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The Labor of Love with Francesca Hogi

2022/10/25
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A Bit of Optimism

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Simon: 本期节目探讨了现代恋爱中的种种挑战,以及如何找到真爱并维系恋爱关系。节目中,Simon与恋爱专家Francesca Hogi深入探讨了现代约会文化的历史演变、数字化约会带来的影响、以及如何克服约会焦虑和拒绝恐惧等问题。 Francesca Hogi: 现代约会文化是美国发明的,起源于20世纪初的工业革命时期。由于工业革命导致大量单身年轻人涌入城市,传统的婚恋模式被打破,现代约会文化应运而生。然而,现代约会文化也带来了许多挑战,例如对恋爱期望值过高、约会焦虑、拒绝恐惧等。 Francesca Hogi还指出,现代约会模式类似于一种带有“退出按钮”的包办婚姻,人们在第一次约会时才开始了解彼此,这与传统的约会模式存在很大差异。此外,她还强调了关注关系本身的动态和品质的重要性,而非仅仅关注对方的个人特质。 Francesca Hogi: 在约会中,人们应该学习寻找对方的优点,而不是仅仅关注缺点。同时,要避免进行类似面试的提问,而应该尝试进行更深入的交流。真诚的关注和好奇心能够提升约会体验,并帮助人们建立更深层次的连接。调情的核心在于让对方感到被重视、被特殊对待和被认可。 Francesca Hogi还指出,人们是否应该同时与多人约会取决于个人情况,对于一些人来说,与多人约会有助于更好地了解自己。如果一个人频繁约会却仍然找不到合适的伴侣,那么就需要反思自己的约会目标和期望。约会不仅是了解他人,也是了解自己的过程。 Francesca Hogi还强调了克服拒绝恐惧的重要性。她认为,被拒绝是对方的问题,而非自身的问题,人们不应该过度解读和自我否定。每个人都有被拒绝的经历,这并不意味着自身存在缺陷,人们需要客观地看待被拒绝这件事。

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The history of dating is relatively recent, beginning around the late 1890s with the Industrial Revolution. It started as a working-class phenomenon in cities, challenging traditional arranged marriages and evolving into a more individual choice-based practice.

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It’s what all the poets write about, all the musicians sing about, and all the brokenhearted cry about. That’s right… It's time to talk about love.  

I was lucky enough to talk to Francesca Hogi, a love coach and all around incredible person, about how we can traverse through the world of digital dating, rejection, and modern day love.

So… care to join us? Great. It’s a date.

This is… A Bit of Optimism.

For more on Francesca and her work check out: 

https://francescahogi.com/)

https://www.instagram.com/dearfranny/)

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