Rico Rodriguez — 'Modern Family’s’ Manny spills what it’s like to have Sofia Vergara and Ed O’Neill as on-camera parents
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So whether you're looking to host or need a hand while you're away, find a co-host at airbnb.com slash host. Hi, it's Jesse. Today on the show, you know him as Manuel Alberto Javier Alejandro Ramirez Delgado, a.k.a. my stepbrother Manny on Modern Family. It's Rico Rodriguez. You're working with Ed O'Neill. I'm like, who's that? And they're like, oh, you know, from Married with Children. I'm like, okay, I've never heard of that show. And then they're like, hmm.

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I always love having friends of mine from Modern Family on the show. It's always a really special thing to go back and revisit those incredible years that we had together. I think everyone has such unique perspectives of the same experience, and I love talking to all the people from Modern Family who have come onto the show, or even some of our guest stars like Nathan Lane and Elizabeth Banks, and talk about their experience on the show. I

Really do love, though, talking to the kids because they have such an interesting perspective. Also, kids' brains are like sponges, and they remember details that I just do not remember. I always have to remind myself, like, how long of a period of time it was for these kids to be on Modern Family. You know, I think about the years between first grade and high school. That's 12 years, right?

And when I was a kid, it seemed like just forever. And I keep thinking that's basically how long these kids did Modern Family. And it was such a huge chunk of their lives. And I just always love hearing their point of view of that incredible time at that incredible age when so much is happening.

I hadn't seen Rico in quite some time. In fact, I think we figured out that the last time I saw him was when we all gathered together at Sofia Vergara's house for a family reunion. And I had not seen him since then. So it was so great reuniting with Rico. And I got to also see his sister, Rainey, who I adore as well. But it was so wonderful meeting up with him, having burgers and just catching up. How are you? Good to see you too.

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This was my first time at Heavy-Handed, but it's officially in rotation now. And yes, immediately after recording, I ordered a burger and fries to go for my husband, Justin, because nothing says I love you like coming home with a smash burger. And also the willpower not to sneak a bite on the drive home. Okay, let's get to the conversation.

Wait, did you drive here? I did. Yeah. Yeah. This is a big, big news for me. So for those who don't know, for the longest time, I never wanted to drive. It's not that I didn't want to, I just, I wasn't ready for it. So like for an episode, I had to operate the car. So usually like they'll put it on a rig so that you don't have to, you can just fake drive it. They put the car on a, like a flatbed truck and then

someone drives it and you just look like you're driving. - Yeah. But in this case, they had to do an exterior shot of the car, of me driving it. And it was very brief. It was like a thing where I was backing up. - It's a great shot. Isn't it like you in slow motion, like giving like a nod? - Well, yeah. That one was one of my favorite scenes.

But a little bit later on in the series, it was one where I had to back in. It was one of those episodes. Remember we did one where each act was one whole storyline for each of the families? Oh, yeah. Called Five Minutes, I think. Yes. Okay. So that one, I was operating the car and I hit the curb. And then Jay was like, let me get in the car. And then we'd each take turns driving to some place. Well, because I was operating the car, I didn't have my license. I didn't have a permit or anything. Yeah. So they're like...

Maybe you ought to get one. So you have a test on Friday. Production sets you up with a driving test. You better pass it so we can film Monday. I'm like, okay. Here we go. So then I literally had like less than 24 hours to read the whole manual to get everything. I passed, got my permit so I can drive it. I was like, all right, here we go. This is the jump start to getting my license. And then I just let that thing expire for a while. And then –

I guess I told my family that I wanted to get my license before I turned 21. Uh-huh. And then a week before I turned 21, they go, oh, so you're going to get it? I'm like, I said that? Uh-huh. And they're like, yeah. I'm like, oh, snap. Okay, well then, so then I was like, well, let me go get it. So I went to go do my written test.

And they were like, okay, great. You want to go do your driving test? I'm like, I really haven't practiced much, but why not? I go and I pass like first try. Yeah. You probably were super careful. Oh, yeah. Because like I had –

driven the car before, so I was comfortable with it. But like, so then after I passed her, like, let's go eat. And I was like, you know what, guys, I need to take a break from driving. This is too much already. I'm like all stiff. Your brain is hurting. I'm stiff. I'm like, no, I can't do it. That's so funny. Yeah, because, I mean, you started Modern Family when you were 10, so you were very far away from driving. But I remember Eric, I think in season one,

Didn't he make some sort of promise with you with the car? Yeah. So he drove this really nice white truck that I was like, you know, being a Texas boy, I'm like, oh, a truck like that. And so he was like, oh, you want that? He goes, OK, if this show runs, you know, 10 seasons, you can you can keep it. I'll give it to you. Or so it was some like gaudy number. Yeah. And it sure enough, it came about. I was like, so Eric.

We made it. And he's like, oh, I don't have the truck anymore. I know that truck was long gone. He's been to like three cars since then. That's so funny. Hey. Welcome to Heavy Handed. Hi. First time, I believe. Have you been here? No. Let me go over the menu with you. Basically, Heavy Handed is all for the smash burgers. Short rib. So they're not smash all the way, you know, really thick. We still keep them a little thin to keep the juice in there.

I always recommend the double. It's the way to go. It's enough meat for the bun and everything in there. If you like a little spicy, you could add chopped chilies. We also have heavy fries, which...

Is that just fries with the sauce? Yes. So it comes with everything that comes in the burger on top of the fries as well. Wow. Okay. Nice. What would you like? I mean, I'll do a double. A double? Combo? I think. Okay. So the combo has fries? Yes. Okay. Yes. Combo. Do you want to upgrade it to heavy fries or just keep it regular fries? I'm going to do regular fries, but I'm going to do chilies.

On the burger. On the burger. You got it. And for you? I'll also do the double with no pickles and no onions, please. And then regular fries on the side. Regular fries as well? We're scared of the heavy fries. Yeah. I mean, with the word heavy, I mean, you know, there was light fries. I'm like, okay. I understand. Okay. And what do you want? Do you want something to drink? Yeah. Can I do a Sprite, please? A Sprite? You got it.

I'll do a Diet Coke. Diet Coke? Okay. Yes. You got it. I'll be right back. Thank you so much. Thank you. Appreciate it. Thank you. I can't wait to try it. I love me a good burger. Oh, me too. I love me a good burger. Okay. I know you've told this story before to me, but like you were a very shy kid. I was a very shy kid. You sort of

Kind of fell into this industry because your older sister, Rainey, who I adore. She's great. Please tell her I said hi. I will. Was already in the business. And you were, from what I understand, tagging along for an audition? Yeah. So my sister, Rainey, she was, I mean, she trailblazed. She brought us to California. I mean, at 11. 11.

You know, so we're all young. From Texas. From Texas, from our hometown of Bryan, College Station, shout out. And so my first headshots were like by accident. My sister was taking them and I was in like a Power Rangers shirt, two front teeth missing. So on, like not Hollywood at all. And I took those as my first headshots and I used those for when I first started. You still use them. Oh, yes. Of course. These are, these are fake ones. And so...

Fast forward a little bit, seeing her kind of do her thing. She's always wanted to be on Disney Channel, and so she was able to guest star on The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. And that was kind of like, whoa, she's living out her dream. So...

I saw that and then little did we know it was like something that like, yeah, I want to do this. And and acting became something that was the most passionate thing I was passionate about. What was it like seeing your sister on TV? Oh, it was awesome. Well, seeing her on set, because I mean, being kids, you know, me and my mom and my sister, we're all we all run in packs. It's just us three. You know, my dad was in Texas making money so we can live out here, you know. And your dad, your dad had to hire had a tire shop. Yes. OK, got it. And your brothers were with him.

Well, so my mom was with us and then my dad and my two older brothers were together over there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so, yeah, and just seeing her do her thing and just like seeing the kind of the passion she had, it just kind of was like, I want to do that. Like that inspires me to do because she's having so much fun. And I mean, I look up to my sister, even though she's shorter than me. I look up to my sister. I look up to my sister a lot. So it was really cool. You know, I have...

two kids now and like seeing how my youngest one looks up to his older brother I mean like he just wants to do whatever he does I love that and he's fearless about it too it's like Beckett's a trailblazer and Sully's just like yeah let's go let's do it yeah so I could totally understand how you would fall in love with it just because you know your sister who you definitely look up to I know how close you two are yes you know it's seeing her enjoy that so much probably was a huge motivator for you oh for sure

Do you remember your audition for Modern Family? I do. I do. So I kind of had very quick success in the industry. Like my first three auditions, I booked all three like right away. Oh, wow. I mean, it's so not heard of. You did not know rejection. No, no. And so then, so like by the time Modern Family rolled around, I have been lucky to have been on like every major network in like a guest starring role in some show. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So the last one was ABC. And so before that, I had auditioned for like a couple other series roles where I got really close for and to the point where it was like testing. And so, you know, I didn't get him for whatever reason. But, you know, my parents always instilled like a keep going mentality like, hey, you know what? It's OK. It happens. We move on. We keep going to the next one.

And then Modern Family rolled around, which at the time was my American family. That's right. Yeah. And so I got the audition. I went in and I read in front of Alan and Jeff and other casting directors. And so it was kind of crazy because I had went in with a completely different take on Manny. It was like a player and like he was too cool for school. And it was like literally the complete opposite to what we know him today. Uh-huh. And.

Jeff liked it and he was like, that was great. He goes, but he goes, we see Manny as like a old soul, like Antonio Banderas in a kid's body. And I go, oh, I'm like, oh, did you know that reference? I didn't know. I was like, oh, okay. So he wants me to be puss in boots. Gotcha. Okay. I can do that. And so luckily I got a callback for it. Anyway, even though I came in with the complete opposite tape, I came in for the second audition and I,

They were like, Jeff was like, oh, thank you for taking the notes and whatever. It was so good. You know, that's exactly what we're looking for. Yada, yada. Then I didn't hear anything for like a month. And I was like, well, okay, that was another one I didn't get. And whatever. And so then little did I know they were casting, you know, making sure they were putting Sophia in. They were casting Ed, they were casting all the rest of them. And what's kind of funny is I had knew Nolan before.

Before the series started, we were both going to the same acting class. Oh, no way. I didn't know you guys knew each other. Yeah. So it was like we knew each other for like a few months before. Yeah. And so we were kind of going through this journey together in a way of like every time we meet up for class, we're like, oh, I saw you at the audition. Oh, how did you do? Oh, it went good. And then the next week, oh, how did it go? And it kept going until like...

We booked it, and then we were on set together. Did you guys book it around the same time, do you think? Yeah, yeah. And so did you have conversations about the style? Oh, yeah. And it was so cool because, I mean, and even Ariel. I even knew Ariel before because I had worked with her on a movie she did, and she couldn't have been the coolest person. So it was really neat seeing them and seeing Nolan at the audition. It kind of felt like already like a familial thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And we all kind of like, okay, maybe we're all destined to do this kind of thing together. Totally, yeah. And, yeah, that's kind of how it all like shook out. Yeah.

I mean, that's got to be weird too. Obviously, I didn't test for TV shows when I was a kid, but like even as an adult, like it's really intimidating. It's daunting. Do you remember being scared by that or was it intimidation? I mean, it doesn't sound like you were. I don't even know. Do kids that age even like know to be scared about something like that? No, I think, I think,

Scary might be the wrong word. A lot of the things when you're a kid, it's like you're kind of fearless. You don't know. So being able to be kind of fearless in that way was really fun to be able to do. Oh, here we go. And I guess you don't need to thank you so much. Thank you. I'm going to take a picture because the phone eats first. Thank you. What I was going to say was, do you even have a comprehension of like, I mean, as an adult, you're signing contracts, you're seeing money, you're seeing like, oh, I'm going to be able to provide for myself. As a kid, is it kind of more like, oh, this is just a...

fun thing I'm going to get to do. At the end of the day, when I was auditioning, it was all fun. Everything that, even to today, it's everything that I do, it's fun. I have, I was such an excitable kid and now I'm an excitable adult to where every little thing, it's like, it's fun. I love this industry. And what was interesting is so, you know how you were saying like something like being nervous or daunting. I had auditioned for Jeff Greenberg prior for like a role in Ugly Betty. And he made me cry.

Oh, really? In the audition room. Did you ever tell him this? I think I did. I want to say I did. Or he probably saw it. Well, and it was for something like it was some choir kid and I had to like sing or whatever. He wasn't mean. He was just like, I don't know, like a stern or just like he wasn't there. He wasn't giving me no expressions or anything. And so then when I auditioned for Modern Family, I saw him like, oh, no.

PTSD. Oh, no. And then come to find out later on, I mean, he's the nicest person in all of Hollywood. He is great. He is the, and it changed my life. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Also, I have to remind myself that they're seeing so many people for these roles, and they're just trying to find the right person for it. So if someone's not right, it's sort of like in your mind, you probably think, okay, well,

they're great and they're talented, but like, like they're not, they're not for this role. And you probably shut down a little bit. Yeah. And, and, and so it was like, you know, sometimes, you know, they always say like the, the best auditions are the ones you don't really remember. Like when you leave and you kind of just don't really remember what you did. And that's kind of what happened, you know, in, in the,

In the audition sides, it was for when I was in the car with Jay and Gloria. And I was talking about, like, I want to talk to Brenda Feldman. I was going to give her a flower, go pick flowers and all that. And in the end of the scene, I run out of the car. So in the audition room, I just bolt to the door. And everyone's like, what's this kid running for? And they're like, okay, well, thank you. And I just walked out. And then we were driving home. And that's when I got the call that they booked me in.

Like, you know, 30 minutes later, it's crazy. Yeah, when they know, they know. It's interesting. This is really good, by the way. It's not a great smash. That's really good. I know. This is, like, going to be on my regular spot list. Yes, for sure. Now for a quick break, but don't go away. When we come back, Rico tells me about his on-set antics with co-star Nolan Gould. Also, his first impressions of his on-screen parents, Ed O'Neill and Sofia Vergara. Okay, be right back. All right, let's talk about something near and dear to my heart.

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When we all got together for the first time, we sort of did a pre-table read before table read for the network. Then I think we even had a rehearsal before that. I just remember walking into the big room and it's like that thing where you kind of feel that it's going to be something. And even at that young age, I could feel this was something. It felt right. It felt like we were supposed to be there at that time doing this thing together and that's what it came out to be. I completely agree with you. I always think about

You know, no one's been a guest on this podcast. Yes, I'm a listener, by the way. You do great work. Oh, thanks, Rico. Very, very fun podcast. Thank you. But obviously, Sarah was older than you all. I know Aubrey's talked about this too, but just, you know, navigating being a kid and growing up on TV is...

I'm sure it was such a luxury and such a security blanket knowing that you had other kids your age. Oh, for sure. They're doing the same thing in the same boat. And I'm so glad you did. I think it probably you like were able to bounce off each other and also be like, is this crazy for you? Because it's crazy. Exactly. But like, you know, even going to school together because, you know, you had to go to school on set. I mean, no one talked a little bit about like feeling like even though he had you all together.

There was a bit of a separation. He felt like he wasn't necessarily able to really always relate to kids who were his age because he didn't get to go to school in a traditional sense. I think, speaking for me, I think I never really found... Because that's what a lot of people are like, oh, well, kids in Hollywood, you know, getting to not experience something like...

Something like high school or proms or stuff like that or social events. And I never really felt that way because I think, like I said, at such a young age, my parents kind of instilled this kind of like a worth ethic in me to where it was like,

I knew what I was here for. I was here for a job and work because I had no problem going home and being a kid, being rambunctious, going rolling in the dirt if I wanted to. But when I was on set, hey, make sure you know your lines, be prepared. And then after you're wrapped and you're on the way home, you can be a kid. You go take out the trash, you go clean the house, clean the room. You know, all that doesn't stop. Right. What was it like? I always thought about this with Aubrey, too, because she would go away and have to do schoolwork and then come back and...

I was like, what is it like? I'd actually never asked this. To be in a scene, you know, doing a show for Modern Family with, you know, Sophia and Ed, and then, like, have to go and do science or whatever, and then come back. Like, it must be so weird. You know, it's interesting because some episodes, Manny would pop in.

Yeah. And then say a funny quip as he would. Yeah. And then he would, you know, walk out and then come back later. But then sometimes since he was such an old soul, he would have these like big paragraphs and words that I had no idea what I was saying. I would look up online or I would ask my studio teacher, Sharon, Miss Sharon. I would ask her, hey, what does this mean? Why are they laughing? And so she would explain to me. I go, oh, OK, I understand now.

But it was crazy because sometimes you would have these big chunky dialogues and then you would rehearse it and then you got to go and you have a math test. I'm like, well, I don't know division. Like, what am I going to do? And then, you know, I would go answer the first three questions of 20 and go back to film. It's crazy. It's like it's the craziest thing to do. I mean, I can only imagine how hard that could be. It definitely posed its like challenges. But I think let me just say something. Yeah.

Modern Family was the best. And the people that worked on the show were even better. The show was great. I mean, it's one of the greats. But our cast and crew and just the work environment was just so amazing. We would get other cast from other sets on the lot and be like, wow, that looks awesome. We're over here 16 hours and we're finishing before lunch. That's unheard of. But to be able to balance that kind of like...

and child and school. It was so, it was easy because the crew and the cast, they made it fun. They made, you know, a lot of the crew members would keep you a kid. They would do fun things around. We would get, I mean, I'm sure it's been, we did the Nerf War on set. Yes. And Brian Cranston, our director of the week, was, you know, joining us. But like, they didn't stop us from wanting to do fun things like that. I mean, you would know, I would want to take a nap

between scenes and you and Nolan were off like writing screenplays. Oh yeah, parkour. Yeah, exactly. What we thought was parkour. I mean, you had so much energy. I remember Ty and I thinking like, if I could just have an ounce of that energy right now. Yeah, it was so fun because also it was us three, like the kids. So we always kind of like, Ariel was the one to be like, relax guys. And we were like, no, we got to keep going. Yeah, you were boys. I mean, you also got to do things that...

so few people just who get TV jobs in general get to do. Like travel to Hawaii, travel to Paris, travel to Disneyland. We got to be like backstage at Disneyland. Like crazy. I mean, what are some of your favorite memories from those episodes? I think it's kind of one of those like, oh, we're doing something. It's when we went to Hawaii. Yeah. Because like I've never been. Which wasn't season one, by the way. Yes. Which is crazy. Crazy. Usually work up to that. Yeah. And we just did it. Oh, we'll go to Hawaii. Why not? I think.

Which, by the way, is one of my favorite episodes. Oh, it's so good. It's not just a travel episode. It's actually a really good episode. Such a fun story. Our writers are awesome. They create some really fun storylines around a place. You know, I'm not really the traveling type. So if I wasn't working and busy in California, when I had a good little chunk off, I would go back to Texas and go visit my family. So luckily, I got to travel to really amazing places because of my work. And so Australia was crazy. I know.

I mean, Hawaii, I had such a good time at Jackson Hole because it was like, we were all in little cabins. It was so cool. It was the coolest thing. I mean, I was so lucky to be one on a really awesome show, but like to be that the show can take it to new heights and go these places.

places that I never imagined I'd ever go. Paris. I know. I felt like field trips, you know? Oh, so much fun. It was always a question, the age-old question, like, oh, where are we going this year, guys? And everyone would have, like, little rumors, oh, I think we're going here this year. I know Italy was someplace I kept talking about, but it never happened. Yeah. I know. And so, and usually I would be, like, one of the last to know, because, like, I'll be in the schoolroom the whole time, and they're like, oh, are you ready for your trip? I'm like, trip to where? What have you heard? I'm 11. Yeah, that's right. I think, you know, one of the reasons, obviously, the show...

did so well and, you know, we had such a great time was because of that chemistry. And you and Ed and Sophia really had incredible chemistry. We shared, you know, Ed O'Neill as, you know, a stepfather for you and a father for me on the show. And I...

I mean, I couldn't adore that man more. Like he reminds me so much of my dad in real life. - Yep, same. - Sometimes he butt dials me by accident. - Oh, I love it. - And it always turns into like a half hour conversation. - Oh yeah. - But what was it like for you to have those two people as your parents on the show?

And also Benjamin Brad is your birth dad. But what was it like for you with those people as your parents? You know, they're just such legends in their field. And it's kind of funny because I had no idea who Ed was when we first got on the show. I had no idea who he was. Like my dad was like, oh, you're working with Ed O'Neill. I'm like, who's that? And they're like, oh, you know, from Married with Children. I'm like, okay. I never heard of that show. And then they're like, hmm.

Loving me. And they're singing to me. I'm like, I have no idea who this is. What are you talking about? But then I see Sophia. I'm like, oh, the good lady from Madea. From Madea Goes to Jail. I love her. Wow, I'm working with a movie star. I'm not knowing all the things she's accomplished. Right. I was really lucky being able to, you know...

have them as like mentors, especially Ed. I mean, everybody says him, but Ed, he truly took me under his wing. Like, I mean, like no other. There was one time I remember vividly, it was early on, probably first season where

I was having trouble with this one line. Like I just I couldn't hear what I was saying. Like I didn't know I was saying it wrong. And then, you know, they keep coming in like, hey, Rico, try like this. You know, the directors are the writer or the you know, it was going on for a little bit. So it was a little frustrating. OK, come on, you know, get it. And I'm like overthinking everything. You know, I'm like, oh, I'm the reason why we're not doing good. And, you know, I'm like on the verge of like crying because I'm like, I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. And so it came to the point where then Ed was like, Ed goes, all right, stop.

Cut the cameras. And he told, go sit down. He told the director, go sit down. He brought me to the side and he was like, all right, Rico, look, here's I think what you're having trouble with. Repeat after me. Try it like this. And then we would work together until he goes, no.

Try like this. And I would do it. He goes, no, no, try like this. Until I heard it and I repeated it in the way that they were wanting. And he was like, that's it. Perfect. All right, let's go do it. All right, guys. And then I would go. I'd do it in two takes and moving on. And he would look at me, give me a wink. I'm like, I got you. He was like, I got you. Don't worry. And from that point on, I was like, I knew I could trust him. And it was points where...

throughout, you know, the first like four or five seasons, he would do that with me and just, it was like I said, it was never a way of like showing me up until about like season five. He was like, I don't need to work with you anymore. You got it. You're good now. You're good. And that was, that's kind of like, I need to focus on Sophia. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. So, but it was like, he couldn't have been the nicest, the coolest, the great. I mean, I love it with, I mean, I owe a lot to him. Yeah. My career in general. Yeah. I feel very, very fortunate that I got to work with him and, and you know,

There's only a few people I share that title of he's my dad with, and it's you and Christina Applegate. And David Faciano, is that his name? The other guy from Mary Patrona? It's like the four of us are a pack. Well, and Julie Bowen, I guess. Julie was there too. Julie was there too. I always forget about Julie. I never forget you, Julie.

Now let's take a quick break, but don't go anywhere. When we return, Rico reveals why he almost stepped away from Modern Family, a ridiculous table read tradition with Sophia, and we also hear about his obsession with Benihana. Okay, be right back.

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And we're back with more Dinners on Me. I know, you know, I lost my mom in November. And I know that you and your family are so close. And when your father passed away about eight years ago, how hard that was. And I think it happened over a hiatus that your father passed away. Yeah, yeah. So it was kind of like, you know, it was kind of like at that crossroads of me becoming an adult. I had just...

I didn't even turn 18 yet. Yeah, you were young. So I was very, very young. And so it was kind of crazy because on the final episode of that season was Manny graduating. And there was this really, I mean, really amazing scene between me and Ed. It was the episode where Javier takes Manny to a strip club and he leaves his sash. And then Jay and Manny have to go there and like let her perform and throw all the, it was hilarious. Right, right, right, right. But at the end of it, you know,

You know, he pours me a little thing of scotch and he's like, you know, I, you know, our relationship, that's what I think of you as being my kid. And I'm like, you know, you're my kid. And I was like, you're my dad. And it's a really amazing scene. And then we, that was, you know, the last episode. And then we wrapped and then, you know, I mean, like two weeks later, my dad passed away. So it was really tough. You know, luckily it was on like a hiatus break. So first off, I'm grieving and I'm back home with my family. And then it came time to start negotiating because again, we just didn't know. We probably knew we would come back, but-

We didn't know for how long, for what. And so negotiations started and it was the first one without my dad who always led the charge for us. And, you know, there was a point where I actually thought, you know, I don't know if I want to come back.

Because I just, I don't know, it was so, I mean, the patriarch of our family is gone. And, you know, he was the biggest motivator. He was all of our ideas. So there was a point where I was like, you know what, maybe I don't want to come back. And I want to hold off because I don't know if I can. Right. And then there was a point where I was like, no, I would be doing him a disservice of everything we worked for.

point to just stop. And then it came to the point where like, no, you know what? I want to come back. And it really, really made it easier knowing I was coming back to my other family. And that was like, okay, you know what? It'll be okay. So then usually every time we started a new season, it was always around my birthday. Cause you know, at the table reads, they always give the cast or whoever's a birthday, they give them a big cake and sing them happy birthday.

And I stood up there and I looked at everybody and I couldn't help but cry and get emotional because, you know, my dad passed in March. And then in July, we're starting right up again. And it was like, man, you know, being here, it helps me. It's helping me just because I know how much love you guys have given me over the years. And knowing that I had you guys to kind of be there with, to uplift and just have a good time. It really made the decision a lot easier to for sure come back.

Yeah, I mean, it definitely was a support system for sure. And I, you know, we all we all supported each other through so many big moments. Yeah. Kids, divorces, losses of parents. I mean, I look back on those 11 years and so much happens in life in 11 years. Oh, so much. And, you know, to have basically a second family to go through that was really such a gift.

Are you spending a lot of time in Texas still? Or are you mostly here at California? I've been kind of been able to evenly split my time. But I definitely am in LA more often than I'm in Texas. You know, Texas is home and it's the real place. Here is Hollywood and the land of dreams. And, you know, mentally and creatively, I'm able to kind of like lock in here and like really be able to like pursue things that I want to do. Yeah. It's really fun. I mean, I also love that you had...

this place to escape to during Modern Family that was sort of a grounding place where I imagine you saw chores. Like, you know, you probably work at your dad's tire shop. Yeah. I mean, what was it like to go from, you know, like you said, we had three weeks on usually we're shooting and we'd have a week off and sometimes you'd go home to Texas and those hiatuses are definitely for the holidays. But what was it like to be on set and then be in this like one world and then all of a sudden transition to a much slower pace? Oh, definitely. So, um,

from when my dad, my siblings, all my other family lives in Texas. So all my nieces and nephews, I have 11 of them. They all live there. So it's always a good chance to go see them as often as I could because I'm a big family man. And so it was interesting because like back home, we live on 15 acres of land. It's wide open spaces. We have, you know, a four wheeler so we can drive around. You know, my family, we own a tire shop. So we own three tire stores out there. So, you know, I was 15 years old wanting to go work. And so I would tell my dad,

I'm not Manny today. I'm Rico. I'm going to work. And then, you know, my dad was so proud of us that he couldn't help himself. He was like, oh, you know, hey, look, Manny's working on your car, you know. So it was being funny. And so it was always fun to be able to go back and get dirty and work on the tires and be a tire man. And then, you know.

when it's time to go back to work, I'm like, all right, time to go back and come to come home. And, but it was always so much fun to be able to have that escape because, you know, living in LA, you know, when we first started out in like an apartment, so there's a, there's a neighbor above you, below you to the side in front of you, back behind you. So it was always people around you. And then you go to Texas and you can walk outside and hear no cars. You hear animals, you hear birds and it's awesome. It's such a, such a cool thing. So be able to kind of have that little reset and then come back and like, okay, home that's home. This is work. Yeah. Yeah. Um,

I was knowing that you're always gonna sit down with you today. I was like watching some of your, uh, earlier like TV appearances. This is a great appearance on Ellen where I think you say something about like, I'm making, yeah, I make like $20 a week. I get an allowance of $20 a week. And, and she was kind of like, well, maybe she'll look into that. But, um, you know, I was like, yeah, as a kid, you probably aren't being given these full paychecks. And obviously those are going to your, your parents and like they're investing them and then like giving you that $20 a week is like an allowance. Like,

I kind of forgot that like you weren't dealing with money in the same way that the adults were. No. And, and, and, you know, cause a lot of people, you know, that's why, like, obviously because back then of the child actors of back then, back then, you know, rules and things, regulations were in place for, you know, kids actors for today. And so it was so interesting because, you know, my parents were very, when it was the right appropriate time to be open and honest about the money and here's what you're making. When was that by the way? Huh? When was that? When did that happen? Um,

I'd say maybe I was like maybe 12. Oh, wow. You know, just because, you know, again, we come from, you know, we're Latinos. So like we take our work and that's something that we don't take lightly. And that, you know, it could be we always knew it could be taken away from you at any moment, at any time, because being in the industry long enough, you see it happen and you just don't want to be the next one to do it. Right. And so, you know, they were like, look, this is what you're making. So this is what they expect out of you. So always that's why I said earlier, you know, you come into work.

prepared, you know, knowing your lines. You come early. You come ready to go. I would go when I was like 11 or 12 years old. I knew everybody's lines. I knew Ed and Sophia's lines. I remember sometimes you'd like, Ed would go up on his line and you'd like help him out. Or he'd look to you and be like, what is this? He would look at me like for help. So like he would help me, I would help him. It was so funny because like I always would be with Sophia. I mean, it's very well known how Sophia, she sometimes she goes off the

off the rails. Oh, off the rails. And I saw it. And by the way, sometimes we just keep it in because it's like funnier than what's written. Oh yeah, because at that point, why not? And so she would go off the rails and then she would go, Rico, what's my line? I go, oh, you got, Manny, get your coffee, let's go. Yeah,

And then she would go, oh, thank you. Hi, Manny. Get your coffee. Let's go. And then we'd finish the take. But then she would go like, Rico, what's my call time for tomorrow? And I'm like, oh, well, on the prelim. Also, what would happen on table reads? Table read days. Yes. You would get there early. I'm going to say I got suckered into it. You got suckered into this. I got suckered into it. I love Sophia. But I got played. I got played by Sophia. So one time.

being the nice person that I am. Yeah. Sofia was late, you know, kind of normal. To the table read, yeah. You know, it happens. Sofia was late to the table read and I was like, I know how she marks her lines on her script. So I was like, you know what, let me be nice and let me mark her script for her. Very kind. So she gets there and she's like, oh, thank you. And, you know, thank you Rico and pinch my cheeks and whatever. And then

The next week, she's on time. Yeah. So I sit down, I'm marking my sides, and then we start the read. We start the read, and it comes with Sophia that she goes...

Rico, you didn't mark my script. I go, huh? I didn't know I was supposed to. I did it one time because I was nice. And so she hands me her script and now everybody's looking at me because it's literally her next line. And this wasn't like, oh, season 10. No, this was like season one. Yeah, yeah. I was nice. This 10-year-old was in charge. I was literally Manny in that point helping out Sophia. But, you know.

I love Sophia, so I had no problem doing it for her. That is really funny to me. You knew her lines. You marked her script for the table reads. You knew her call time. You were her personal assistant, really, is what it was. Now that I look back, you have great memories. But now that you bring that up, maybe there was something on the show now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like you should have been definitely given a bonus for that. Probably, yeah. Oh, my God. That's really funny. Yeah, she's the best. She's hilarious. I mean, hilarious. Truly. When was the last time you spoke to her?

Very recently for the fires I messaged her because you know with with it was in that area So I was like I messaged Ed and I messaged Sophia just to make sure everybody was all good Yeah, and so he was like yes. Thank you, and then Ed was like I don't know I'm in Hawaii I mean the last time I saw you was when we had that reunion at Sophia's The entire cast - time - time moment out time. We took that literal we took yeah, yeah literal

Yeah, we would do this joke on set when we were doing photos with the entire cast. We would just, as a cast, do this joke where we'd say, and one without Ty. And so Ty would step out of a photo. And they would take a picture of all of us. We'd take a picture of all of us without Ty. A running joke, but we took that one little. It was just a running joke. And then so when we had that first full reunion, Ty was not there. And the internet thought he was dead when we took the full photo. That was hilarious. That was such a good time. I mean, because...

You know, it really was unfortunate, obviously, with COVID and all that. But, you know, with us on the show, we had our grand finale. But then, you know, we had this great press tour to like, you know, kind of say goodbye to the show. And then that was everything shut down. And then we hadn't seen each other for two years. It just went like that. Yeah. But luckily, we were able to do that. It was a lot of fun. It was so crazy. I drove Aubrey home from that party. Her mom dropped her off.

And I drove her home and she was taking her driver's test the next day. Wow. I was like, this is wild to me. I felt like a true parent, like driving my daughter home from a party. Yeah. I knew this girl when she was three and a half years old. Wild. But I was going to say, you know, as we were looking for places to eat today, I didn't know this about you. And Eric told me one of your favorite restaurants in L.A. is Benihana. Yes. And you all loved it so much. Tell me about this like

that you got for your home. Yeah, so...

For people who don't know, Benihana is like a hibachi, teppanyaki place. So they cook all the food in front of you. And they do flips and tricks with the eggs and the rice bowls. My family, we love it. That's our favorite restaurant. By the way, Rico, I live in Encino now. And it's like a seven-minute walk from me. I want to come visit you more often, I think. You really should. Yeah. But we've taken Beckett and Sully so many times. They love it. It's delicious. It's family-friendly for all ages. Yeah.

Yeah. So I discovered Benihana because of Modern Family. Uh-huh. So because we loved it so much at our house here in L.A.,

My dad had built like this really nice gazebo. And, you know, we're not drinkers. We're not any of that. So we, instead of having like an outdoor bar or whatever, we put a Benihana grill in there and we call it Rico-Hana. So we have like, we had this like logo made for like the top, for like the cover for the grill. No way. And it's Rico-Hana. And so like. Wait, where did you get it from? Did they actually supply it for you or did you find something similar? No, we went to a place that we're like, they go to buy like a restaurant supply store. Got it, got it, got it.

Because one of the chefs who works there, well, who worked there,

His name is Oscar. He's awesome. He went on his own business venture and he does private cookings for Benihana. Oh, wow. So now we basically, when we're wanting Benihana at the house or if we're going to have a party or, you know. It's a great party. It's a great thing. And we have him come. He brings all the food. He makes all the sauces. He does everything for us. Cleans our grill and he gets it going for us. He was the one who helped us. We have like the Benihana inspired plates, aprons, the knives, the.

The rice bowls, we have it all. So anytime we want Benihana there, we just have them come. And that's the whole show for us, the onion volcano, the heart rice, all that. It's a list of little things. I love that you have that at home. That's so great. I remember just like, you know, all you kids were like picky eaters, you know, when you were young. That's what children do. I'm experiencing this with my kid now. But I feel like you've become quite a foodie now. Yeah, you know.

As you get older, your taste buds change and evolve. It also had a lot to do with when we would travel to places like Australia or Paris. There's all different foods there, and they don't have a McDonald's in every corner. It's a little safe haven. So I would want to try out.

And I was like, I would never thought I would try it, but here I am enjoying it randomly. And so like, I'm just very open to trying new things. I love sushi. I mean, I love all types of food. I'll try it once. Yeah. I remember when we were in Paris, like the craft service table and like where we have lunch, like it was a very elaborate spread, but it was not what we're used to here. Like escargot, which is snails. I was hungry in Paris. Yeah.

I didn't eat much there, I don't think. We found one place that we liked and we went to like three times. Yeah. I was like, that's what we're going to do. You know, maybe when you're a little older, you'll go back again. You'll try again. I don't know.

Well, I'm glad that we found a good meal that we both like today. Smash burger. Can't go wrong with a good burger. And it was very, very good. It's so delicious. Very, very good. Thank you so much for doing this. Thank you for having me. I'm so glad to see you. It's been a really long time. It's been too long, and I'm glad we were able to do this because it's fun to reminisce and talk about. I mean, that's our experiences together. I mean, that we lived this whole amazing 11 years together.

on this show. It was really fun. - And I've known you 16. - Yes. - That's absolutely bonkers. - It's crazy. - Yeah, more than half your life, Rico. - I know, I know. - Yeah, oh man, it's so good that you could do this. I'm so happy to see you. - Thank you for having me. Thank you for the food. So it's on you, right? - Dinner is going to be on me. - Okay, perfect. I should have ordered some ice cream then. Maybe next time, we'll do part two.

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