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Jess Hilarious: 播客主持人收到一位听众的来信,听众更新了之前关于处理朋友不健康恋爱关系的后续。播客主持人对听众持续更新表示感谢,并肯定了听众已经尝试与朋友坦诚沟通。针对听众提出的如何帮助朋友提升自我,摆脱不健康的恋爱关系,同时又不放弃多年友谊的问题,播客主持人建议听众不必完全放弃朋友,而是可以减少对朋友不健康恋爱关系的关注,专注于其他方面维系友谊。播客主持人还建议听众帮助朋友提升自我,但不必为此感到有压力或责任,并强调友谊的珍贵。 Jess Hilarious: 在处理与前任关系方面,播客主持人直接而强硬地批评听众的行为,并鼓励她彻底与前任断绝联系。播客主持人指出听众的行为是在贬低自己,并让前任可以同时拥有家庭和情人。播客主持人强调听众应该认识到自己的价值,不应该为了前任而牺牲自己的幸福。 Jess Hilarious: 播客主持人总结并鼓励听众在一段关系中要保持自我,不要为了取悦他人而牺牲自我。她分享了自己的经验,指出在一段关系中,如果总是需要不断地付出而得不到回报,那么这段关系就是不健康的。她鼓励听众要先了解自己,找到自己的幸福,然后再考虑一段新的关系。 听众: 听众按照播主的建议,与朋友坦诚沟通,但朋友感到受伤。听众寻求建议,如何在不放弃多年友谊的情况下帮助朋友们提升自我,摆脱不健康的恋爱关系。听众讲述自己与前任藕断丝连,前任已订婚并育有一子,听众感到痛苦并寻求建议。听众反馈Spotify无法给予五星评价。

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The episode discusses how to help friends recognize their worth and elevate their choices without feeling like a chore, emphasizing the importance of showing them their value and challenging them to step out of their comfort zones.

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And just like that, we back on the air. Welcome back to yet another Catholique Reckless episode with your girl, Just Hilarious. What I be doing? I be fixing mess. That's what I do. Up and down, back and forth, whatever, however you see it.

So we do have a voice note today. However, it's an update. I love when I get updates because sometimes I'll be thinking people don't come back and like update me because I be too hard on them or they didn't get the advice that they wanted or they're offended by the advice or what have you. But I am absolutely thankful and grateful for you guys updating me all the time.

I sound a little tired because I am tired, child. I am sluggish as hell today. So let's jump straight into it. Hey, Jess. Thank you so much for giving me your advice and listening to my story. So I did exactly what you said. I...

Took my, well, me and my best friend, we went out to dinner and I told her how I felt about the whole situation and told her, you just got to leave me out of it. And she was respectful of that. And then she asked me, is that why I have been pulling away from her? And I had to say yes. She was a little hurt by that. And I understood. I ended up feeling bad after we left and I text her and I just, you know, let her know that.

I love you at the end of the day, and I only want the best for you, and it just hurts me to see you have to go through this. So I appreciate your advice. Next question would be, I heard you say I have to elevate my friend group. So how do I elevate my friend group, right? These girls I've been rocking with for 10 plus years, since high school, some even longer. So I don't want to just abandon them because they make me.

shitty choices in men because let's be real, they all do. I have another friend in North or South Carolina and she's been dealing with the same dude and his BS for about the same time that my other friend. And I understand if I have to, but I'm 30 years old so making new friends is kind of hard for me. I'm a 30 year old Aquarius introvert so you know how that go. That's ma'am. So just, I guess I'm asking can you give me advice on

I can help them elevate without it feeling like a job, though. Without it feeling like a job. Yeah. Yeah, because you're not responsible or obligated to help somebody elevate, you know? Because at the end of the day, I just want these girls to be happy and know their full potential. I'm not going to keep repeating myself. And like I said in the first message, to keep talking to a brick wall either.

But also, I would feel bad just, you know, abandoning them. Yeah. So if you give me your advice, Jess, that'll be helpful. Again, I love you. I respect everything you're doing and keep on doing it, girl.

Well, thank you so much, boo. I appreciate that update. Okay. So basically guys, this was a story a couple episodes ago where this girl had wrote me telling me that basically she had to pull away from her friend a little bit because, you know, she was just constantly, constantly talking shit about her relationship to her. Well, venting, I'm sorry, uh, about how, um,

wrong. She's being done in her relationship, but she keeps going back. She's not going to leave. And the friend will give her advice, advice, advice, advice. And she just wouldn't take it. You know what I mean? And she's still staying and still going back. So basically, she just wants her friends to know their worth. Now, I did tell you

to elevate your group of friends, not to abandon them as such. I know it kind of sounds like that's what I told you to do for sure. So I would have taken it that way as well. But the only reason that I had told you to, you know, maybe it's time for you to get some new friends or, you know, to elevate because it started to bother you.

And your everyday mental and how and because you are so loyal and so connected to your girls, you know what I'm saying? What hurts them hurts you. And if you are going through this unnecessarily and really has no direct ties to you and and how you're living and your worth, because, you know, your worth, you know what I mean? Then.

That's kind of a setback for you that that's kind of draining for you. And I can see where it even leads to like stress. That's like secondhand stress that you're getting, you know, from a situation you ain't even in. So that's why I told you that, you know, as it pertains to your mental, you know,

But I don't want you to abandon your friends. Like you said, if we had to abandon our friends for making poor choices in men, then none of us would have friends. Almost none of us would have friends because that happens. That happens until you actually find the one you want. I had poor choices.

Poor taste in men didn't even know, you know what I mean? But that's all a part of dating and figuring out yourself and what you will take and what you won't take and what your standards are and all that type of stuff, you know? So that's pretty much why. You sound like you were very fed up and tired of being sucked into somebody else's bullshit where it was starting to bother you. But if that is not the case and you're willing to still be around, like I said, I'm pretty sure I did say something like also,

You can pull back just from that part of the relationship, a friendship. You know, I don't want to hear anything about your man. I don't want to hear anything about this because you're not going to do anything but go back. So we can we can actually we can still have this friendship and be sisters and we can still have our sisterhood and everything. I just don't want to be involved with that, that part of it, because that's

I want you to see your worth, but you're just not getting it, you know, and you'll get it on your own time. When a woman gets fed up, she gets fed up. Maybe she's not tired yet. And your other friend that you just spoke of as well, they're not tired yet. You can't make them be tired of what they're going through. You know, all you got to do is just be that listening ear until you don't want to hear it no more. Then you are absolutely at liberty to say no.

Yo, I'm sick of this shit. I don't want to hear this anymore. Until you are able to stand on your own two feet, put your foot down and get out of that relationship because it's not doing you any good. As a friend on the outside looking in, it's not. It's not doing you any good. You're more stressed than happy. Then you just have to proceed with other factors of the friendship, you know? Now we got a commercial. And if you click off this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen.

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Now, you being a 30-year-old introvert Aquarius, baby, I know exactly what that is like. I have a brother who is in his late 30s. He's an introvert and he's also an Aquarius. I do know. Making new friends is not something that you guys are seeking to do, especially not at, you know, your age, which is not old, but it's just...

a bit more seasoned than a spring chicken, if you get what I'm saying. You know what I mean? Because everybody gets offended when you use the word old or older. Like, you know, it's just you're growing up and you're growing out of those things. But I am going to also say it's never too late to make new friends. And you don't have to do that. You know what I'm saying? You don't have to do that. There are ways you can help. You can try to help elevate your friends going in different settings. If they're in relationships where they are...

not being appreciated and just being looked down on or whatever they're going through. Put them around some shit that shows them what their worth is and environments where they can thrive. Like put them in different settings, you know, challenge your friends, get them out of their comfort zones. I'm pretty sure that they have like routines that they do make them step outside of that and whatever that looks like, you know.

Because I'm not saying you got it all together, but you got some type of damn sense, you know, to be calling out the realness and calling out the bullshit that you see that they going through or seeing that they're putting themselves through and they don't have to go through it.

You know what I'm saying? So I do thank you for that update. That was wonderful that you were able to share that with me. And I do apologize if I made you feel like you had to abandon your friends because, no, good friends are hard to find. And I'm not saying that they're not good friends just because they're bad at

Choosing men does not make them bad friends. You know what I'm saying? Just show them who they are. Try your best every time you can, whenever you can, to show them who they are. You know, because sometimes a lot of people need a mirror to actually bust through the bullshit that they've been taking. You know what I'm saying? So...

Just keep pouring into your friends and, you know, getting them outside of their box, you know, daring them to do other things. And as an introvert, that seems hard. It seems like a task or it seems like a job. But you'll find in yourself that that's actually for the betterment of you, too, that that can make you a better friend. That can actually spark something in yourself that you didn't see before, you know. So keep me posted, baby. So we have a written passage moving on to the next.

Good morning, Jess. I've been keeping something on my conscience that I'm not really proud of and really have no one to talk to about it. So I would love if you could help me out with some advice. I just got out of a five-year relationship about two years ago and it was because of evolving in life and wanting different things. Okay, that's fair.

Even though me and my ex are not together, we still see each other from time to time and would always talk. But the thing that I'm not so proud of, Jess, is that he is engaged and also has a two-year-old with the woman he is engaged to. Okay? Da fuck? Lord, Lord. Okay, okay. You already said you ain't proud of it. I ain't gonna beat you down. All right. Yes, I know this is fucked up. Absolutely. And once he moved on, I should have too.

But it's like I just can't see him happy with somebody else. And I'm thinking maybe he isn't really happy if he's still messing around with me after two years of breaking up. Hmm.

But I see that he posts her on social media all the time, which he's never done with me. And they just look happier than ever. He was the love of my life and it sucks to see him be the love of someone else's life. And what is more fucked up is that when she calls and I'm laying next to him, she still thinks that's the same man that comes home to her every night. I mean, well, it is. It ain't a different man. It just ain't your man.

I haven't saw him in about two weeks and I'm really trying to stay away from him, Jess. But this is just too hard. How do I let him go? How do I move on? What do I need to do? Hold up, hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

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Girl, oh my God. I know it's probably easier for me to say it. You know, easier said than done is what they say. Girl, get the fuck up and leave. If you already haven't talked to him in about two weeks, you're already got a head start on what you should do. You're doing good. I mean, from where I'm sitting, how it looks...

That's great. You haven't talked to him in two weeks. That's a hiatus. That's great. Extend that shit. Don't talk to him for two more weeks and then try a month and then try another month until it's been a year. Then you look up and you passed it.

You know what I'm saying? We have to stop minimizing ourselves, degrading ourselves, sharing, willingly sharing men. Because that's the thing, you know about her, but she don't know about you. Okay? Now, I'm not going to say she's winning, but she thinks she is because he ain't about to tell her about you. But better believe you know about her and he going to keep on fucking with you.

As long as you let him keep his family and fuck with you when it's convenient for him. So you're giving him a bunch of power, a lot of power over you. Of course, he's going to have his cake and eat it too, girl. Duh. He ain't got to be with you to fuck you. Yeah. He ain't got to post you to fuck you. He ain't got to like, girl, what?

Yeah, I want you to hear it. And I want it as horrible and as like vulgar as it sounds, as bad as it sounds. That's exactly how bad it is. You sitting there being stupid for this nigga. That's what it is. That's what it is. I ain't here to coddle no fucking adults. You know what's up. You said you ain't proud of it. I don't see why the fuck you ain't reread what you sent to me and made your own advice up to move the fuck on.

And I'm sorry. I am sorry. I don't feel sorry for you. I don't. And what I'm saying, I'm sorry for I apologize for how brutal this sounds and how straightforward and blunt this sounds. I don't feel sorry for you. Because how about if you were that woman? Put yourself in her shoes as bad as you already want to be in them. Imagine if that were you and you had to find out that he was still laying with a bitch he broke up with two years ago. And we got a kid together and we're engaged now.

You're posted on social media. He ain't scared to let nobody know who he with, who he's engaged to, the mother of his child. But he's sneaking you around and you laying in a fucking bed when she call you shutting up. What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? You laying there quiet and they're going to have the nerve to say nothing.

That ain't the same man that goes home to her. That's exactly who he is. The same man that you sneaking around with. The nigga that you used to be with. Let that shit go. Because that'll piss me off. I'm happy that you were able to tell me what you're going through. But sometimes we need to wake the fuck up. And we need somebody to talk to us just like this. I'm not here to coddle you. I'm not. I'm not here to, it's going to be all right. No, it ain't all right. It been ain't all right.

Two years ago when you broke up, yeah, you said it. Maybe I should have moved on when he did. So you ain't in denial. You ain't in denial. You know he moved on. You know it. You said it to me. But you're convenient for him. You're convenient. You let him do what he want. The fuck? She don't let him do what he want or she would know about you too. That's what I'm saying. She's not winning either because this motherfucker's cheating on her, on his family.

With you. But you really in the dumps. You really ain't winning because you know about it. In fact, that makes you a fucked up ass individual because you know about it. But he your ex and you can't let him go. Do a better job. Do a better job of trying. Because you sound crazy as hell.

But update me. I love you. Real shit. Real shit. I don't care. I still love you. I don't care. I don't care. This ain't nothing I ain't never heard before from from my own friends. You know what I'm saying? From people I do know. This ain't nothing I ain't never heard before. That's what I'm here to do to help fix it. If you let me. Because this this this is crazy, honey. This is crazy. You don't have any obligation to this nigga. You don't have kids with him. You ain't married on low.

You ain't never, girl, he can't walk down the street with you. He got to leave out first. Is it like that? Or you got to leave out first. Y'all can't go outside. He's engaged. This ain't no girlfriend. This is his soon-to-be wife who probably about to get pregnant again. You don't know. Girl, please. I bet you one thing. He ain't never tell you he was going to leave her for your ass. I bet you he ain't never tell you that. Now, if you can come back and do me a solid and tell me he told you that, I'll let it go.

But you'll still be dumb. I'm sorry. You'll still be out of your mind to think that could ever happen. He never posted me on social media. He never, he never. Don't ever compare what he got now to what y'all had. Because what y'all have right now ain't shit. He just fucking with you. And that's it. Having his cake and eating it too. Doing what a lot of men do for no reason. There's no reason. You're available. So, okay. Cool.

And then why haven't you talked to him for two weeks? Because he hasn't responded, right? He probably busy with his engagement. Yeah, his fiance. Somewhere you never made it to with him. You're worth more than that shit. Get your ass up. Get your ass together. Keep me updated. Like I said, I love you. All right, and moving on. Jess, girl, this ain't got shit to do with shit. I just wanted to let you know on Spotify, it won't let me give you five stars, bitch. Oh, okay.

five stars because you know you like to rate them. I went to go give you five stars and they won't let me, girl. You need to send an email to Spotify and tell them you deserve that fifth star and see why the fuck you can't get it. Oh, yeah. Anyways, have a blessed day. I hope your Christmas was good. Thank you, boo. Hold up. She said, first of all, this ain't got shit to do with shit. Spotify, why the fuck y'all playing with me? Don't make me have my people spam y'all comments because what's going on?

Look like we need to talk to some higher ups because they ain't trying to give me what's mine. They ain't trying to let nobody rate me and give me my five stars. I don't know. I need to see what's going on with that. But before I get out of here, I just want to say to everybody, man, woman, other, whatever. Listen, if you are in a relationship or some type of situation ship and you're feeling like it's a one sided thing, that's because it is.

Nobody's going to have these feelings out of nowhere and for no reason. That's because it is. It feels one-sided. It is. You should never have to ask yourself, does this person really love me? Am I just here for convenience? Am I really being treated right? Is he going to ever change? Is she going to ever open up her eyes and see what I really mean to her? Is she going to ever, you know what I'm saying? If you got to ask yourself these questions, baby, no, no, you're not where you're supposed to be.

And you got a lot more growing to do, to be sitting there, to take that, to ever think that's okay. Those type of people don't need to be in relationships. Y'all type of people don't need to be in relationships right off the bat because y'all give more than y'all get. And people take advantage of that. People can see that from a mile away. These men, these women who prey on people like y'all, man. Y'all are great people. Y'all give so, so fucking much.

And you keep giving and giving and giving until you ain't got nothing left. Nobody is reciprocating what you're doing. You get what I'm saying? It is somebody out there for you. It's just that you rushing it. Because everybody want to be loved. I get it. Yeah. Everybody want to be loved. That's all right. It will happen when it's time. I was the same way. I don't give a fuck. Listen, y'all saw me through some relationships. Okay? I ain't never scared to admit it.

I wasn't the smartest in my previous relationships. None of them. Even going back to my baby dad, nigga, going back to Ash father. Like, we were young, you know, me and Rome made a lot of mistakes together. And then I got another nigga, then I got another nigga, then I got another nigga, then I talked to a girl to see if that was cool. Then I almost beat her ass to death. Then I, you know, we, this is also, like I said in the beginning of this episode, this is also how you find yourself as well.

Dating, realizing, okay, what's inappropriate in a relationship to me? Okay, what am I willing to take? Okay, am I willing to settle for this? If he ain't got this part of it, can we build that together? All right, cool. Maybe he is going to come with this. Okay, he's coming with this. All right, how can your relationship benefit the both of you? You get what I'm saying? If you got to teach somebody how to love you, that ain't bad.

That ain't bad. What'll make it bad is if they don't give a fuck enough to try or to want to love you. You get what I'm saying? I was in a relationship with a nigga who didn't know how to love and didn't want to fucking try. All right, cool. Should have left that alone a long time before I actually left it alone. But I was a giver, giver, giver, giver. Never really cared about receiving. But that's where we short ourselves, ladies and gents.

That's where we short ourselves. Don't ever short yourself and know who you are. If you don't know who you are, that's what your journey should be before you jump in a relationship. You understand what I'm saying? That's what your homework should be. Do homework on yourself.

You know, figure out what makes you happy. Make yourself happy before you give all of that responsibility to somebody else to make you happy. You understand what I'm saying? And just like that, we're at the end of another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl, Jess Hilarious. I said another one. I should say another. Y'all know I'm from Baltimore. Y'all know that shit slip up out. I love y'all so much. Let me go talk to Spotify real quick. Love y'all. See you next week. Peace.

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