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You're welcome. What's happening? Really, thank you for taking my call. So my almost 17-year-old applied for a scholarship to go to Germany on his senior year.
And he was accepted and then invited to a finalist interview in another city where many students from other states attended. And he was selected and offered this scholarship for a cultural exchange for one year in Germany. And now he
He has to give them a decision by tomorrow, and he doesn't want to go. And we think that would give him so many intangible benefits. Okay, Claudia, Claudia, let me just ask you something, because I was thinking as you were talking, sort of relating it to myself. At 17, I would have been scared to death.
To go across the ocean to a whole other country, no parents, no relatives, none of my usual friends. I'd be scared, wouldn't you? I'd be scared if you wouldn't. Yeah. I did it, too. I'm sorry, you did what? Well, not at 17, but I left my own country. At what age? I was a little older, though.
Yeah, at 17 it's scary. Okay, so let's not be overwrought about this. So you have an opinion. Did you ask him about his change of heart? Yes. And his answer was? He doesn't want to miss out on everything that his senior year brings to his life. He's a 17-year-old boy. That makes total sense to me.
Okay. And he just got a girlfriend like a month ago. That's another reason. He has his life here and he's a kid. He's a kid. Okay. All right. So we're okay with that decision. I am. Now my husband is pretty upset about it. And also my son let us know that we are, he's frustrated with, you know,
I guess, life now because right now he cannot drive until May 10, something like that. So he has to be taken to places, but he has his own e-bike and that's how he transports himself to places. But he's frustrated because his friends are driving her cars and he just feels like... You know what, Claudia? Let me say this to that.
In my era, our parents did not spend time agonizing over us being upset. It just didn't happen. We were expected, so you're upset. Deal with it. How do you send a kid out into the world who can't manage his emotions and deal with frustration and disappointment? So you say to him, yeah, it's frustrating and annoying.
But someday you'll be old enough and you'll be driving. Right now you're not, so really don't want to hear the whining. That's mostly how fathers deal with, quote, their sons. Just saying. But you agonizing that he's upset? Who cares if he's upset? Yeah. That's not a part of life? Having a kid unhappy that he can't have everything he wants right now? Duh. That's right. You can't.
Yeah, no, we told him. I mean, that's not our fault. But you're bringing it up to me as though this were significant. It's not. That's insignificant. Okay. Okay.
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You have to parcel things about is what's serious and what's not. And yeah, parents have all kinds of dreams and aspirations for their kids. And going to Germany for a year at his age isn't going to work. He doesn't want to leave his buddies and he wants to graduate with his class. Yeah, makes sense. Okay. Okay, that's helpful. And I'll share this with my husband because he's
He's not picking it very well. Well, tell your husband, you know what? He's 17. He's 16, 17 years old. And this is where he is in his head. So your husband has his fantasies and expectations and he's now pouting. You got two males in your home doing the same thing. I'm pouting about I don't have a car. I'm pouting because my kid won't do the dream I wish he would do. You know?
You've got a burden on you, woman. You've got two guys doing the same thing to you. Big time, yes. Yeah. Okay. Tell that to your husband. Say, you're doing the same thing our kid is doing, pouting over what you can't have. Okay. All right. Can I ask another question? Absolutely. Okay.
We set rules and we are a little strict and we're because we agree with you. So many values have been lost and we teach that to our kids. So the second time my son came back home with lots of hickeys around his neck, we called the girl phone, the girl phone.
the girlfriend in and my husband was working i talked to both of them and i told them that was unacceptable and you know told her that she was welcome in my house as long as the rules were were respected and same thing my son had to respect the same rules in her house now my son is very upset at me because of that i don't care if he's upset and you have to not care he's upset
Again, you're doing the same thing. You did the right thing in pulling them both up and telling them this was unacceptable and crude behavior. Crude behavior.
And so he's upset. He's a kid. He doesn't like being told his girlfriend can't suck on his neck like she's a vampire. Sorry. Too damn bad. And if this continues, she's not coming over here. And your dreams of ever having a car just got exploded. You either follow our rules till you leave on your own or don't expect to be supported in ways you've become accustomed to. You're the power. I don't care if he's upset. Stop being angry.
Worried about his being upset. He's a kid. They don't like to be told anything. He thinks he's a big man that she's sucking on his neck. Yeah. Thinks he's a big guy. What a jerk. Okay. But he's a kid. Will he get a more organized kid because his bedroom is a mess and, you know, my husband fights with him over that. No. You see, the fighting. The fighting. Woohoo!
No fighting. Again, consequences. You did beautifully with him and his girlfriend. Now you do it in the same thing in your room. See your room? It's either straightened up the way I approve of or don't imagine you'll have a car access. All these goodies you get, my dear son, come if you're cooperating. If you don't cooperate, we don't either. I love you. Hug him and walk out of the room. Yelling is stupid.
Yelling is stupid. Well, tell him I said it's stupid and my way is better. For sure. He listens to you. You want to keep your room a mess? Fine. No car, no this, no that, no... That's it. Here's the deal. The room is clean or this doesn't happen. It's not punishment, it's consequence. Families are cooperative with each other. And my dear son, if you don't cooperate by keeping your room straightened up, we don't cooperate by doing X, Y, and Z.
And tell your husband to stay in his room if he can only scream, because that's stupid. And it has no power, and it doesn't impress kids. For sure. Okay. All right. Is there any way that I can get this recording, or when will this be? I just want my husband to hear this. Well, that's a good question. Let me put you on hold, and Dan or Bea will give you that information when it would be in our...
reruns, podcasts. We have so many things going on that I can't keep up with them, but Dan can, so he'll get on with you. My number, 1-800-375. I love that call. Yeah, don't get so upset. Just tell them this is life, kiddo. If you don't keep your room clean, you can't have or do this.
That's it. I'm not going to yell at you. I'm going to look. If your room is not clean, I'm not going to even mention it to you. But when you ask me for some privilege or something, I'm going to say, let's go check your room. Isn't that cool? Let's go check your room. That'll be the answer for if you can have or do. That's it. You keep giving your kids something for nothing and you'll get more nothing and a ton of disrespect.
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Okay, we've got Katie's projects, Dan's bake sale, Emma has a test tomorrow? Uh, sweetie, I'm out of my blood pressure meds. Managing the house while Mama's gone is not easy. But did you know that now, Walmart Pharmacy has prescription delivery straight to your door? Wait, what? Really? Yep, just upload your prescription to the Walmart app and keep doing your thing. We'll bring your groceries and prescriptions all in one bag and straight to your door. Thanks. Dad, when does Mom come back? In 38 hours and 47 minutes. Okay.
Now, your pharmacy comes to you. Welcome to your Walmart. Delivery not available for all prescriptions. Exclusions apply.