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One thing I love about this podcast is like, I feel like we're creating such a beautiful community and I really feel good about that. And I feel good that I really get to share all of myself with all of you. Through the years, I've really spent a lot of time learning and growing and evolving into the me that I am now. A me that I've learned to love better and a me that aligns more with what I want for my life.

And you may know this about me already, but I love to share insights with people who are curious like I am, and maybe people that are searching for meaning and purpose like I was. And I know as a mom, my role has been and is to guide and teach my girls. And that's always been priority number one for me. Today, I want to share a little nugget of gold with all of you.

Something that has helped me a lot over the years. Let's talk about the we'll see theory. Have you ever heard the Chinese proverb about the farmer who had a son and they had a beloved stallion who helped on the farm, you know, to earn a living for them. One day the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, your horse ran away. What terrible luck. The farmer said,

replied, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see. Then a few days later, the horse came back and it had a few like wild mares with it. And the neighbor shouted, your horse came back. It came back and it brought several horses home with him. What great luck. The farmer thought for a moment and calmly said, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see.

Later that week, the farmer's son was trying to train one of the new horses and she threw him to the ground, breaking his leg. The villagers all came around again, crying, your son broke his leg. What terrible luck. The farmer just calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see. And then a few weeks later,

Soldiers from the National Army marched through their village, demanding all the able-bodied young men to come out and fight for their army. And the farmer's son wasn't taken because he was still recovering from his injury. His neighbor shouted, your boy is spared. What tremendous luck. To which the farmer calmly replied, maybe so, maybe not. We'll see. There's something about that story. It just stuck with me.

And it calmed me. I don't know why. Then about 11 years ago, I was working with a therapist that I really loved. And he really helped me during a very difficult transition stage in my life. After my divorce, I was having a lot of trouble getting those feelings of rejection and that huge disappointment of losing my family. What I had worked so hard to create, I was vehemently against dating. I thought that seemed like ludicrous.

to me. I always told him I would rather lick Hollywood Boulevard than open up myself to the possibility of ever getting my heart broken again. Wade, that was my therapist's name. He told me to just slow my roll because I was just going on a date here and there. It didn't mean I had to know anything or decide anything. I was just practicing.

He told me to stop overthinking it. And I was like, hello, do you even know me at all? Overthinking is what I do. He suggested I go on a few dates and stop my brain from wrapping all around and attaching to whatever I thought the outcome would be and try saying, we'll see. We'll see how it feels. We'll see if I even like this guy at all. We'll see what ends up coming from this.

Those two words made a world of difference for me as I move forward in all aspects of my life. Using the will-see theory creates a mindset where instead of making a definitive choice before you even try something, we can opt for a more open-ended approach, creating space so that time or future events will reveal the answer.

Maybe you don't have enough information to make a firm decision. You might say, we'll see, as a way to avoid committing to a specific choice or an outcome. Saying we'll see can give you that extra time if you need it, allowing circumstances to unfold in a way that a decision will become clear later on. Rather than forcing an immediate choice, the approach is to wait and observe.

It's just a way of saying you're not sure, but you're okay with not knowing yet. And this can work in relationships too. Someone might say, we'll see if they're not sure about a future together or they're uncertain about how they feel. It can work in business. A person might use it to suggest that future performances or outcomes will determine whether something works or not.

And yeah, write it down over and over if you have to. Say it out loud to yourself to stop your mind from swirling down the drain of those ruminating thoughts that just don't seem to end. It's really about managing your expectations and not getting your hopes up. And that's really important just for our mental well-being. Too much thinking is too much stress.

I've used this theory not just in my life, but I have taught it to my girls over and over and over, hoping that sometime in the near future will stick and they'll be able to use it and believe it and know that that's an option for them always to just stop and say, hmm, we'll see. For me, it's a really comforting and freeing way to handle things. I don't get wrapped up in the outcome. I'm open to whatever happens. I trust everything.

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I use this all the time with my family.

For instance, one of my daughters, the youngest one, she's dating here and there, doesn't want to, but sometimes it'll happen and she'll meet somebody and they'll ask her out. And she gets so wound up in like, what if this and what if that? And it's not going to work and he's not going to like me. I'm not going to like him. There's no point to doing this. I have to just calmly sit her down and say, babe,

Just try it and tell yourself, we'll see. You don't have to know right now. I have another daughter, my oldest daughter, Luca, who is kind of in a phase in her career where she's looking to see what's next. And she can get wound up tight and so in her head about all of the options and what would be the best fit and what

Who should she go with and when should she tell these persons if she's leaving her job? You know, she gets very caught up in the end result instead of just allowing herself to be in the flow of whatever is happening for her and just telling herself, we'll see how this all works out. Because here's the thing, it always works out and it may not feel like that in the moment.

It may not feel like that for a long time, but in the end, it always works out the way it is supposed to work out. And I don't really see the point in fretting about things or worrying about things or compulsively thinking through things over and over and over. Every outcome, every good, every bad. I really feel like it's time for us to be gentler on ourselves and kinder to ourselves and

And allow us that space, that grace to just let things unravel the way they are supposed to unravel. And a great way to do that is practicing the we'll see theory.

I hope it works for you. It has worked for me time and time again. And I'm so excited to be able to share that with you. I'm also really excited to share with you that we have rescheduled the I Choose Me LA Women's Empowerment event that we've all been working so hard on. All my friends at iHeart, my daughters are helping me with this event.

And we are very excited to announce our new date is February 8th. It's officially happening at the iHeart Theater in Burbank, California. We've got some incredible panelists.

Naomi Watts, Tamsyn Fadal, Yvette Nicole Brown, Jackie Tone, Sasha Peterson, Jen Tran, Dr. Eve Glazier, and so many more. This is going to be an amazing afternoon. The wildfires, of course, in Southern California have been horrific. So we have partnered with the Dream Center and we'll be making a donation to their organization that is helping with relief efforts.

And we also are encouraging everybody who comes to the event to bring an unwrapped stuffed toy that will be donated to a child in need, families that have lost everything. So I love that synergy. Tickets are on sale now. All info is in our show notes. We're going to talk and connect and learn from each other, have lunch. It's going to be an incredible day of female empowerment and bonding and

And a day I will never forget. I can't wait to see you guys there.

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