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Jess Hilarious: 我理解你目前面临的困境。你的感受是真实的,你不应该被迫在一个让你感到不舒服的环境中。与其逃避,不如尝试积极沟通。首先,你需要和你女朋友坦诚地谈谈你的感受,让她明白你并非故意制造矛盾,而是真的无法忍受这种被排斥的氛围。然后,建议你们一起尝试和她的家人沟通,了解他们不喜欢你的原因。这需要耐心和理解,或许你们可以找到一个双方都能接受的相处方式,比如,节日聚会可以缩短时间,或者选择其他方式庆祝节日。记住,沟通是解决问题的关键,不要让这种矛盾影响到你们之间的感情。 来信者: 我和我的伴侣交往一年多,但她的家人明显不喜欢我,这让我感到非常不舒服。在过去的节日里,我感受到来自他们明显的冷淡和排斥,这让我在节日里感到非常压抑和难受。我尝试和伴侣沟通,表达了我的感受,并提出希望留在家里过节,而不是去他们家。但这反而让她更加生气。我不知道我是否做错了,或者我应该保持沉默。我爱我的伴侣,我知道她的家人对她很重要,但我无法忍受这种被排斥的感受。

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A listener seeks advice on how to handle a tense situation with their partner's family during the holidays. The listener feels unwelcome and uncomfortable, creating tension in their relationship. Jess offers advice on communication and compromise.
  • Tension with partner's family during holidays
  • Feeling unwelcome and uncomfortable
  • Importance of open communication
  • Compromise and finding solutions

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And just like that, we're back with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl, Jess Hilarious. What I be doing? I be fixing mess. Now, I'm sorry I couldn't get to everybody's story for the holidays, for Christmas. I know y'all got hella Christmas stories and y'all want me to give y'all advice. A lot of y'all had a lot of the same stories, the same types of stories. So I'm sorry if I didn't read yours specifically, but maybe you heard me read one similar to yours, almost identical even. Um,

And then hopefully that advice that I gave to that person last week, you applied it to your mess. You understand what I'm saying? But if not, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. So it looks like I'm going to be reading holiday stories for a while and well into the new year. All right. So listen, we're going to start it off like this.

Okay, first I hope everything is well with you and your new baby. But I need your help, girl. So me and my girl been dating for a little over a year. It's holiday season, clearly. And quite frankly, I don't like our family. Damn. Okay. But wait, it's not like I just don't like them. I can feel the tension, Jess. Like motherfuckers faking the funk with me. I can't stand that. So I told her, and I also told her I wanted to stay home for the holidays instead of traveling two hours to see them. Oh shit, and you would have to go far.

I told her she didn't have to stay at home with me and that just made her even more mad. But I'm not understanding if I'm wrong because I was being honest or maybe I should have never said anything. I love this girl and I know her family means everything to her, but I just can't kick it with people that clearly aren't fucking with me for real. I totally get it. Truthfully, I don't feel comfortable. It's just always something. They always get quiet and then resume their conversations like I'm not there or like we were their topic.

Hold on. Let me read that again, y'all. Because if y'all heard it like I just read it, I don't get it. All right. Hold on. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. They always get quiet and then resume their conversations like I'm not there or like we were their topic. OK, I get it. I get it. Then when talking to her mom, it's just like I'm being tolerated. I cannot stand that shit. And that's from previous experience. I cannot I cannot stand feeling like I'm being tolerated.

You know what I'm saying? I do get it. Continuing. The only people who like me are her sisters and her nephew. But it's different when the mother and father of the girl you love don't like you or not vibing with you. It's fucked up. Honestly, it hurts. But it's just so weird. Like, I know I'm not crazy, but I don't want to tell my girl she overreacted because I don't want to go. But it's like a comfort thing. I should feel comfortable, right? Not just going because she wants me to. I should want to be there, right?

Or should I have just went and kept it cool? Should I even still go? Like I'm stuck. Help me. Okay. So you must've wrote this on actual Christmas because

Because you're talking as if she already went and you can still go. So maybe it's like a holiday thing where, okay, I totally get it. But no, I'm totally with you, sir. Actually, let me not even just place a gender on your ass because you ain't let me know whether you were a woman or a man, right? But either way,

You're totally right. If I would hate to be in the presence of somebody who I know don't fuck with me, you know what I'm saying? And then it's kind of tricky. That's kind of sticky when you're dealing with somebody, you're in a relationship with someone and you love them. You see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person, but their family don't fuck with you. You know what I mean? And now this is the thing.

furthermore than it just being a thing, you know that they don't fuck with you. Have you talked to her about talking to them about it? You get what I'm saying? Because...

She's in the middle. Imagine how she feels. First of all, imagine how she feels. First of all, it's like, fuck. Like, I know that she has to be some type of dreading feeling that she that that comes over her during the holidays when she feels like, oh, I got to drag my man or my woman here to be with my family. My family don't even fuck with this person. Like, you don't fuck with my partner. You don't fuck with my lover. You feel me? So.

It has to be a sticky situation for all. Well, for both of y'all, I don't know what the family got against you. I can't speak on them. I want to know because this is what this what can also happen. Have y'all had any previous situations where you may have cheated on her? You you done something that she don't like and then she goes back and tells her family and now y'all are good.

You know, y'all got past that bump in the road or whatever y'all were going through. And then now she has to take you around for Christmas and for holidays and shit like that. And they still looking at you, judging you from the situation that she brought to them when y'all were fucking up or when y'all were going through something.

It could be that it could be a fact of she had an ex that they fuck with more than you. It could be a number of things. So I can't really speak on the family, but that could be like, that's just one of the main reasons as to why somebody's whole family don't fuck with you. If it's the mom, the dad, the cousins, the aunties that, you know, cause you said she got about two or three family members that fuck with you. Like her two siblings and her nephew or something like that. You said like,

If everybody else don't fuck with you, that's what it is. I feel like that's what it is. If it ain't a previous ex that they prefer her with over you, it has to be something that she has told them. Um, so yeah, like have y'all had any issues in the past with infidelity? Um, trust, not keeping it real. Did you betray her in any way? You know, do y'all argue a lot or were y'all ever at a point where y'all were arguing a lot? Maybe she took that back to her family. Um,

Maybe she confides in them, you know, about certain things. And that's when shit gets sticky because like I said before, if you plan to spend the rest of your life with a person, uh, in the person put me through some shit and I ran and I told my parents and my, my,

my family members. And now y'all looking at this nigga, like, uh, why are you here? We're going to tolerate you. But cause you said this, you feel that, that the parents tolerate you. You don't like to feel tolerated. Yeah. That's exactly what happened then. I'm not gonna, I'm not going to say that's not what happened. That's what happened. She talked about something that happened, which all y'all must've been having problems. And she took it back to the fam, but going back to the initial advice, you need to have a conversation with your girl, right?

about having a conversation with her family. Maybe y'all all can sit down, but I think it needs to be a conversation between her and her family first. I'm not just bringing you because they're already, they're already a little skeptical of you. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.

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Listen to Building One on the iHeartRadio app, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts. Anytime you got to tolerate somebody, yeah, you ain't really fucking with me. I'm suspecting some type of way to you, you know, and I don't like that feeling. And this is the holidays. You're not supposed to feel that way during the holidays. You know, and you're not supposed to be forced to have to feel that way either. I understand she's your girlfriend, y'all, in a relationship. But if you feel uncomfortable, I think there has to be a level of compromise, I think,

If you projected this to her like you're projecting it to me, like you're telling me, you described the same, the very exact feelings to her, and she knows about this, I think she should be open to be like, all right, let me go and spend...

this day with my family because it is two hours away. All right, let me go spend this day with my family and then me and you can spend the rest of the holiday together. You know what I'm saying? At least let me get Christmas Eve in with my family and then I'll be home early morning on Christmas or I'll be back late that night so I can wake up on Christmas with you. Something, it should have been a compromising resolve to that. You understand what I'm saying? Yeah, you have to sit down. You have to talk to her because it just sounds a little skeptical. I,

You know, they're skeptical because of something that was said to them or something that they don't like that you've done. But they would only know that or find that out from your girl. You know what I mean? So just to have a conversation. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, you know, but no, to answer your question. No, you're not wrong for feeling that way. You're not wrong. And you're not supposed to be forced to be put in situations like that where you're unsure about.

The company around you, you get what I'm saying? And it's not just one or two people. This is girl, whole family, basically like a lot of the family, you know? So I totally get it. Keep me updated and let me know what happened there. All right. Moving the hook on.

Okay, so you must work at a club. Hmm.

We ended up smoking together. He would take me home after work, and we would just be with each other more often. We ended up having sex a few days after we had sex. He told me his baby mom was about to have his baby. What the fuck? My response was, nigga, have a good life. LOL. Exactly. I was also on and off with my ex at the time, so I wasn't really worried about that. Hmm. Okay. You mean after you fucked him, you wasn't really worried about it? What the fuck is going on with y'all girls?

I go back to work the next day. This man comes to my section like, can I talk to you real quick? So we talking and he jacks me up and said, he jacks you up? The fuck? He jacks you up and say, you really dumb with me? And my dumb ass says, no. First of all, you dumb ass. Like, yeah, you dumb. Why would you say no to this nigga jacking you up at your fucking job? Miss Ike Turner? Really? This what you saying for yourself? Your pussy got wet off that? This should not be sexy to you, bitch. The fuck?

Like, now what if he ejected you up and gave you a gut punch? Then what? The fuck? Don't ever. That's not sexy. I want to know where you from, what you doing. You know, how old are you? That's not cute. All right, so continuing. I know, I know. Yeah, you better know. You already knew how I was going to react to that. But we ended up

Being with each other every night. You know how that go. No, I don't know how this go. I ain't even gonna try to act like I know how this go. But I just had this gut feeling that he was still messing around with his baby mom. Well, I know, bitch. The baby was fresh out the cooch, stupidie. And just messing around in general. Okay, so you thought he was just messing around in general as well. Like, you ain't the only other woman because you are definitely the other woman. Not the baby mom, baby. You were to begin with.

okay continuing so I get to lurking on social media to see what's going on and he actually was I mean showing the fuck out buying shoes paying for hair giving her money laughing my ass off bitch you ain't laughing you're distraught and miserable right now shit you're devastated we stopped we stopped messing around but the type of person I am I'm really thinking okay this is my nigga he acting like it I'm with no he not acting like it I'm

I'm with this person every day. We always on the phone. I'm giving my body to him. You know what I mean? Girl. And not to toot his bullshit ass horn, but the sex was good. You know the package was packaging. Girl. Goofy ass. Ah, these ho-ho-hos, bitch. Oh my God. And yes, to answer your question, we did start messing back around. I wasn't even going to ask because I already knew. And I just felt like it's no growth in this connection. Like,

I'm not getting anything out of it. I can't wait to be done with this shit. And that's me talking, y'all. I cannot wait to be done with this story because I'm about to read your ass for filth, girl.

It's always the same thing with him. Like either his car isn't working. He needs some money. He depressed him and his BM beefing. And we only having sex. We ain't together. We only having sex. But I knew that though. And I was only having sex with him. And we've been girl, you running all of this shit down to me without one punctuation mark in this shit. This is a long run on ass essay. It's one sentence. So bear with me. Y'all we've been messing around with each other for a year and some change now.

I don't know. I just feel like I'm on a different level right now. I'm trying to focus on myself because I truly believe the love I give out, I will get back one day. But it's like I'm mistaking lust for love. Yep, I've been there as well. And I was so blind that I couldn't see how I was being played. I wouldn't say I'm gullible. Oh, bitch, please.

I would say it takes me a little longer to understand. Especially when my feelings are involved. But I'd just be wondering to myself, how do you give this person so much and they give you nothing? When do you start loving yourself more and saying enough is enough? Now you're asking the right questions. How many more times does he have to show me I don't matter for me to get it? So my point is how do I detach myself from a connection that I truly feel isn't for me? Oh!

Ah, now I'm about to get in your ass, baby. Okay. You call it the gullible. I call it, for lack of a better word, dumb. First of all, it's too much that you allowed at the beginning. You had sex with this man and you said the next day, I think you said, whatever, shortly after you fucked this man, right? Without even really getting to know him. That was the first fucking red flag right there. That was the first problem right there. You giving up your pussy too fucking quick, right?

This man turns around and tell you he got a baby that could be here any fucking day now. So, you know, it gotta be something still going on with this fucking baby mom, right? Hold up, hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

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Now, you even start fucking with him after that and your excuse as to why you did it and wasn't really worried about him telling you that he had a baby on the way that could be here any minute was that you were still texting your ex? Girl, you just as toxic as this nigga.

And you're allowing things. And you could be unknowingly, unintentionally toxic. But that's very problematic. And the reason why...

it's hard for you right now is because you kept giving him yourself over and over and over and I'm going to just go ahead and take the fucking gloves off and get ready to box with you because I'm about to tell you you let that man fuck you raw you didn't even have to tell me that he was you didn't even have to tell me it was raw dog it was because you sound way too fucking gone over somebody else's baby daddy slash man he was in a relationship with the baby mom the whole time he was cheating with you and other girls

The proof was right there. You went on social media. That's the number one place to fucking go when you trying to figure out if a nigga creeping or not. Y'all weren't public. He's public with his girlfriend slash baby mom. He's been cheating on this bitch. So really, she should be writing me. You are a side bitch and you've been a side bitch. OK, that's weird. That's how you break it. You don't talk to him. You don't. Anything that reminds you of him, you burn it.

You blocked that number. I wish you could burn the damn phone that you got, but you can't. So block the number. Cut ties with him. That's why at the end of the day, you're never going to be happy. You're looking for love in the wrong places, in the wrong men. Like it started off wrong. It started off wrong. Okay. And then I'm not trying to like judge. This ain't for all women that works at a club, but this man comes to your job. Obviously you do work at a club. Okay.

He comes to your club often. He sees you. You probably a bad Lord Joy, nice body. You know what I'm saying? You look good. You know, you probably wear clothes. You know, you probably wear shit that you show your body. So niggas' minds and imaginations is running wild. I mean, what's left of their imagination? Because you probably wear clothes where niggas don't really need to imagine much because they see a lot of it already. You get what I'm saying?

You're not leaving anything to his imagination. You're not making him work for shit. But in your eye, in his eyes, you just a fucking bottle girl, maybe, or a bartender. I don't know what you are, but you work at a club. That is the first fucking place that niggas find comfort.

The baby mom, she's in her third trimester. So she getting on his nigga nerves. Like I got on my man's nerves the third trimester, every fucking trimester. But by the third, you ready to have that fucking baby. So you on this nigga's head like about everything. Any little thing that he does gets to you, gets on your nerves. I was there so I know what the baby mom was going through. And the fact that I was there, I know what the nigga was going through too. Instead of

being faithful and just sticking it out what a real man should do if he's in a committed relationship with somebody who's about to have his fucking baby he went to seek comfort in the club and you gave him a microwavable night basically

Instant pussy. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like you gave him like you talk about we smoked and and we talked and then I fucked them. Yeah. You didn't get to know him or you would have known he had a bitch who was pregnant. You know what I'm saying? So I all the gloves was off. I had to give it to you straight like that because you're smarter than that. You're smarter. I'm going to say you're smarter than that because you this ain't the first time some shit like this happened.

This can't be the first time. I don't know how long you been working at that club, but you know this is how that shit go. The club is a revolving door of niggas who looking for something real quick. Unless that nigga was T-Pain,

No. Because T-Pain made his wife stop stripping. He went and got her out the fucking club and she ain't been back since. Okay? I don't know if they still together now, but yeah. You know what I'm saying? That's what happened. Ne-Yo went to go get Crystal Renee out the fucking club. Married her. She ain't been back since. I know that. All right? Stevie J went to go get Jocelyn out the motherfucking club. She's still in the club, but she married and she's faithful to our fucking man. You get what I'm saying? She makes a living off of doing the cabaret and being in clubs and shit. So yeah. Like, if you ain't one of them,

and that nigga wasn't one of them, then yeah, girl, you got used and abused and you're just a convenient piece of pussy, which you have been. Yeah. Because you ain't on his social media. She is. So get your shit together. You maybe need to quit that fucking job and do something where you can actually apply your brain to.

Because that ain't good for you. That ain't good for you. I don't know how old you are. But baby girl, do not take this as me just beating down on you, beating down on you, beating down on you. But I need for you to understand, play this episode back for yourself. Because sometimes, like I always say in these episodes, sometimes it takes a person to read you back your story for you to be like, oh, I sound crazy as shit. I gots to get up, pack my bags and run for the fucking hills. I got to stop.

But if me reading it back to you is not enough for you to realize you need to wake the fuck up, then yeah, you just need to quit that job. You need to quit that fucking job. But leave that man alone. Enough is enough. The questions that you asked me toward the end of your passage,

I can see that you are waking up. You ain't fully woke yet, but you are waking up. You detach yourself because he's already detached. You holding on. This is a one-way thing. He was never attached to you in the first place. You attached yourself to him and you've been riding on this nigga's coattail. You've been letting him drag you up and down the street too. Nah, let that shit go.

Let that shit go, baby girl. And update me. You talking the nigga asking you for money to talk about his fucking car broke down, his car ain't working and all of that shit. Oh, man, my baby mother beefing. That's because he done ran out of money. Or she probably done went through his phone, found out that he fucking whatever, bitches. Now she on his head. The baby's here. He got a lot of shit to do. He got a new baby. So no, he can't buy you no bags and shoes and shit. They got a baby. Goofy ass.

So write me back. I love you. Shit. I'll be having to have a given the tough love Taylor. Shit. Oh Lord. Write me back. Make sure you do. Fuck the first story. Write me back. You, I'm looking for your response because you fucking trying it. Okay. And I want you to, to like, that's like you, we shouldn't be losing our dignity over these men. These no good ass man. Yo, like you, you gotta wake the fuck up at some point.

And just like that, we've come to the end of yet another episode of Carefully Reckless. And what I be doing, I be fixing mess. And I'm going to keep on trying, y'all. But y'all got me over here judging y'all from afar. I love y'all. Catch y'all next week. Happy New Year. Peace.

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