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Alonement: How To Be Alone And Happy - Francesca Specter

2022/11/10
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Francesca Specter:本书探讨了积极独处(alonement)的重要性,以及如何将孤独转化为积极的独处体验。她分享了自己通过日记、冥想等方式提升独处能力的经验,并强调了独处技能在个人成长中的作用。她还讨论了独处与社交的平衡,以及如何在人际关系中保持独处与陪伴的平衡。她认为,独处并非消极的,而是积极的自我关怀和自我成长的重要途径。 Francesca Specter还分享了独处技能的培养方法,包括计划独处时间、安排让自己期待的活动、调节情绪等。她认为,独处技能的培养需要循序渐进,并强调了情绪调节在独处中的重要性。她还讨论了独处在不同生活阶段和人际关系中的作用,以及如何将独处融入到日常生活中。 Ali Abdaal:他与Francesca Specter讨论了独处的重要性,以及如何将独处融入到日常生活中。他分享了自己通过安排独处时间来改善身心健康的经验。他还与Francesca Specter探讨了独处与社交的平衡,以及如何在人际关系中保持独处与陪伴的平衡。他认为,独处是个人成长和提升生活质量的重要途径。

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Francesca Specter discusses her personal journey with alone time and how she coined the term 'Alonement' to describe positive time alone.

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Most of us find it increasingly difficult to be ok in our own company, which isn’t helped our tendency to autopilot to scrolling Twitter or Instagram on our phones to fill the moments we find ourselves alone. Francesca Specter is a podcast host and author of *Alonement: How To Be Alone And Absolutely Own It, *who is building a community that celebrates the transformative power of spending time alone. In the conversation we talk about why as humans we naturally place greater importance on social skills over solitude skills, why alonement is needed in our daily lives, how to turn loneliness into positive solitude, and much more. Enjoy :)

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(00:00) Intro (01:27) Your personal development journey with alone time(11:42) Blogging vs journaling about your thoughts(18:57) Why we struggle to be alone with ourselves(22:47) Our tendency to be needy (28:00) The concept of Alonement and intentionality(33:50) Social skills vs solo skills (37:59) Emotional regulation (40:04) What should someone do during Alonement? (50:54) What's it like to live alone?(53:42) Acknowledging the self vs surrendering to the collective(58:25) Together alone time in relationships(01:07:30) Fun and work aren’t dichotomous(01:16:36) The problem with ‘should’ (01:23:13) Dealing with career anxiety

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