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Refresher: My Daughter Is Too Dependent on Me

2025/5/13
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Michael: 我打电话是因为我女儿26岁已婚,但她非常依赖我,每天给我发很多短信和电话,总是抱怨各种问题。我觉得她现在很需要我,因为她和她丈夫以及家庭内部出现了一些问题。我想知道我是否有义务一直帮助她,以及如何与她保持适当的联系频率。 Dr. Laura: 如果你不能帮助她解决问题,那么你就是在伤害她。她应该去看咨询师或牧师来处理问题,而不是向你抱怨。你应该告诉她,频繁地与你交谈并不能帮助她,她需要寻求专业的帮助。你现在帮不了她,就像你不能自己处理她骨折的腿一样,她的心理问题也需要专业人士来解决。你应该引导她寻求专业的帮助,而不是假装自己知道如何处理。你必须停止回复她的短信和电话,给她压力让她去寻求帮助,而不是仅仅寻求同情和关注。她现在不需要向你倾诉,她需要专业的帮助。告诉她真相,打电话告诉她,频繁地和你交谈并没有真正帮助她。如果她有问题,她必须去看治疗师,带上她的丈夫或者自己去,总之要做些什么。你只是打电话来哭诉或抱怨并不能帮助她,她必须寻求专业的帮助,否则什么都不会改变。我每天最多只会和你谈一次,因为我没有在帮助你。她会生气,因为去看治疗师意味着她必须面对自己,而给你打电话她只需要抱怨。

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Time now for a refresher from my Dr. Laura Call of the Day archives. And remember, you too can participate on my live radio program heard weekdays from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Michael, welcome to the program. Hi. Hi. I was calling, yes, I was calling because I had a question about my...

the right balance of time with my daughter she's 26 and married and i i get a lot of text messages daily from her and phone calls and usually what's wrong what's wrong with your daughter

I think she's kind of needy right now. Stuff going on with her husband and family stuff there. How does she resolve the stuff with her husband by texting and calling you frequently during the day? She doesn't resolve anything. Well, then maybe responding to all of that is not the best thing for her.

If you're not helping her, then you're hurting her. Because instead of venting and having you poor baby her, she could go to a counselor or minister and deal with whatever the problems are. I was trying to figure out if I had any obligation to help her at all.

Yes, you help her by telling her, I can't help you by talking to you so many times in a day. You've got to get help. You've got to get professional help. If she broke her leg, would you try to splint it? No. Yes or no. Why? Because you don't know what you're doing. Right. Well, right now, you don't know what you're doing. So it's no different if her leg is fractured or her psyche is fractured. Her marriage is fractured.

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That's how you help her, by pointing her in that direction, not by pretending you know how to set the leg. Okay. Okay, what? I'm going to do that. Well, you have to. I'm going to point her towards a professional. Right, because you're not helping her. Your heart wants to, but you can't. And you have to stop responding to the texts and calls. You have to stop that. You have to put pressure on her to get help, not just to get sympathy.

and attention. Is there like a balance of how often or I don't want to... Right now, she doesn't need to vent to you. She needs professional help. Has nothing to do with a balance. But if you're intent on having a number, either one call or one text per day. Okay. Can't be one of each. Tell her the truth. Call her up and say, I'm not really helping you.

By talking to you a million times, if you have problems, you've got to go to a therapist and take him with you or go alone. Do something. I'm not helping you by you just calling and crying or complaining. You've got to get professional help or nothing will change. And I'm not going to talk to you more than once a day because I'm not helping. She'll get angry because you see, to see a therapist means she has to face herself. To call you, she just has to bitch. Do you understand that?

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