In our lives, we are often confronted with moments of profound change - whether it's the result of circumstances beyond our control, or a deliberate choice to step into something new. During these pivotal transitions, it can be tempting to focus on pleasing others or trying to meet the expectations of our family, friends, and community. However, truly transformative growth requires the courage to choose ourselves and to trust our inner wisdom.

Author and activist, Najwa Zebian, offers a powerful example of what it looks like to reclaim one's autonomy in the face of a lifetime of feeling out of place and unworthy. Her journey of self-discovery provides a roadmap for navigating change with conviction, self-compassion, and a commitment to living one's truth.

Jen and Najwa explore:

The profound impact of emotional neglect and feeling out of place can deeply shape one's self-worth and choices later in life.
Connecting with the power of language and self-expression can be a vital lifeline and pathway to healing.
Making bold choices for oneself can be a necessary and courageous act of self-preservation.
Allowing one's "world to revolve around you" and trusting your own inner wisdom is essential for navigating life's changes and uncertainties with conviction and self-compassion.

Author Bio

Dr. Najwa Zebian is a Lebanese-Canadian activist, author, speaker, and educator. Najwa began to write to connect with and help heal her first students, who were a group of young refugees. Through that effort with her students, she began a deep healing process for herself. She is the author of six books. She delivered the Ted Talk, “Finding Home Through Poetry.” She also recently launched a digital school called Soul Academy and a podcast called “In the Clear.” Her latest book is called “The Only Constant.”

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Thought-Provoking Quotes:

“Neglect isn't just about not getting your basic needs met. I think the most harmful neglect is not getting the things you do need." - Najwa Zebian

"There was always this invitation to not allow myself to experience anger because it was a negative thing. But now I realize there's healthy anger; there's healthy resentment; and it's also healthy to project those feelings outwards. Otherwise, they're inside." - Najwa Zebian

"I look at myself as a people pleaser — as somebody who's like, "I can't handle disappointing someone, I can't handle disappointing my family, I can't." But it got to a point where I was definitely willing to do that because I was so aware that continuing to live my life in a certain way meant that I was going to be suffering so much, and I wasn't willing to suffer in that way [anymore].” - Najwa Zebian

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Finding Home Through Poetry (Najwa’s Ted Talk) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNRygxe_8Ys

Soul Academy (Najwa’s Digital School) - https://najwa-soul-academy.teachable.com/p/home

In the Clear (Najwa’s Podcast) - https://najwazebian.com/podcasts

The Only Constant by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/the-only-constant

Welcome Home by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/welcome-home

Hijab - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijab

Mind Platter by Najwa Zebian - https://najwazebian.com/mind-platter

Guest’s Links:

Najwa’s Website - https://najwazebian.com/

Najwa’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian

Najwa’s Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@najwazebian

Najwa’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1

Najwa’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/najwazebian

Najwa’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian

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The Only Constant is You: Navigating Life's Changes with Najwa Zebian