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Hi. So we have a rule in our family. We have three teenage boys, and we want them to put off dating at least until 16, and then we don't want them to be in any serious relationships. I've been suspicious of our middle boy who has just turned 15. How does one imagine to keep a kid who's 16 and horny...
uh, not to feel serious about some girl who's letting his hands slip into her blouse. I don't know how you think that doesn't get serious fast. If you're talking about serious to marriage, that's not the case. They're not serious for marriage. If you're talking about serious and being obsessed, yeah, that kind of thing happens all the time.
Right. Yeah, I know that. And we've, right. So we're controlling the situation, except we can't control it at school. And so I went there today at lunchtime and saw him in the bleachers making out with this girl. So I would like advice on how to handle this now. You mean?
You mean the bleachers is what? Outdoors in a gymnasium? Yes. Where were they that they were alone? So it was outside. So they are. The school has. So they can leave at lunchtime. They can leave at break. There's no. Let me know when I can ask a question. Yep. Okay. I'd like to know why there's no supervision. I mean, when I was in high school, that didn't happen because there were teachers around all the time. So I don't understand that.
I agree. I don't understand it either. That is our high school policy, open campus. So sexual acting out is high school policy? Maybe you better put him in a religious private school. I don't know what to say about that. Yeah, okay. To go sneak there and go sneak on him, what the hell are you doing? My God. What am I doing? I wanted to see what he was doing. Okay.
What should I have done? I know I'm serious. How would I know he's misbehaving unless I go? Because there is no supervision at the school at lunchtime. So are you going to be there at lunchtime every day? Well, that's why I'm calling you. What should I do? I'm asking you a question. Are you going to be there every day at lunchtime?
So, so I suppose I am, unless I am going to just let him do whatever. Do whatever will happen elsewhere. So are you saying don't worry about it? You can worry all you'd like. I'm not sure that has power over his behavior. Are you married to his dad? Yeah. Have they had conversations about love, sex, acting out and stuff like that? Or are you just the helicopter? Yeah.
Oh, okay. I did not understand that I should relinquish so many rights to kids before their brains are really working. There's no right at 16 to go to lunchtime to see what your kid is doing. That's a little over the top. What did your parents do with you to control your behavior? I'd be interested in knowing what they do.
Like you said, the school was different when I went to school. We didn't have an open policy. What did your parents do? I didn't ask you what the school did. What did your parents do to control your behaviors when you were a teenager? They gave me rules. They would pay attention to where I would be out of school activities. Would they chase after you?
I suppose they would follow up and check on me. Absolutely. Is that the same thing as chasing after you? Right. So I am really confused. I don't understand why checking on an unsupervised minor's behavior was inappropriate. Okay.
Were you the only parent there or how many other parents were doing the same thing? Oh, wait, wait, wait. So that's what my kid tries to tell me. All the other parents, all the other kids do it. But I just thought that was an excuse. I see a lot of lack of parenting, actually, I think. The parenting is done at home. It isn't done in the schoolyard at lunchtime. Okay. Okay.
Now, at 16, it's reasonable for your husband, unless you married a real limp dick. He's 15. It's important for your husband. Okay. That changed everything. He's 15, so if your husband, if he's not a limp dick, can sit with him and explain, this girl is open to sex. She's probably going to, at some point, allow you to have intercourse, and in which case, I want to make certain things clear to you. If you get her pregnant...
That means she is producing our grandchild. So we take it very personally, which means you're out of school getting a job and you'll support her and the kid. If she kills our grandchild with an abortion, you're also out of school getting a job and working on your own because I'm not going to tolerate you fooling around with our grandchild's life and well-being. So think of that the next time she lets you get in her pants.
That's what I think a father should say. Not mommy acting ridiculous and neurotic, sneaking into the school property to see if he's necking. Granted, it's a stupid school you have him in, but parenting is your responsibility at home. You don't chase after kids to see what they're doing. You tell them what the consequences would be. Clearly, he's going to be having sex before 18. Clearly, because the girls are willing.
Clearly. Very few boys are going to turn a willing girl out of bed. Okay? It's probably not going to happen. But if your husband sits with him and clarifies, I understand you're going to have sex if she gets pregnant. These are the options that will be done with the pregnancy. It's our grandchild. These are the consequences. You'll be on your own earning a living without a college diploma. I want you to keep that in mind when you're getting an erection. That's how your husband should deal with this.
Not you. Back off. Please. All you make him want to do is shove it up your nose. Let dad handle the real world with him. Okay. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars.
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