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Hey y'all, what's going on? Welcome back to yet another Caffey Reckless episode with your girl Just Hilarious. And here with me is Sheena. Wayna, before you step out and take a piss, say what's up. What's up? And I don't have to piss. Thank you. Oh my bad, she gotta take a shit. Alright, so we're gonna jump straight into it. We got another voice memo today. Drumroll please. Drumroll.

Another voice memo. It's not that long. However, it should be good. Now, listen, when y'all hear these stories, I'm just now hearing them too. Now, when it's a paragraph and it's written or, you know, typed, I will skim through it before I do read it. But I'll be wanting to get my I'll be wanting y'all to listen to my first reaction.

You know, because it's the first reaction is always like the truest. I don't be reading these stories and I don't pick them based on how good they are. I just pick them. That's it. And then I hear them when I'm reading them to y'all. So here we are, y'all. Voice memo.

First of all, yeah, motherfucker. I never did videos in my fucking living room, yeah. You did. I definitely did. But so what? Don't be fucking talking about her. I definitely had edges with her.

back then. No, you didn't. Damn. I didn't. All right, it's fine. Go ahead. It's okay. You're right. And I'm here for it. I'm definitely happy for all your success. Thank you. And I wish and pray more for you that all your heart and hand can hold. So, I just want to say, you know, that I love you sincerely and honestly.

but I'm reaching out because I need you to fix my mess. Yeah, now you need me for something that you just came at my poor ass living room and I know I just have an ass back in the day. But go ahead. But I'm going to go ahead and fix your mess because they will break it down and build you up, won't they? All right, here we go.

Oh, wow.

Okay.

she backed out. I mean, she pulled the rug from up under my feet and it just all came crashing down. And she basically told me that she can't give me what I need. Even though the things that she, that I needed, I formed her in the beginning. So I'm asking if I'm crazy for waiting for her and wanting to take time for myself and her take time for herself.

wait for her to become what I need. Okay. A part of me feels like that I was genuinely, I ain't gonna say a part, the whole part of me was genuinely and sincerely in love with her. Right. I do see a wife in her. I wanted her to be my wife. We went as far as almost getting married. Like I said, it all came crashing down for her reasons and her pulling away.

You feel what I'm saying? I play a role in that. I'm not saying it's ongoing. One of the reasons she pulled away was due to the things that I had already informed her about. I had my room for wanting to wait around and continue to pour into myself, grow and evolve in all aspects and wait for her to basically spin a block on me. And I know that, you know, I'm a traditional person.

You feel what I'm saying? Like, I'm a traditional woman, you know, and I believe in love and I love love. And when I know what I want, you feel me? I'm 31 years old. I'll be 32 in December. Shout out to my side of the series. So, I know what I want and she is that. So, should I just move on and just...

come to me because I'm also a hunter I go after what I want I'm not used to things coming after me yeah but things coming to me you know I go after what I want so should I just move on and let her go just put myself back out there with someone else or am I crazy for waiting or waiting for her to be what I what I need her to be for me because she is who I want

Okay. Yeah. I feel you even sound like this is heavy for you. Like this is heavy on you and

Like you're really, really trying to figure it out. It definitely seems like it's a lot there. I want to know what you're speaking of when you say she knew what I was, she knew, you know, who I was. You know, because it seems as if you were 100% with her. You seem like you're straightforward, you're blunt, and you also communicated that with me. You're open with everything, completely transparent in all aspects of this relationship. And it seems like with...

what was once agreed upon, something changed. Now she's having second thoughts and regretting, you know, second guessing was, you know, was going on. What you thought was solid. Yeah, what you thought was solid. Yeah. I want to know, you know, and let me know exactly what that is, if you're okay with that. Um,

What were you or what, you know, what are you or what, you know what I'm saying? And I'm, I'm just repeating it back to you, how you, you know, presented it to me. Um,

You do know things can change in relationships. Things may be overwhelming, whatever it is, whatever your past is or whatever, you know, whether you want to run, you're a fucking felon, a stripper, a something, you know, a porn star, whatever it may be. Yeah, we got to... That's the thing. We need to know, like... We need to know. You know. Yeah, we need to know what it is that she was accepting of. Yeah. Because things do change. Yeah, but...

Did she feel like it's somebody else or... Yeah. Did you ever think of that? That's actually a good question. My best friend, you know, she... I wouldn't have even thought of that because I'm trying to piece together. I feel like we talking to coals, boo. But yeah, um...

Or you just probably, you know, may not be comfortable enough to share that part of it. But I can't really advise you on whether to stay or go or to try to fix it or whatever. The most I can say is, you know, if a person is saying they don't want to be there. Well, she didn't say that she didn't want to be there. I guess that she's having second thoughts. Like, is communication. Well, I would just communicate it. Like, what are we doing? You know, what's going on?

Are we moving forward? Are we going to work on it? What's the deal? Can it be safe? Because there's no sitting around. We're not sitting around waiting for anybody. We're moving on. And if that person comes around before we end up with someone else, then okay, cool. But I mean, it's basically let's talk about it because I'm not going to sit here and wait for you. Yeah. I'm not.

I'm going to live my life. But I think you should heal. I think she really needs to heal from whatever it is that they have or had. If this person isn't showing them that they want to progress or be more with them or be with them. Yeah, and you're talking about...

Marrying her like you want this to be a wife. This is a life partner in your eyes So y'all need to really be having that conversation Yeah, because it just doesn't seem like you two are on the right page if you're telling me I'm on the same page I'm, sorry. It doesn't seem like you two are on the same page Shut the hell up. Damn um It don't seem like you two are on The same page, you know if you're expressing these these feelings to me for this woman. Um

that's the communication thing y'all gotta sit down y'all need to talk about that y'all need to do it quickly you know because time yeah we only got time but we don't have time either you know right and we shouldn't take time for granted so many other things that you guys could be doing together or apart if that is what your heart desires you know what i'm saying so get on the same page put some more meat on his bone if you're comfortable with doing so um

uh because I can't fix your mess if you only give me a little bit of it you know what I mean if you really really I can but I would rather be able to help you and and the entirety of what's going on you know what I'm saying so just update me reach back out let me know and also uh this is important for people to know as well when I'm helping you guys or I'm I'm um fixing your mess

You can write me and tell me that you don't want this story to air. If you really just really need advice.

You can do that as well and say, I don't want this on the podcast because I have a lot of serious stories that I feel like, you know, some people wouldn't even want exposed on a social platform. You know, their voices are being heard and always joke about it. But, you know, it's truth in every joke. A lot of people don't want their voices being heard because people know their voices, you know, and a lot of people listen to Carefully Reckless every Wednesday. So you can always, you know,

Say, Jess, this is just from me to you. If you can find it in your heart to lend me some advice, you know what I'm saying? Without putting it without making it a part of your platforms per podcast, then I greatly appreciate that. And depending on the severity of it, yes, I will help you if I do have time. So I'm for sure. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.

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Hey, Jess. First off, I want to say that I'm a huge fan for a long time since the Facebook days. Okay, day one. What's going on? I'm reaching out because I need you to fix my mess. I'm 25 years old. I just finished my career. You finished your career? Okay. At 25? All right. I'm happily married and I have a wonderful husband. I know that's right. Congratulations. We have been together for nine years, married for five.

This man is now okay so you've been with this nigga since you was I mean you've been with this man since she was 16 that's amazing. This man is not only a partner but a provider as well he takes care of me and of everything that needs to be taken care of. Oh that's why you ended your career um regarding finances yes he takes care of everything. Now emotionally I do think our relationship has shifted a little bit to where I think we're both kind of comfortable. Okay

That's never good. I could say our relationship is very mature. I don't want to say that I'm bored, but it kind of seems like a routine that we've been doing for so long. Hmm. I don't know why lately I've been wanting to feel an excitement of dating. What? I just seems kind of boring now. See, this is why y'all need to send in these voice notes. The hell...

All right, I think she's trying to say, it just seems kind of boring now. But I just found out that I'm nine weeks pregnant. Okay, congratulations. And he's over the moon. I know he's happy. He is planning the baby shower already and looking for names. I see the happiness and joy that this news has brought him. I would say that it's brought us closer to talk more about the future with the baby. This will be our first kid. Congrats. My issue is that I don't feel excited. Oh.

I have so many emotions and it makes me feel guilty that I don't feel as happy as he does. I am terrified to carry a baby because it is such a big responsibility. I thought that I would feel differently being pregnant, but now I just feel like my life and freedom is over.

I feel like I can't even act the same anymore because I'm going to be someone's mother. And I need to be more mature. I don't know. I have some moments where I do feel happy and excited that I'm able to experience this. I just need your point of view. Help me. I'm a first time mom.

Oh, well, first of all, to be able to say that is a blessing in itself, being as though, you know, we have a lot of women out here who can't conceive, who want babies, and they would give their right pinky for a baby. You know, they would give, you know, almost close to their life to be able to produce life, you know. So I'm going to say congratulations. And then just for some people, it's not easy. I know it's not easy. That's a good story.

It's not easy getting pregnant for some others. But I am very, very happy for you. I do not want you to be so hard on yourself, though. This is natural for a lot of first-time moms, no matter the age, no matter whether you're young or older. It could be very scary. You're blessed to have a co-parent who actually is excited, though. Because imagine being someone...

who has to do it on their own, you know what I mean? Although he can't carry the baby for you, he can make it a lot easier. You don't have to do it alone. I hate to ask you, are you going to keep it? Because I imagine that you are. I would love you to, but it's not my body and it's not your husband's body.

So how do you feel overall? Are you religious at all? Do you pray about things? That's 1111. Hey, speaking of, you know, praying and stuff. Are you religious at all? You know, do you pray? Do you meditate? Do you, you know?

Do you have a therapist? Is there someone that you feel that you could talk to other than your husband that will help you feel better about being a mom? Because that's important as well. You know, there was no real issues there. Yeah. She's just a first time mom. She's scared. Oh, let's go back. She's bored. Hold up. Hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

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Okay, so let's go back before we get to mommy world. Okay, new mommy world. First time mommy world, let's say that. I'm so excited for you, girl. I am just happy to hear this. However, prior to finding out that you're nine weeks pregnant, you were getting bored in your marriage. And you've been married for five years. You've been with him for almost a decade. And you're 25. Answer me this. Do you feel like you got married too early?

And it's nothing wrong with being honest about it with me or being honest about it in general. You know, sometimes as women, we keep things bottled up and that's how we depress ourselves. We stress ourselves out. We lose weight. We start, you know,

Losing confidence, you know and just being in our own heads. It's better to talk. It's better to communicate, you know I don't care if you have a diary don't hold it in. Do you feel like you got? Married too early. Is this something that you and your husband talked about? Does he feel the same way? Have you expressed to him that you feel bored? That you felt bored. Does he feel like I said does he feel the same way?

Did you have your eye on someone else before you were, you know, before you discovered you were pregnant? Because you did say that you felt the urge to date, to want to date. So I wonder if she was talking about them dating or her dating outside of them. Like, like them being open? No, no, no. Or just them going on dates more because they probably just work home. Oh, with each other. Yes. Yes. Because she did say it was routine. Right. Right. Yeah.

Yeah, is that... You should try new things, you know. Definitely try new things. Get that bucket list. Yeah, y'all 25. Create a bucket list. Y'all 25. Y'all got a lot of shit to do. So, yeah, it's time to have fun, travel, you know, all that. Yeah, and you said he is financially endowed, you know. He takes care of everything that needs to be taken care of. So, you guys should travel more. I mean, is that something that you guys are in...

It's crazy because she's pregnant now, so it's like... Yeah. But, shit, look at Sexy Red. Doing whole performances. Bend that ass over. Shake that ass. Knees on the floor. So you calling her Sexy Red? No, I'm not. Bye.

No means necessary. Am I not? Be more like sexy? No. I said, she said, you said now she pregnant. Like they can't travel. It's not stopping sexy. It ain't stopping sexy. It's not stopping sexy. She out with barefoot.

Just as pregnant as she want to be. Doing her damn thing. With her jean thongs on, on the red wig and just doing her thing. Jean thongs. She have jean thongs. Yes. Oh, no, babe. Yeah. Yeah. So. Don't put on your jean thongs, but go ahead and go out and have a good time before you.

Your feet swelling. Yes, girl. It's just communication, baby. Your back aching and all that before them. Yeah, but I think you should tell me. Answer all those questions. And ask all those questions. And we can revisit. Yeah, my point of view is just...

Bask in this ambience and all this excitement. Yeah, it sounds like a really good relationship. Sounds like a great marriage. It does. I know every marriage has its ups and its downs. No marriage is perfect. No, and we've seen that thanks to Will and J.D.I. But yes, we know. Just add some excitement to it. You know, y'all be good. Yeah, and y'all still young. I don't know how old your husband is, but if he is your age, you know...

Y'all still got a lot more life to live, even after that baby girl. Babies, I'm not going to sit here and tell you that they don't slow your life down, but they don't stop your life. That's right. And you already finished your career. So what you got to do? And baby, I don't have none, so...

I'm partying every night. I'm outside every night. Baby, look. Outside every night. Partying. In the alley. Living in the damn alley. You don't want to be like that. Oh my God, I just said a damn name. Alright, never mind. Just like that, we've come to the end of this episode. I did not say Tashika. I said Tashika. Alright.

Damn. So with that being said, with that being said, y'all make sure that y'all send in voice notes. And again, like I said, if there are any stories that you do not want to

exposed on such a huge platform like Carefully Reckless, which is a part of iHeart, and it's promoted on bigger platforms, you can definitely just let me know. Say, Jess, hey, my story is a little too specific and it's a little too much going on for it to be plastered all over the internet and all over other socials. You know what I'm saying? So

um i would like if you could fix my mess just between us and then yeah boom then we can do it just like that if i can get to it guys because i am busy as well and life be life and for everybody not just y'all so in my deepest pan voice me and sheena will be out peace my sound like a little burp all right we're gonna do it again peace all right there we go there we go there we go

I'm a good lawyer and I want to win. I'm a savage. I think I killed G.T.

She needs someone who's going to fight for her. If we don't follow the right plan, we lose. The hit series Reasonable Doubt, now streaming on Hulu. She was defending herself against a monster. Starring Emma Yatze-Coronaldi. I'm the best lawyer you have ever worked with. And Morris Chestnut. I'm not going.

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