Somatic trauma therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins Forrest to explore how we can create more secure relationships. They talk about the lessons they've learned from their relationship, the impact of trauma and prior relationship wounds, and how very different people can make things work. Topics include complex PTSD, how to work through disagreements, changing our model of relationships, and learning how to actually support your partner.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:10: The myth of relationships solving your problems, and self-awareness

4:25: Me, you, and us

13:45: Changing your partner by changing yourself

16:45: Embracing the challenges of vulnerability

23:25: Disagreeing well, making specific requests, and holding space

33:05: Learning how to support your partner

37:40: Five different styles of relationship

40:55: Moving from trying to please your partner to showing compassion

45:15: Love as a choice, and expressing wants and needs positively

49:30: Simply liking your partner

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