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Hi everyone, welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is about choices and today I'm about to open up the mic to my daughter and we are going to hear about some of the choices she found herself making in high school. And I'm talking fresh off the campus for the last four years kind of choices. If you listened to the last episode, you know that my youngest, Fiona, just graduated from high school.
And wow, what a ride it has been. Watching her walk across that stage was like watching all of these just pathways like appear before her. The world is her oyster. That's what they say. I don't know why they say that, but they do. Her story, our story has been layered. It's been messy. It's been powerful and it's been real. And here I sit with one of my favorite people in the world.
Still trying to absorb the fact that you're stepping into a new chapter. I realize that, but I just, I have so many questions. So Fiona, my beautiful, brave baby bird, thank you for agreeing to do this. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to talk about it. Congrats again, by the way. I can't say it enough. You did it. I know. I did. Gosh, when you think back on...
The last four years, what's one of the most, like, what's the moment that really sticks out with you for better or for worse? The first thing that comes to your mind. The first thing? Yeah. I mean, it depends on how comfortable you are, just being forthright and honest. And it is what it is. Honestly, no.
I mean, what you said about walking across the stage, I really felt like that was such a pivotal moment. Like really walking across, it felt slow motion. It really did. It was so exciting. And I was so nervous. But I feel like it was a culmination of the four years. Because honestly, even though I've been graduated only a couple weeks, it feels like everything's a blur. Like looking back.
Does it feel like you closed the door, like slammed it shut and ran? Yeah, exactly. Like the second I got off the stage. Yeah. Yeah.
How did you feel seeing our big blended family all there together celebrating you? It was really nice to see all you guys. When I looked out in the crowd, I saw all of you with your poppers. I could hear you guys very loudly. Okay, good. It was so nice that all of you guys came together. It felt like such a foundation for such a big moment for me and seeing all of you guys just being...
so proud of me. I could really feel it and it made me proud of me and I was just really happy to see everyone come together in that moment. Is it weird when you see me and your dad together and then like Dave and Lily? A little bit. Sometimes it's still weird. Yeah, it's a little weird but like in a good way. I feel like it's not any sort of bad relationship
bad feeling towards it. It makes me really happy to see all of you guys together because I feel like I'm lucky enough to have four parents now. And it just kind of feels like everyone loves me so much that it just comes together in a big pool of love. That's how it feels for me. I've been having all my feelings. What if we call your dad and find out like how he's feeling since you graduated? Can you call him? Should we call him? Yeah, call him. Wait, he never answers my call. So you do it from your phone. Okay.
Let's see if I'll answer mine. Hello. Hi. Hi. We are on a podcast right now. I just wanted to... Hey, Peter. Mom's here, too. Hi. I'm in the shower, so... Okay, this is going to be great.
First of all, why do you have your phone in the shower? I reached out, I'm naked, and I'm just wet. Well, that's a visual for our listeners. I'm sure people are going to love that. Hello, everybody. Welcome to Showering with Peter Facinelli. Oh, you know what? That could work. I'm not going to lie. Very good.
Well, Fiona and I are on my podcast and we are talking about her high school experience. And I was kind of sharing like where I am and all the emotions that I've kind of ran through and where I've kind of settled. And we were just wondering like for you, where are you with it? Like such a big deal. Yeah. How are you feeling? I feel very numb. Honestly, it's been a very numbing experience. Yeah. I don't know if it's all hit me yet. It's been a...
you know, you're, you're our baby. So you're all grown up and, uh, it's a whole new chapter. And I feel like, I don't, I don't know how to feel. I really feel like I haven't fully experienced all the emotions. I feel like I'm curious how you you're doing. Cause I want to check on you. I feel like, are you feeling like lost? Are you feeling like excited? Are you feeling sad? I mean, I think it also triggers a lot of emotions, uh,
When I finish a chapter, you kind of feel a little numb to like a little period of not knowing what the next is. So I feel all those things coming maybe from you or maybe from the triggering of when I finish a chapter on things. So how do you feel? I feel great. I'm really happy. Honestly, it feels like...
I'm just so happy that I don't have to go back to high school. I feel a little numb too, like definitely hasn't set in that I'm not going back, you know, like when summer ends, but
I am actually really happy and I feel like kind of just at peace. Like that's how I'm feeling. That's lovely. Yeah. That's got to be a good feeling. It's really nice. Like waking up and not feeling stressed to do anything. Like just kind of having a moment to just kind of regenerate. I bet. I bet. And it's different from most summers because usually...
When school ends for that year, you always think about, oh, I'm going back and I have summer reading to do. But right now, I just feel like I'm moving on to the next thing. And although change, it feels scary a little bit. I don't really know what to expect. I feel like it's going to be good. I do. Yeah. So you're excited. It's like you're...
Feeling free and excited. Yeah, that's how I'm feeling right now. Kind of like you in the shower. Oh, now I'm out of the shower just dripping all over the floor now. I'm getting a visual. I think we have to end this conversation. Well, thank you for calling. And I hope this makes you feel like you can call me anytime, anywhere. I will pick up a phone for you. Even on a podcast. Even when he's wet and dripping. I love you. Bye. Bye.
That was cute. I can't believe he was in the shower. That's good. Yeah, like I need to just kind of have a moment to scrub my balls and brain. I'm sure you do too. Yeah, please. Okay, well, he's feeling numb. I can get that. Like it's like, did that just happen? Did those four years just happen and now it's all over? Yeah. Yeah.
It really, honestly, I was thinking about that. Like everything felt so big in the moment. And then I graduated and I was like, why did I care that much about everything? That is profound. Like, yeah.
A lot of people don't come to that realization until much, much later in their lives and in their like development. But for you to be able to see that now, just looking right back from graduating from high school, that's huge. And if you can carry that on.
To wherever you go and whatever you do, remind yourself. Because I think we probably, I know your dad, I know we talked about like, it doesn't really matter. You're never going to see these people again. Yeah, there are some friends that you're going to stay in touch with. Yeah.
More so, it doesn't matter what anyone, you know, thinks. I'm just so grateful for the teachers who really saw you, you know? Because, you know, it's no joke. It really does take a village to raise a kid. And I'm just...
Every time you would come home and talk to me about you had a good experience with a teacher or you're learning something and you're excited about the lessons or just the conversations you have after class or before class with your teachers, every time that would happen, I would just be like excited because that's what I wanted for you the whole time. But it wasn't always the case. Yeah. There were a few teachers that I really connected with that I really felt like saw me for years
Like who I was and and didn't have like a label on me or whatever it may be. I felt really seen by a few and I really appreciate them looking back. Mm hmm.
Do you feel like some of your teachers helped sort of shape you to the person that you are right now? Yeah. I think there was a teacher sophomore year who I really loved. Who? Miss Alameda. Miss Alameda. Loved her. She really helped me. And I went back to her classroom many times, especially at lunches where I was feeling like emotional or anything like that. I would just talk with her and talk.
And she just really was such a kind person that I really appreciated having, especially at such a hard time. Yeah. What about you said that certain teachers were kind of able to not label you or see past what presents. Yeah. What do you think was stopping the other teachers from being able to do that? Yeah, I think...
There were a couple teachers looking back that I feel kind of had mislabeled me from the jump. And I always tried to participate in class. And there were some times when I felt kind of just overlooked in classes and didn't
Like they weren't as a whole. They were just looking at the group as a whole and not individually, which I feel like is a big thing, especially in bigger classes where it's nice to feel like the teacher knows you and sees how hard you're trying or like how much work you actually are putting in. But I don't, I mean, it wasn't that bad, but I think definitely there were some times where that was what I felt. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
What are some things from your teachers and the other adults maybe at your school that you'll take with you? Let's think. Your favorite teachers were Miss Alameda. Miss Alameda, Miss Colvin. Miss Colvin. Miss Shelton. Miss Shelton. Mr. Good. Mr. Good. Mr. Good was so fun. He was just a ball of energy. All the time. He made learning fun. Fun. And I was taking an AP class with him, which is a harder class, and he...
He never made me feel, even when I didn't understand, which is what I really liked about him, is he never made me feel bad about asking questions and being curious about the material. Even if the question sounds dumb, he would always say there's no such thing as a stupid question. So I just felt seen in that class. My other teachers, they taught me a lot, especially Ms. Colvin, about social justice. It was a religion class, but it really taught me about...
Things I didn't even know. I mean, we had classes about sexual health and all those types of things that I never learned before. And I think that's really important that I had that class, especially in a school where some of those things are overlooked. That was really helpful to learn about. Right. Because it was a Catholic school. Yeah.
that's good that they were teaching you those things. Yeah, and she didn't look at it through a lens of like, this is bad or whatever. It's just teaching and the facts and especially asking questions in that class was really helpful. We had like an anonymous questions thing. Wait, wait, wait. What was one of your anonymous questions? So nobody's going to know. I don't even know. I asked a lot of anonymous questions, honestly. But I asked a lot about
I didn't know about all the STDs. There's a lot of them. And there's a lot of facts about them. I was like, what? And so I would ask a lot of questions about that. Like, just in general, like, can you get this? Or what are the symptoms of this? You know, just asking questions about that. I didn't want people to be like, why is she asking all these questions? I'm asking for a friend. Yeah. I just wanted to know. So.
Yeah, it must be. That's a really good way to do it. Have it be anonymous questions. Yeah, that was helpful. What about the teachers that didn't see you and that sort of did you feel like they put you in a certain box, like you said, from the jump and then? I mean, yeah, there were some classes where I don't know.
I don't want to name names, but I was being like picked on a lot for being, they would call me stupid or be like. Who, who, who, who? I'm not going to say who. No names, but. Wait, who called you stupid? A teacher? No, no, no, no, no. Friends. I'm saying. You got me riled up there, girl. Calm down. There were times when in the classroom, I would feel like the teachers could hear what was going on, but they weren't doing anything, especially the comments of like,
They would really get to me some of the comments and I would even look at the teachers and they were fully listening and they wouldn't do anything. And they would just be like, oh, it's just kids being kids. And I think that it is so important for teachers to pay attention to what is going on because they just don't sometimes. They just want to teach the material and they want to get through the class, but
I don't know. I just felt not supported by some of the teachers sometimes in that sense because I feel like I couldn't go to anyone. And when I met some of my favorite teachers senior year is when I realized I could go to adults. But freshman year, sophomore year, I didn't, with the exception of a few, I didn't feel like I could go to anyone for help. That stinks. Yeah, it really was hard.
What kind of comments are we talking about, like, that the teacher would overhear and then do nothing about or say nothing about? I mean, mostly jokingly comments. I guess that's what they said they were, just jokes. Oh, it's just a joke. Just a joke. Don't be so sensitive. Just like, oh, Fiona, like, do you get this? Or, like, is this too much for you to understand? Or just like...
I would ask a question. They'd be like, what kind of question is that? I'd be like, or if I didn't know the answer, they'd be like, of course she doesn't know the answer. Just things like that. Like little jabs. Little like belittling comments. Oh yeah. Which were made by my friends. So it was hard for me to differentiate jokes and actual like truth. I think that's still something I struggle with when I'm around them or when I was around them is like,
do they actually think I'm stupid or are they joking? I don't, I did. I still don't know. Well, don't let that make you feel stupid because that just is one of those things. It doesn't matter. And you're never going to see them anymore. No, that's exactly why I'm so happy to be graduating. Oh my God. I can feel your joy. And it's like, it's contagious. You, you didn't just survive. You really grew. Yeah.
A lot. And I know that that happens for anybody in high school. You've got to survive the rough times and you've got to be open and grow. I think you know things now that, like I said, some adults don't even know. They haven't learned. Things I'm still learning. What did you learn about yourself during the times when things felt most impossible? Yeah.
I learned a lot. I feel like they were really important years, those four years. I feel like you really grow as a person. I think I learned how strong I actually am and how much...
It's important to find people that make you feel good and make you feel seen and to stick with those people. You know, in high school, it's so easy to get wrapped up in the cool kids or who, you know, who you want to like you. But it's important to stay with the people who just like you for you and be loyal to them because I feel like that's really important too.
to put your eggs in the right baskets and find people that make you feel good about being yourself. And I think I learned that it's okay to be emotional and to go through things and feel things deeply. It's not a weakness. It's actually a strength that you can have. And don't let people bring you down because who really cares what they think in the long run? I mean, it's your life, you know? Mm-hmm.
So you said earlier you were told you were emotional. I've heard that a few times. Same. Yeah, you do. I get it from you. But what do you think of being a person that's charged with full of emotions? I think it's a great thing. I think it's something to be proud of that you feel things deeply. I mean, I would rather feel things 10 times the normal feeling than to feel less for people, you know? And if...
If something hurts you, it should be okay to feel upset. It's not overdramatic or oversensitive to...
be affected by things. I feel like that was very looked down upon when things would happen and you just don't roll it off your back. And that's another thing. Sometimes if someone says something, you should roll it off your back because who cares what they think, but it is hard to hear. Yeah. In the moment, in the heated moment and your other peers are around you and
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I remember you quite a number of times calling me, which you're not supposed to do from school, calling me from like the bathroom or the girls locker room or something. Yeah. And just having to have a moment of like,
coming undone. Yeah. I would not go back to that if you paid me so much money. Sorry, I don't want to give you bad flashbacks. I've really just had PTSD. No, yeah, there were a lot of times like that. I know a lot of girls too who have had that. I've met girls and we've talked about it. There's this one bathroom at school we talked about how that's the bathroom you go and you cry and you call your mom. The crying bathroom. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, I think the attendance ladies didn't like me very much because I was always sick. Always that heavy. You took mental health days to a whole nother level. I think they should frame my picture or something. With all the notes we didn't give them to correct your absences. When you look back on freshman year, Fiona, with that little freshman year, Fiona, to the Fiona you are right now,
What are the biggest differences that you see in yourself? So many. But I really just want to talk to her. Like, I really just want to sit down with her because she was so... I mean, I love her, but she was, I like to say, beautifully naive because she just looked for the good in everything. She didn't... I don't think she was ever exposed to what I had to be exposed to, but...
But yeah, she I think one of the biggest differences is like my sense of self and what I will put up with. And I used to do this thing. I don't know if this is like a normal thing, but I used to like act dumber than I was just because that was what people thought I was. And I just want to tell her like, you're so smart and so strong and you don't need to like dumb yourself down.
I can't lift my arms right now, but oh my God, I'm cheering for you. Yes, Fiona. Yes. Preach. That's it. Don't dumb yourself down for anybody. Have we talked about that like in private? I don't know. Maybe. Probably. Yeah. Because that's a thing. That's a thing that I've done.
I don't know why. It's like a coping mechanism. It's like a survival tactic. Like I just want to know why. Like why do we do that? Well, good thing you're going to go study psychology. Yeah, I'm so excited. That's why I'm doing it. While you come back to me. Please, with that information. Yeah, don't dumb yourself down. Don't dim your light. Don't not speak up and have a voice. That little Fiona, I just want to hug her. Yeah, she needed a hug. We do a lot of talk about like,
thinking about that little girl inside of you. And, you know, at your age, it seems kind of silly and like, okay, mom, yeah, I'll do that. But did you find yourself able to kind of connect with that girl in those times? Yeah. I mean, I've been trying to do that more. Definitely. I think it's really important to be gentle with your younger self and not be so hard on her, even though she made questionable decisions sometimes. It's important to
you know, hold space for her and just accept that. And that actually helped you to get to where you are now. So be grateful for that version of yourself that is no longer there. So if someone were to give you a hard time now, try to put you in that dumb box. Oh, I'm not putting up with it anymore. I think there's definitely parts of me that at first are like, oh, okay. Just like, yeah, I am, you know, but then I think I'm, I'm strong enough now to be like,
Don't talk to me like that. You don't get to talk to me like that, you know? And I used to get mad at you. I remember. Okay. Sorry. I used to get mad at you when you would get...
When you would stand up for yourself, like when you were, for example, like a road rage, like when you were on the road and somebody- You don't have to call it road rage. You do have road rage. When like somebody would say something mean to you and you were like, no, like don't talk to me like that. And you would get all riled up. I'd be like, mom, calm down. Always. Don't act like that. Please, mom, don't embarrass me. Yeah. But honestly, like that is what you have to do. Like that you don't put up with-
That crap? No, you don't. So I'm actually proud of you now. And I'd like to be more like that. Hey, see what you did there? See what I did there? I taught you something. You did. When it came to that relationship, you know the one I'm talking about. Everybody around us knows the one I'm talking about. What do you think finally helped you walk away? I know how hard that was for you. And I also know how powerful you had to become to
to make that choice. Like if you feel ready, I'd love for you to sort of speak to that from your perspective.
Yeah, you know, it was really hard to go through, especially at that age. I met that guy when I was a freshman, the first kind of movie night we had. Like the first time? Yeah, the first, he was the first guy I saw. I remember it. Like I was like, I like him. Like I was like that something was set on him. And I don't know why that happened. I feel like now I can look back and think like that was crazy.
a lesson like that was put into that place because I needed to learn this. It took a long time, but I needed to learn that. And yeah, it was very tumultuous, very like emotional roller coaster for four years. And it really affected the way people saw me. Not only how you felt. And the way I saw me. Yes. Yeah. Which is the most important, but it did affect the way everyone saw me, which made everyone treat me differently. Yeah.
And, you know, I wish I didn't have to go through it, but I really think I learned a big, big, big lesson. I think it really taught me moving forward what I will put up with and what I won't put up with. So I'm actually grateful for it. I don't think I was the best version of myself, so I can take accountability. When you're with someone like that, it can bring out the worst in you. And I think
I definitely saw that. I saw the worst version of myself that I could be and I didn't like her. And so that was really hard because I didn't like myself at all. And so I think that's what really made me leave after a long time of going back and back and back. But really the last time I left, it was because I just couldn't stand who I was because it just made me so just the worst version of myself. So
Yeah, I think that's what pushed me to leave and knowing that I deserve better. And also, I will say connection from family and friends who saw me and loved me, I think really helped me get through that because I felt very alone at times. So when I was with people who I knew loved me for me and I saw that version, I saw that little girl who I am come out, I was like, I want to be
happy. I want to be me. So I think I chose me and I finally just put that in the past. And I also think leaving high school is, you know, really closing the chapter, but it's definitely hard. Definitely hard. What would you say to a freshman who's going into high school who maybe spots a guy
And thinks he's the one. Don't put your eggs all in one basket. That's what I will say. Like straight out of the gate. Don't do that. Yeah. Just make good friends. Surround yourself with people who share your same passions and interests and see you and be, you know, cautious and don't.
Don't accept anything less than what you deserve, I think. How do you find your people, though? How do you find those people that see you in a sea of how many people were in your class? A lot. I don't even know. Maybe like 400. Yeah.
I think, yeah, I would say I didn't really find, I mean, with the exception of a few, I didn't really find my people in high school. I think that's because I didn't have, you know, a major sport that I was in or a club. Well, you did. Well, I did, but I quit. You were in soccer the first year? Yeah. Yeah.
Then I quit. Yeah. So I think even if it's not a sport, if you're not into sports, a club or, you know, sitting with different people and exploring different options. And I was really caught up in the cool group, like who are the popular kids, you know? And that was always on my mind. Like I have to go sit with them. Even if I met like a really cool girl in like my English class, I'd be like, you're cool, but I have to go sit with the people that don't actually like me because I want them to like me, you know? Yeah.
That sounds ridiculous. It is ridiculous, but I feel like it's honestly something everyone goes through. But I would say a freshman just to find like someone who's going into high school, just, you know, explore different groups and find the people that make you feel the best and stick with them. Yeah, like get curious instead of just being handed information.
what comes your way, like step out of that and get curious about like, what are my other options around this place? Yeah, there's so many people. And on graduation day, people's names were being called. And I was like, who is that? Like, I don't, I didn't even know. And I was like, they could have been really cool. And I never got to get to know them because I was too stuck in my own world. And I think stepping out of that can really be beneficial, especially when you feel isolated. Do you think you missed out on some opportunities? Yeah.
Yeah, I do. I mean, I did join like cheer and things. Weren't you in the divorced kids club? I was. I don't think I went to a meeting, but I signed up for that one. But then no, you weren't. It was frowned upon. So you didn't go. I also like signed up for a bunch of different clubs, but actually never went to the meetings. Just so I think really going, just experiencing. If you don't like it, then don't go back. But I never even went. So I think you should go and just go.
have like one meeting at lunch with somebody, you know? That seems odd behavior from you just knowing you so well and knowing how you love meeting new people and you love talking to people and you're so curious. It, you know, it pains me to know like how trapped inside yourself you were. Yeah. That's what I was saying. Like I didn't even recognize myself. I didn't want to know anybody else except for the people that were treating me the worst, which is
What is that? I don't know. I think there was some sort of prize. We've talked about this where I felt like if I could get them to like me, I won. You know, with the guy, I felt like either he was a hot commodity. So I was like, if I could get him to like me, I'm, you know, I'm that girl or whatever. But I don't, looking back, that was just so stupid. Like it's sort of this like kind of need thing.
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Okay, well, let's talk about the mom part for a second. Were there times when you felt like I wasn't fully there for you? Or were there times when I was there for you way too much? I mean, I'm sure yes to both of those. Yes, to both of those. I feel like sometimes I push you away. A lot of times I push you away because I felt like I needed to handle it all on my own.
And then sometimes I really just needed a hug. But that was also my fault because I didn't tell anybody what was going on. So I think, honestly, you did a great job. I think especially in the last two years, I started opening up more to you. I don't know if you felt that. But I just felt really supported by you the last two years. The first two years, I just wanted to do it on my own. So it really was not your fault. What do you think was the shift? I think...
I think, I don't know what it was, but I feel like the summer going into junior year, I didn't talk to anybody from my school. I had my best friend outside of school who really helped me. Nikki, shout out. I love her. And that really changed how I felt about priorities and who I'm going to give my energy to. And I felt like I really needed to give my energy to my family. I feel like I need to lean on you guys in that time and my best friend.
So I think that just became more important to me. So I think that's when I started talking to you, especially after I got out of
The relationship, I think I was more open to sharing what happened. Because when you're in a relationship, you don't want to talk about the bad things they do because then you're not going to like him, you know? Right. You don't want me to not like him because you might change your mind tomorrow. Exactly. I wanted you to like him. So I just protected him at all costs and made him seem like the best boyfriend, the best person when really it was...
tearing me down emotionally inside and just really hard. I just wanted to paint the best picture of what was going on. So I think after that ended, I was more open to sharing and I feel like we connected more after that. Yeah, I'm so glad you started talking to me because a mom can always feel it, see it, know when their kid is
struggling. You know, you see it in different ways and you see it in things that aren't said as much as the things that are said. And I don't know about you, but I mean, I feel so grateful that you made it through that specifically, that relationship that you learned all about the person you didn't want to be. Yeah. Okay. Well, looking ahead,
What is it during this time of transition into college that you would like to see from me? Or what would you like me to do differently? And I'm just opening this up for conversation. Well, I mean, I think you do a great job. Honestly, I'll give that to you. I think you're very...
Easy to talk to, easy to come to with my problems. And I don't think you try to control me at all. I mean, I am technically an adult, just saying. But I think going into college, I'll probably want to come home a lot, especially since I'll be close.
Oh, no, that's bad because I'm going to use your room as a gym. No, you're not. To keep it exactly as it is. No, yeah, I feel like just being a supportive person like you are, I don't think there's anything you need to change, honestly, as of right now.
No curfew alterations? Well, you could. Yeah. Maybe like 1 a.m. What do you think a reasonable curfew is for somebody that's a senior in high school and then somebody that's just graduated from high school? Well, senior in high school, I mean, a lot of my friends don't even have curfews. What's up with that?
I just don't think it's like a thing anymore. What? I really have never heard the word curfew in a couple of months. I don't think people are like, oh, my curfew, I have to be home. I think they just like... Wait, do you say that? Kind of. Kind of, yeah. But honestly...
I think people just know when to be home. I mean, the people I hang out with, they're like, I want to be home at this time. I want to be home like in my bed, you know? But I feel like a reasonable curfew for like, I don't know, like 12, 12, what? Oh, I love you so much. 12, let's 1230. How about it? Yeah. But now I'm feeling like 130. Oh, okay. We can come back. Let's circle back on that. Let's put a pin in that. Okay. But seriously, what did I always tell you?
Nothing good happens after, I don't even know what time you said. You weren't listening? One? Midnight! Oh, I thought you said one. Ha ha!
No, nothing good ever happens in LA after midnight. That's so true though. It's so true. It really is. But like I just keep going out past 12 and then like being like, oh wait, mom says she was right. This is, I'm not having fun all of a sudden. Okay. So you've graduated from high school. You are in the in between space between high school and going off to college in the fall. What do you feel as a family member your role is?
during this time because I know if I were to put myself in your shoes, I would be like, woohoo, I've got to party it up with all my friends that I probably am not going to see again for a very long time. They're going off to different colleges and I just want to hang out with my friends and go to the beach and have fun. Yeah, that's basically how I'm feeling. Yeah, I know. What does choosing yourself mean to you now after everything you've walked through? I've watched you claim your power and
And I want to know what it feels like from your perspective. What does choosing yourself truly mean to you now? I think it just means thinking about what you need in that moment. And I know that sounds selfish, but it isn't because you're putting yourself first in a conscious way about what is going to make me feel better and what is going to make me feel more aligned with who I am more. So I think, yeah, just doing things that make you feel happy and not
trying to please everybody else and taking moments to really think about what you need in that moment. Like check in with yourself. Yeah, just check in and, you know, think about what you need in that moment. What are you most excited about as you go off to college? I'm so excited to meet a brand new bunch of new people. Um,
And to have new experiences, to learn new things. I think having some sort of like independence also, like living in my own dorm and decorating it and making sure that I get to the, you know, the gym and my classes on time. I'm just excited to have like a sense of independence, I think. And yeah, I would say the most exciting thing to me is like meeting new people and picking the right people that I feel the best around. Mm-hmm.
How are you going to know? I don't know yet, but I feel like I'll know. I feel like I've met good friends and I have good friends right now. I'll be like, I feel good around this person. And just like, it's a feeling. You're like, oh, I like being around this person. Like they're a cool person and not in the way that you want to, you know, impress them or like suck up to them. But just like, I like being around you and it feels natural and fun. And easy. Yeah. So I want to find people that I just can talk to and listen to and
And have fun with. I mean, speaking of talking to and listening to people, should we tell the audience? Like we can give them a little sneaky peeky. We could do that. Into what's about to happen. You do it. You do it. Well, I'm going to be starting my own podcast with iHeartRadio.
Yeah. That's a big applause. This is huge. I'm so excited. We don't know what it's going to be called yet. No. Okay. When it's going to be out. No. I just know I'm excited to...
Talk about what I've been through and kind of help others to feel seen other people my age to feel seen. I feel like I felt isolated and I feel like when I was in those times I was like no one is going through what I'm going through and I just want to offer a space where you can feel you know like people understand like I understand what you're going through you know. Mm hmm.
So that's going to be really good for a lot of people. I hope, I hope people really take what they need out of it and really enjoy it. Okay. Well, Miss Fiona Bacinelli, before I let you go, what was your last I choose me moment?
Hmm. Okay. Well, my last actually my last I choose me moment was this morning. Okay. Yeah, it was this morning and I woke up around like nine and I read I think like three chapters, which is a lot. Three chapters of my book that I'm really loving right now. What's the book? It's called How to Love Better.
I think it's Young Boy Blowers. Yes. It's great. So good. I love this chapter that I just read. The last one I just read this morning called Leaving Things in the Past. I was like, this is perfect. And I think that really helped me set the tone for my day instead of just getting on my phone like I usually do. I just felt like I really reflected on what I read. So I think I really chose myself in that moment.
What was your takeaway from that chapter? Oh, okay. I wanted to talk about this. It said in the last part of the chapter, this quote about how life is like a moving river and how things are supposed to flow through you and you're not supposed to cling on or have attachment to things because that can lead to suffering. And I think just thinking of life like a river, like this is a great moment, but it's going to pass and being in the present moment because that moment is only...
One moment, you know, so I think really enjoying every day to the fullest potential you can. You are a genius. I love you. I love you. Thank you for coming on the podcast. And this is how I feel about you. Hi, it's Jenny Garth. Feeling alive.
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