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cover of episode How to give and receive good advice (w/ Hola Papi’s John Paul Brammer)

How to give and receive good advice (w/ Hola Papi’s John Paul Brammer)

2024/5/13
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Chris Duffy: 本期节目讨论了给予和接受好建议的技巧，指出好的建议的核心是倾听和理解，而非强加个人观点。好的建议能够帮助人们突破困境，减少孤独感。 John Paul Brammer: 大多数建议的核心在于加强沟通。作者的Hola Papi专栏最初是作为讽刺性专栏创建的，但后来演变成一个真诚的平台，帮助人们表达情感和寻求建议。专栏的成功之处在于它打破了传统建议专栏的格式，以轻松幽默的语气与读者交流，并从个体问题出发，引发更广泛的社会讨论。作者在成长过程中，从与他人的非正式交流中获得了很多人生建议，并将其融入到自己的写作中。作者认为好的建议应该既能解决个体问题，又能引发更广泛的社会讨论，并具有一定的戏剧性。作者还探讨了语言表达的局限性，以及如何通过不同的方式来表达内心的感受。 John Paul Brammer: 作者分享了自己在成长过程中，从与他人的非正式交流中获得了很多人生建议的经历。他认为，生活中美好的事物往往在舒适区之外，需要付出一定的风险和努力。脆弱是一种需要练习的技能，生活中难免会遇到挫折，但重要的是要勇敢尝试。作者还分享了自己对记忆和叙事的看法，认为我们对过去的记忆和理解是不断变化的叙事，而非一成不变的真相。我们对自身经历的理解也是一种叙事，我们可以对这些叙事进行调整和表达。表达自己的真相，应是基于自身理解的表达，而非强求他人认同。

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The episode opens with the host reflecting on the difficulty of giving good advice and the importance of listening.

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Have you ever wished someone would just help you figure out your life? John Paul Brammer’s job is to do exactly that – he’s the writer behind the hit advice column Hola Papi. John has helped all kinds of people on topics as niche as figuring out what to do when your boyfriend pretends to be Latino to as common as answering the age-old question of how to make friends as an adult. John reveals what constitutes good advice, why a lot of problems have similar solutions, and shares what we can do to get ourselves out of our trickiest situations.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts)