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Yes, ma'am. Very good to speak with you. I just have a question about forgiveness. I have forgiven, or I say I have forgiven four people. I'm sorry, before we go on, it's often helpful to me to know what people are talking about. So when you say forgiveness as a verb or a noun, I need you to tell me what that means to you. Okay.
Goodness. Well, if I say I'm ignoring people, you know what that, I can, when I'm in their presence, I do not acknowledge their presence. I turn around, I walk away. If they send me a text or an email, I don't answer it. I block it. So now you know what I mean by ignore. So I need to know what you mean by forgive.
Just forgiving them for everything that they've done to me. You can't define something. You can't define a word by using the word. What does it mean to me? Yeah. Actually, it would mean forgiving all of the pain. Ma'am, did I just say you can't use the word forgive to define forgive?
I would not feel the pain and the anger that I have in my heart. Well, you don't need anybody else to do that. You can just say, screw them all. I'm letting it go and watching a cartoon. I say I forgive them. No, no, no. Can we not use the word forgive because people get confused with that? Of course you're not going to forget unless you get dementia. I'm fine.
You want to get dementia so you can forget? So it's not normal to forget? I mean, to not forget? Honey, if you have dementia, you will forget most everything. Short of dementia, we don't forget things that were important or upsetting, etc. We don't forget it. Okay. But you can say things like, I don't... You can say things like, I don't give a shit.
I don't care about them anymore. I'm not going to stew over this. It's not worth it to me. The hell with them. So instead of forgiveness, why don't we just say, I'm just going to let it go. I'll never get justice. I'll never get the apologies, et cetera. So just screw them. Screw it. How do you get it out of your heart? You don't. But you don't spend any time on it. You're not listening. You don't spend time on it.
If a bird lands on your head, a bird lands on your head, be quiet and listen. If a bird lands on your head, a bird is on your head for the rest of your life. You will remember that on that day, a bird landed on your head. And it's even a fun story. If you permit the bird to make a nest that you've done. So a thought can come into your head about somebody or something. And you just say, if it,
And then the bird is not making a nest. But your brain cannot not remember, but you can dismiss thoughts. You do that all the time. Like when you go, you know, I should go to the grocery and get peanuts. And then you don't bother. And then it occurs to you, yeah, shit, I don't care about the peanuts. So we do that all the time. We dismiss things all the time. So you can dismiss it. You are correct. Introducing Instagram teen accounts.
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The kids are still at practice, and I have no idea what's for dinner. You can get a rotisserie chicken and two sides for just $15 in as fast as an hour with Walmart Express delivery. Who said that? Who's in my house? Don't play with me because I'm not the one. It's just your friendly Walmart announcer. This is a commercial. Okay. You were saying dinner for a family was just $15? Yep. It'll be at your door by the time you get the kids home from practice.
Order now. Welcome to your Walmart. Subject to availability restrictions and fees apply. Now that was a helpful commercial. Okay. And is it normal to still feel pain in your heart? Yes. 30 years later. But if you let the pain, shh, but if you let the pain build a nest, then you need psychotherapy. Because that's not normal. I've let the pain build a doggone nest. That's not normal. Okay. And yes, I do believe I need therapy.
Let me ask you something. Now you're going to go into therapy and spend thousands of dollars and millions of years going over the same crap every week? I'm sorry I made that comment, because that would be a waste of your time. Let me explain. Let me ask you a question. I've been on the face of this earth 78 years. Do you think people have hurt my heart? Oh, yes. You're right. A significant number of people over my 78 years have hurt my heart. Next question.
Do you think all of those people apologized and made it okay? No, they didn't. Good. Do you think I got justice in most of those circumstances? No. Do you believe I spend any time talking about this or going over it? Yes. No, I don't. Okay. I do. Well, that's a choice. It's not a disease. It's a choice. I choose not to. Okay.
Because if they hurt me, if somebody hurt me 10 years ago, and I'm still sitting here going over it and over it and over it, then I am hurting me now. They're long gone. You're right. I'm hurting myself by thinking things trigger things for me to think about that make things come back. Oh, don't give me. I'm sick of trigger things. I'm sick of that.
God, it's the newest. No, it's not new. It's a couple of years old, but people are still using it. Oh, that triggered me. Like I have no choice. I got triggered. I do bullshit. I do have a choice. I do have a choice. Let me remind myself of one thing in particular. Good. I got it in my head. Terrible assault on me emotionally. Okay. Now it's out of my head. Now I'm talking to you. I got better things to do than go over that.
I sure do. I remember it till the day I die. Am I going to let it interfere with the pace of my life? Hell no. It's a choice. And if you have a boring life, then maybe the only entertainment you allow yourself is to whine over past hurts. Okay. Makes sense. I'm not bored. I don't have time for that. Don't make time for that. So I just keep my brain busy so it doesn't think about things. Yes.
Yeah, there's no point in thinking about those. We can't go back and fix them. We can't make it not have happened. All you're doing is prolonging the pain. They're not doing it to you anymore. They're long gone out of your life or maybe even dead. You're the one beating yourself up. What the hell is the point of that? How old are you? 72. How many years do you think you have to live? Do you want to waste them on this? Hell no.
No. And I'm a very young 72. Good. You're right. Well, then don't waste that either. Yes. Pardon me? Yes. And there are people I would like to get vengeance on. I don't think about that anymore either. No, I don't think about that. No. Get them back. I'm just hoping that I forgive them in my heart. Please don't use the word, oh, no.
I just wasted 12 minutes of my life on you. You went right back. I hope I forgive them in my heart. Yeah, well, I just failed. I mean, I do. I said I'd forgive them. I'm fine. But I'm the one that's causing my pain. I hope you're happy just sprinkling forgiveness everywhere. I hope you're happy with that if it works for you. Yay! I think it's nonsense. Okay.
So I'm causing myself pain and it's my responsibility to forget about it. Forget about it. Very New York. Forget about it. Okie dokie. And even forget about all the stuff with your heart. Forget about that too. Just forget about that. They hurt my heart. Yeah, I'm sure they did. So what? It's over. They don't care. They're not thinking of you. Everybody who has hurt you is not giving you a moment's thought right now.
True. Not a moment. Not one of them is thinking of you. Not one. Right. You're the one keeping it going. I am. Okay. Okay. Thank you. That's why this phony crap of forgiveness hasn't worked because it's nonsensical. You have to, on an intellectual level, realize that happened. It was terrible and it's over and you're not dead. As long as you're not dead, you're
You have opportunity to enjoy life. Don't waste it going backwards over bad memories. That's a waste. So if you're that bored, do something else. It is a waste. Yes. I agree. Don't waste life. Don't waste life. We don't have a lot of it. You and I are on the last edge.
Don't waste it. Okay. All right. Don't piss me off and waste life. That's it. Thank you so much.
You're very welcome. Mine, don't waste life, folks. And don't give me this, oh, I just want to forgive everybody. You know, gag me with a spoon. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars.
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Okay. You were saying dinner for a family was just $15? Yep. It'll be at your door by the time you get the kids home from practice. Order now. Welcome to your Walmart. Subject to availability restrictions and fees apply. Now that was a helpful commercial.