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Episode 403: How To Move Beyond Small Talk And Connect Deeply

2025/6/6
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Justin Lee Miller: 我发现很多人在与陌生人交流时感到困难,他们倾向于使用套路化的对话,但这种方式难以建立真正的联系。过于安全的对话方式,比如只谈论工作、居住地、喜欢的餐厅和周末活动,显得过于表面化,缺乏趣味。本期节目将讨论如何更深入地了解潜在的伴侣,超越表面层次,并探讨如何适度地自我暴露,以及如何开始关于性的对话。 Lindsay Jill Roth: 我认为在与合适的人相处时,真诚的对话胜过任何形式上的约束。人们常常不知道该问什么,我的书旨在提供一些有趣的提问工具。提出有趣的问题能给对方留下深刻印象,并促进更好的讨论。除了轻松的问题,书中也有一些严肃的问题,例如“你们如何争吵?”。做真实的自己,与对的人在一起,你的真实不会吓跑他们。不要被规则束缚,找到适合自己和他人的方式才是最重要的。如果不知道答案,诚实地表达并承诺思考,这表明你在乎对方。

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Many struggle to connect with strangers, often resorting to small talk. This chapter explores how to move beyond superficial conversations and create more authentic connections by asking meaningful questions and revealing appropriate personal details. It emphasizes the importance of asking unique questions to stand out and spark engaging discussions.
  • Avoid superficial questions like "What do you do?"
  • Ask questions about pets, hobbies, or opinions to reveal personality.
  • Unique questions help you stand out and create memorable interactions.

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Imagine you just met an attractive stranger and want to strike up a conversation. What are you going to say? More often than not, people play it safe and stick to small talk, but that makes it hard to really connect with someone. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss tips for moving beyond the small talk and establishing deeper, more authentic connections, as well as tips for improving sexual communication.

I am joined once again by Lindsay Jill Roth), an award-winning television and live-events producer who has created and developed a wide variety of programming globally. She is also author of the new book Romances & Practicalities), which is based on a set of 250 research-backed questions designed to help you initiate tricky conversations and find lasting love.

Some of the topics we explore include:

  • What are we doing wrong when it comes to getting to know others?

  • How can we ask more meaningful questions to people we’re romantically interested in?

  • What are some other good conversation starters for getting to know someone?

  • How do you normalize conversations about sex with a new partner?

  • How can talking about sex outside of the bedroom help us in the bedroom?

You can check out Lindsay’s website) to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.)


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