Dr. Vivek Murthy and Brené on loneliness and connection
Unlocking Us with Brené Brown
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What is the definition of loneliness according to researchers?
Loneliness is a discrepancy between the social connections one needs and those one has. It is subjective and differs from objective terms like isolation.
How does loneliness manifest in people's lives?
Loneliness can manifest as social withdrawal, anger, irritability, and can lead to various illnesses such as substance use disorders, addiction, violence, and chronic diseases.
What are the three dimensions of loneliness identified by researchers?
The three dimensions are intimate loneliness (longing for a close confidant or partner), relational loneliness (yearning for quality friendships), and collective loneliness (hunger for a community sharing purpose and interests).
What are the health risks associated with weak social connections?
Weak social connections can reduce lifespan by 50% and are as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. They also increase the risk of coronary heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke, dementia, depression, anxiety, lower quality sleep, immune system dysfunction, and impulsive behavior.
Why is there a stigma around loneliness?
The stigma around loneliness stems from the shame associated with it, making people feel they are not likable or broken if they are lonely, preventing them from admitting it to themselves or others.
How does loneliness contribute to societal polarization?
Loneliness and social disconnection are root causes of societal polarization. When people are deeply connected, they are more able to listen and give others the benefit of the doubt, fostering dialogue and understanding.
What is the cognitive bias known as motive attribution asymmetry?
Motive attribution asymmetry is the bias where individuals believe their own actions are driven by love, while perceiving the actions of others as driven by hatred.
How can human connection help in healing trauma?
Human connection can heal trauma by allowing people to channel love, which helps them accept themselves and shed shame. Relationships are the most powerful form of healing, eclipsing even medical prescriptions.
What is the biggest barrier to building socially connected communities?
The biggest barrier is the shame associated with needing others, which is contrary to the cultural emphasis on independence and self-sufficiency.
What emotions primarily drive human decisions according to Dr. Murthy?
Human decisions are primarily driven by either love or fear, which manifest in various ways such as generosity, kindness, empathy, insecurity, anger, and indifference.
- Loneliness is a subjective experience of lacking needed social connections.
- It can manifest as feeling invisible or carrying a heavy load alone.
- Loneliness is often experienced but rarely identified due to stigma and shame.
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