Dee is Being a Silly Female
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Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Hi. The reason I'm calling is that I am presently involved with a guy, my childhood friend,

best friend. We've been friends for over 60 some years. He's been my protector ever since I was coming up as a young child. Then later on, we continued being friends. He got married. I was married. And then later on, he lost his wife and his wife's been gone for 20 years.

Now, I lost my husband four years ago. So we decided between that time he had a relationship with two other women. One he dated for 12 years and the other one for two years. After that, he did not want any type of commitment with anybody at all. So he and I became, you know, intimate with each other. We decided that we would be friends with benefits.

But what happened was that he still does not want any type of relationship. He just wants the benefit. He does not want anything he does not want. You know, anybody no more than just friends would benefit. Now, I happen to fall in love with him. Okay, Dee, you need to stop talking for a moment, please. Why are you even going on? It doesn't matter what you want. Okay. It doesn't matter what you want or how you feel. He's been clear.

So are you going to be a silly woman and figure you can change his mind? No, I don't want to change his mind. Oh, so you want to stay friends with benefits? Yes. Did you know that skin care can start in the laundry room?

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Well, what's I misunderstood then? If all it doesn't matter if you're in love with him. If I were you, I wouldn't bother to tell him that he might terminate the relationship. And I didn't. But what happened was that he had other friends also and the best friends. And I end up showing jealousy. But I never said to him that. OK, what is your question for me?

I just want to know, what should I do? I mean, just, you know. What do you mean, what should you do? Woo-hoo! What should you do about what? Should I just terminate the friends with benefits? That's up to you. Why are you asking an outside person? Oh, okay. So it's really up to me. If you want to keep humping him while he's humping other women...

Do it. Okay, but he's not doing that. He's totally, you know, he and I... First of all, dear, don't count on that to be the truth. It certainly doesn't benefit him at all to tell you the truth if the truth includes sex.

So don't assume that's true simply because he says it. He probably imagines, like most men in his position would, that if he told you, you'd be upset, you wouldn't be fun anymore, you might not want to have sex, you might not see him. He eliminates all that grief. He's never going to be your man. If you're okay with that, why are you asking somebody else if you should break up? I don't know.

I'll tell you, because women like you lie to themselves all the time that it's okay to be a friend with benefits. It is the rare woman who means that. But it was the only way you could have him. All right. Okay. Well, thank you. I'm not sure what you're thanking me for. I don't know. I'm just so confused right now. That's all. I'm just confused.

Confused. Okay, please tell me what's confusing. Tell me what's confusing. The confusing part of it, and I know, I just want to be his friend. Just answer the question without going off on a tangent. What is confusing you? Whether I want to continue that way or just not. That's what's confusing. I'm confused and I don't know which way I want to go. That's not confusion. He's very clear. You want to hump him? Do it.

You don't want to hump him? Fine, maybe he'll still see you. You've decided you're in love with him. But that's my problem. You can never have him. You can never have him. So you have to decide which is more hurtful, staying with him and being his hump buddy and never moving from that, or doing the silly female thing of, yeah, well, maybe someday. My guess, you're going to continue with the relationship as is. Yes. Yeah.

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I have a podcast that's called Literally with Rob Lowe. And basically it's conversations I've had that really make you feel like you're pulling up a chair at an intimate dinner between myself and people that I admire, like Aaron Sorkin or Tiffany Haddish, Demi Moore, Chris Pratt, Michael J. Fox. There are new episodes out every Thursday. So I'm going to be talking about

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