want that for you so much. And if this conversation topic has resonated with you, if you want to be more in your feminine and you want support, I'm hosting a retreat in Switzerland. Yes, in the Swiss Alps, where every single Instagrammer has been, but for good reason. Switzerland is one of the most stunning, magical, beautiful, healthy places in the world. And I'm hosting a retreat at the five-star Six Senses Resort.

It's going to be so stunning. It's about stepping into your divine feminine and you will be surrounded by the most amazing, cool, like-hearted, like-minded women all over the world. Every single one of my retreats, all my girls are all besties. They all see each other. They all go on trips. They're just planning another trip right now in one of the groups. They come to all the retreats again. They're just, they're the coolest women. So you will be met by the most amazing women in the world. You will be able to heal and community and become the woman that you were destined to be, that feminine woman.

powerful woman. So join us. It's in September in Switzerland at the Six Senses Resort. It's the Divine Feminine Retreat. And you can sign up or learn more at itskrista.com. So it's I-T-S-K-R-I-S-T-A. It's itskrista.com, I-T-S-K-R-I-S-T-A. And then you can go under retreats

and it is the Divine Feminine Retreat, September 10th through 15th in Switzerland at the Six Senses Resort, which is a five-star beautiful resort with organic, amazing food. It is a wellness destination. It is one of the most beautiful places I've ever been. I only do luxury. As a part of the feminine, we only need beauty, my angels. We are only doing luxury. We're only doing five-star. So September 10th through 15th in Switzerland at the Six Senses Resort. It's krista.com. I would love to invite you. I would love to see you there.

And I appreciate you so much. Thank you for being a part of Almost 30's lives, our community. Thank you for buying our book. Thank you for just being a support for us, sending this to a friend to start conversation and change your life and change someone else's. I appreciate you. I will see you on Instagram. It's Krista, Almost 30 Podcast. Goodbye.

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