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You always have options

2025/6/3
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Before Breakfast

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Laura: 我认为在生活中,我们几乎总是拥有选择权,但关键在于我们是否愿意接受每个选择所带来的全部后果。很多时候,我们感觉自己被各种要求和环境所束缚,但实际上,我们是有选择的。我个人选择不去每天整理房间,也不追逐每一季的潮流服饰,甚至不每天都从零开始烹饪晚餐,因为我认为这些选择所带来的后果是我可以接受的。我经常告诉大家,不必过于在意家里的整洁,晚上11点并没有人会来检查你的家是否一尘不染,所以即使家里有些凌乱,我们仍然可以放松身心,享受属于自己的时间。如果你的日程安排让你感到不堪重负,或者你觉得生活中的某些方面是无法改变的,那么请重新审视一下。你真的不必每天凌晨4点起床,为孩子们准备午餐、锻炼身体、化妆和吹干头发。你可以考虑让孩子们在学校吃午餐,或者选择一个更快速的美容程序,甚至减少每天的锻炼时间。你也可以开始寻找新的工作机会,即使这意味着可能需要接受降薪,但如果这份新工作能让你充满热情,那么或许降薪也是值得的。所以,每当你听到自己说“我必须做某事”或“我不能做某事”时,不妨考虑一下你真正想要的选择,然后问问自己:做我想做的事情,或者不做我不想做的事情,代价是什么?这个代价是否值得付出? Laura: 我经常会反思我所做的选择,以及这些选择背后所隐藏的代价。例如,我选择不花太多时间在打理家务上,这意味着我的家可能不会像杂志封面那样光鲜亮丽,但我却因此获得了更多的时间来陪伴家人、发展自己的事业,以及追求自己的兴趣爱好。对我来说,这种权衡是值得的。同样地,我选择不盲目追求时尚潮流,这意味着我可能不会穿最流行的服装,但我却可以省下大量的金钱和精力,并将它们投入到更有意义的事情上。总而言之,我认为生活中的每一个选择都伴随着一定的代价,而我们需要做的就是认真权衡这些代价,并选择那些最符合我们价值观和生活目标的选择。

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This is an iHeart Podcast. Hey listeners, you know I can't be bothered with lengthy beauty routines. Who has time for that? That's why I am so glad I discovered Merit. Merit is all about simplicity, high-performing products, and enhancing your natural beauty. If you're like me and prefer a less is more approach, you'll love that Merit can help you look put together in five minutes or less.

My favorite product has to be the minimalist. It's a two in one foundation and concealer that gives me smooth, even coverage with zero fuss. I also like the flush balm for cheeks. My shade is archival and it gives me that healthy, natural flush of color that blends in beautifully and makes me look like I spent more time on my makeup than I actually did. Ready to simplify your routine and make mornings a breeze.

head to MeritBeauty.com and get their signature makeup bag free with your first order. For clean, effortless, high-performing makeup, head to MeritBeauty.com. Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good morning, this is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's tip is to remember that you almost always have options.

You may feel like your life is entirely determined by requirements and circumstances, but more often than not, you do have choices. The question is whether you are comfortable with the whole package of what a choice entails. Today's tip comes from Oliver Berkman's book, Meditations for Mortals. Berkman points out that it is almost never the case that you don't have options. You don't actually have to go to work.

You don't have to floss your teeth. It's just that those options come with consequences. So you have to weigh the appeal of the whole package of the option plus its consequences. If you don't go to work, you might not get paid or perhaps keep the job for long. If you don't floss, you might have cavities or gum trouble. And these are options. They just might not be appealing options once you consider the whole package.

Starting from the premise that you almost always have options, but options come with consequences, Berkman reframes the decision. The only two questions at any moment of choice in life, he says, are what the price is and whether or not it's worth paying. Now, I'm going to go out on a limb and say that for most of us, we are probably wise to choose to go to work.

But you won't be surprised to know that I have decided that I don't have to tidy the house before bedtime, or buy on-trend clothes every season, or cook meals from scratch every night. Whatever consequences come with those choices are ones I am willing to accept. Berkman even refers to my work in his meditation about how you always have choices. He quotes me telling people that there is no 11 p.m. home inspection.

with someone coming around to see if all the toys are picked up. You really can relax and take some time for yourself at night, even if your house is a wreck. There are no grave consequences that come with that option. So if your schedule feels overwhelming or you think some aspect of your life is inescapable, think again.

You don't have to get up at 4 a.m. to pack lunches for your kids and exercise and put on makeup and dry your hair before work. What would happen if your kids bought school lunch and you did a five-minute beauty routine instead of a longer one? Or perhaps didn't exercise every day? You don't have to stay in your current job because you assume you will never find one that pays as well. You could at least look for a new job

it is entirely possible that you will find one that pays just as well or better. And if you find a great job that pays less, well, maybe a salary cut is a consequence that is worth it to get a job you are excited about. So when you hear yourself talking about what you have to do or what you can't do, consider the option you would prefer and return to Berkman's questions. What is the price of doing what you want to do?

or not doing what you don't want to do? And is that price worth paying? I would love to hear what you decide. You can reach me at laura at lauravandercam.com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening. And here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at laura at lauravandercam.com.

Before Breakfast is a production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts from iHeartMedia, please visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. Hey, listeners. I am all about simple beauty routines. That's why I love Merit. Their products make looking put together effortless. For example, there's Flush Balm, which is a sheer, buildable cream blush that blends in seamlessly for a healthy, natural glow.

And let's not forget The Minimalist, which is a two-in-one foundation and concealer that's perfect for those days when you need quick, natural coverage. So if you're looking to streamline your beauty routine too, head to MeritBeauty.com. You'll get their signature makeup bag free with your first order. Simplify your routine and feel beautiful with Merit. Hey, listeners. We know you're all about making the most of your time.

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Check out Front Row Seat with Ken Coleman, wherever you get your podcasts. This is an iHeart Podcast. ♪