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#421 - 6 Reasons You Still Feel NERVOUS When Speaking English — 6 Things Not to Do, How to Stop Feeling Insecure and Face the Fear of Making Mistakes in English

2024/12/23
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RealLife English: Learn and Speak Confident, Natural English

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Izzy: 曾经在说英语时感到非常不自信和焦虑,因为把自己置于表演模式中。总结了导致说英语时紧张和害怕的六个原因,并与Xenia一起在今天的课程中讨论了这些原因。认为自信被高估了,至少人们对自信的看法是被高估的。分享了一个改变其人生观的视频片段,视频中指出勇气比自信更重要。视频片段中包含许多高级词汇,建议使用RealLife app学习和练习这些词汇。练习使人自信,更重要的是培养自然沟通的能力,而非追求完美。 Xenia: 解释了“过高评价”的含义,并举例说明。将羞愧感转化为学习外语的骄傲,享受学习过程。分享了初次尝试轮滑的经历,鼓励享受学习过程,不必在意完美与否。解释了“副产品”的含义。强调练习的重要性,并指出自信是练习的副产品。认为羞愧感源于害怕犯错。指出只有在特定情况下(例如考试或面试)英语水平才会被真正评判。认为犯错可以很有趣,不必过于认真。强调接纳自我和脆弱性的重要性。引用苏斯博士的名言,鼓励展现自己的独特之处。引用王尔德的名言,鼓励做真实的自己。指出不知道如何做某事是一种学习的机会。分享了一个关于日本首相和奥巴马之间发生的有趣故事,说明即使是名人也会遇到沟通上的误解。强调理解他人和被他人理解需要时间,并鼓励学习者使用RealLife app练习词汇。学习英语需要时间和耐心,不要与他人进行比较。引用宁静祈祷文,强调耐心和勇气。 Xenia: 解释了“矛盾修辞法”的含义。解释了“自我实现预言”的含义。指出只有在特定情况下(例如考试或面试)英语水平才会被真正评判。认为犯错可以很有趣,不必过于认真。展示了一些真实的英语错误例子,说明犯错可以很有趣。分享了自己曾经犯的一个错误,并指出这只是一个表达方式的问题。指出不应该将自己与其他英语使用者进行比较。强调接纳自我和脆弱性的重要性。引用苏斯博士的名言,鼓励展现自己的独特之处。引用王尔德的名言,鼓励做真实的自己。指出不知道如何做某事是一种学习的机会。指出学习英语的过程中可能会遇到尴尬的情况,并建议不要将其个人化。分享了一个关于日本首相和奥巴马之间发生的有趣故事,说明即使是名人也会遇到沟通上的误解。强调理解他人和被他人理解需要时间,并鼓励学习者使用RealLife app练习词汇。学习英语需要时间和耐心,不要与他人进行比较。引用宁静祈祷文,强调耐心和勇气。

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Why do people often feel nervous when speaking English?

People often feel nervous when speaking English because they get into a performance mode, feel under pressure, and worry about making mistakes or being judged. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and anxiety, even when they have a good grasp of the language.

Why is confidence overrated in the context of language learning?

Confidence is overrated because it often comes from repetitive success, which is not always available when you're learning something new. Instead, courage is more important—taking the first step before you have the success. Confidence will naturally develop with practice.

Why should you not be ashamed of speaking English?

You should not be ashamed of speaking English because learning a foreign language is a significant achievement. Embrace the process, enjoy it, and take pride in your efforts. Practice and engagement will lead to improvement and confidence over time.

Why is it important not to be afraid of making mistakes when speaking English?

Mistakes are a natural part of the learning process. Being afraid of making mistakes can prevent you from practicing and improving. Embrace mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow. Even famous figures like Thomas Edison and characters like Harry Potter have shown that persistence and practice lead to mastery.

Why should you avoid apologizing for your level of English?

Apologizing for your level of English can create a negative self-fulfilling prophecy and interrupt the flow of conversation. Natives and other speakers are generally understanding and appreciate your effort to communicate. Focus on practicing and improving rather than apologizing.

Why is it harmful to compare yourself with other English speakers?

Comparing yourself with others can be detrimental because everyone has a unique learning journey. Embrace your own path, be vulnerable, and focus on your personal growth. Comparing yourself can lead to unnecessary frustration and hinder your progress.

Why should you not take it personally if people don't understand you?

If people don't understand you, it may not be your fault. They might not be used to your accent or might not know certain words. Don't take it personally; instead, find another way to communicate your message. Celebrities and language learners often face similar situations and handle them with humor and patience.

Why should you not get frustrated with yourself when learning English?

Frustration can be a natural part of learning, but it's important to manage it. Learning a language takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and remember that everyone learns at their own pace. Focus on small, consistent improvements rather than getting discouraged by setbacks.

Chapters
This chapter explores the idea that confidence can be overrated, especially in language learning. It introduces the concept using a clip that contrasts confidence with courage, highlighting the importance of taking courageous steps despite a lack of initial confidence. The chapter emphasizes the value of the RealLife app for vocabulary practice.
  • Confidence is overrated; courage is more important.
  • Overly confident people can be obnoxious.
  • Confidence comes from repetitive success.
  • Courage is needed to take the first step.
  • The RealLife app helps practice vocabulary.

Shownotes Transcript

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There are six common reasons why you might freeze up or feel nervous when it’s time to speak English. In today’s episode, Ksenia and Izzy dive deep into these challenges, sharing their personal experiences and practical insights to help you overcome them. You’ll learn the dos and don’ts of speaking English with confidence, along with actionable tips that will make a real difference in your language journey. Whether you're shy, worried about making mistakes, or simply feel stuck, this episode is packed with strategies to empower you to speak English fearlessly. Don't miss it!

 

By the end of this episode, you will:

  • Learn about 6 common traps English learners fall into
  • Watch a great clip that has all the chances to change your perspectives on confidence 
  • Hear a hilarious story about Barack Obama and a Japanese prime minister

 

Plus:

  • Expand your vocabulary with a ton of practical expressions.
  • Celebrate the achievements of our Learner of the Week.

 

Show notes here.)

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