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Stop being desperate & needy in love

2023/5/15
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Date Yourself Instead
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Lyss: 本期节目讨论了在爱情中避免绝望和需要的重要性。Lyss 通过食物和爱的比喻，解释了缺乏自爱会导致人们在爱情中变得需要和绝望，就像饥饿的人为了食物而成为奴隶一样。她认为，拥有足够的爱，就不会为了得到爱而降低标准，选择不合适的人。自我接纳和自我价值感是建立健康关系的关键。害怕孤独会让人在感情中寻求补偿，并容忍不健康的相处模式。外界的肯定只是暂时的，真正的自信和自爱应该源于内心。独处和自我疗愈有助于建立更稳定的自我认知和更健康的关系。不要依赖外界的赞美来获得快乐和自信，真正的快乐和自信应该源于内心。健康的关系应该是平等的，而不是一方控制另一方。在关系的初期，不要过早地去控制和预测结果，要享受当下。强迫对方做决定，只会适得其反。当一个人知道自己的价值时，就不会去控制别人，而是选择放手。放下控制，才能在关系中获得想要的结果。自爱会吸引好的事物，宇宙会回应你的感受。接纳自己，爱自己，是吸引美好关系的关键。真正自信的人，不会被外界的评价所左右。

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The episode explores the concept of dating oneself by understanding self-worth and self-love, using analogies of a magical kitchen and abundant love to illustrate the importance of not needing external validation.

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I definitely have had my moments in relationships where I felt like I smothered my partner with desperate energy. I was needy and insecure because I didn't love or value myself enough to know who I truly was. I didn't know my worth, so I would project my insecurities often onto my boyfriends in hopes that would make them want to be with me more, but instead it often backfired and became messy. I also mention this amazing book, The Mastery of Love, in the beginning of this episode which has helped me through my healing process and has helped the relationship I have with myself. If you are loving the podcast, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.