Deep Dive: Love In Action - Sex Through Decades of Marriage
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Listen to all my episodes of Dr. Laura's Deep Dive in your favorite podcast app. Search for Dr. Laura's Deep Dive podcast and follow my deep dive today. Dr. Laura's Deep Dive. Dr. Laura's Deep Dive podcast. The quickest way to make your man feel disconnected from you.

is to act disinterested in sex. While having sex with your husband telegraphs your love to him, want to feel more connected and have a husband who adores you? Have sex and enjoy it. Gosh darn it.

I've shared studies and stories about how touching, hugging, and orgasms are nature's way to elevate mood, lower blood pressure, relieve headaches, lower stress, boost immunity, you sleep better, you have a smile on your face more often, want to live a happier, healthier life? Have sex, lots of sex, and enjoy it.

I've done a number of deep dives on the importance of affection, sensuality, and sex in marriage. But it's my most recent effort that may make the biggest impact on my listeners yet. It started with me reading an email I received on air that generated lots of caller feedback and comments that flooded my inbox in the following days. I want you and your marriage to benefit from hearing the whole thing. So here goes.

So I received, thank you for your mail. I get quickies at quickies at drlaura.com, quickie at drlaura.com. Also, we have distraite, distraite, drlaura at drlaura.com, either one. This one was amazing. Please don't use my name, so I won't.

She writes this a little bit lengthy, so I'm going to read the whole thing to you because it's the punchline that I want your commentary on. It's about husbands and wife and sex. So get ready. I want your opinion and first your reaction and then your opinion. Okay? Reaction and opinion.

So get ready to dial 1-800-375-2872 as soon as you hear the last sentence. Ready? My husband and I have been together 32 years. He had been recently separated and I had been separated for a few months. We both had kids and after listening this past year, I understand we might have made better choices for the kids.

Be that as it may, all of your warnings came true in my life by not putting kids first. Mostly drama from the ex-wife, and it was difficult, but we endured. All of our children have strong relationships, good jobs, they're married, we have multiple grandchildren. So my husband and I, when we were in our late 30s and starting a new relationship, sex was very important.

We are now in our late 60s, and it's not as important to me anymore as it is to him. There has been a lot of stress over the years because my sex drive has dwindled, and I came up with a perfect solution I thought I would share. My husband is a manly man and is as strong as an ox.

He needs to have sex, but there is not a lot of foreplay to get me in the mood. So there is the dilemma. I got really tired of saying no because he hurt feelings. He had hurt because he had hurt my feelings that day or the previous day, and I was still hurting from it. I didn't feel special. And over the years, I felt my heart had so many holes in it from his insensitive remarks that I didn't want to give him this gift of my body any longer. So here's the solution.

He has the opportunity to have sex every other day. He got to choose even days or odd days. He chose even days, I'm sure, because he's OCD. My days are odd. If you are not home on your day or choose not to have time on your day, then you miss out. Fortunately, my even days gives me two days off at the end of the month. That ends in an odd number.

This has worked out so well. It's not a crazy, passionate lovemaking, and it doesn't take long, but he is always so sweet and nice during sex. It really is not a chore. But I know that he needs this release of energy, and I felt it was my duty as a wife to help him be the man he is.

I have not had to say that stupid word no to him since we started this a few years ago. His moods on the days we do have sex are always better. If I am sick or there is something going on physically with me, he has no problem skipping his day and he's even skipped a day himself a few times for no reason. So it's not cut in stone.

And maybe someday I will get a libido back and maybe have sex on my day, LOL. Who knows? Thank you for all you do for everyone, blank. Did you all get the, you should forgive the expression, thrust of that? I want your calls with your opinion of how she solved the problem of her not having much of a libido anymore, but not saying no anymore.

Because she appreciates he still has a libido. And psychologically, men need the sex-lovemaking with their wives in order to feel loved. So I'm dying to hear your reaction to her solution, your opinion, and maybe you have yet another solution that you've worked out.

So give me a call at 1-800-375-2872. He's got a thriving libido in his 60s. She doesn't. So they do every odd and even day, depending. He has the even days because he's OCD. She has the odd days. So on his days, he's a happier man. Yeah. So she has sex with him every other day.

And on her days, they don't have sex because that's her day. And she doesn't feel like it. So it's not a no. It's just her day is a no. So he's having sex every other day. That's her solution to him having libido and her not. Come on. I want to hear your reaction to her solution, man or woman. I want to hear from both of you, man or woman. She decided saying no for the rest of her marriage was probably not a great idea and that it was hurting him.

Whereas she says that it doesn't take too long and it's fine. I thought this was a great way to solve the problem. She writes, this has worked out so well. It's not a crazy passionate lovemaking. It doesn't take long, but he is always so sweet and nice during sex. It is really not a chore.

But I know he needs this release of energy. And I felt it was my duty as a wife to help him be the man he is. I have not had to say that stupid word no to him since we started this a few days ago. And his moods on the days we do have sex, the even days, his attitude and happiness level is terrific. And he will graciously skip his day if she's got a cold. Okay?

So can't wait to hear. I want your reaction. I want your reaction, your opinion. And if you have different solutions, male and female call and let me know. Okay. So I'm going to start taking calls now at 1-800-375-2872. This is important because this is like a universal issue.

Teresa, welcome to the program. Hello. I'm so excited to speak with you. And I even don't have a problem. I was hoping I'd have a problem, but this is even better.

Good. So what is your reaction to her solution? And any more commentary? My reaction? Okay, my reaction, I'm 60 years old, my husband and I have been together 42 years. And I think it's right in line with what I have recently told my husband every other day, instead of even on days, we just do every other day. And if he's not there, then you know, it's

It doesn't happen, obviously. So does it happen on a certain time of the day? Is this more likely morning? Oh, no, we're retired, and I'm kind of more a morning person. So before his morning nap. Before his morning nap.

So that makes him tired. He has a morning nap. That's really cute. Okay. And how much do you enjoy every other day? How much do you enjoy the sex? I enjoy it just fine. Probably there's been times my libido was higher and I am working towards helping my libido get better. But in the meantime, this is a good solution, I think.

And what do you enjoy it? Or do you feel put upon? Or do you have a climax? Oh, no, not at all. I mean, he's happy to accommodate. And, you know, sometimes Quickie's better than...

I mean, if it's for me, it's going to be a lot longer. But, you know, we're, I think we're, we've hit a happy medium, you know, with not saying the N word. No. Yes. And does he ever not take advantage of his every other day? No.

Unless he's not there. I mean, pretty much. Or I don't feel well or something. But yeah, I don't ever feel put upon. And do you climax each time? Ma'am? Ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, I'm asking a question. Do you climax each time? No, you're moving me.

Yeah, well, you kept talking. No, that's extra time. If it's for me, that's extra time. How do we determine when it's for you? If I bring out hardware. I see. If you bring out some sex toys, then he knows this is going to take a little longer.

Got it. Okay. That was very helpful. Thank you so much. I appreciate you contributing. All right. My number 1-800-375-2872. Jim, welcome. Hi, Dr. Laura. Hi, sir. All right. What's your reaction to the writer's solution?

Well, ironically, my wife and I, I'm 64 and she is 52. And we literally just had this conversation about a week ago because I was in the same boat as the writer's husband. So how tell me about that conversation. Who started it? How did it go?

Yeah, I had put it off for a long time because sometimes just the conversation is a mood killer. And there's also, you know, I love my wife. I respect that she's not necessarily the same. She's going through menopause. And so I recognize that her libido is different. So I've been trying to be accommodating. But finally, and our problem was a bit different. She would accommodate me, but she

She, but that really didn't work for me because I felt like that was almost like she was, you know, not interested or to be just crude about it. That's almost that she was, you know, acting like a, you know, a paid person trying to be polite. And that wasn't in her head. Don't be polite. Give it to me the way you discussed it and thought it. It's okay. Okay.

Yeah, I felt like that kind of feels like she's a prostitute, right? She's just, you know, letting me do it because, you know,

she feels like she's supposed to. So we ended up, I brought it up with her because I've always had a very high libido. And when we were first, when we were first together, we've been together about 12 years. She had a very high libido. That was fantastic. But then as she entered menopause, you know, she changed. I didn't. And there's just not a lot of

help out there for menopausal women there's a help for the women but not sort of you know what do they do about their husbands so when I brought it up I I it came up because she had uh she had let me um have her and uh but I wasn't able to complete the situation and so it came up because the more you get careful the less I can understand what you're saying

So please just say it all out clearly. Yeah. I was able to get an erection, but was unable to climax, which is unusual for me. Because? Because I felt like she was just, you know, acting like a prostitute. Follow me?

Yes. Not that that was in her head. Anyway, it finally came up because she asked, you know, what's the problem? And I finally just explained, you know, I don't, it's not appealing to me when you accommodate me. Well, that turned out to be the whole problem because I viewed accommodation as she's being a hooker. She viewed accommodation in a very positive way, which is she loves me. She knows I have a libido still and she wants to satisfy me. So, yeah.

That happened about 10 days ago, and it's been fantastic ever since. Why is it fantastic?

Well, because when she what we agreed, I actually offered I had a friend that was had prostate cancer and was undergoing hormone therapy. So he was not horny for about a year. And I thought, well, you know, maybe I should try that because I love her and I want to spend my life with her. But I've you know, I've had a high libido ever since I was born.

And sometimes it's annoying, frankly. And so I offered that to her. And then she offered hormone therapy for menopause, which we don't really want her to do because of the cancer risks and everything else. So each of us offered that to the other during the conversation and ultimately worked out that I was misunderstanding what accommodation meant.

And that she she still is, you know, horny sometimes. But what we would do is I would appreciate when she's accommodating me because she loves me. And then I would be available in those instances when when she's horny. And and that's really worked out fantastic. It's been a short period of time. But how does she let you know that she's horny?

She just tells me. Oh, OK. Wow. You guys are that's wonderful that you're that openly communicative with each other. Honey, we are. I need you now. OK, well, that's it. That's wonderful. And that works out. Yeah. And I look at the accommodation completely differently now. So I don't have any issues at all. Misinterpretation. Yeah. Yeah.

That's important that we know the words we're using and what they mean. I'm glad you had, that's amazing that you had that wonderful conversation. Yeah. And I think the takeaway is I imagined all kinds of things, right? I imagine that she didn't find me appealing anymore. I imagine that, you know, she's, you know, angry about something. I imagine, and then I would get like, what struck me and the reason I called you, we listen to you all the time, but I called you because what struck me about what

the writer said was that, you know, sort of every other day thing and, and, you know, sort of, you know, kind of her duty. And if he misses a day, then I get a day off. Well, that's the way I looked at the way she was. It wasn't just that she's got changes from menopause or that, you know, she might just not be feeling well, or, you know, her breasts are sensitive or I looked at it as, you know, you're just, you know,

you don't want me anymore. You're not attracted to me anymore. And, and so that was how I interpreted, you know, the, the, the lower libido. I took it personally. Right. Fabulous, Jim. Anything else you wish to add? This has been very informative, I believe for everybody listening. Thank you. Well, that's why I called because communication is everything and don't infer. You know, that's why we we've, we've agreed, like, just let's not assume what the other one's thinking. Let's just say it.

Yes, that's why I asked you to be more clear. I know it was a little embarrassing. I understand. Thank you, Jim. I appreciate it. You have a great day. All right, you too. Thanks, Dr. Laura. You're very welcome. Okay, I have to take a break. So this is the time for you to just close your eyes and think of something very sexy to do with your spouse as soon as possible. I said, just think about it, okay? I'll be right back. Dr. Laura's Deep Dive Podcast.

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All right, we're talking about husbands and wives where the husband has a high libido and the wife doesn't for whatever reasons. We're not going to explore reasons and how you resolve it. I read an email earlier on in the hour where she set up with her husband that he gets every, he picked on even days they have sex, on odd days they don't.

And she says he's very sweet when they have sex. She doesn't feel that it's a chore. She loves him. She knows he needs this release of energy and that it was her duty as his wife. Want your opinion, your reactions. My number, 1-800-375-2872. Okay, I'm going to keep the other two lines that are still open. We have a million lines here. Just for men. So I want more men to answer this. So we'll keep it somewhat balanced.

Okay. Tom, welcome to the program. Hi, Laura. Thanks for taking my call. It's really interesting to know that I'm not alone in this department and I'm not. Oh, no, you're not. So my story is a little different. My wife had cancer, stage four cancer about a little 10 or 11 years ago. And so she went through chemo and radiation therapy. And one of the side effects of that is it shortens your vaginal canal during that whole ordeal.

And so it hurt. And so I didn't want to hurt her, obviously. And so we went nearly 10 years with very limited intimacy, very, almost none. And so about a month ago, I said, you know what, I'm just going to, we'll just snuggle and everything else will be fine. And she noticed, you know, when we snuggled a lot, I had an erection next to her. And so I said, you know what,

something has to change. I said, so, so if I, Oh, I'm losing your signal. Oh, I'm sorry. I said, it's better now. I wasn't driving. So I don't have a terribly high libido. Better? Worse? I'm going to have to have you call back on another line. That's sorry. Uh, Gordon, welcome to the program. Yeah.

What is your reaction? What is your opinion and what is your story? I'm great. Go ahead. Okay. My story is I wanted to respond to Jim. His last call, he was talking about his wife going through menopause and not doing hormone replacement therapy because of the rate of cancer and so forth. And in my...

In my experience, and actually there's a new book out by Marty McCary, who's our new FDA person, and the whole chapter in his book is called Blind Spots. And the whole chapter in his book talks about the NIH study that declared that and how unfair and unclinically sound that information was.

And so I just want to put out to your listeners that there is great hope and benefit for patients being on hormone replacement therapy if prescribed properly by a physician. I appreciate that. Now let's go back to what I presented. What's your reaction to this woman's...

It didn't have anything to do with cancer and hormone treatment. It had to do with she just didn't have the libido. And they made the every other day. So wanting your reaction and maybe you had a different solution in your marriage.

Well, the different solution was, in fact, hormone replacement. And that really solved a lot of the issues. And I don't want people, from my experience or the medical journal information that has come out since the NIH study, which is a long time ago. All right. Well, I do appreciate you bringing that to us. And I certainly will check on that. But right now, I really want the reaction to how a couple worked it out.

and what the emotions and reactions were. Doreen, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. I'm 57. My husband is 75. Hi. I do not have a sex drive. My husband does.

he cannot get an erection now or you know have an orgasm and that's because of medication um when he was able to i could rally and you know everything that people have said about you know my husband was in a fabulous mood everything about having sex was great for our marriage so even if i wasn't up for it i was up for it for all the other great reasons um

But now that he can't get an erection,

I don't want to participate, even though it still makes him, he still enjoys that. He still wants that. Honestly, it makes me feel sad. I don't, I don't want to, I just don't want to. So we've been for like the last month going back and forth. Let me understand. I'm a little confused. You don't want to do what? He can't have intercourse. I'm sorry. So what is it you don't want to do? I don't want to oral and physical.

really making, I'm just not into oral when I can't, when he can't participate. Or I guess a big part of it is I have no way of knowing how I'm doing or are we almost there yet or anything like that. And it's just like this endless exercise that's bumming me out. But he's down with it. He likes it. So I have asked if there can be

a specific time frame you know you know what i mean it can just go on no not yet no i'm not following this i'm not following this you were okay having sexual intercourse but now that he can't have an erection but he still feels sexy and he wants to do things like oral sex you don't want to do that or receive it or do it is that correct that is correct

Okay, so how are you two working that out? If you don't want to do anything, how are you two dealing with that? Not very well. And what I have asked him for is can there be a specific amount of time that I understand that I will give you oral sex, but it's not going to go on indefinitely until you're like, okay, okay.

That was great. That's enough because that can be a really long period of time. I see what you're saying. So he doesn't climax and it leaves you. Okay, got it. Well, how about receiving oral sex? Are you open to that? No, I am not. He would like. Okay. How about manually or using sex toys or vibrators or have you two talked about that?

So I guess I've ruled myself out from being enjoying sex myself at this time because of what I'm experiencing with menopause. However, he needs he so he's not going to get any satisfaction that way because I'm not enjoying that.

I used to be able to provide him with enjoyable sexual experiences through intercourse or oral. But now, now that is, it's something that I am not enjoying at all. It's making me sad and it's endless. It's never over. I understand what you're saying. But that's why I was wondering of things like vibrators and such.

I mean, I haven't tried any of that with... You might want to think about that. They have little... They look like little lifesavers, except they're bigger. That goes around the base of the penis and it's a vibrator. You may want to try that because then it would probably...

He would be satisfied with the whole experience sooner rather than later. So you might want to check on that. I believe you can get those on Amazon. My number 1-800-375-2872. Frank, welcome to the program. Oh, wow. I didn't think I'd get on this fast. How are you? Sorry. Go ahead. Okay. So what's your reaction, your opinion and experience?

Okay, I'm sorry. You cut out for a second. Can you hear me, Dr. Laura? Totally, yes. Thank you. Okay. All right, so I'm 56. My wife is...

Yeah, she's four. 52. She's 52. Yeah. I'm in better shape than I was 20 years ago. I work out a lot. My wife is in really, she looks real good. She's damn hot. But she struggles with insomnia and she also has an autoimmune disease.

chronic disease. So she has to get an infusion every once in a while. And so she's not, she's, she's she struggles sometimes. And I respect that. And she's told me that she definitely has lost a lot of her sex drive just based on, you know, the medications that she'd been on and when she doesn't sleep, but she's, she wants to,

me to be happy. And so we have to, you know, pick the times and, and, you know, and then we, we have, we get together, we have sex, but I'm wondering if, if this hormone replacement is, if she's a candidate. Okay. We're not, I can't go into that, sir. I'm not an MD. You can look into that yourself. I'm, I'm talking about how people resolve these problems and,

Short of medical intervention or what have you. Okay. Well, the way we resolve it is we love each other very much. We respect each other and I'm patient with her. And when she's ready and she feels good, then we get together. It's very long in between. Sometimes we have to wait a few months, but because we respect each other and we love each other,

then we're okay with that. And she is very loving and wants to give me what I want. And when she's up for it, she does, despite the fact that she has these challenges. You two sound like a very loving couple. I'm impressed. Thank you for your call, Frank. Thank you. Love and respect. Those are the words I've heard a lot today. Love and respect. Love and respect. Love and respect. It isn't about your needs. Respect.

I'm going to take a break. Oh, one thing I left out of the whole podcast. Yeah, it helps you sleep better. A good orgasm, that is. I'll be right back. Dr. Laura's Deep Dive. Deep Dive Podcast. Always so fresh, delicious, and nutritious, Eggland's Best Eggs fuel the body with six times more vitamin D, 10 times more vitamin E, and 25% less saturated fat compared to ordinary eggs. Visit egglandsbest.com to learn more.

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Hi, Dr. Laura. Thanks for taking my call. I wanted to call in and give you my take on this suggestion. I think my husband would love it. He has quite a libido. I don't anymore after three back surgeries and menopause.

And I always feel like, okay, it's, you know, I wouldn't say it's duty, but, you know, he has a pretty stressful job. So I did tell him, look, I can probably, let's get together once a week. And I know he would like it a lot more. So this might be a way for us to kind of negotiate, I guess, you know, I guess, you know, more sex for him. Okay.

So if your genitals are being caressed, that doesn't turn you on?

No, you know, not really. No. Plus, I'm on Lexapro, which I know kind of deadens your or tampers your and I've never really had a big, you know, libido, I guess. So when I heard you read that, I thought, oh, my God, that is the best idea. So you liked it. Yeah.

I'd like to. I think I'll share it with my husband so now I don't have to feel so bad. Not tonight, dear. Not tonight. Every other night. Okay. Yes. He gets to pick odd or even. That's right. Well, thank you for learning something here and expediting your romantic life together. I love it. My number 1-800-375-2872. Ruben, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. I know you're doing well because you always say so. So I'll skip that part. But this is a great topic and it's great for both parties because my story has to do with myself and my wife. Myself.

59 my wife is 55. She went through perimenopause, I think around 40 and at 54, I had prostate cancer and I had it removed. And that was quite a challenge in itself because.

I could write a book on the whole process of sex and sex with, you know, without a prostate and using everything from pills, injections, pumps. I mean, every tool out there possible just to have sex. And she's been very patient throughout the whole process.

And our sex life is better because the body naturally started. Doing what it's supposed to do, so I don't have to use as many tools. I still do when need be, but there's times that things just happen naturally. And I think they happen naturally because.

It depends on how relaxed I am, how relaxed she is, what we, our communication beforehand and things like that. People have been talking about communication, respect and love, and absolutely all that goes into it. We both have always been sexual, but sex is addictive.

It doesn't have to be intercourse. We sleep naked every night and we cuddle. And that in itself is intimacy, big time. It does not have to be sex. You know, just that act alone of feeling each other's skin and cuddling and doing all that stuff is, it works. So, you know, I don't know, we probably have sex maybe twice.

Twice, three times a month, and it's fine because the rest of it, we're still intimate. We are empty nesters and most of the time, you know, we'll take the opportunity to be naked. And that is, you know, as good, let's say. So I guess in regards to her.

she wanted to know more about what she was going through. So she did much more research about perimenopause and menopause so much that she got certified as a menopause specialist. And what came out of that, yeah, but what came out of that is nutrition and working out. So we have this, we work out

She makes great meals that have a lot to do with macros and, you know, instead of eating a lot of meat, there's different proteins with tofu. I don't want to get into the whole food thing, but that has helped out immensely. So our conditioning is much better because we're eating better, we're working out, and

And our intimacy is way up because we are sharing so much more now than what we did in the past. Oh, isn't that interesting? Yes. Well, it's weird, right? It's like a little bit of a blessing in disguise that if you don't allow your mind to get in the way, so many good things can happen and the body will react better and

in a natural way if you don't let your mind and all this shit that we put in the way get in the way. So I guess that's my message. And it seems like the other thing is you don't pressure each other. No, we don't. We don't. But there is plenty of discussion so we understand better where we're coming from.

And I guess that will always happen for the rest of your lives. If you keep that in mind, that there is always going to be communication, hopefully it's open communication, and you guys will always be talking about things, whether it's sex or anything, you will sustain a great relationship, you know? Yeah. Thank you so much, Ruben.

I hope you're all feeling, believing, sensing how much you're learning today. Molly, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Long-time listener, first-time caller. What's your take on the email?

My take is that for myself and my husband, we've been together 30 years and we have had ups and downs and we have different cycles and we work together and we raised a child together and now we're empty nesters and we switched it up. We have intimacy during the daytime.

And I've been through menopause, however, it is painful. And I've discovered a suppository

lubricant that you put in an hour before or in the nighttime and you feel like a 17 year old. Molly, that's good. It's a hyaluronic acid little suppository. There's no hormones in it, but it

It's been a life changer. So that's my short, my short answer. Well, it's, it's a beautiful one. And thank you very much, Molly. Okay, let's go to Scott. Welcome to the program. What's your reaction?

Hey, Dr. Laura. My reaction is I would love that solution. Only every other day. Sex one day, no sex the next day, every other day. Switch off. Oh, absolutely. Why can't you two do that? Probably because...

I don't speak up enough about it, maybe. Would you do me the favor and stop fiddling with stuff? You're making a lot of racket on the side. Pay attention. Focus. Okay. Okay. Go ahead. Well, you said there's not enough communication. Maybe you need to start that.

I've tried communication and when I try to talk to her about it, she doesn't really want to talk about it. She's older than me by a couple years. She's lost a lot of weight. She used to have a better libido when she was a little bit heavier and I liked her better when she was heavier but she's happier now that when she's thinner but she doesn't

want to have sex as much anymore. When you say as much, what are we talking about? It used to be once a week. Now it's once every four months. And when you tell her you'd like to talk about introducing more intimacy into the marriage, what is her reaction?

She doesn't really have a reaction. She says, I'm tired. I don't want to. I don't. I'm not. I'm feeling it. OK, I'm not talking about, sir, I'm not talking about having a conversation about having sex right now. I'm talking about having a conversation about reentering sex into the marriage like people have been talking about. I haven't had a conversation with her. Let's give it a shot. Let's give it a shot.

Stacey, welcome to the program. What's your reaction?

Hi, Dr. Laura. I love it. I'm 55. My husband is 50. We've been married wonderful 16 years, a second marriage for both of us. And I have definitely lost a lot of my libido. I don't care if I get it or not.

But my husband wants it. I mean, he can have it anytime he wants. No problem. I love him. It does make us both feel good. But, you know, there are times I'm not into it. But I will say the caller that said his wife started changing the diet and the exercise more, I

That is something that I am going to put into practice. That, I think, is by far the best advice. Because when you heal your body correctly with the right thing, you feel better. And you have to be in that good relationship and be able to talk about it. So to hear that when I called in, that is going to impact me.

My husband's in my relationship. He doesn't know it yet, but I cannot wait to call him to tell him about this. No, let him just be surprised. I'll never stop preaching, teaching, and nagging about the importance of sensuality and sexuality for married couples. Without sex, your marriage is more like a good friendship.

Some who hear my message will take it to heart, and their relationships will all be better for it. That's what happened to Cheryl, who sent me this note. She wrote, quote, I listened to the recent show where you read a letter from a wife who explained how she and her husband came to an agreement about sex. While listening to the calls that followed, it became clear to me that I was failing as a wife at initiating intimacy. I am just not as in the mood as I used to be.

A little later, my husband said he was going to hit some balls at the golf course. I thought to myself, this is just not right. Both of us always doing separate things. I walked into the living room and asked him, would you like to go upstairs? Our code word for action. He had the biggest surprised look on his face. This made the day so much better for both of us. And it taught me that initiating sex is like putting my love for my husband into action.

It's not too late to put your love into action. Your spouse, your marriage, and you are worth it. Now, go do the right thing. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platforms.

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