#421 - 6 Reasons You Still Feel NERVOUS When Speaking English — 6 Things Not to Do, How to Stop Feeling Insecure and Face the Fear of Making Mistakes in English
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You know, there was a time in my life that I would get really insecure about speaking English. Whenever the opportunity came or the moment came up for me to talk in English with somebody else, I'd get really nervous. My back would get really tense. I'd feel all this anxiety, you know, feel really anxious. All because I'd get into this performance mode. Like it was time for me to perform.

I mean, I had a lot of knowledge of English and I could understand a lot of what I was hearing, I knew a bunch of words, but still, I would just feel under pressure in these moments. Alright, so later on, I kept thinking about this and I identified 6 things that were causing me

to freeze and feel nervous when it was time for me to speak English. And this is what Xenia and I covered in today's lesson. I had such a great time. It was a really fun conversation talking all about these six bad habits, these six things that are stopping you from speaking English fluently today. Let's get into it.

All right, Xenia, so I want to start today's lesson by sharing what I think is a little bit of a controversial remark. Okay, what is a controversial remark? So there's two words there. Controversial refers to something that produces controversy, that produces disagreement, debate, arguments. And remark is simply a statement, something you say as a comment. So...

Yeah, I think this is a controversial remark because we always hear that confidence is important. I should be confident in all that. But I have come to accept after fighting it so much that confidence is overrated.

At least the way people think about confidence. It's overrated. I would be curious to find out how you came to it. But could you also define the word overrated? So you said confidence is overrated. When something is considered to be more important than it actually is or to be better than it actually is, we say that it's overrated. I think something overrated. Like I could say that...

I don't know, tacos are overrated, the Mexican food. No way, I love tacos. Right. Okay. But I think it's just better than it is. It's just like from the word rate, there is this root rate to evaluate something and overrated is just like evaluated more than it actually is. Yeah.

Yeah, exactly. Now, to actually explain why I think this is the case, I brought a clip that we have shown in this podcast months ago, and it was like lost in the middle of the lesson. And today I want to start this lesson with this message because I think it's really important. It has changed my life since I've heard it, and I've really made it one of my philosophies of life. So I want to share it here right now. So let's check it out. Confidence is overrated. I learned this from Danny Shapiro, the great writer.

We were talking about confidence and she was like, "Confidence is really overrated." And I'm like, "What? What?" She's like, "Yeah, most confident people, like overly confident people are kind of noxious." And I'm like, "Yeah, that's true. Usually they're compensating." She said, "What's more important than confidence is courage." And I was like, "Oh my God." Confidence is created from repetitive success at doing something.

you know you're going to get the ball in the basket, you have confidence shooting. When I meet with a client and talk about how we're going to reposition their brand, I've got confidence. I have all that stuff that I've been doing over and over and over again that's been successful that I can pull out of the suitcase and say, "That's why I believe that I'm right." If you haven't done something before, how could you ever expect to have confidence doing it? Confidence comes after you've done it enough times successfully.

So what's more important is courage. Courage to take the first step before you have the success. Oh, this is huge. Really nice. Did she say the word obnoxious at the very beginning? Was that obnoxious? Yeah, she said that people who are overly confident kind of come off as obnoxious or kind of obnoxious. What is that? That's right.

That's a nice advanced word. Yeah, it means a rude, arrogant person. So yeah, that, by the way, was Debbie Millman. She is a writer, an educator on all things marketing. She's an expert on marketing and marketing.

It's interesting that what she's talking about there, because I think it is not just about life in general, but when it comes to language learning, this is so important. And today we're going to cover these six things that you guys should not do when you speak English. And this is huge. I wanted to start this lesson with this clip because I really think it serves as a foundation for everything that we're going to see next. And I don't know if you guys noticed, there were so many advanced words here that we just used, right? Obnoxious, as she used.

What else? Overrated. Controversial remark. So if you guys don't want to forget these words when you're done watching this lesson and really want to be able to use these later in real conversations in English, you should make sure to download their real life app because you can watch this lesson over there. And then once you're done watching lesson, you can practice all the vocabulary so you never forget it. We're going to leave the link in the description below or you can simply search for real life English on your favorite app store.

Nice. You know what else this short clip reminded me of? This saying, I guess, the transformed version of this saying, like practice makes perfect. But there is this new version, practice makes confident, right? That's what she was talking about. Yeah, yeah. Practice makes automatic, right? Like you don't necessarily want to be perfect because it's not about not making mistakes. It's just about

having that natural capacity to communicate. So let's get started with the very first thing that you should not do when speaking English, that you should not be ashamed of speaking English. So all about not being ashamed, not feeling embarrassed when you speak. This is something we hear a lot from our students. Yeah. Oh, help me. How should I or what can I do to stop feeling embarrassed, feeling ashamed when speaking English?

I would say that you should try to find a way to turn your weakness. Yeah, feeling of shame is kind of a weakness. So turn your weakness into your strength. Now, instead of feeling ashamed or of making mistakes, of speaking with someone in English, take pride in the simple fact that you are learning a foreign language, right? Like it's already a really great language.

venture, you decided to step on this path of learning a foreign language and enjoy the process, even if it's not flawless. It reminds me of, remember, I think I told you recently, I just tried roller skating for the first time.

And I could have felt, I don't know, self-conscious. I could have thought, oh my God, everybody would be laughing at me if I fall because there were different levels of people. There were like masters of the ring and novices like me. And we can have a comparison here, like advanced masters.

English speakers, advanced learners and some intermediate or even lower intermediate speakers. But of course, I had this fear. I was hesitant at first, but then I didn't let that fear take hold of me.

Instead, what I did, like I was there with my kid and I knew that she will be thrilled to see her mama trying. Yeah, I wasn't perfect, but I tried to enjoy the process and I knew that my little kid will be so overjoyed like with me trying to do what she can do really great. She like roller skates so much better. So make it fun. Take this approach to language learning process.

Yeah, just enjoy the process. No matter what, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Amazing. And you used several expressions there, like more advanced expressions. I was going to ask about them, but honestly, there are so many. And again, if you guys listening, watching this, if you don't want to miss the meaning of these and if you want to practice them later, go to the RealLife app. That's a place where you can do that. But I do want to talk about one expression that you used, which is thrilled. That you were thrilled to do that. What is that? And...

Where do you think this thrill comes from in that experience? That's a nice expression to use when you feel that excitement. So thrilled is overly excited. And I don't know, but I somehow connected to some feeling of some magic even. So you are so thrilled that you feel like kind of

Goosebumps even, right? Yeah, like the hair in your arm that kind of raises the goosebumps. And I would say this is almost like a mindset because you can either feel like embarrassed or ashamed or nervous.

Or you can feel excited. It's almost the same sensation. Or some people would say some specialists, experts would say it's the same sensation that you feel, but you can change the narrative. You know what you're thinking, say, I'm excited and I'm excited to speak. And something else I was going to say about this that I think is really important is that if you don't practice, you won't improve like languages, playing guitar and other different practices like playing sports, etc.

You're not going to get better theoretically. You need to practice. You need to live a real life English and to be active in the language and to be really connecting with it personally so you can actually improve. And there's no other way around it. So speak, practice, practice, practice and ignore the feeling of shame. And then you're going to start to feel confidence as a byproduct of that experience. Yeah, confidence will come with time, right? And with practice.

Do you know what a byproduct is? That's a nice word, right? Byproduct is just like something that comes with something else, like accompany something. It accompanies your progress. So confidence in this case just accompanies your development. It's almost like generated as a consequence. You are not actually looking for that, but then you practice and then, oh, look at that.

have confidence now. So yeah, be courageous and take courageous steps towards English fluency. And one courageous step that you can take today right now is subscribing to this channel if you're watching this on YouTube. If you want to speak natural English like Xenia and I are doing here, and if you're listening to us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, you can follow us over there. Now let's go to the second thing that you should not do when speaking English that is being afraid of making mistakes. It's kind of similar and almost like a reason. I think people feel ashamed, you know, they feel nervous because

They are afraid of making mistakes. That's exactly it. Yeah, that's exactly it. I feel the same. I think that this embarrassment comes for most people. We can dig deeper and think about, oh, but why are you feeling ashamed? Why are you feeling embarrassed? Yeah, but it's a totally different topic. And I believe we wrote an article on that. So we could link it for you guys to check. But yeah, let's talk about this fear of making mistakes. You know,

As the saying goes, to err is human, right? And just to bring you another quote, which I find really inspiring, it is from Thomas Edison. And he said, I haven't failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work, right? It's on his reflection on the invention of the light bulb.

We know Thomas Edison for that, mostly. And you know what? Like, we all make mistakes. And it's just like a part of a natural process of learning. And I wanted, you know, because Thomas Edison might not be an inspiring figure for many young learners here we have on our channel, but Harry Potter is, right? And I just wanted to remind you guys, do you remember from the book or from the movie, how it's called, Prisoner of Azkaban? Yes.

The Prisoner of Azkaban, where Harry... Your favorite! I didn't know that. Many people's favorite. So you should remember that. Remember when Harry struggled to master that very complex spell, Patronus? Patronus, I guess, right? Yeah, yeah, Expecto Patronum. Yeah, and it was very demanding because it required a focus, a concentration on a happy memory.

And when he tried it for the very first time in the class, like he failed miserably, right? But then like he didn't lose his heart. He didn't give up. He tried and tried again. He kept practicing. And despite like repeated failures, he found a way. He kept experimenting. He just realized that, oh, I just like need a stronger memory and

and it was like related to his parents remember so here what we can learn from that first of all he had a very strong why he wanted to protect himself and his friends from those dementors right and there were other factors as well that we can take into our learning process he had

a strong community, his friends, yeah, people who believed in him, right? And he also, he really was courageous, like in that clip that you just showed. Yeah. The takeaway here is don't be afraid of making mistakes at the beginning. You will master it with practice, with more attempts, and you will eventually get there. Yeah, like...

We talked about practice makes automatic or practice makes perfect. As some people say it, it really takes you to mastery. So he eventually mastered with the help of community, with the help of his friends and practice too. I think he practiced a lot. The movie shows that. So that is so nice because, yeah. And ultimately, because he makes a lot of mistakes in the beginning to err is human. As you said, there was a quote they shared. And what is that to err?

You may know the word error. Our students may be familiar with the word error, mistake. So to err is to make mistakes. It's just like a nice...

formal word for to make mistakes uh you know what for you guys listening watching us ethan is here in the studio he just told me that the correct pronunciation for that is air to air so there you go i just made a mistake i stand corrected okay we should practice it more with you i to air is human to air is human i just made a mistake and i won't apologize for it

Because that's the third mistake students do. They often apologize for their level of English or how they say, sorry for my bad English. Right. Have you heard it a lot from your students? I honestly hate it. I'm sorry for you guys who say it. Stop saying it because that's not going to take you anywhere, really. And people say that it almost becomes like a negative affirmation, if that's even a thing. Actually, that sounds like an oxymoron. Do you know what an oxymoron is?

Yeah, it's difficult to explain that. Can you explain that? Yeah, okay. So it's when there's like two words that contradict each other, but somehow it still makes sense. Like a lot of oxymorons are usable. So old news, right? Or deafening silence.

Or even what this also becomes, like if you are saying, sorry for my bad English, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. That's another oxymoron. But what is that? What is a self-fulfilling prophecy? How would you explain that expression? I'll try. I'll give it a shot to explain this phrase. So when you say something, it could have...

happened differently, but just because of the fact that you said it, you could pave the way for this to happen. So it happened so just because you said so, right? Exactly, yeah. It's a negative affirmation. Affirmations are...

Something that people say, you know, to just start to build that mindset, like saying something positive about yourself, something about the way you want to see the world. But if you're saying, sorry for my bad English, you're saying my bad English, I have bad English and that doesn't lead you anywhere. And natives don't care. Like, honestly, this reminds me of a story from our producer here in the studio, T, Ice T, I see him somewhere in here, that he was in a hostel in Lisbon once and

And he was there with an American that was staying in the hostel with him. And they were speaking English. And then he kept saying, sorry for my bad English. And the American guy said to him, what are you talking about? Like, if you weren't speaking English, we couldn't communicate at all. We wouldn't be able to communicate at all. So I'm grateful that you can speak some English. And that's what language is meant for, for communication. So there you go, right? Yeah. I don't know if that was the case for Thiago, but many people, they...

Again, coming back to feeling embarrassed, they have this fear of being judged by other people so that this is the root cause for all those unnecessary apologies, in my opinion. And in life, there are so few situations when you are being judged. Like, for example, when we were about to hire a tutor to help me

prepare for the entrance exam. That was the situation where when my English level was evaluated because she needed to see the work to be done, right? So I remember like, again, it was a complete flop. Like I didn't answer correctly to any of your questions, grammar questions. But again, exams are

like hiring a tutor and maybe some other academic settings are the only situations when your level of English is really being judged. All others, like when you use English as a communication with non-natives or with natives, nobody is judging you. You are your own harshest critics.

or critic in this case, right? That's what fluency is too, right? Like you're just like flowing. Like if you hit a wall, like do you like water, like flow around it and find another way to say what you want to say, even if it doesn't sound beautiful, like a professor would say it. Now I think mistakes are funny too. They can be funny, right? Like why take it so seriously? Like the value of silliness, being silly, not taking things seriously is very important for, I mentioned earlier,

Not just learning language, but if you're trying to play an instrument, play sports. Like if you get tense, that's going to be another self-fulfilling prophecy there in your mind. Like, oh, I'm tense. This is serious. This is important. And then that's why you fail. So...

To prove that mistakes were funny or can be funny, I actually have some images here that I wanted to share. And if you guys are just listening to us, I'm sorry. We can read, but this is funnier if you're actually watching us. So do that on Every Life app. Get the link in the description. Check this out, Xenia. Okay, these are real signs and things. Check it out. Very suspicious market. Supermarket. Do you know what they wanted to say there, actually? Very suspicious. Very suspicious.

um maybe very uh note like you can easily notice it maybe something very auspicious i think auspicious um what does it mean auspicious yeah so auspicious is when it's promising it's going to give you success like you feel optimistic about something that thing is auspicious um now next one the cost of the service is the soul i don't know what they wanted to say here

But see, these are mistakes. These are people who are not, these are people who don't have English as their first language, but it's just funny. Yeah. Yeah. I know why there is this soul because it's just like Google Translate made a silly mistake. It was supposed to be shower, the cost of a shower. There you go. Christmas bag of threats.

Of treats, right? Yeah, of course. Have Christmas treats. Yeah, threats. What is a threat? When you threat somebody, you say that you'll do something bad to them if they don't comply with what you're asking, if they don't do what you are asking. All right, next one. Pineapple. Oh, that's one funny. It's a pain. It's a pain. If you don't like pineapple. It is forbidden to upload and download fish.

Oh my God. It has to just like catch and release fish, right? It just sounds like digital stuff, right? Downloading a file. Seizure salad. That's actually kind of negative, but still sounds... Do you know what that should be, actually? It's more cultural. Maybe like... No, I don't know. Seizure salad. What it was supposed to be. Caesar salad. Oh, Caesar. Okay, okay, okay. Yeah, Caesar salad. Yeah, I know that salad. All right, how about this one? Eating carpet is strictly prohibited.

No idea. What an easy target. Please pay your parking fee before existing. It's exiting. Exiting. It's a verb, to leave a place. Anyway, so mistakes can be funny and you can laugh at them. Don't take it too seriously, right? Don't think like, oh, you know, my image of a perfect speaker, I want to speak English perfectly. Don't let that get to you.

I still remember that mistake that I was sharing on an older podcast here with Ethan. Once at the speaking club, I asked a girl, which part...

of Leonardo DiCaprio do you like most? And she's got a beautiful sense of humor. She said all of them. And then I realized that it's not a mistake. It's just like, yeah, I structured the question the wrong way. Right. Yeah. Part as in part as a role in one. Yeah. His role in one of the movies. Anyway, so let's go to the next thing that you guys should not do when speaking English. That is to compare yourself with other English speakers.

Now, this is kind of related to what we were just talking about. I think people say, sorry, I'm a bad English because they have some good English speaker in mind. And they keep comparing themselves to that person. But the thing is, everybody has their own journey and you need to be vulnerable. There's no way around it. Like if you're not vulnerable, if you don't accept who you are, I do think that you're not going to go anywhere. Yeah.

So that thing about ego, I think is really important for language learning. I just thought about it as well. It reminded me of this book, Ego is the Enemy. Because

Not only it adds some competitive spirit to it, in some situations it can be good, but in most of the cases it's not. So just be human, be humble. I don't know why people are so prone to comparing each other in many situations, not only in language learning. And it is so sad. Recently we were reading with Mira Dr. Seuss.

And I really loved the quote from the book. It goes like, why fit in if you were born to stand out? Right? So when we try to compare, maybe we try to fit in to be like other people. Yeah. It doesn't make sense.

doesn't make us any favor. Like it doesn't make us any good. Why not embracing your uniqueness, even if it's an accent? That is so nice. Like to stand out is to...

usually on a more positive light. Like people see you and like, oh, he stands out. He's good, right? Better than the average, you could say. And there's another quote that's really nice from Oscar Wilde. I think that's how I pronounce it. That is, be yourself. Everyone else is taken. I love this one. Like, I want to be this person. Like, no, be yourself. You can have roles, role models, I mean. And that's fine. But be...

Be yourself, ultimately. And I think just one more thing about this thing not to do, you know, to not compare yourself to others is if you don't know how to do something, if you're not great at doing something, that's a good thing. You know, like you can, again, have role models, but

There's two ways of interpreting this same sentence. Oh, I don't know how to do it. You can say it like that. I don't know how to do it. Or you can say like, I don't know how to do it. It's great. I can learn it. You know, it's one more thing to learn. And it's just having that curiosity. One really important aspect of language learning. Be curious.

And that's going to open up a world of possible things for you to practice. It gives you so many opportunities. Like, remember, we were discussing Simon Sinek video in one of our earlier podcasts when he was talking about friendships. It's just like when you don't know how to do that, show your vulnerability, ask your friend to help you out. Maybe they know how to do that. And it's like...

it gives you this opportunity for connection and then you will learn something with the help of your friends. Yeah, because English is a tool for communication. So it's going to be very hard for you not to bump into awkward situations like funny English mistakes or people judging you. Maybe, you know, that could happen and I just ignore it. And that's one thing that may happen is like if somebody doesn't understand what you're saying and they judge you for any reason or they simply don't understand, don't

Don't take that personally. That is the fifth thing that we're bringing here for you not to do when speaking English. Don't take things personally if people don't understand you.

some people are not used to your accent some people are not used to speaking with learners that's true and again it's coming back to not being too harsh on yourself because like the default behavior here is to think that you said something wrong but maybe it's not you right maybe another person didn't know this word or they like didn't

Tune their ear to your accent, right? And even celebrities, they sometimes say things that, you know, they're not, they're misunderstood and they don't, they don't care, you know, like if the other person doesn't understand them, they will find another way to say it. And they just have fun with English.

Oftentimes because the other person doesn't speak their native language. So I have a story here that I just thought was really funny. I don't know if it's a real story. That is from the prime minister of Japan, the highest authority in Japan, and Barack Obama, the former president of the United States. So the prime minister went to meet Barack Obama and he was instructed to say, how are you?

And then he was told that Obama would respond, I'm fine, and you? And he would say back, me too. That was all. And then they would start speaking their own languages and the translators would take action. So when it was finally time to meet with Obama, the prime minister said, instead of saying how, he said who. He doesn't speak any English. He was just saying words. But then he said, who are you? And Barack was like,

She's like, I'm Michelle's husband. And then the prime minister responded, me too. Oh my God. I don't know if that's real, but if it's a real story, it's just like a gem. It's gotta be. Right. So, whatever, this produces a funny story. It's not like Barack Obama would be offended, right? He knows you're a language learner. He doesn't speak Japanese. He's just glad that he's having a good time. Right. And if he's not having a good time,

Man, that person is a douche. Like, ignore them, right? The situation could have turned completely differently, right? If Barack Obama took it, like, seriously, right? Or if the Japanese prime minister, like, you know... Or that, yeah. Got stuck, right?

All right, I just spilled water on myself here. Let's ignore that. It's funny. It's awkward, but it does have to be awkward. Now, you do want to understand others and you want to be understood, but that takes time. So if you're watching these lessons and you're learning passively just by absorbing all these words you're saying, and then later on you're activating by doing the vocabulary practice, it's going to be great for you because then you're not going to get yourself in situations like you are misunderstood.

So I actually saw a message from one of our learners, one of the users of the app, that they were talking exactly about this. Okay, so it's time to shout out our learner of the week. And this week, we got five stars from Rene Ramos. And they write, I really like the application because you learn vocabulary and expressions that native English speakers really use. Plus the explanation and exercises are very good. It is very worth it.

Very worth it. What is that when something isn't worth it? It is worth your time and attention. This is something valuable. Like you spend time and then you're like, this was good. It was a good investment of time or money or energy, right? It's worth it.

Amazing. So guys, again, do it just like Rene and practice vocabulary with this lesson on the app. I've been saying that a lot, but it really is something that I did in the past. I didn't have the app. If I did back then, I would definitely use it. But what I would do is it was very similar to the way learners get to use the app and do it today. That is, you consume a piece of media, this podcast in this case, which is great because it's full of vocabulary.

And then you can practice with flashcards. Now, flashcards, they basically contain an image, an illustration of that image, a sentence example, a definition containing the meaning of that expression. And it's great for you to practice because you're challenging yourself

to see whether or not you remember. And then if you don't remember, the app will automatically save that for you to review that later. And by doing this repetition, which is actually scientifically called space repetition, it's a methodology for acquiring new vocabulary. By doing this, it's guaranteed that you're going to increase, you're going to expand your active vocabulary, the words that you're actually able to use in a real conversation so you can express yourself. So do it just like Renee and download the app now.

All right, Xenia, so let's wrap this up with our final tip of things you guys should not do when you speak English. That is, do not get frustrated with yourself. How does that work? How does that frustration happen? That's a tricky one, Izzy. I'm still getting frustrated with myself, even on this podcast. So that's something I'm currently fighting with, I would say. And I should say that, you know, frustration is such a...

huge part of our life not only of language learning like remember our conversation about me trying to learn how to drive yeah it's a total frustration I felt your frustration with your deep breathing there's like a

That was frustration. That was it, guys. I feel you. It's just like not learning English is learning to drive. I can't do this. But not making it a self-fulfilling prophecy by saying I can't do this. I should, right, work on my mindset. Just saying that, okay, just give it a little bit more love. Give it a little more practice. Give it a little more time. Right? Yeah.

But that's challenging. Yeah, just keep practicing because it is just like playing an instrument, learning a language, driving. The more you practice, the more it becomes automatic, the more you feel more confident. You know,

I start and quit, I start and quit. So it's like a love and hate relationship with driving lessons for me. Yeah. And it doesn't mean you're not smart, right? That's it. That's it. That's a very good point. Again, drawing parallels was learning English. Like if you can't do it like quick enough, again, not comparing with others, but if you saw your friend like learning it much faster than you, it's not, it doesn't mean anything. You're two different people.

It does not. Like people from 12 to 95 speak English. Actually, much younger people. It's not about how smart those people are or how difficult English is because everybody speaks it who are natives and you speak your own native language. It just takes time. So be patient. I think patience, we talked about silliness as a value even. Now let me talk about patience. There is a...

there's a prayer called the serenity prayer which i think is not so religious it's actually just great piece of wisdom uh that goes like this please grant me serenity to accept the things i cannot change courage to change the things i can and wisdom to know the difference i love it i've heard it i love it very much and it again brings us back to the very beginning we started with courage

It also says be courageous. Yeah. Give me courage to change the things I can. So I believe that's a beautiful way to end today's episode. Guys, be patient with yourself and courage. Have courage with all the ventures in your life. So recapping, just looking again at all those questions.

things you guys should not do. So the first thing is don't be ashamed to speak. Practice, practice, practice. There's no way around it. Embrace it. Second thing is don't be afraid of making mistakes. Mistakes are part of the process. Actually, it's good if you make mistakes. It's not like there's a high risk situation like driving. In the case of driving, you don't want to make so many mistakes, but still you should be able to not think about them so much. But in case of English, don't worry about making mistakes. It can be funny even.

Third thing is don't apologize for your level. That could be a self-feeling prophecy. You could be just creating that narrative for yourself and getting stuck in it. And people don't care. Natives don't mind if you make mistakes. And they actually, what they do care is that if you keep saying, sorry for my bad English, sorry for my bad English, that keeps interrupting the flow of the conversation. The next thing that you should not do is don't compare yourself to others when you speak English. You have your own journey. So remember, be yourself. Everyone else is taken.

The next thing that you should not do is don't take things personally if people don't understand you because maybe the problem is with them. Like maybe they don't actually have the experience of speaking with learners. Now, you should be responsible for your own ability to communicate, to express your own ideas and express yourself. But again, you have your own process that now that links very nicely with the last point.

Tip now that is you shouldn't take it personally because it takes time. Don't get frustrated with yourself. It takes time. Be patient.

So there you go, the six things that you guys should not do when speaking English. And what you should do is just speak more, right? Speak more and practice more. Yeah, keep living your English. And guys, if you're enjoying and learning a lot with these lessons, please support us. And a free way for you to do that is to subscribe to our channel and hit the bell down below. Also give this video a like because

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best way to gain confident natural English with these lessons. So go and download it now. The link to get this lesson for free is in the description under this video. Ah yeah! Now Ksenia, thank you so much for joining me today. This was a lot of fun. And for all of you guys watching us and listening to us, remember that no matter what divides us, that which unites us is far greater. One, two, three.

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